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Each week, Amanda Campbell interviews amazing people, who will share their inspiring stories of resilience. Amanda dives deep into 40-minute DNM’s with guests, exploring their stories of how they have overcome adversity in their lives professionally and personally.
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Unknown
And what that does is it gives women lifelong tools and skills that they take with them and fly in lives. It's it's more than just the external. It's marrying the internal and the external. Well, I can see how feeling confident externally and internally would how that would impact your brand and business. But when that happens and it's translated into other areas of their lives, what does that look like?
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Unknown
Yeah. So, you know, when you when we women feel better about themselves, we walk differently. We own that space differently. We we it also then there's this lovely, lovely ripple effect I watch where it does affect our relationships with our special people, our family, our friends, our partners, our communities. Most women are fairly community minded. And so this is beautiful impacts, which we don't always put a value on.
00;01;15;14 - 00;01;47;19
Unknown
But when we feel better about ourselves and feel lovely and feel more confident and feel beautiful, what an impact that is. Yeah, even just on its own. And you know, so much of my work as a kinesiology just is all about in a similar way identifying any limiting beliefs. So, you know, it's stopping clients from achieving their goals professionally or personally and then helping them with flexibility to reimagine that story that they're telling themselves and and then how it gets human.
00;01;47;21 - 00;02;21;13
Unknown
But it impacts our nervous system by reducing stress. And then when we reduce our stress levels, we're not only able to show up better, but we're more ready and adaptable to change, which means we'll grow. We'll push ourselves out of our comfort zone and become our potential. Absolutely. And when I think about that from an esthetic point of view, you know, I work with a lot of women in business entrepreneurs, and, you know, now we are or probably we always have been.
00;02;21;17 - 00;02;56;03
Unknown
We're walking advertisement of our businesses. So if our body language, if our personal presentation is reflective of what business is like right now, it's it's a hard time as opposed to dressing like like, say, you want to take your income of your business to the next, I don't know, $100,000 bracket. Yeah. How often you know, whatever the increase is for you.
00;02;56;06 - 00;03;28;00
Unknown
Yeah. Let's dress like that level. No. that's also creating the vibration and the energy is holding a container of space of what you want to move into, attracting it, stepping into the new radius radio station and energy of it, isn't it? It is entirely that it is. That in a nutshell. And you know, I often talk about when the complete polish is there, and that's a different definition for every lady.
00;03;28;03 - 00;04;12;10
Unknown
But before you've even opened your mouth, when you are, whether you're on stage, whether you're in a boardroom negotiating something, whatever, that situation or you have opened your mouth, it is your vibration, It is that real grounded and that that sense of power that comes when all of that, all of those elements come together not wholly agree. I mean, before I became a kinase geologist, I was very much in the fashion industry for a long time, first with well, actually, we were just chatting about even earlier days when I was young, you know, I used to work at Sports Girl and Jenna Pants and, you know, I worked in retail, which I think is really
00;04;12;10 - 00;04;43;06
Unknown
important to understand what it's like in sales on the floor, because you got to talk to people that you wouldn't normally. Yeah, yeah. And understand what that market's like and what it's like to be of service and in sales. And then that moved into a role with Sabatini knitwear, where I started as an office manager and worked behind the scenes with the head office and designers to bring the brand out into wholesale and into accounts all over Australia.
00;04;43;06 - 00;05;16;26
Unknown
And that is helping the team to like travel and get all the new Rangers out there. And that was such a fun job. I really enjoyed that. And then that led to Showtime Couture and becoming a personal assistant for them. But for me, fashion has always been a way that I can. I've been able to express myself and to discover more confidence within myself when I haven't quite found it yet and I can find it in just tweaking my outfit, putting that suit jacket on, especially if I've got a meeting where I feel like I need to step into my power.
00;05;17;02 - 00;05;39;01
Unknown
And luckily now, as you know, as we get older, we can find that more authentically within ourselves without needing that. But I, I think there's nothing wrong at all with having a balance of that in how we feel externally. This is how we because that's the next question I wanted to ask you is when did you first recognize the connection between personal style and inner resilience?
00;05;39;04 - 00;06;28;24
Unknown
I think back at somewhere in my twenties back then with those examples with Eve, I probably couldn't have put the language around it back then, but I knew there was something to it. With a traditional styling really is about the external and let me take you shopping and then on with that. Then I knew. I knew part of my superpower was bringing the two together for women and you know, then you throw in my personal life experience and experiences along the way, and the best way we laid is by experience, not with theory and said, you know, losing one's confidence due to a lots of reasons, whether it's relationships, work in situations.
00;06;28;27 - 00;07;04;00
Unknown
Yeah. Changes. Yeah, that's how we learn and that's how we grow and that's how we, we keep evolving We keep propelling will choose to keep propelling and moving forward. Yeah. Because you know, it's also how I use it as homework with clients of mine to you know if we're reimagining what can be possible for that person and discovering the barriers to success and blocks and then as we're developing this new version of ourselves and stepping into our power, I say to them, or what would you wear?
00;07;04;00 - 00;07;29;02
Unknown
How would you walk? How would you talk if you you know, I gave you a script for a movie and your, you know, confident, playful Annie or, you know, your name is and and so I, you know, utilizing our ability to dress ourselves in characters I think can be really helpful in creating and developing that inner persona and personality and inner resilience and discovering who we want to be.
00;07;29;05 - 00;08;13;14
Unknown
I would add in with that sort of self-imposed, limiting beliefs, how do you feel when you put on something that is it's not necessarily about the labels, but it's how you feel? How do you feel when you put on something that's really, you know, sort of worn and maybe got holes in it, You know, maybe it's your favorite something and, you know, we've all got something like that that we're not willing to throw out.
00;08;13;17 - 00;08;44;04
Unknown
Yes. Versus something that's a little bit beyond your general buying patterns. So whether it's a really special dress that you've always wanted to acquire. Yeah. How do you walk? How do you feel? What's the vibration? What iteration of yourself is that? And for some ladies that might be a Chanel jacket, it might be going right to the luxe part of the mall.
00;08;44;06 - 00;09;16;08
Unknown
And how how what does that do to your vibration when you embody that level that perhaps you never thought possible in your. Yes. Yes. And it doesn't have to be about labels. I totally agree. It can just be you know, designers tend to their well made and tailored outfits and that makes you feel like the chosen fabric and and how soft it is.
00;09;16;08 - 00;09;40;04
Unknown
It's well more thought through than you know if you just went to off the rack you know so to kind of brands and suits and how ethically sourced the fabrics are and and and the energy of that comes from the clothes as well which is why I love flannel and you know, these things are really thought through because in everything I've done, I those things really have mattered.
00;09;40;06 - 00;10;04;14
Unknown
But even on a not as like another type of healing that I've used with clothing is even in my own personal experience where I've had to stop overworking and pushing myself and finding more a playful version of myself that feels enough in just what I'm doing. So then I'll wear more hippie style clothes to embody that persona I know I can be.
00;10;04;14 - 00;10;30;17
Unknown
And then I am. And it reminds me to slow down. Yeah, I think too, it's very easy when we're busy, which is, you know, really most of us, most women particularly are very stretched with what we fit in with life. It's very easy to be a little bit different with our outfits. We put that top and that bottom.
00;10;30;17 - 00;10;57;17
Unknown
We know they work, so we sort of just rotate that. We at a certain point. But I generally work with women for about six months and at a certain point when during that time, after, I've taught you some foundation foundational ideas that are quite different to, you know, what you could Google or whatever, I then tip it's tip it on its head.
00;10;57;19 - 00;11;25;00
Unknown
And let's challenge like often women are in quite serious jobs, roles, whatever, right? And that's challenge that and tip it upside down and inject fun and personality and quirk. And maybe it's a bit of irreverence, maybe it's maybe underneath that, you know, on the weekends you're a bit of a rock chick, maybe you're a bit of this, a bit of that and how we do that and then bring that back into your work life.
00;11;25;00 - 00;11;53;07
Unknown
So you're you've got your elements of Amanda isms that are still. Yeah. Or uniqueness. So you're not walking around looking like someone else in her punchy right catalog or something. Yeah, like, I don't mean that, but putting your own twist on things know that's so important. I imagine as a stylist and obviously your point of difference, you know, you've, you've traveled the world, Jane.
00;11;53;08 - 00;12;23;28
Unknown
You've built and sold businesses, as you said. And what I really, really love about you in all of our chats is your awareness and understanding and the importance of connecting to our higher self in building and utilizing our intuition as well as our intellect, when not only making decisions but just leaving our everyday lives. And so when we align our personal lives with in a guidance and a higher guidance, what does that mean to you?
00;12;24;00 - 00;13;05;10
Unknown
Yeah, that's such a great question. It it's always been been there throughout my life. Again, in my, say, my twenties, I probably didn't know the right language around it. Maybe that didn't matter. But I'm now I'm probably because I'm immensely private really now I probably talk about it a lot more it that connection that greater purpose that intuition.
00;13;05;13 - 00;13;41;24
Unknown
It drives everything everything it is it's it's an embodied. It's a state of being. It's an embodiment of every decision I do every whether it's growing businesses, creating businesses, selling businesses right down to smaller things. I often you'll hear me talk about the bubble of Jane. Yeah. You know where to go, where to put my energy, where to pull back, where to, you know, all of all of those areas.
00;13;41;24 - 00;14;04;25
Unknown
It is ingrained now. Yes. And like so when you were when you're building a business or when you had to use your intuition to sell you, how did you go about? Were there any daily tools or tips that of what you did to access your highest self-talk to bring that down and then integrate that not only into your mind and body, but in how you showed up?
00;14;04;25 - 00;14;35;18
Unknown
Like, what's that process for you? Yeah, that's a great question. So in a truly and I think it's a state of being and I think it's a long term thing and it took time. It felt like one step forward, three steps back constantly. Yes, I used to be an intellectual, but small business is about intellectual life and decisions, isn't it?
00;14;35;19 - 00;15;02;12
Unknown
And as is whether you're working for someone or whatever, it's not really intuitively based, and I believe it's both that's needed yin and yang. And it's a balance. So every day is there are a few tools. I don't overbook myself the way that it used to be a badge of honor where, you know, be the best in the office, last wave, that kind of thing.
00;15;02;19 - 00;15;33;11
Unknown
Yeah. I always say, yes, overbook myself, burnout, all that definitely disconnects you from your higher self because you've been burnt out, resentful, and there's no headspace for that space to even integrate. No, no. So that's being too, too much in in their head, basically. So every day. Yes, I, I do a number of practices a number of times a day, but certainly start my day that way.
00;15;33;11 - 00;15;53;29
Unknown
And even if it's as simple as walking in nature, nine times out of ten, I do that every day. And whether I feel like it or not, I push myself to do it because it it it's so easy. You know, Our minds are busy and we're pushed and whatever. And we need to be connect back and be grounded and then get back to the heart.
00;15;54;03 - 00;16;40;06
Unknown
Well, it is a return to self that reconnection, isn't it? And, you know, just like a plane that flies and is just constantly course correcting to stay on that straight line. We are, you know, constantly being triggered, jumping out of our bodies and, you know, and dealing with everyday occurrences. And I think the art is how we can elevate and start our day from a more connected place and then how we check in with ourselves to return to self and and in the body which is that connection of your got an intuition and that's you're so right when you book yourself out and you've just got meeting after meeting after meeting like my day today
00;16;40;08 - 00;17;11;09
Unknown
as we well you just you see you get you get pushed into your head and it's always analyzing. Yeah. And that can push you in a stress response without realizing. Absolutely. And it's very easy to end up in flight of fight that stress response on a really long term. Yeah. We all you know most of us have been there at some point so you know for days where I am back to back to back to back as much as possible.
00;17;11;16 - 00;17;46;00
Unknown
I would then try and allow if I can't do it that day, a block out time in my diary the next day, somehow to to allow that time. And if I am under a lot of pressure to make a decision there and then and I'm I need a few minutes to clip myself. Yeah. Buy myself time and do what's needed to get back in my body and out of my head to make a clear decision How do we do that when we've got one or two kids?
00;17;46;02 - 00;18;10;21
Unknown
I don't know. I think it's practice. I think it is practice and be kind to yourself as you get, you know, because I'm I can do it very quickly now, but I've been doing it for a long time. It doesn't it's a bit like being told I do meditation when you first start meditating, I'd really rather point out it's another chore, another thing to do on your already busy day.
00;18;10;21 - 00;18;44;25
Unknown
Yeah, it is so hard. But you do get yoga and meditation comes in many forms. It might be, I don't know, do some gardening. Do make a cake. Yeah. What? Cooking dinner? You know, it might. It comes in many forms. Yeah. It sometimes when if it might be I would go and stand out in my garden or find some nature somewhere and go and stand there for 10 minutes in between a meeting and do my best deep breathing.
00;18;44;25 - 00;19;22;03
Unknown
Imagine that my breath is going to wait to ground myself and I would give it my best shot. Yeah, it doesn't always work, but it does. It does slow that adrenaline, that panic that. Yeah, that sort of flat stress response. Yeah. Yeah. And then you like, go into the endlessly be kind to yourself because it's like a muscle, it's practice, it's a needs to be a part of like a ritual that you embody throughout the day where you know, just like you would brush your teeth or you know, you have to eat, eat, you know, it's like, well, then you know, I need to do this ritual.
00;19;22;06 - 00;19;43;02
Unknown
Another thing that can help is, you know, like putting a miracle bracelet that you're wearing. Yes, yes, yes. And that can be a prop that reminds you is checking in return back to self. Am I feeling relaxed on my returning back into my body? Am I feeling anchored and centered? And is my heart open? Am I being kind to myself?
00;19;43;09 - 00;20;16;04
Unknown
And how can I see this situation in this, you know, at this part of the day, in a relaxed state with an open heart? There are two things I always ask myself. And yeah, and you think of like what you just described. I think back to when I might have had to make a presentation or something. If you go into that meeting to Flash or fight, you're not grounded, you're not connected, You can't maybe can't remember everything you're supposed to say.
00;20;16;04 - 00;20;46;05
Unknown
Your pitch, you know, heightened and the adrenaline's going to be over the top. Whereas if you can even just take 10 minutes to connect and slow everything down and brave. And I it's funny because when I'm interviewed, which I and quite a bit, one of the first things people say to me is you're calm, are that you become way you speak.
00;20;46;05 - 00;21;26;12
Unknown
And I think, that's such a nice compliment because when that, that and another, another thing that's coming in is that in that book untamed if you've read with a Gilbert, it's her phrase Elizabeth Gilbert is Elizabeth Gilbert's friend It's Abbey, it's Abbey's wife. Okay. And it's called Untamed. Yes. Yes. I will think of the things that she talks about in this exact instance when she's present, you know, in a meeting or whatever, she will go and take herself and sit in a cupboard cross-legged.
00;21;26;12 - 00;21;46;24
Unknown
If she can't find anywhere else to ground herself and go back. And I thought, yeah, it's exactly the same thing. You've got to do what you've got to do. Yeah. And she'll excuse herself from a very heated situation. It's in the cupboard, cross legged ground herself and go back and everything is a mirror image of what we're actually believing.
00;21;46;24 - 00;22;20;23
Unknown
Not only our nervous system, but how we structure our day. So if I believe that, you know, I don't. I don't have enough time in my day, my diary will look like that because everything will become a mirror image of what we're believing. And so by untangling those beliefs and being more aware of what they are, sometimes we need to create more space in our diaries before we will start to transform those inner beliefs or sometimes the other way around, since it's really a work in progress too, for a lot of women, and certainly for me it's been a big life lesson.
00;22;20;23 - 00;22;46;26
Unknown
There's boundaries. Like we've had diaries, for instance, where to say no? Yeah, for a lot of us it's not it's not that natural to say no. For some reason. We, you know, especially if you're a bit hard based or empathetic or all those things saying no and making decisions to, you know, that would be great. But I really don't have time at the moment.
00;22;47;00 - 00;23;14;07
Unknown
So yeah, just really knowing, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's all about building that confidence, isn't it? And that inner resilience. Can you think of an example when you followed your higher guidance and higher self and where that led to an unexpected positive outcome for you? there's so many there's 1,000,000 million things. One that really through you, you know, that went well.
00;23;14;09 - 00;23;42;24
Unknown
Yeah. So I a few years ago, or maybe two or three years ago, I said to one of my closest girlfriends, I would love to talk to mates, women type women styling in Paris and she's like I said, that's what I'd like. And then last, at the start of last year, I remember thinking, I wonder if this year I could do that.
00;23;42;24 - 00;24;05;09
Unknown
And then different things fell. It's it's almost like the thought came in and I, I then watched things fall into place. I then had to take action, of course, because it's a yin and yang. It's it's attracts and then bravely take action. And last September, that's what I did. And I met women from all over the world. I do work globally.
00;24;05;09 - 00;24;26;28
Unknown
And yet on the styling retreat in Paris. that would have been amazing. It was amazing. It was amazing. And my girlfriend reminded me and she said, gender. It was it was only like two or three years ago you told me this is what you want to do. Well, that wasn't long for such a big you know, that's a big wrinkle.
00;24;27;00 - 00;24;57;29
Unknown
And so there was maybe something that you're kind of like you really need to act on. Yeah. And I think that intuition is it's the blend of masculine, feminine, yin yang that sometimes it's about, okay, listening and we don't need to act. And then we usually and usually it comes, I call it intuitive walking where I'm out walking in nature, where I will feel like today's the day.
00;24;58;01 - 00;25;26;21
Unknown
Ring that person, communicate with that person act. Today is the act day. And I, I never question it and I act. Once upon a time I'd go, You sure is it right? I need something clearer. Whereas now I'm just like, okay, yep, good. And I act and then things happen. Yeah. Because it's not only listening to your higher self when to go, it's also when to listen to myself to to pull back and just watch and observe and listen and gather more information.
00;25;26;23 - 00;25;48;19
Unknown
Absolutely. And when you're meant to, you think of seasons in life, seasons in one's body. We're not meant to be. Go, go, go on the front foot every single day. We're not meant to know how to act when when we feel guided. And that the only way you know that is get out of your head. Get out of the way.
00;25;48;22 - 00;26;14;04
Unknown
So if someone's feeling like they've got a jam packed schedule and they've got all these responsibilities and they've lost that connection to their high self and ability to have time and space, what's your what are your tips on changing that? Yeah, I would love that. And look, I can firstly completely empathize with feeling completely stuck and feeling like there's no way out.
00;26;14;05 - 00;26;45;07
Unknown
I have I have experienced that. I, I understand that baby steps, they really kind to yourself, Where can you grab even 5 minutes? Let's just start slow. 5 minutes of where can you stop? Yeah. And you know, I get it. If ladies have, say, young children or whatever, you might have to get up 5 minutes earlier to lean on without them.
00;26;45;07 - 00;27;04;07
Unknown
I understand that it's not as straightforward as what it sounds or it might be just after you've dropped them off, you know, to childcare or school or and it might be the first thing that comes into your diary is your first meeting. When you get to work like the first half, now that you're actually meditating or, you know, centering.
00;27;04;10 - 00;27;26;16
Unknown
Absolutely. And with that, so say when your if you're walking, I must admit I like no noise when I'm walking. I know a lot of people. It's time to catch up on podcasts and this and that. I get that. There is time for that. Personally, I like the quiet so that I can create space for the magic to come in.
00;27;26;23 - 00;28;05;05
Unknown
Yeah. And then so that would be so one the first steps and then the second is can you carve out some time somewhere, even if it's once a week to work out what you can cull out of your diary? So if is it a case of if you have, say, school aged children, could you do like a share with a friend where someone does a pick up one day for both lots and someone does another day or something like think their it it might need creative solutions more outside of the box.
00;28;05;05 - 00;28;29;05
Unknown
We need to be so good and relaxed to be solution focused. So yeah, not therefore you're not reactive all the time. You're, you know, you're starting to take back your power and then you transform what you're actually believing because your at a life will be a mirror image of, I have all the time in the world, I have all the time in the world.
00;28;29;05 - 00;28;55;14
Unknown
Instead of I have no time, I have no time. And you got to watch that language. You really do. Because if you're saying and I see it with ladies, with their bodies are kind of just put on too much weight on feeling heavy, blah, blah, blah. What about if you said, I love that I've got more curves now?
00;28;55;20 - 00;29;32;01
Unknown
I've always wanted to I don't know, have it fills in like it gives me beautiful skin here or like, just reframe it. Yeah. And flip it around instead of says, instead of really talking terribly about oneself, flip it around. What's an often I will say when women start talking and running themselves down, I'll I'll say actually. So give me the positive version of that.
00;29;32;03 - 00;30;03;14
Unknown
They've always thrown. Tell me something positive about yourself. You've got beautiful, thick head, you've got wonderful eyes. Look at your eyes. Yeah, and it's very Australian not to take component. Yeah. How do we flip that around? So if it's time and you feel in time poor, how can you flip that around and say, you know, yes, your schedule might be still as busy but, but I value my, my 3 minutes, 3 minutes.
00;30;03;14 - 00;30;27;06
Unknown
I sit in the car before I go into the office. Now, I'm so grateful for all these opportunities I have today with my meetings and clients, but I'm also balancing that with the rest. I need to be able to hold the container of that space and honoring that and honoring that. So then how this such great tips, Jane, how can we use style as a tool for empowerment on top of that?
00;30;27;09 - 00;30;57;08
Unknown
So when one of the things an easy easy like in that realm is start to keep a little diary. Now, whether you brought it in, you find whether you brought it on paper, what you know, whichever way resonates with you, start to use the adjectives when you put on today's outfit, how do you feel? Do you feel empowered?
00;30;57;08 - 00;31;28;09
Unknown
Clear. Do you feel unseen? Do you feel like not you know, do you feel like you're hiding? Do you feel like whatever the words are and then watch it for tomorrow? How do you feel? Just right. Like, make it easy. Don't make it like another big, big job. Maybe it's just three words and watch that start to become conscious of what you're wearing and how you're feeling.
00;31;28;09 - 00;31;50;22
Unknown
Like start to connect those two together. Yeah. And when it's in the negative, you know, really realizing whether that story is even true and creating flexibility around why it's usually not. And then, you know, having the flexibility and the courage to change your mind about that story, identifying where it might have started and saying that you've just held on to that, which is what we do.
00;31;50;29 - 00;32;12;13
Unknown
We hold onto all beliefs that are no longer true out of habit, but also another way to not be kind to ourselves, another way to be less compassionate if we feel unworthy or we are just simply. Yeah, it's such a habit to even be stuck in the fight or flight stress response. Absolutely. Absolutely. I tend to work with a lot of what I call midlife women.
00;32;12;13 - 00;32;47;21
Unknown
So there might be perimenopause, menopause, that kind of thing. And so that brings its whole own set of challenges, particularly with weight, you know? Yeah, you're still eating and moving in the same way and bodies changing. You know, I understand all of that. And so often we need some new tools to manage that time. So it's multi-faceted, multi pronged approach and giving.
00;32;47;27 - 00;33;13;14
Unknown
You know, I would always suggest because kinesiology is one of my favorite modalities, it always has been, you know, get support and learn some more tools about how to work around those changes within your body. And that's that's a big part of what I do. And, you know, is that part of what you do in your your latest venture with style for impact?
00;33;13;17 - 00;33;44;09
Unknown
Yes, it is. It's exactly what I do. And because it's giving women what I believe is giving you tools, whatever stage of life you're at and and often that that stage, that perimenopausal menopausal time, it's it it actually is a fabulous time. But it doesn't always feel like that. It feels like you've lost yourself and can feel quite challenging.
00;33;44;12 - 00;34;12;17
Unknown
Whereas to me, it's actually this wonderful time of reinvention and, and the new iteration of yourself. Yeah. And I guess that would also be closely linked to the experience we watched of our mothers or grandmothers, whether it's positive or very. My mom had menopause for over 15 years, really struggled with a shift in her mental state and, you know, hot flushes beyond like constantly with the men.
00;34;12;20 - 00;34;40;29
Unknown
But I remember mental things. Just her confidence levels dropped and just because she was about how she was feeling and it went on for ages. So I've got to be careful not to believe that my journey into menopause will be the same. Yeah, Yeah. And I. I mean, look, I found I'm not an anxious person, essentially, but I had started to feel quite anxious at many points.
00;34;40;29 - 00;35;13;01
Unknown
And with that, you can easily lose your confidence and you start a sort of it's a really tricky and that can be a bit of a spiral. And so it's I think it's a it's a time to get help and get tools and yeah, and then rise above it. Then it doesn't, then it feels more proactive and then it feels like you're calling the shots, not Yeah.
00;35;13;03 - 00;35;36;19
Unknown
The result of this situation. Yeah. Coming out a victim of this happened to me and then all of this happened for me. And this is what I've learned by overcoming challenge. And we need support. It's okay to ask for support under passage and it's wonderful. It's talked about more than like perhaps when our mothers went to talked about it's it's you know, there's a lot more discussion now which is a really good thing.
00;35;36;21 - 00;36;06;16
Unknown
Well, if you were to give your younger self a piece of advice around building resilience, what would that be? Yeah, and it's funny, I think I've always been very resilient. I have this really funny mix of completely naive and yet massive dreams and self-belief, which is sort of a funny old mix. But I've just always been that way.
00;36;06;19 - 00;36;35;23
Unknown
But, you know, confidence is, is a big thing. Confidence would probably be one of the biggest things there for me, which is resilience. Well, and being brave, I've always been fairly brave, but I'd probably encourage, encourage myself to be more brave X amount of years are great. Yes. Yes. To be brave because that's very similar to my personality too, where it's a mixture of my areas.
00;36;35;23 - 00;37;02;01
Unknown
Naivety, but also a solid other understanding of myself that has big dreams and, you know, can feel quite confident about them at times. You know, what's held me back has been when the outer confidence and ability to strive for my dreams, you know, clashes with the deeper beliefs around. I'm not worthy for that. I can't hold that space and those things don't happen to me.
00;37;02;01 - 00;37;23;08
Unknown
And, you know, you know someone else that gets that. Yeah. And believing things that were said in the past by, you know, people around and, you know and transforming what's possible with dealing with also when things do go well how you can confidently stand your ground when you are successful and how that impacts others around you. All of that is all part of it.
00;37;23;10 - 00;37;56;00
Unknown
And I think that you've really captured it so well and then as you start to really embody that inadvertently, you lead by example, which is what we're here to do. And certainly it is part of actually my life mission here is to yes, in this. And I think that when we find a clash of what we're trying to achieve, this is what's going on on the inside.
00;37;56;02 - 00;38;21;06
Unknown
What can help with confidence is, you know, really knowing that, knowing that, you know, your stuff, whether it's been well researched or you need to do some extra studies like really realizing that, you know, good stuff, but also not overstating either and dwelling on your own personal experiences and realizing that you, you know, something that's very special, that's uniquely your experience.
00;38;21;09 - 00;38;52;24
Unknown
And then, you know, studies might have helps you to understand what that's all about. And that and with your business styling is integrating, integrating that in how you express yourself, how you, you know, dress yourself every day. And what we've learned today is you can use that to elevate and to boost confidence and self-empowerment. And we can also use styling to evoke, you know, other personas in us, which is, you know, sign down and, you know, relaxing more and, you know, not always being that power body.
00;38;52;26 - 00;39;35;09
Unknown
No because we're multi lot we're not none of us are all one version of ourselves where we're lots of versions of ourselves. So styling is a very immediate way to reflect that. It's also a very immediate way to really elevate your self, your sense of self-worth, your sense, your your business, whether it's your business, whether your it's your role and a role that you are to to, you know, increase.
00;39;35;11 - 00;40;09;02
Unknown
It's it's a very, very impactful, immediate way you can do that. Absolutely. I love I love our chats today and I love chatting with you, Jane. It's It's going to help so many people. I think listening to the power of possibility and how we can utilize styling, you know, to go on our journeys to help us with reaching our fullest potential, but also knowing how to, you know, be kind to ourselves and reconnect into the root of ourselves and our and using our highest selves.
00;40;09;09 - 00;40;40;15
Unknown
And that connection. Yeah. To navigate. Y yeah. You know, you asked me before about like visualizing, I remember and I know we're right at the end, but I, it's just coming in. Yeah. My sister, one of my sisters said to me, mention if you are awarded the best stylist in the world and I laughed at her. I said, That is a very egotistical and ridiculous statement.
00;40;40;18 - 00;41;09;21
Unknown
Well, the next year I got awarded International Best Artist of the Year. my God, Isn't that just the year after that? There's something in all of this. Isn't that like, there we are. You. You know what? That thing. What? You can come and then believe, wholeheartedly believe. And then don't worry about how it happens. Just trust the whispers.
00;41;09;21 - 00;41;32;12
Unknown
Trust where you guide and trust where you're led. Yeah. Yes. Hence intuitive whispers. One of your other. Yes. Yes, that's exactly right. my gosh. So anyone who wants to check out Jane, her website is finesse your style dot com. All of your information will be in the notes in the blog and thank you so much, Jane, for your time today.
00;41;32;12 - 00;42;02;01
Unknown
I loved chatting with you. Thank you so much for having me. Amanda. It's always beautiful. We always have very rich conversations. So, you know, and what you how you help your clients, it's just so multi dimensional and multi impactful. So thank you so much. Thank you, Jane. I appreciate it. Thank you for joining us for another inspiring episode of Bend Like Bamboo.
00;42;02;03 - 00;42;32;10
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I hope the stories and insights shared today have sparked new ideas about resilience, the power of your mind, and the importance of flexibility in your own life. If you've enjoyed this episode, I'd be grateful if you could write and share it with others who might benefit from these powerful conversations. Whether you're facing challenges in your health, career or personal life, I hope that the lessons we explore here can help you to develop a more resilient mindset and adaptable approach.
00;42;32;13 - 00;42;54;15
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00;42;54;15 - 00;49;01;12
Unknown
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