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Welcome to The Limitless Podcast with Deanna Herrin, your space to elevate every area of your life. Designed for ambitious souls and entrepreneurs ready to unlock their full potential, this podcast combines mindset mastery, leadership strategies, and transformational insights to guide you toward living a life of abundance and alignment.
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Unknown: You are listening to
the limitless podcast. I'm your
host. Deanna Herron, what if you
had no limitations keeping you
from your dream life in 2016 I
had a major tug on my heart to
write a book about my story, and
in the process, I learned that I
had been operating with a very
faulty belief system for the
majority of my life. I've had a
huge transformation since then,
and my life's passion and
mission is to teach you how to
live a limitless life. Join me
on this journey. Let's get
started. Hello and welcome back
to the limitless podcast. This
is Deanna hearin. This is part
two of the unlock the keys to a
better marriage series. In this
part, I will be talking about my
seven keys to freedom. Not only
will these seven keys to freedom
help you with resentment,
they'll help you reclaim your
power. And when you reclaim
power in one relationship in
your life, it transfers to every
relationship. So let's begin.
All right, so here's my proven
success for our healing, and
this is something that I use on
my clients, regardless of if
it's marriage business, whatever
it is, but my proven process is
to heal your stories. When you
heal your stories, you take your
power back, and this is my
favorite part. And once you take
your power back, you actually
experience freedom. And like
I've said a bazillion times, and
I'm going to continue to say,
this process will transfer into
every area of your life. So here
are the seven steps to freedom.
Anybody want freedom in their
life? Yeah, we all want a little
bit of freedom. The first step
in my process is recognizing the
truth behind your union. So when
it comes to marriage,
recognizing that you two are
here to heal each other, and
it's basically your awakening
and your awakening to Okay, so
there's more to we're just here
to live happily ever after, and
he's supposed to meet my needs
and carry me off on the white
horse. It's awakening to the
truth of I am here to heal, and
he is here to heal the stories
of lack and limitation.
Together, you are to help each
other. And like I said, it's not
by pointing out the wrongs in
him, although that's so inviting
sometimes, right? Not pointing
out the wrongs of each other.
But it's by recognizing that
your triggers are here to teach
you something. Your triggers are
here to teach you something.
Your triggers have a hidden
message about the stories, about
the false narratives, and about
what you're believing about
yourself, your triggers are
keeping you in the state of
victimhood of circumstances. Why
did he say that to me? Huh? Why
does he always treat me that
way? Right? So we become victim
of our circumstances, and you
guys, I don't know if you you
experience this when you have an
argument with your spouse or an
argument with your partner or an
argument with your parents, but
it's that swirling of thoughts
that plays around in your head
for days and sometimes weeks and
sometimes months. It's very
hurtful and it's very painful,
but your triggers are actually
keeping you in that state of
victimhood from your
circumstances. And what I teach
is we have to separate from the
circumstance and deal with the
story that's within us, or you
will always be a victim of the
world, a victim of
circumstances. So we have to
look at the circumstance,
separate from it. Okay, what's
the story? What's this meaning
about me? And our goal is to
take our power back, to really
take our power back. Number two
of my seven steps is to release
resentment, and that's what
we're going to talk about
tonight. We're going to talk
about resentment, and this is
what I'm going to coach through
on the resentment. Number three
is to recognize the pattern
that's playing out in all areas
of your life. These are called
blind spots. These are blind
spots our stories. And in this
particular stage, we do a
pattern interrupt. So in order
to change the story, to change
the pattern, we have to
interrupt the pattern. And I do
that in a very unique way.
Number four is rewrite the story
to your truth. Because remember,
you are limitless, boundless,
with limitless possibilities,
infinite, infinite. So rewrite
the story. Number five is
release stuck emotional energy.
And I'm going to tell you, this
is what makes me a little bit
different in what I do is
because a lot of people do a lot
of mind work, and you can't just
do mind work without, without
actually healing the emotions
that we have stuck in our body.
Those emotions, when they are
not expressed, they get stuck.
They get stuck in your body. And
over time, I can look at your
physiology in a few years. Those
of you who are in your 20s and
30s, you may not have any
symptoms right now, but those of
us who are 40s, 50s, 60s, and
we're the starting just. Show in
our body, the physiology of not
dealing with our emotions. You
have to release that stuck
emotional energy, and I do that
in in several different ways.
Number six is the true meaning
behind forgiveness. We've been
taught forgiveness in a very
interesting way, and so I really
dive into the true meaning by
about forgiveness and why it's
so important, and how it makes
the difference in your life,
difference in your life. And
number seven is Respect for
self. I'm going to teach you
respect for yourself, and that
means you learning how to be
safe with you. You learning how
to love and accept yourself. We
can't fully love other people
unless we can love and accept
ourselves. We can't fully
receive love, unless we can
fully receive love and
acceptance of ourselves, Respect
for self also includes using our
voice. We have a tendency to not
speak up sometimes and just
sweep things under the rug
because they haven't gone well
in the past, and so things go
unresolved, teaching you how to
respond instead of react to the
triggers communication, taking
your power back clarity, and
learning how to fully expand
your knowledge, your Freedom and
every part of you, and then
lastly, those are the seven
stages. And then lastly, you're
going to experience freedom. And
that's the best part, my friend,
that is truly the best. The best
part is experiencing freedom
from the constraints, the
prisons that we once had no idea
were a part of us. You know,
resentments are something that
really can tear a marriage down,
and they aren't built overnight.
Truly, they're not formed
overnight. They're formed over
years and years and years. So
how are they formed? Let's talk
about how our resentments are
formed. We start to see at some
point that the perfect man that
we married, there are things
that we don't necessarily
like, and it breaks down the
illusion of the prince charming
story that we have been sold. So
there, you know, there may be
little things in the beginning.
I remember in the beginning of
my marriage, we had separate
bathrooms. I had my own
bathroom. He had his own
bathroom. But when I would go to
use his restroom and I would
close the door, there were about
three or four or 10 pair of
underwear behind there. And so I
started to see this man that I
thought was perfect, like he
left his underwear behind the
door. And so there may be some
other things that happen, like
he chews too loud, or he wears
the same shorts to the gym every
day. Whatever it is, there may
be just these little things that
it starts to break down that
illusion of the prince charming
story. Okay? And, you know, I'm
sure you have your own. We all
have some, but a lot of us,
it's, it's kind of the same
thing. They chew too loud, they
belch a lot, or whatever. So
just think about how that
illusion has actually started to
fade away, the perfect person.
Then we have arguments that
never get resolved. They never
get resolved because we are not
taught how to communicate
effectively, I would say 90% of
the population does not know how
to communicate effectively, and
so you end up in this argument,
and you you go in separate ways,
and nothing is ever talked
about. So it's swept under the
rug until a later time, and that
same argument comes up, and it
gets a little louder, a little
louder, a little louder, more
screaming, and then you go off
in different directions, etc. So
it's the same thing that happens
over and over, but it never gets
resolved, and the friction gets
bigger and bigger and bigger.
It's like, almost like a tornado
that is forming over years and
years. We stop using our voice,
right? We stop using our voice.
We stop talking about or voicing
our needs, our concerns, our
wants and our desires. So let me
ask you something. Have you
actually forgotten what your
desires are? I remember a point
in my marriage where I'm like, I
don't even know what I want. I
don't even know what I want, but
this is like, not fun. It's not
fun. I'm not enjoying this. And
back in my day, I never really
had an idea of the ideal person.
I mean, I had some things I you
know, my the things that I had
in my mind were, I'm not going
to marry a man that had been
married before. I'm not going to
marry a man that had a child,
and I'm not going to marry a man
that was a Baptist. I don't know
where that came from. Anyway, I
That's the man I married. All of
the knots, all of the knots.
That's the man I married. So do
we really know what our desire.
Czar, do we really know what we
want? We need to get crystal
clear on that. And in my
program, limitless lounge,
there's Queen's criteria
criteria where we talk about
that and you really narrow it
down to really what you want.
Because until you really know
what you want, you're going to
continue to have the same issues
pop up over and over and over.
So it's profound when you
actually know your criteria.
Over time, we begin to feel
unseen, unheard and
unappreciated. Anybody relate to
that unseen, unheard and
appreciated, unappreciated and
just so you know, they do too.
They do too. They don't feel
seen, they don't feel heard,
they don't feel supported. Same
thing, actually, the same thing.
Okay, over time we start to shut
down. We build up walls, and
those walls are basically armor
of protection. We don't want
those hurts to go in. So we
build up these walls of
protection, of perfection, that
too. We build up these walls.
And basically what we are doing,
without even recognizing what
we're doing, is we've got these
walls. We don't want the hurts
to come in, but we're also not
putting in ourself in a position
to receive. So when you're
constantly giving in the
relationship, when you have kids
and you're giving, giving,
giving. You're doing, doing,
doing the dishes, the laundry,
all the things. You've got this
armor up because you don't want
to get hurt again, but you're
also not allowing yourself to
receive. So it is a cycle and a
pattern of a lose lose
situation, absolutely lose, lose
situation, and you slowly begin
to slip away from each other,
and you lose your relationship.
And over time, the intimacy,
like I said earlier, the
intimacy becomes null and void,
or it's just checking off our
list. We feel heavy, we feel
drained, we have no energy, and
we have lost our zest, we've
completely lost our zest and
your resentments, though they
tell a story. They tell a story
about what you are going
through. That's the seven steps
to freedom, the process that
helps you come back home to
yourself and create peace in
every area of your life. In the
next episode, you'll hear how
this work comes to life as I
coach a woman from the workshop
through her own story. You'll
hear her struggles and how we
begin to untangle what's really
been holding her back. I'll meet
you there. I'm honored to have
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You.