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Hop along to conversations with the Kaz sisters, Ashley and Angela. You'll find a mix of silly, serious and everything in between. 🦘
This is sisters Ashley and Angela. And this is sister Rooy. So this week I was talking with a friend about intrusive thoughts. And while I don't know if they're really intrusive thoughts, they could also be just considered, like, worries or fears, like, general fears and worries, especially just coming into motherhood and, like, what that looks like now with being a mom or even just married. I don't know. Anyway, we were just talking about intrusive thoughts, and I thought that it would be good to bring that up to you because I wonder what your intrusive thoughts are.
Oh, I have a few. But I have a question for you first.
Okay.
When did you learn that it was called an intrusive thought? Do you remember?
Do you remember September? but no, I vividly remember.
I don't know why. a college friend who I don't really talk with anymore, he, like, ghosted me.
Right.
Um, I just remember I visited him in Washington, D.C. okay. And I remember telling him about some irrational fears of, like, things that just popped into my head. And I just remember him telling me, you know, those are called intrusive thoughts. Like, huh. Did not know there was a term for this, but I definitely have them.
Yeah, I don't know. when I would have learned the term intrusive thoughts, I guess.
But, yeah, it just sticks with me. I don't know why. Maybe because I just still am also really just shocked that confused.
I talked to this, ghosted you.
I haven't this friend anymore who we were, like, BFFs throughout college years. So anyway, that's a whole other tangent. But, intrusive thoughts, I'm excited to talk about, even though they are just.
Dark and kind of depressing.
Totally cool. so you want to know what my intrusive thoughts are?
I would. Yeah. I would ask you, like, what is one of your main intrusive thoughts that comes to mind immediately? And how maybe your intrusive thoughts have changed with becoming a mom or even being married or in a, like, serious relationship.
It's really interesting you bring this up because with Jake, I remember while I was in my Alabama home, just being in the kitchen and. And whether it was at my stove or my sink, for some reason, I just remember it was in my kitchen where I was waiting for him to come home. And I just had these thoughts of like, he got into a car accident or something. Like I hadn't heard from him. It would be something related to Jake got injured or some life death situation. I knew it was completely made up, but the thought just crossed my mind and honestly, it would have me in tears so fast. and I don't know if this is because of my.
Yeah, that's probably because you're, like, super emotional anyway.
Yeah.
Yeah, I don't know if I've cried. I'll get to m. My. I'll get to my thoughts.
The thing that is crazy to Jake is I don't even know if he would know the term intrusive thoughts and that this is what they were, but Jake would know. My mind could easily spiral down to a dark place quickly and cause me to cry immediately because I bring up my empathy factor. I have a huge empathy factor. And it was just like I can immediately think something and then, totally envision myself in this situation. And it's dark and terrible and there I am just bawling in the kitchen. And it's interesting that we have never.
Talked about intrusive thoughts, considering you are such an emotional, like, dark thinking person. Which sounds terrible.
I know it sounds terrible because on the surface, everyone knows I'm pretty light and bubbly and like all this, I seem happy. I mean, I hope that. Which I don't m. Seem.
Yeah.
Which I am. You are happy. Yeah. I don't walk around with these dark thoughts all the time, but it is just the fact that I totally can have in a split second the intrusive thought of something terrible happening to someone that I love, like Jake. And then I'm in tears. And Jake, for Probably the first two years, honestly, of us going out and everything, I think it was just because I was so happy that I knew I found my person and, like, what I consider my soulmate. And he. Like, I think it was just so obvious to me. And I knew how rare that and special it was. And therefore my. Honestly, my intrusive thoughts were kind of worse because it would be like I could totally not have this in a split second because of a car accident or something.
Yeah. So that is one of my main ones is Justin gets in a car accident or when he's traveling, something happens. And I know with the media and everything right now we just See more than, you know, we're used to. and so You see all these plane crashes and everything, but in reality, I think plane crashes are actually down considerably if you compare them to other years. It's just that we see them more and hear about them more because of the media coverage.
And maybe it's the Boeing company.
Yeah. But so I'm just like, you see this stuff, though, with the media coverage, and so then the intrusive thoughts come lingering in. with Justin traveling or with him driving around, I am always just like, don't get in an accident because you can't leave me. Like, you are my person. Like you were saying, and I don't want to do this alone. I could, but I don't want to. And, I just, like, will tell him this and he'll be like, okay, but I'm literally. I've never been in an accident. Which. One, like, don't jinx it and don't.
Put that in the universe.
And two, there are so many other idiots on the road.
There really are.
I'm not saying that it's going to be your fault, but, like, someone could easily, you know, cross a median drunkenly and cause an accident.
There's so many car accidents that I feel like I hear in our area.
I think it's because of just coverage and social media and nowadays.
But maybe. But I do feel like there's more people on the road and everything.
Oh. I mean, I'm sure there are, like, overpopulated cities and everything, too, and growing.
Cities and the amount of people every time. It is so sad that I think the minority of the drivers are actually not on their phones. Like, usually you see so many other people while they're driving on their phone. And I'm saying you are in the minority. Now, If I see that they're actually driving and not on their phone.
Yeah.
Ten, nine times out of ten, I'm like, jake, they're on their phone.
It's always at a stoplight. Like, no one's going because they're checking their phone, I guess.
But there are so many people when they are driving. Like when you're on the highway.
Yeah.
And you just see they have it in their hand, looking, and they're looking at the road then and there.
I mean, yeah, there are distractions everywhere, but Makes me sad. but yeah, that's one of my intrusive thoughts. But what my actual number one, intrusive thought is. And it's. I don't even know where this would have come from. But anytime that I go and run an errand, And it's a quick errand, like even when I had a non electric vehicle. So when I had to get gas and I'd go into the gas station to get something, because I would usually pay at the pump. I don't know why I was going into gas stations. I was getting a snack, let's be honest. but anytime, even if I'm just going into a gas station and getting a candy bar, like literally in and out while my gas tank fills up, I always have it in the back of my mind, like, you need to bring your phone in case this place gets held up. Because this will be the day. Even if you go in for 30 seconds, this will be the day that you don't have your phone and something's gonna happen.
Well, is this your husband Justin training you? Because, uh, you said, I thought you said that like one time for, a movie theater or something, we were going someplace and I made a comment that I did not have my phone on me. And you said if Justin found out I did not have my phone on me, he'd be livid. Something like that. And I swear it was for a movie theater.
Well, with Justin it's a different thing, which is a totally other tangent based off of my illnesses and health issues and whatever. But basically I almost like died.
when we first started dating, I, had been really sick and I had left my phone, or maybe my sister in law had my phone. I don't know. She's the one that drove me to the hospital. and I was, I was in bad shape, so I did not have my phone and I was resting in a hospital bed. And I did not communicate with Justin that I wasn't feeling great at the time, but he knew that I was sick at the time. And I was supposed to go to my final, for statistics, which was actually the class that we met in. And so he went and he was supposed to meet me after my statistics final because I was taking it early because my grandmother died and I had to go to the funeral. It was a whole thing, guys.
And.
I had called my statistics teacher telling her I cannot make this final. Kind of make it up in the summer, I don't know. like, I'm gonna go to the hospital. And so I let her know, got to the hospital. And Justin went and talked to my statistics teacher and like waited for this, for me to come out of this final. And I never came out. And he was like, is, is Ashley in there? And she said, oh, she called and she's not, she's not coming. She said she was super sick. And so Justin like drove around town and ended up seeing my car in the parking lot of this hospital. and it came barging in. It was like a movie because I was just like about to pass out from, you know, that good Benadryl hit.
Ashley and the Benadryl
Justin just like smile, swings the door open and I'm just like blind at this point because I was wearing glasses at the time and I was just like, is that my boyfriend? And he hadn't even met my sister in law at that point yet. so that was a funny way that they got to meet each other as well. But anyway, ever since then, Justin is just like worried that I'm maybe this is his constant intrusive thought that I'm just like dead in a ditch somewhere. And then add that on top of his apocalyptic thinking. Like, yeah, but no, the, the gas thing. Ah. That has always been in the back of my mind. Like something bad's gonna happen. Whenever I go into the store or this gas station, I need to bring my phone just in case. I literally will leave the door and I'll be like, I'll be fine without it for, for this time. And then I, I could never do it. I always go back and I get the phone.
I guess I've never really thought about that as an intrusive thought. But I guess in a way it is for me with the phone stuff because I've had that where I'm thinking, okay, I don't need my phone. And then I think in my head because I just thought that I should actually bring it. Like it's kind of one of those things. Okay. This is a safety thing and I don't want to have just jinxed it. So I guess that could be an intrusive thought, but I don't know. I have. But the reason you bring up intrusive thoughts and why I thought it was very intriguing was so I mentioned in Alabama, I really recall having a lot of intrusive thoughts about, losing Jake in some kind of dire, crazy circumstance.
Yeah.
And then I honestly just now having the second child.
Mhm.
And I'm like walking around with Zach, my newborn, just like throughout my house in the kitchen or something. You're looking at me like, I wonder if this is the same thing. Yeah.
Uh, I'm, like, wondering where your mind is going, like, if it's the same as mine.
Basically, my intrusive thought right now is if I just dropped my child and, I, like, completely damage him.
Yep. So I have stairs. That is my intrusive thought. I'm like, anytime sitting down. Yeah. With Ace, I had the same thought. Or when I'm holding Sam and I'm, like, walking down the stairs, I take my sweet time because I'm just like, today's the day I'm gonna miss, and I can just fall right down. And then. And then my other intrusive thoughts with the little babies is their soft spots.
Yeah.
I'm like, God forbid something were to happen with this, with one of their soft spots, and I need to get that out of my brain. That comes with a bad mental image for me.
Yeah. I have not had the intrusive thought of the soft spots for my kiddos. The biggest one is recently Just holding Zach. And I have tile throughout the majority of my house. So I'm just like, oh, my gosh, his poor little skull. And this tile like that is. I haven't even voiced this to Jake. This is my latest intrusive thought. But I feel like I had a time frame of a year off of intrusive thoughts because I haven't had this negative thought of anything until I recently had Zach. And walking around.
Maybe the hormones do something, because, you know, I don't know if I've really ever had, thoughts in the last couple years either.
Yeah.
Now all of a sudden, I'm just like, please, nothing happened to my babies, and nothing happened to my husband. And maybe it's. Yeah. Maybe it's like, postpartum. Yeah.
Um, I hadn't even worried about Jake and me. That's why I'm like, oh, it was back in Alabama where I last remember having some of these thoughts and the crying in my kitchen.
mine always results in, like, so many extra prayers. I'm just, like, sending up a prayer Like, please watch over him. Please watch over them. Um, Let them grow up. And let me see that.
Yeah. Where I guess I had also, I think it's because of the unfortunate events of, like, school shootings and everything.
Yeah.
And then I start thinking about, just the fact that I only have. At this point, I only Had Emma, and I think I was probably pregnant, and I'm just like, oh, my gosh. And, yeah, you start praying of like, oh, my gosh. I just hope that my life, how it goes. I don't have to go through some kind of heartbreak of losing a kiddo. Yeah.
Uh, I mean, honestly, that's also why I really focused on putting Ace into the float, swim, float program. Because Florida is just covered in water, and everyone has pools, and so I really just wanted to make sure he had the tools that he needed.
Yeah. Which I wonder if I just subconsciously have these intrusive thoughts and they're just part of my life, that they're just not even anything to me anymore because Like, just a few days ago, uh, I was talking to Jake about the importance of us having to lock our doors. It was actually after Ace had been playing with Emma on the porch, and they had been opening and shutting the door very easily.
In that scenario, had we not. Had I not known that we had played put both of our kids in float, swim, float, like, we would have. I would have been watching them way more closely.
Yeah. Or we would have been, like, out on the patio.
Yeah. We had eyes on the pool. We had eyes on the.
Right. And I told. I asked Jake to make sure that.
The gate was shut. Like, they had.
Pool fence was up. The kiddie pool fence. but what you did not know is after that, I was having thoughts of, like, oh, my gosh. Emma could just be. I mean, there was a moment where she went out the door the next day without Jake and me, just into the patio area. And I was like, girl, you cannot go back out, like, outside in the backyard without me and dad or one of us.
Yeah.
And then my mind started just to spiral a little bit of thinking. Okay, Jake, we need to now make sure that our doors are locked at the end of the day, and we've got the child safety locks on. so that the next morning, we're not worried about just randomly Emma walking out there. and, I mean, I'm not worried about her right now because she is still in a crib and contained, and I'm not worried about her in the middle of the night just going out there or something. But it just had me thinking, oh, my gosh, there's more of these things that we have to think about and, protect for her safety and it all had me going down that spiral because our two kids were playing in the. In the patio that day. More intrusive thoughts thanks to having kiddos.
Yeah. I feel like I have a lot more when I have kids now.
Yeah, But then I start thinking, is it an intrusive thought or just us being smart?
Because we have to think safety precautions.
Yeah. Because we have to think safety precautions because we are parents and have to think through all of this stuff.
Yeah. I mean, that's probably more so what it is with, like, the. The pool.
Yeah. That's where I'm like, was that really an intrusive thought? But really, I. The reason I said that was an intrusive thought is because I had the thought of, like, oh, my gosh, if that gate wasn't locked, it could easily be a potential kid falling into the pool and my heart pretty much having a heart attack.
Yeah. Yeah. So what. What caused this discussion with me and my friend was, uh. She had sent me a reel, and it was of a mother putting in her child who was being difficult at the time and was like, point of view, getting your child into the car and telling them to, like, hurry up or something before they both get kidnapped or something. I was like, well, that is definitely an interesting one if I've ever heard one. And so I had asked her, like, is this something you are worried about? and so it was just interesting because that's what opened up the thought. And I was like, oh, this is like, these are my intrusive thoughts. And then I went into the ones that I've told you today.
Yeah.
So it was just interesting hearing hers and then now hearing yours and saying what mine were.
Yeah. I really want to ask Jake, actually, Now that we're one thinking through our intrusive thoughts and me thinking that subconsciously I have more intrusive thoughts than I really. Yeah, Logically. Not logically. really consciously think about. I think Jake would probably tell me if I think about them even more or not, because I typically voice them to him. But honestly, I really. I haven't voiced many to him.
The only one I've really voiced to Justin is that, he better not die in a car accident. And then he's like, I'm fine. I've never been in an accident. Like I said.
Yeah.
And I don't know what intrusive thoughts he has. I'd be curious to ask him, too.
Well, I know Jake has had some intrusive Thoughts. Because he'll always say, I feel like you like. Meaning that I come up with the dark thoughts. We're always saying I come up with these irrational dark thoughts. And, when Jake has those, he will tell me. And I. I can't recall him telling me any recently. but It's like twice a year, not frequent at all. Or it'll be after he had a terrible dream.
Yeah. I just feel like Justin's are all going to be apocalyptic.
Yeah, I can see that.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. really would love to find out Jake's recent intrusive thoughts. So I'm going to probably be asking him that and Seeing what comes of that. And I'll probably let him know. Yeah. My latest intrusive thought is that I'm thinking, or not thinking. I have a fear that I will drop Zach and his skull will just split right open on our tile floor. And it is the worst thought.
And,
Yeah, but I had it.
I had it today.
Like, as I'm going from our house back to the patio through our kitchen.
Yeah. I just feel like ever since having the kiddos, the anxiety skyrocketed.
But, you know, I don't remember really thinking some of these things with Emma. Maybe This is where Jake will be a great reminder of things that I have forgotten.
Right.
I think I had thoughts after Emma was born that, like, gosh, Jake could get into a car accident. And then here I would be, single mother with Emma. And actually, I know this is true, because I know it's true that I had these intrusive thoughts because I always tell Jake, gosh, if he died and it was just me and Emma, um, I, don't know how I would make it through Christmas.
Oh, yeah, you've told me this before.
Because, guys, Jake loves Christmas.
Like, I don't know why you don't, but that's neither here nor there. But, yes, Jake's love for Christmas is unmatched. And, you know, I would just. I would help you get through Christmas if this were to happen, but I.
Know you would help me. But the first few years, I'd be a mess.
Yeah.
Jake just goes all out, wants to decorate everything. And I think it would be either one of two things, actually, that I would probably do. I'd probably either be one depressed and crying, and, poor Emma and Zach would just, like, have a depressing Christmas, or I would go overboard and overcorrect. Everything would be a ridiculous, stupid amount of just Christmas like, everything. I. I can't stand inflatables for some reason. They just look cheap to me. And when.
Inflatable decorations.
Yes, inflatable decorations for your yard. I understand the hype or the draw for it that it's easy to store all of this stuff, but if you didn't have an inflatable continuously inflating throughout the whole day, it just looks like you have trash all over your yard. Like, it just doesn't look good at all. And Jake wants inflatables everywhere in our yard. And I'm just like, it just doesn't look good to me. I don't know what else to tell you.
So if he dies, just keep them up all the time, then. So it doesn't look like you have trash.
Either way, they still look cheap to me. Like, I know they are cheap.
how would Mo mow around inflatables? Would it eat them?
No. It would.
Yeah. Mo is and is Angela and Jake's robotic lawnmower. He's our automatic lawn mower that we've.
Named Mo because we love him. He is part of the family. He does so much work, and we love him. We've had him for years. He cuts our yard fantastic and fantastically well. And, yeah, we don't have to cut our grass.
This brings me to a question that I'll ask once we finish our, our inflatable. My inflatable question about Joe. Joe, Mo.
he would, uh. Assuming that there is a, more hard plastic type thing that helps the inflatables.
I mean. Yeah, they have a fan that, blow air.
Yeah. It's very similar to how a Roomba works. Like, he would sense there's like an object.
But say it's a windy day, and knowing Jake, he gets, like, the largest Grinch possible inflatable. So say that now it's during the day when Mo is going and the Grinch is lying dead on your lawn. Like, the fan doesn't cover the entire thing.
Yeah. If they are not inflated and they are just laying on the ground, that would be. That would be a Mo issue.
So you just have to, like, lock Mo up for Christmas and let him out during the night.
You're giving me more ammunition where.
Sorry, Jake.
Don't need to have an inflatable in my yard.
I like. I like the. the metal ones. I do those for, like, Thanksgiving and fall.
Like the wire type. Yeah.
Ah, the ones that just stick into the ground.
Yeah. I like the look of those.
but we have inflatables. Because I have Ace, who has an opinion about everything and wants Bluey. Everything. So here we are.
Even if Emma wanted something like that, it's not. Not gonna come in inflatable form that I would like in my yard. Jake would be all for it, and he'd be like, let's not tell mom. And then it would just be.
I mean, what kind of decorations do you want then? Just, like, the. I don't even know what they're made of. They're all wire, I guess they're just, like, furry wire. I don't even know what the.
Yeah, I. That is what I'm thinking, though, that I like, like the.
I'm thinking of the classic deer that are, like, eating in your lawn type decor.
Yeah. Like, why would be more acceptable.
More acceptable. Yeah. But storage. Good luck to you.
I know we really don't have that much room in our attic anymore
But.
Yeah, that. That is Jake's thing with the inflatables.
But I just.
I don't know that I have other priorities of where I want to spend my money versus an inflatable.
They're pretty cheap in comparison to some other things I know.
Which is funny, because in my head, I'm just like, they look cheap. They look cheap. And when they are deflated, it looks like trash in your yard. That is my.
Wow. Uh, I've never heard Angela be smart, so passionate about this. Like, I go on my food rants of, like, you know, things changing and fast food restaurants. And here you are just like, y' all have trash in your yard.
Well, yeah.
That blow up to be magical pieces at night.
Yeah. I don't. I'm sorry, guys. If you have an inflatable or you're all about them, like, all power to you. It is not in my yard and.
Never will be, apparently.
Sorry, Jake. I really don't want them in my yard.
I have not a factor, though.
This is a conversation that Jake and I have yearly, every year, multiple times a year.
And so it would take.
It kills soul terribly.
It would take Jake's death for you to maybe go all out for your children and get inflatable decor.
Maybe in the spirit of.
This is what, Christmas. Yeah. We should put that in your will.
Oh, man.
Yeah.
No, I just. I don't know. One of these days, we'll see if I own an inflatable. But at this point, I am just.
The only inflatables will be inflatable tubes in the pool. Yes.
Those are the acceptable inflatables.
You're like, yes, give me all the sunshine. Yes, yes. So my last little tangent that I was going to go off of bringing up Mo that I was also thinking about the other day. What is something that you've bought that was like frivolous. Yeah, thank you. that wasn't completely necessary. That you, that I bought. Yeah, that you bought. That you don't regret or like that you would thousand percent do again.
Oh my gosh.
Because one Angela is very. I'm too practical and you're just very cost, efficient. I don't know what the word is. Words are coming difficult to us right now because it's really late and we're really sleep deprived.
But we are such sleep deprived mothers at the moment.
so thanks for hanging in there with us. But you're just very budget friendly, like you know, always planning everything.
Yeah, I'm there. We're very conscientious of what we spend our money on the reason this is a difficult question for me to answer and for our listeners to understand is I was really huge into New Year's resolutions and there is a resolution that has forever changed me.
For I would say the worst. It can be good in other ways, but it makes you a little bit frustrating when decisions. Yeah.
to catch people up. One year I decided I was not going to buy myself anything that was not a need. and so everything that I purchased was met with a question of is this a, ah, necessary requirement for, for my life or not? And like things like hygiene, groceries. Those were things that obviously are a requirement. and then things like shoes and clothes. I went into the year thinking and going through a purge of my condo at the time where I was like, gosh, I have so much, I don't need anything. and the only exception for that year. Oh no, I wasn't in my condo yet because the only exception for that year was I purchased a condo and I was like, this is an investment. It technically wasn't a need because I was living somewhere where I didn't need to buy a place. But, I didn't know that that.
Was in the same year. Yeah.
That it. I vividly remember it because it was the only purchase that I made outside of my groceries and crap. Yeah.
Interesting. I did not know that. Yeah.
So, it forever changed me because I had it ingrained for a whole year to be asking myself before I purchased something, is this necessary or not? And, you know, it's something that goes, according to other people who are huge into financial advice. And, you know, they're always saying, is this a need versus a want? All of that stuff. and so I'm like, yes, I have built this foundation for sure. And as a result, it still is very hard for me to buy what I consider frivolous things. Where Jake is a lot better at, you know, looking at the reasoning. and probably The latest purchase outside of Mo that we bought, it was more a together purchase with Jake was our Tesla.
Yeah.
We did not need a brand new car.
Yeah.
And I sold my Prius, my good old blue, to basically upgrade to a car that Jake and I both loved because our only fight typically was around the cars that we drove.
Oh, gosh, guys. Jake hated the Prius.
Despised because he is taller. And the Prius is taller. Really better built for people who are a little shorter and whatnot.
I know plenty of people who are taller than you or bigger than you, and they go around in. In a little Prius, I guess.
Are they newer versions of the Prius, though?
I don't know.
Because the thing with Jake, he couldn't adjust to even move the seat like it was an 05 Prius.
I don't.
Or not an 05. It was not an 05. sorry. The 05 Prius was our dad's Prius. And then the 07 was my mom's little Prius fam.
Over here.
And then the 09 was mine. That was. That was good old blue. And our brother has a 2011, I'm pretty sure. Or a 2010.
Why do you know all these years?
Because I find it ridiculous that our family truly is the Prius family. It's a fun fact.
I guess so.
But no longer really Prius family.
Okay. To take us back from that trip. so Angela would say. Yeah, Angela would say her Tesla and Mo.
For frivolous.
Because Mo was not like.
Ah.
A necessary.
Mo is definitely not.
You can mow your lawn.
Yeah. But yeah, push mowed.
Definitely a. A, thing that you.
Yeah.
Decided you wanted.
And we went quality for him. Him.
We all name them. It's okay.
Yeah.
We have a name.
A Roomba. We went quality to what we consider. Because Husqvarna, he's. He's from that brand. but yeah, we. We pray we paid a pretty penny for. For Mo too.
Yeah, I would. Mo came to mind For your item.
Yeah. And we. True. We truly love Mo.
Don't we all? Ace and I. Ace and I will, like, come to your house, and he'll be like, mo, honestly, going around the neighborhood. or not the neighborhood. The. The yard.
We are known in the neighborhood as, like, the family. People know we always say it just.
Looks like a robotic dog. It does not look like a dog at all. it is a very large Roomba. but, But it's just constantly roaming in your yard. And so it's considered. I consider it another dog.
We'll have to. We'll have to post about Mo so that people can see Mo in action. He's really great. We even. I mean, so what I was about to say, in our neighborhood, when we introduce ourselves to anybody who's new, we're like, oh, yeah, we're the ones with the automatic lawnmower. And they'll be like, oh. Cause everyone walks around and passes our bend of the neighborhood, and you can totally see the people. I mean, cars slow down to.
They're probably like, what is this thing?
Especially if Mo is headed toward the road, and if they don't know that.
There'S a barrier, it's like, is it gonna cross the street? Yeah.
So they'll. People will be a little cautious. but definitely the people who go on walks or bike rides around our neighborhood, they. They know.
They know Mo.
They know Mo. And we always talk about Mo, and people know Mo's name because he's family.
Love that for you and your community. Yeah. Yeah. So he.
He would be one of our more recent purchases.
it doesn't have to be recent.
Yeah. he's not even recent. He is years, years ago because we had him in Alabama.
Yeah.
So we've had him for at least three years.
But yeah. So that. And the Tesla. Yeah. So Justin and I would always say our Tesla, just moving to electric vehicles for our purchases. And Justin and I We make purchases, more than Angela.
Yes. Exponentially more than me. But that's a lot of people.
There's still usually a reason for why we go that way. But, I would also say, for me, the most money I've spent on something that I would totally do again was lasik.
Oh, yeah.
Which you also did.
Yeah, I did that. I was happy about that.
Yes. contacts and glasses. I. And honestly, I had headaches, a lot in childhood and adulthood, and ever since I got lasik, and I never felt like I Was straining my eyes or anything. But ever since I got Lasik, my headaches have, like, been so much better.
Really?
Oh, yeah. I kind of. I haven't told you that.
Headaches. I forgot that you got headaches.
Oh, yeah, I had.
Don't talk about headaches.
I had terrible migraines or.
And I don't remember you having migraines. They were just.
They were such bad headaches. They inhibited me from working. my boss knew that I had terrible headaches and if I had one at work that day, it would just completely change, change my mood and he'd like, send me home. He was super understanding, but they were bad. And I thought that they were mostly actually related to, being a woman and having hormones and hormone changes. But there was never any correlation. Yeah, there was never really any certain correlation. And then there was, a time when I thought it could have been food. And I like, cut out some things and nothing helped these headaches. And I had lasik. Coincidentally, I also quit my job around this time because then I became a stay at home mom. But I would argue that I probably look at screens more now than I did in my job because I was doing accountant work and so I was at a desk all day. But I still look at a screen pretty regularly throughout my day.
On your phone?
Scrolling phone. Video games, Computer.
Oh, yeah, Video games, tv.
The screens are there. We are a screen family. Yes. And, And yeah, no, no headaches. So I attribute that too Lasik a thousand percent. And I wish I did it sooner, if anything.
Yeah.
And it just makes traveling so much better. I don't have to worry about packing contacts and glasses. And it's just so nice that I can wake up and see.
I remember middle of the night, I.
Need to go get something I can see.
I loved day one of having lasik. the thing that I was worried about, and the timing of when I was considering Lasik was it was right before a big trip. I was planning to go to Australia for a month. And I was starting to have conversations with, either my insurance company or I was vetting out who to potentially do Lasik with.
What year did you get yours? Did I get your. Did I get it before you or did you get it before me?
I was 2019.
Okay, so you got it before me. I was 2020.
Okay.
For that 2020 vision.
Boop, boop.
Ridiculous. You liked it.
I. Wow. So no, I just remember my Australia trip was before the year Covid hit. And so 2019, it was November, I got Lasik, like a month before I was going on this Australia trip and I just had so many conversations with Jake of, uh, what if it just, like, screws up my eyes?
All this stuff.
I was so nervous about it.
but those intrusive thoughts get into you, huh? I guess so.
Bringing it back around. so, I. I was just so nervous about it, but eventually decided to pull the trigger and do it. And You get the Lasik, your eyes burn. And I remember just being like, okay, I'm gonna go to bed and just hope that.
I mean, I think it's like the first five hours are the worst.
Yeah, it wasn't very long and it's.
Not even like the worst.
No, it really wasn't. I pretty much just went home, knew I was going to be going to bed and, like, sleeping it off, and next thing you know, I'm waking up in the morning and So at this point, I'm living with Jake and he's coming out of the bathroom, holding something up and just asking, like, how am I feeling? All this stuff. And I just really, remember opening my eyes and thinking, holy cow, I can see you without my contacts or glasses. I was so happy and I was just like, wow, it is crystal clear and I'm still doing great.
Oh, yeah, me too.
It's been five years. Dang.
Yeah, well, six, going on. Not a full five at five for me. Well, you said 2019 for you.
It's like November 2019. So.
So you will be six years.
Our math is great, guys.
Still mathing over here. Gosh, we really should never math on podcasting again.
That's why it's funny.
Um, but yeah, so then it'll be five years for me in September because I had mine. So mine was during Pandemic, and since I was working in hotels, as I had said in maybe previous episodes, during the pandemic, not a lot of people were traveling. So I decided. Justin and I decided to, foster children. And so I told my job that I was going to foster children, be a stay at home mom to focus on that, since I'd never been a mom before. And they were like, okay, see you, bye. But I was like, before I leave, I need to try to get this Lasik because they had some sort of discount or something through something with the insured, I don't know. So I literally got it the last. week of August of 2020, and then my last day of my job was like September 3rd. And then we got our first boys, came to live with us on like September 4th. Dang. Yeah. Yep. Anyway, so super love my Lasik. Justin got Lasik way back in the day. I don't remember when. he does have to wear glasses at the moment, but that's from astigmatism. I don't know.
Yeah, but we. We also question. Yeah, he got Lasik from.
We really do. We got them done at different places because Angela got hers done in Michigan.
Yeah.
I got mine done at a different place in Florida. And Justin, I don't know where he went, but they're not there anymore. And that's all I gotta say. And he does still have to be questionable. He does still have 2020 vision. Like he went to an eye doctor and they tested it. But he needs the glasses at night for astigmatism. Um. Because of the lights. Hm. Something like that. I don't know. Anyhow, I'm trying to think if there's any other purchases that were like big purchases that I didn't necessarily need, but I just wanted. But yeah, the car, the Teslas. Justin definitely his truck now. And then my Lasik. And he'd say his Lasik too, but he's. We're not talking about him.
Yeah, I'll have to.
I. Like I said, the headaches being gone was just like. Is a lifesaver for me.
Yeah. And I am just so happy to be done with. Every year. I felt like my prescription changed and then I'd have to get the new sunglasses, the new glasses or an upgrade to the contacts.
Yeah. Cuz you.
And then traveling.
Yeah. You mostly wore glasses. Yeah, I did contacts and I didn't deal with The cleaning of the contacts and all of that. So I was just spending money buying daily contacts and so I was just like so annoying.
Yeah, I. I really liked contacts. But eventually I did the glasses only because. Lowest, lower maintenance. But yeah, Off the top my purchases too. It's the Tesla Mo and heck, I mean, Jake and I keep moving, so these houses, we really didn't need to move to Florida.
Yeah.
So you could add that one to the list.
Maybe.
but I'll have to ponder to see if there's any others. Or ask Jake because he's a great.
I don't know what I was.
Litmus test for me to keep me.
Honest came up in my brain the other day and I was like, I should ask Angela since she is so.
M. Because I was thinking about my.
Lasik and I knew that you had your Lasik. And, definitely Mo was one of those purchases, I feel like, for you. So I was just like, I wonder if there was anything else I couldn't think of. and I don't know if there were any more for me. I'll have to ask Justin too.
Yeah. Ah, I'm sure I'll come up with some more. But yeah. To, bring it all together. we got intrusive thoughts that have really evolved after having kids.
Yeah.
And.
And are maybe just safety precautions. And In our subconscious.
Yeah. Just always thinking about the safety for your family. that is a constant. And then, uh, what our latest frivolous, purchases are.
If Jake had the option, his frivolous purchases would be those inflatables.
Oh, completely.
And that's where I'll end it.
Yep. And it would be Grinch themed or Nightmare Before Christmas.
Nightmare Before Christmas.
That would be my yard.
and you know, Nightmare Before Christmas is all, like, black and white, so it really would just look like trash all over your yard.
Uh, there's some color peppered in there.
Peppered black. M and white. I'm on it with the jokes. Anyhow, thanks for tuning in. Yeah.
Thanks, guys. Until next time,