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Let's do this. Hello, and welcome to another episode of The Meaningful Marketing Podcast. I'm your host, Chantal Gerardy, and today I'm here with Linda The Love Doctor, who works with couples and, um, individuals in love, relationships, and intimacy. It is an absolute pleasure to have you here with us today.
Thank you, beautiful. Very excited to be here.
So for those of you who don't know Linda, if you go and check out her content online, you'll see that it's a pretty risqué, right? Mm. Um, her content's really authentic to her. Um, I'm gonna say it's disruptive. Um, it's thought-provoking. Um, and it certainly has its own little special feel to it.
Mm-hmm. But before we get into your personal marketing tactics that you use, and how that goes for you, let's talk about, um, how you got into what it is that you do right now, 'cause I actually know you from yonks back- Mm ... you know, from the fitness industry- Mm ... many years ago.
Yeah. Gosh, I have been in very, in, in a lot of industries.
And now I've landed into love and relationships, and intimacy. And Chantal, the honest reason why I'm doing this work, which is absolutely my soul work, is because I have had the biggest dinky donks in my own relationships- ... in my life. A lot of, um, childhood patterns. I mean, we all have that, but I've had, I've had very challenging relationships in my life.
And I reached a point where I just drew the line in the sand. This was about, probably about 10 years ago, almost a decade ago. I said, "I don't care what it takes, how long it takes, I'm gonna get obsessed about relationships. I'm gonna work through my stuff- ... and sort out my things so that I can have better relationships in my life."
So I literally became obsessed. Obsessed about healing, obsessed about learning about relationship dynamics, and learning about men. Like, studying men as a different species as well. So that has led me into what I, the work that I do today. So it's been... A challenging and uncomfortable journey would I say nothing short of, and still is, and I love it.
I love it because when, when we talk about relationships, it's, it's a, it's a raw topic. We all have relationships with each other, and it's human relationships that actually show us so many things about ourselves, where we still get to grow, where we still have work to do, and where we have also evolved.
So beautiful mirrors that are showing up in intimate partnerships, in, um, business relationships, and just friendships as well, so.
Yeah, so true. S- s- so absolutely true, right? Mm-hmm. Um, so let's just talk about, a little bit about, um, couples in business. If we were to go into talk about couples in business, 'cause I work with a lot of family-owned businesses, right?
Husband, wife, they work together. Um, so now they've gotta show up in their own relationship, show up in their business relationship as well. What are some of the things that you could see if they didn't prioritize their actual relationship with themself and also their relationship- Mm ... with thems- with each other- Mm
versus, um, just focusing on the business, for example?
Yeah, really great question. So a lot of couples who do work together, the, the shadow here can be that couples end up, you know, that they're losing attraction, they're arguing, they start butting heads, and everything kind of intertwines. Everything intertwines in life, like nothing's separate.
Business is there. Like, we gotta create space for the relationship as well. If we have everything in one soup, chaotic soup, things might feel a little bit chaotic. So it's really, really important that, first and foremost, we look after the relationship with ourselves. Like, that has to come first, even before intimate partnership with somebody else, before friendship, before business.
Because if we don't function, if we don't know who we are, if we don't know our own patterns, we're gonna be presented with a lot of challenges to keep kind of showing the things about ourselves, if we're willing to. So, and then we gotta look at the partnership itself. Like, what are the boundaries? When do we actually, when are we on in work, and when do we then swap back into, hey, this is now matters of the heart?
Because relationships are actually matters of the heart. They're not matters of the mind, and often in the business world, we operate a lot from the mind. It's the go-getting, the do, and it's the task, and there's a lot of mind elements to it. So it invites us to look into the dynamic with more conscious awareness of when do we hung- hang up our business boots?
When do we actually come back to just reconnect with our hearts? And if we don't do that, the challenges can be that we just feel a bit flat in the relationship. We feel distant. We feel like attraction's not there. Intimacy may have died because mind is always with work and business.
Yeah, I love that.
Definitely having those boundaries in there, and I'm a big stickler for, like, time management and time blocking- Mm ... and going, and my friends always say, "Chantal, you're so good with making rules for yourself." Yeah. And I'm like, "Yep, before 10:00 AM, it's my fitness, it's my personal development." Mm. "It's my work- walking my dogs.
It's like-" Yeah ... "my outdoor time," and it's like, you know, and after 5:00- Yeah ... it's no laptop. It's, you know, like I set these rules for myself- Yeah ... 'cause I go, "This is the ideal life that I wanna have and create for myself," um, and I have those boundaries in place. And I, I, I imagine with a relationship- Mm
that this is what you've gotta do as well, going, at some point we've gotta put that, like you said, hang up those boots, you know, put that hat on and go, "That's it now, no more business." Yeah. Um, "Let's enjoy a meal together." Yeah. "Let's..." Yeah.
There has to be boundaries, because when we switch into the relationship, into the intimacy, we gotta make sure that we're not all of a sudden over dinner talking about work again- Yeah
and kind of drifting off. So there has to be a lot of conscious awareness for couples that are mixing business partnership as well as intimate partnership. It's not impossible- Yes ... because there are so-called power couples who, who do it really well.
Yeah.
But the art is to separate the two.
Yeah. Yeah.
Love that. So let's go back then to the self-awareness part and taking care of yourself, um, as a person, um, in your business. Because obviously if you're not feeling good about yourself, if you're not feeling, um, confident in yourself, um, and you're not taking care of yourself and your mindset, um, and loving yourself, that self-love piece is so important, and really loving yourself, that that then is gonna play out.
It's gonna play out in your marketing. It's gonna play out with how you deal with your team, how you deal with customers. So let's talk a little bit about that and that- Mm ... self-love piece- Mm ... and how that could affect or spill out into the business world. Mm.
Well, life is about first and foremost navigating self.
Like, how do we navigate? What is the relationship with ourselves in life? Because like you said, that's gonna flow into every area of our life. What is the relationship we have to ourselves, to our mind, to our emotions, to our patterns? Because the patterns don't just show up in intimate partnership. They show up in business.
They show up in social media content creation. They show up in, in friendships, in just, in, in bus- in client relationships as well. So- This is the most important thing to actually look at yourself, what are the patterns? Because we love pushing things under the carpet, kind of, you know, digging our head in the sand.
But power really comes from understanding yourself, because there's a lot of ego that comes in, and avoidance that comes in when we talk about matters of the self, and like, "Hey, I've got it all together." But actually we don't. I don't know a single human being who has it all together. But we are so afraid of being seen in our authenticity.
We are so afraid of being judged and criticized by other people, and what other people think. And a lot of this is there's underlying patterns that are playing out that's kind of, that's stopping us from, for example, showing up on social media, or showing up in front of a camera. And furthermore, speaking really authentically about ourselves and our journey, because I believe in authentic marketing, which we can of course touch on.
But we're human beings. We're human beings in a human experience, which means there's gonna be an entire rainbow of color in that experience. Yeah. We're gonna have great experiences, and we all have things to work on. But a lot of people get really afraid to be seen, that we've got things to work on. We have our own patterns.
I always say that if you come across someone who says they've got everything together- ... run. Literally run, because nobody does. We are all just figuring it out. Even myself, in the, in the space, though, of love, relationships, and intimacy, I work with a lot of couples and individuals, and I have the ability to deliver life-changing results in that space.
That doesn't mean that I've got it all figured out- Yeah ... in my own relationships. And I wanna be so honest about that. I've literally just booked myself into therapy for the next three months. And I'm excited about it, because I know for myself that, you know, the relationship with myself, and when I look after myself, when I'm honest with myself, I can shift through patterns.
I can shift reality. I can shift how I experience other people, and how they experience me. So there's no shame in actually owning our human parts. But if there's underlying patterns of, people are gonna judge me, I'm not gonna be lovable if they see that part of me, then we've got some underlying things to dig through.
Yeah. Yeah. Look, I think so many great points there. You know, you spoke about that awareness piece, but it's also about really being able to name what that is.
Yeah.
Like, if I, like, don't wanna go out onto social media, and I don't wanna, say, do a live, or I don't wanna talk about, um, you know, what it is that I do online on social media, I go, "Why is that?"
I need to be able to name that. I can, I can have that awareness around- Okay, that keeps coming up. Now, I could just be happy with that and go, "That keeps coming up. That's just what it is." Or I can really be aware of it and go, "Let me name that feeling" and go, "Oh, that's a fear of being seen." Mm. "That's a fear of being judged."
Mm. "That's a fear of not being good enough", for example. But then we, uh, got a great opportunity where we can go, "Hold on, like, I can do something about this now. I don't have to repeat that pattern. I can make the decision. Do I wanna live that life as that person?" Mm. "Or do I wanna make an impact in the world, and do I wanna show up and help more people?
So what do I need to do? Well, I've gotta make a decision, I've gotta make a choice." Mm-hmm. Um, and what does that mean? Therapy. It means coaching. It means reading. It means, you know, personal development. Whatever it means, it just means taking a step in the right direction- Mm ... um, and holding yourself accountable, you know, having some integrity- Mm
when it comes to that stuff. So, so many good things that you- Yeah ... said over there, because if you can't love yourself truly, you can't love other people, and you can't allow yourself to be loved as well, so.
Yeah. So
much.
Absolutely. And when you said about the online marketing, um, I always say if we're constantly f- concerned about what are others gonna think about us- Mm
how do I look, like, are they gonna judge me, am I gonna look silly, it's actually a very selfish approach. It's like, me, me, me, what about me? How are they gonna perceive me? Are they gonna love me? Are they gonna... Is my message gonna land? And it's actually very self-absorbed, I, I, I approach. But we gotta come back to why are we doing this in the first place?
Yes.
Are we doing this for us, or are we doing this for the people? This is about humanity. This, our, our mission and our business is actually not about us, it's about what can we give to others, what can we give to humanity, how can we help them? So this is about shifting I into they.
Yeah.
We gotta come out of our self-absorption and actually look at who are we here to serve?
Who are we really serving?
Yeah. Mm. Love that. So good. So s- we touched very briefly before on, you know, ego can come up. Uh, you know, self-avoidance can come up, people-pleasing can come up. So for these characteristics, I mean, and you've gotta be, like, you gotta really put your big girl panties on, or, you know, big boy underpants on in order to be able to look at the stuff and go, "Hold on, that's actually ego.
Hold on, I'm actually people-pleasing here." Mm. "Hold on, I'm actually doing this out of shame and guilt." Like, or, "I'm doing this out of, um, you know, me, me, me, and w- I'm, I'm worried about what other people think." So maybe, maybe it's fear, um, or, or, or maybe it's avoidance. Like, firstly I'm gonna say it's a big, that's kudos to you.
Anybody who does that stuff, well done. You're in the trenches. You're feeling your feelings. And it's uncomfortable. Yeah. And it's hard work. Congratulations, well done. Join the team. Yeah. So, so- If you don't do these things, right, and you don't, like, and you allow ego and self-avoidance and people pleasing and all this other stuff, and shame and guilt and whatever, and you carry on doing the same things again and again and again, how is it gonna play out, say, for example, if you have...
if, if you're in a partnership in a business or if you've got a team in your business, for example, um, how does it actually play out? Mm. Like, how can you see it playing out?
Mm. Unfortunately, you're gonna come across the same repetitive patterns. If we're experiencing the same thing over and over again, it's feedback, but a lot of people stay in the frustration and we stay in victimhood, blame, and looking at all the external things instead of looking within.
Because repetitive patterns is a result of what are we not seeing? We haven't applied consciousness to something within ourselves. We're simply not seeing something that is available to see, and that's relationship in general. That's business. That's intimate partnership. When we have an element of approaching things from, from f- avoidance, meaning unconsciousness, we're not willing to be conscious with ourselves and conscious with what's actually going on.
How, how is our energy, how is our interaction, how is our communication playing a part in what we're experiencing on the other side? Then, like, the same patterns, the same r- experiences are gonna keep showing up. So it is a bit of an overall answer- Yeah ... but the patterns and the experiences can be anything.
Yeah.
It's just look at what is the repetitive pattern asking me to look at? What is it inviting me into? Because the moment that we apply consciousness, meaning I'm gonna actually look deeply within, not blame, not deflect, not dismiss, not avoid, but actually have the ability, have the grit, have the willingness to, to look deeply within.
And most people, not gonna say most, some people choose not to because it is uncomfortable. Mm. It's really uncomfortable. So we gotta be willing to face the uncomfortable parts and actually be honest with ourselves, be honest with other people. But if we can't be honest with ourselves, we're not gonna be able to be honest with other people.
So it's gonna require a lot of grit, a lot of resilience to, to walk through fire over and over again, meaning, like, "Okay, I'm gonna keep unraveling myself-" "... no matter what it takes to see-" What is it there that I haven't seen about myself
that's actually playing out And I think it's really important that you have, like, a safe network around you to be able to do that with.
Yeah. You know, people that are on the same thing. You know, I'm very lucky enough that all my team are involved in o- like, are spiritual in some sort of way that we can have these discussions because it certainly does play out. Because if you can see ego coming into, say, for example, your sales calls- Mm
then it's like if you are ego-driven and you're not prepared to look at it, well, then you're gonna keep saying, "Ah, the leads aren't good enough," you know? Whereas it could be, well, hold on a sec, maybe you're not actually customer-focused enough. Yeah. Maybe you're not asking the right questions. Or perhaps, you know, if you've got, uh, a customer, a person on your team that does customer service, and the, the customer service person keeps over-assisting the clients, and the clients keep asking for more and more help, and they start burning out because they're now people-pleasing.
Mm-hmm. You know, unless you can actually look at those things and see those things, those things will keep playing out. So it's about having those raw conversations with people, um, and creating that space for it, and being arou- around the right type of people. 100%, and having the ability to move from our head,
from our ego, into the heart because relationships are matters of the heart.
It's no different being in an intimate partnership to being on a sales call and speaking with another human being. If we're not av- available or able to communicate from our heart space, we're gonna be felt. You know, to have a conversation with someone who's in their ego and to have a conversation with someone who's in their heart, they're two completely different experiences.
So I always- Yes, so true ... it, it's, it's always an invitation. How can I drop deeply into my heart? How can I find humbleness? How can I be honest with myself where my ego's like, "I don't really wanna own that." But you know
what? Your life's gonna change when you own it. I always say I've got two Chantels, like one on each shoulder, and I'm, I'm always like the, the, the s- the subconscious, like, sort of old Chantal's sitting there, and she's trying to do stuff.
And then, like, the new one's going, "No, no, no," like, "This is better. Why don't you do it this way? This is the new way to do it."
Yes. Yeah. And a good question to ask is what space is something coming from? What space am I showing up from? Mm-hmm. Am I in ego, or am I in my heart? What is my intention? Where am I at?
What am I feeling by taking that action or delivering that communication?
Yeah. Yeah. So good. Okay, so with your marketing, we spoke about your marketing, and go check out, um, Linda Love Doctor on social media. Um, your marketing's a bit disruptive. It's a bit there. It's definitely you, right? It's definitely you.
It's authentically you. Um, you're very transparent, very open in what you share. Obviously, some of the content that you share, um, you know, the social media platforms are not gonna be comfortable with you sharing it. So can you just talk a little bit about the experience of- of marketing and tactics that you use and that you've worked through, and what you've found along the way- Mm
and how you navigate it all.
Yeah, absolutely. The first thing is, yes, I'm in a, in a, i- in an industry, in a space where i- it's a bit taboo. There's, you know, a lot of these conversations are had behind the scenes, not in the open. And when I stepped into this work, and what I, what I believe in in marketing is, like, I wanna be able to speak about the things that most people are afraid to talk about.
I wanna have the conversations that are had either alone in our mind, we're thinking about them, but we're too afraid to verbalize something, and we ha- we might have them behind the scenes with our best friend, but we're too ashamed, and too embarrassed, or whatever we're carrying shame and guilt around are the things that we're navigating.
And when it comes to relationships, like, people... There's a lot of shame and guilt that, that plays a part, especially shame behind the scenes, that we're not willing to be seen, that we've got challenges. We're not willing to, especially if we're somebody who's got a big business or a, you know, like, the whole identity has been built around this star in what they do.
There's a... It's almost like a character, a personality. Then it's like, "Oh, I don't wanna be seen to have those things." So I have made a decision to speak to those things that happen behind the scenes, and it, it can be really edgy. It can be really confronting. Um, and I believe that it speaks to people's h- people's hearts and, and souls and selves because we don't hear of a lot of those conversations, and it's about time that we start speaking about it, normalizing, you know, the challenges that we're navigating behind the scenes, whether it is in business, whether it is in intimacy, whether it is in, uh, in the bedroom.
Like, it's ebb and flow. We're all human beings. There's no shame in having challenges in life. We wouldn't know pleasure if we don't know pain. We wouldn't know happiness if we don't know sadness. Like, life is, is a beautiful contrast. So, um, what's worked really well for me is to speak to those things unapologetically.
And yes, I've had to be a little bit careful because the social media platforms don't like certain words. You know, I speak about intimacy, I speak about sex, I speak about, goodness gracious, everything goes. So I've had to find ways to navigate the so-called forbidden words that are getting flagged, but I think I've got it.
I think. I don't know. Things are changing so quickly.
They change all the time.
But yeah, that, that, you know, like it's, it's authenticity. It's, it's speaking to the real problems that people are having behind the scenes.
And when it's heart-led, right? Mm. 'Cause everything... I mean, I r- I love your content. I read your content.
It's educational based. Mm. It's very relevant. Um, it's not gonna, it's not gonna be everybody's cup of tea, right? No. And that's okay because, you know, you've gotta qualify, and your content needs to qualify and disqualify the right people. Yeah, 100%. Okay? I'll say that again. Your content needs to qualify and disqualify the right person.
That's its entire job, right? So it's so important then that, you know, you're true to yourself, which you are, and then you do it, and then those that don't wanna follow you will unfollow you or block, and I'm sure some of them have been vocal as well. Mm. So I mean, I had somebody, must've been about three months ago.
I stuck my tongue out just a little bit, and I did my little peace sign or whatever, and I had somebody message me and go, "Put your tongue away. That's disgusting," or whatever, and I just went, "Block with love." Mm-hmm.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it does happen. It does happen in the online space. Some of my content has gone absolutely viral as well, and, uh, the projections that people have- Yep
and it is triggering. It can be really triggering 'cause I speak to things that will invite you to ta- look at yourself, and if you're not ready to look at yourself- Yes ... you're going to react. You're going to blame. You're going to victim. You're going to project your unhealed wounds and limiting beliefs onto that space.
So I'm not afraid of those things anymore, whereas a past version was concerned- Yeah ... about those things and took a lot of things personally. But we gotta f- we gotta remember that if we, if we're solid within ourselves in our truth, and we're there to show up for other people, then we're not gonna care about, you know, pleasing everybody.
So you've mentioned the people pleaser before, and this was a big mistake that I made in my business in earlier days where I tried to speak to everybody. Yes. I tried to help everyone. But the danger is that you're actually not speaking to anyone when you try and ser- to serve everybody. So it's so important that you know the area that you're working in, you know your message inside and out, and who you're actually there to serve.
Yeah, and it comes back to self again, right? Yeah. Like we said, it comes back to self, knowing yourself, taking care of yourself.
Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, that's excellent. Um, so- With AI at the moment, right? Mm. AI, big thing. I, I say right now it's, um, people are craving connection more than anything else, right? Um, with AI.
So I think we're actually in a great position right now, great opportunity. People are like, "Chantal, are you worried about losing your job?" And I'm like, "No, I'm not." Because AI's actually overwhelming people and actually making them procras- proc- like procrastinate and not make decisions. That's actually what's happening, um, because you've got more choice now, and you've got more options than you've ever had before in your life.
So it's... People need clarity, strategy, support, hand-holding, a coach, like- Mm-hmm ... more than ever right now. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So let's talk about AI, um, right now and authenticity when it comes to marketing, relationships.
AI- ... is not real. It's not real.
There's no emotional intelligence.
There is no emotion in that.
And I've been observing, and I, and I love observing my industry, what ha- what goes on in my industry, because I'm in the space, and now I'm also witnessing these AI accounts in relationships. There are literally... They're not even human accounts, but they're sharing relationship content and guiding people into a master class, which is also an AI-made-
master class to sell into a book or a- Yeah ... or a program. So there's actually no human interaction in the entire page.
Yeah.
And it makes me sad. It makes me a little frustrated. However, everything's got its shadow, right? Yeah. Like AI, when used properly, can be such a great tool. Yeah. But we're looking at the big shadow that's also has been presenting itself.
Like, it's taken, it's taken authenticity away from content. It's taken the emotion a- away from content. We can't feel content anymore.
Yeah.
And like you said, people are craving that. We're procrastinating to make decisions now because we don't know. Like, we... It's like, yeah, we can feel in the mind that they're saying the right thing, but I can't feel it.
Yeah.
I, I, I don't trust. We gotta still build trust, and authenticity is a really beautiful way to build trust. And I'm constantly... I'm not gonna say that I have everything figured out, 'cause I never do, not even in business. Not even in my social media marketing. And I'm constantly, you know, looking at, how can I bring even more authenticity into my marketing?
How can I just, instead of polished videos and, you know, like scripted things and short form content, can I just go up and just start talking?
Mm.
From heart to heart. And I wanna bring more of that, especially with AI on the rise. I wanna return even more to authen- authenticity, and I check in with myself constantly.
How can I do that? Can people truly feel me? Can I feel me? If I can't feel me, who's gonna be able to feel me in my content?
Oh, so good. And I think as well that people don't value it then, right? So, uh, for me personally, if we use that example, if it was an AI piece of cookie cutter content that was fluffy, and then I suddenly went to a master class and it was a AI master class, and then from the master class I then had to buy something, I would have no connection.
I'd probably be out right from the beginning, especially with my personality type. Um, I am a bit of a feeler. Um, and for me, yeah, I'm happy when I pay a coach, I do the work.
Mm-hmm.
I value the work, and I feel like when it b- when it's AI stuff, it's just like meh. Like, we don't really trust it. We don't really value it.
It doesn't really hit, hit, hit the heart. It doesn't really connect with me. So if that's me, I'm sure it's other people as well.
100%. Yeah, there's, there's big conversations in the world about that, and we want to be felt. We're human beings. Our, all of our relationships and interactions are matters of the heart, and if we can't be felt, if we can't connect openly, then we're not gonna jump.
We're not gonna get into a relationship with someone if we can't feel them. We're not gonna, you know, take an action. We're not gonna say yes to something because there's something that just doesn't feel right. So yeah, there's always an invitation now in these days to, to bring more authenticity online as well, and especially certain parts of our own journey.
Not be ashamed and not hide parts of ourselves, of our humanness. Like, you know, own the fact that, hey, this is what I'm working on and this is what I learn from my experiences.
Mm.
This is why I'm going to therapy right now- ... because, like, I have some, notice I have some, still some underlying family patterns that are coming up for me, and of course I'm gonna look at that.
Yeah.
I feel empowered looking at that.
Oh, I get excited too. I'm like, "
Yes."
Yeah, yeah. Oh, that's so good. So I'm gonna throw you under the bus and ask you for a tip. Um, so for, if someone is out there right now, right, and they're struggling with their self-love and their authenticity, in order for them to be, you know, show up better in their business, better in their marketing, um, just better in their relationships, for authenticity, for self-worth, what would you say is, like, something that they could do, like, on a daily basis or, um, just in order to, to be able to improve- Mm
how they're feeling, what they're doing, if they're ready to, ready to take that step?
This comes back to simplicity. Very much to simplicity, I believe, because if we don't love ourselves, we're gonna keep seeking externally- Mm ... for validation. Am I lovable? Am I accepted? Am I good enough? Am I worthy? And it's, it's got all to do with external experiences.
And that shows up in your marketing too. Yeah. I need to say that. Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. So instead of, you know, searching for more experiences, more people who are gonna love us, it's the journey back to ourselves. It's the journey back into who actually am I? If I took the i- image away, and if I took all the experiences away, all the people away, all my business away, who am I?
Can I find happiness in that? Can I find happiness by just being me without all the external noise? So building wholeness from the inside, knowing that do you love yourself? We're so concerned about do other people love us. Does my partner love me? Do they like me? Do, do my clients, customers love me and like me as a, as a, as a coach, as a business?
Do we love ourselves? Do we like ourselves? It has to start from within because otherwise there's a constant loop of chasing more, and nothing's gonna be good enough.
No. Yeah.
Nothing. It is a constant seek for validation, constant seek for more Band-Aids, make me feel better. We gotta flip that. So this comes back to simplicity of tune into yourself.
Spend more time with yourself. Get off social media. Stop the scrolling. Mm. Create some time, multiple times, morning, day, and night, time for yourself where there's no interactions, where you're literally just coming home to yourself, to your breath. Who are you then? What's happening within you? Can you just drop into the moment of that and be with yourself?
So good. Mm. So, so, so alone time. Like as somebody who's hyperactive- Mm ... um, that's al- always been a challenge for me, and now I love it. Absolutely love it. I have unbelievable aha moments just spending alone time with myself, feeling my feelings, checking in. Mm. Um, you know, even made a rule that when I'm in my car now, I don't play the radio.
Because it's just external noise. It's like- Oh,
yeah ...
don't take a phone call. Don't, you know, just be. And I just spend more time being, and I love a bath, that's so great. Mm. But just being and asking myself questions and just checking in and seeing how you're going, you know? Mm. So I love all of that, so good, such awesome juiciness.
Have a meeting with yourself. Oh, love a meeting. Like an actual relationship meeting with yourself.
How am I showing
up? How am I going? How am I feeling? What's showing up for me right now that's, what don't I really wanna look at? What don't I wanna own? Yeah. It's so powerful when we do.
And when it gets tough, stay there for longer.
Yes. And if you can't work through it, which you won't be able to- Yeah ... on your own, all of it- Yeah ... so our patterns, our lifelong patterns are ingrained so deeply, don't be afraid to go and hire a coach. Yeah. Don't be afraid to go and hire a therapist. Don't be afraid to have couples counseling. Like, or, or like just like when we hire business coaches- Yeah
it's so taboo to, to do that in relationships for some reason. It's like, come on. Uh,
I think it's amazing. I think it's awesome. I think it's epic. Coach for everything. Yeah. Imagine, imagine being able to have somebody who's got a proven solution and support you through it, so like it's less effort.
Yeah.
I'm like,
love it.
And it's not the person who's in therapy that's the red flag, it's the person who says that they don't need it. Yes. They've got all their stuff together. I'm sorry, not sorry. I
love that. All right, cool. So how can people connect with you, Linda?
Yeah. I do a lot over on social media, so either Instagram or Facebook.
Those are my main two social media accounts, and then I have all my details on my website as well, lovedoctor.love.
Awesome. Yeah. So all of that will be in the show notes as well. So thank you so much for joining us today. Uh- Thank you for
having me.
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