Energetic Radio

Welcome to Energetic Radio, where hosts Dale Sidebottom and Paul Campbell dive deep into emotions, vulnerability, and personal growth. In this episode, the hosts candidly discuss parents' challenges and guilt, encouraging self-appreciation and accountability for mental health. They share heartwarming stories from their recent road trip to Regional Victoria, where they witnessed the impact of positive messages and the power of creating a safe and fun environment for students. From writing 'PAL messages' to loved ones to creating a treasure chest of positive affirmations, Dale and Paul's conversation is a powerful reminder to embrace vulnerability and self-love. So please grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's explore the importance of emotional connection and self-recognition in this inspiring episode.

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Campbell. Each week, we'll bring to you tips, strategies, and ideas on

how you can bring more joy and happiness into your life, and those you share

with. Happy Monday, everybody. I tell

you what, episode 337 of energetic

radio. My name is Sal Silver. I'm joined by the one and only Paul Campbell.

Good day, mate. How are you? I'm excited, mate. Always. I'm gonna get to sit

down and do a podcast with you. And, also, this is rounding out our

4th podcast of the best of you series. Correct. And probably one

that I am really passionate about. I know you are as well, so I'm

excited to dive in. Love it. And I've, you know, I've missed it. We, we

had a road trip last week. We did. So we had a road trip up

to regional Victoria, through Bright, Mount Beauty,

Wodonga, Lake Hume. Worked with some beautiful schools and some beautiful kids. It

was an incredible time away. But it also meant that we had to record a

couple of pods in a row because we're on the road last week, and it's

yeah. I missed I missed I missed being in the bunker in the podcast studio

with you and, having the microphones out. So, yeah, looking forward to it. Just, we're

just in the car. We did, we did a lot of miles.

A lot of smooth FM people. When when we had reception, and I think

my playlist represents smooth FM anyway. Yeah. But no. Great

week. Such a it was so nice just to, I don't know, see

more of Victoria. Mhmm. I used to do a lot of regional stuff, but, obviously,

I think our work's more metro now. So, yeah, it was nice. And,

obviously, I grew up down sort of that way. And, we we stayed in

bright for a couple of nights, and it just reminded me when we were kids,

we used to go there and stay there for Easter. And, it obviously wasn't as

flash as it is now. Mhmm. But, yeah, no. It was just nice to go

back to those places and, yeah, see some country kids and

and schools and And and there was a common theme. Right? Like, we left every

school or every place we worked with, and we were high fiving each other. We're

on a high because the workshops and what we did ran so well.

And I think it was just a bit of an open, like that small country

town community. Right. And that's what we kept thinking about. It was like, man, why

are these kids so happy? Why are these human beings so content

and, you know, able to give themselves to others and be kind and be

generous and be courteous and those sorts of things. And yeah, I

think we put it down to that, that sense of community that they felt really

connected with their community. But then we unpacked it even further. They were outdoors a

heap more, you know, there was far less screen time, they're out doing things they

love, you know, bloody hell, every Wednesday they're up skiing up in Mount

Hotham. You know what I mean? The whole school packed up shop and they went

skiing for a day. So I just think the fact that they were doing things

they love in the community they were connected to, just brought about some really

cool little human beings Yeah. That were unreal to work with. So It did remind

me. I obviously I showed you my school report the other week. I went to

a Steiner school on a dairy farm, and I think the most we had

at one stage was 35 kids. And it just a lot of these

schools who went to reminded me of that where, you know, there might only be

2 classes and, you know, it's all about play. It's all about fun. It's

not about test scores and that plan. It's not not as serious.

You still get great results, but, you know, I think people are more relaxed. Yeah.

I just find a lot of these hustle and bustle in big schools. There's

not really much relaxing going on. Everyone's everyone's a bit tense.

Yeah. And and the other thing is that flexibility. Right?

Those massive schools in Melbourne, I've worked at one of them. They're just that yeah.

The lack of flexibility those little country schools we're working with were a bit more

relaxed. They'd be like, yeah, we'll make it work. You know what I mean? And,

and you wanna go for an hour and a half, go for an hour and

a half. You wanna go for 2 hours, man, this is working, keep it going

for 2 hours. As long as they're happy and they're engaged and they're getting some

amount of it, let's keep rolling with it. Right? So that the importance of when

something's going well, don't put a timeframe on it. You know what I mean? Let

let it flow. Yeah. And that was really cool thing to say. So shout out

to all those schools you worked with up there. Thanks, Avnish. It was brilliant. It

was brilliant time. I think, for me, my highlight, mate,

was the the flexible learning setting with Gonga. So painting the picture a

little bit for listeners. Students that, you know, have police suffered

severe trauma, school mainstream school isn't for

them, that they have a place to go.

And obviously, we got worded up that it'd be a really tough

crowd, and it was. I'm

gonna chime in. Sorry for interrupting. That's why keep looking at me. I know. I

know. I've been getting in the arm like that. I can't wait to share this.

I've never seen society nervous before. I'll be honest with you. He's got

his he's got this fun shops down to Pat. He he can run a

crowd like no tomorrow, and he started doing our fun shop and he started with

his clapping activity that he gets off with, and just the look on his face

was like, holy shit, is he is this gonna work with this mob? And and

sure enough, 1 or 2 got off and moved to the back. And we're like

One left. It was so One left. There wasn't even in the room and I

was like, I'm losing them. I'm losing them. For the first time in my life,

I'm losing the crowd. But let's call it not a truth to truth.

You know what I mean? 3, 4 minutes later, that changed around.

Alright? And by 15, 20 minutes into the into the workshop,

we completely got them. And, yeah, I don't wanna chime, but you can go. No.

No. I just think, when you have you win

over students that probably haven't had the opportunity to play or be

kids or have fun, and give them that experience where they

can connect. They feel safe. They we had

people dance some of the kids were dancing and singing and, you know, completely

different than what we walked into. And that, for me, just shows the power of

play, but more importantly, when it's done well. Yeah. So for me, that

was, I left and I know you did as well. And

all the staff was so appreciative because they got to experience it

with the students as well, different voice, just the impact. Yeah. I

think we're gonna go back there again in turn 4, which is happen to that,

which is exciting. But, yeah, for me, it's, little things

like that that really reminds you why you do this.

That it works for peep it works for everyone, I feel, but, you know,

some some kids that haven't had the opportunity to be kids

or, you know, the joy of play and just

experimenting things. They've they've never had that. So to give it to them

at whatever age they were and allow them that time,

I I loved it, mate. Yeah. It was unreal. My highlight would have been Mount

Beauty Yep. For sure. Obviously, the first time I've really been let loose,

running running out on shots. And he did, everybody. He was very nervous as

well. Not gonna lie. And I threw him to the wolves. I said, you can

just start with the year 9 and tens. Yep. Traditionally, pretty tough crowd.

But, mate, you, yeah. I left off after about 30 minutes. I

didn't have to worry about it. I was like, nah. You got it. Yeah. He

was like, dominated. He was like a proud daddy. Like, oh, let my son go

the little apprentices of his stripes and off he goes. So,

nah. But for me, the the best thing about that school was,

just the kids and the way they wanted to give to others. You know what

I mean? Like when we're doing our pal messages, which we'll talk about a bit

later on this pod and explain a bit more detail, but I just never forget.

I had one, we had one girl in the, in the audience, and

she was writing her power message with her left hand because she had a broken

right hand. And I went and I crouched down in front of her and I

said, are you right handed? She said, yeah. And I said, are you writing this

power message? Who are you writing? She said, my mom. And her mom was actually

in the room. My mom was a teacher at the school. I haven't I haven't

heard this. Oh, you haven't heard this story? Oh, and, and yeah. And

she was sitting there writing a pal message with her left hand. Obviously, it was

incredibly average writing, right? But she was persevering and she was so intent

and engaged with writing it. And I looked over to her mom and I went

over to them like, do you know your daughter's writing your pal message with

her left hand? And her mom was literally tears in her eyes to how proud

she was. And I left the door and I was like, hi. I said, hey.

Immense respect for what you're doing. And she literally turned, she said, shows

you guys have just planted that seed and made me think about how much

I appreciate, you know, my mom and what she's done for me. And I didn't

wanna give up this opportunity to let her know that's how I feel. And she

was like, so thank you for, you know, providing this environment for me.

And I was just looking between the 2 going daughter to mom daughter to mom

going, oh, look what we look at what we've created. You know what I mean?

So, I'll highlight that was an awesome little moment for me that I just

stopped and smelled the roses. I mean, that's super cool. Oh, man. That's and you've

got it, like like you said, take that time and appreciate it. I think the

the one it wasn't it was on Monday, where we did the big

keynote, on South Wharf for 200, private

school year 11 leaders. And when I got them all to

do the pal message, and we'll talk about the pal message. So essentially, we

get students, adults, corporates, whoever, to write a message to

someone, tell them why they're proud of that person, what they admire about them, and

why they love them. And to look around when you had

over 200 year 11s in dead silence, all

riding, I I I've done this for 7, 8 years

now. I don't think I've ever witnessed something like that. And it was like,

you know, when you were saying that moment with at Mount Beauty when the year

11 was right, so the student was right with the left hand for a mom,

and you're like, wow, that's so special. Well, you know, what we

witnessed with all those student leaders from, obviously, they're the best of

the best from these private schools. So they're they're lovely kids, but

still to see that in action. Mate, it was insane. You could you could

hear a pin drop in the room with with 200 year 11 students, which is

normally a bit boisterous. You could hear a pin drop in the room. And I

know we like to give them space, right, but I couldn't help myself. I've sort

of floated around the room, and I'm and I'm just checking over some shoulders just

seeing what these kids are writing. And everything was dear mama, dear dad, and I'm

like, I'm so proud of you for this. And I just and I came back

to you after about 3 minutes here, and I came back to society and I'm

like, man, I'm choking back tears here. I'm literally choking back tears because I'm a

dad. I know it's weird when you become a parent too, you, something

happens inside you with your emotions. Like, I don't know.

They're heartened. Yeah. They're far Every front. But I get far

emotional especially in that soppy stuff that, you know, the tearjerkers and

just watching these, you know, 15, 16, 7 year old kids writing these letters to

their parents. Yeah. You know, as a dad myself, it just choked me

up. And I just pray that they went and gave them to their

parents. I'm sure most of them wouldn't. But then you talk to the teachers and

every teacher was like, man, this is incredible. Like, how's the feeling of the emotion

in this room at the moment even though it was dead silent? So, yeah, epic

week, man, epic week in the road. We impacted on so many people in a

really positive way. Yeah. It was bloody cool. And I think that's, you

know, a nice way that obviously today, for the 4th of the best of you

series, we're coming back to, you know, that self love appreciation,

loving the person you see in the mirror. Often it's it's

easier to say than actually do. And it's something like the other

3 episodes we've done that you actually really need to practice it. You've gotta be

intentional with it. And it's yeah. We're we're very

fortunate that we get to allow people the space in the sessions that we

run to see it, and we get to witness that. So, obviously,

if you're listening to this today, we it's it's on you, but we wanna set

you a challenge. And we've got 2 different ones, sorta, particularly

around the pal message because it's changed my life.

And I know, Campbell, you're doing it as well. Yeah. And

I've received hundreds of messages over the last 6, 7

years from when I started doing it and sharing it about the impact it's had

on people and people who received them and and sort of the the ripple effect

of what kindness is when you be open, honest, and vulnerable. But more

importantly, you let people know what they mean to you. Yeah. And because it's written

down, this is the best thing I love about it. You can read it. It

means a lot, but you can always come back to it. And that's the best

thing about it. Like, you don't understand the power of a

message like that to change your narrative, to rewire your thinking. If you're

down, then you can be up, and it can completely take you away from

the struggles or stresses of life. Yeah. It's great.

You know, you talk of we you're giving to others, but in essence, this

is given to yourself as well. Right? Like, it's a double edged sword. Bloody. It's

selfish. It is. Okay. Yeah. You can be seen as selfish. You know, you you've

got your folder in your phone called your treasure chest. Yep. And you keep some

of those messages in that treasure chest. I mean, you're feeling a bit blown a

bit down, you pull them out and you have a read. It's about I think

and because from, that Monday session and this was amazing. I think

2 you've read them. I think they were nearly 2 of the nicest message I've

ever received from 2 year 11 students. And I screenshot those, and I put them

in the treasure chest. I think there's nearly a 150 in there now. And

you scroll through them, and what if I was down or anything like that after

reading 3 of them, completely changed. Yeah. It is such

a good thing to do. And I'd recommend everybody. No. It doesn't have to be

a message, but Mhmm. If there's something that somebody's given you or sent you

or wrote about you, take a screenshot of this, create a folder

that is just full of that. Because anytime you go to ends, I don't share

this with anyone else, but that's for me. And it it's amazing what

it does. Just however my day is going, if it's not going that well, I

can open that up. I traditionally read them a lot when I'm flying on planes

because I get really lonely. Obviously not now, and you're tagging along,

which is fantastic because That's Ben and Robin. Yeah. We are. But, yeah. Traditionally, I'd

open it up there because you do feel really I I don't know. It's when

I'd feel my most lonely. Yeah. And I'd read it and I still feel lonely,

but I'd feel very lucky that I was able to do what I was doing

because of these people in my life. Yep. And I I just said I've started

off I flicked a few out over the last, you know, month or so.

I just find, like, it it really strengthens your connection with them as well. Like,

even though you're not looking at them, you're not actually talking to them physically, but

you flick them a pal message, and what you get in return and just that

little love that's created between the 2 of you and that little bond. Yeah. I

think it really does wonders for strengthening connections within your friendship group, within your family.

So definitely give it a go. So, so just to recap, Sadie, what what we

what are we asking people to do? What's the challenge? Yep. So we're gonna if

you I'd talk a bit more about it, in my TED talk. So if you

just go on YouTube, tell me Dale Sullivan TED talk, you can,

yeah, you get a bit more of an idea of also what we do, I

suppose. But, where you sit down and you pick somebody

somebody in your life and you write, this is how I did it anyway. G'day,

whoever. Please don't feel like you have to reply. There's just a few things I'd

like to say. And then you write a paragraph of why you're proud of them.

You write a paragraph of what you admire and about them, and then you write

a paragraph of what you love about them, and you send it to them. And

I always say that, it is very scary. And from me

writing that first one to actually sending it nearly took a month because pack of

me dacks. I was petrified. I was sending this to one of my grown male

friends. I'd never shared anything like this before. And, but

eventually, when you get that courage and you send it, it yeah. I it

made me feel like the lucky one each time I got to sit down and

write it about that person because it's only take people for granted, but how often

do you reflect on how lucky it is that actually you have that person in

your life? But then it's the best thing about it is, Canva, that it's not

because it's a special occasion or a birthday or, you know, they've achieved something. It's

just because. It's a random message just out of the blue for no

reason. Yeah. And that's that's so powerful. That it's not like, you know,

when we're away, it was your birthday, man, and happy birthday. You were that

busy getting the so many messages. And that's not saying that's not a nice thing.

It was a I loved it. But you got so many

that it like, it's all sort of blend into 1. Whereas if you got

one today, randomly, it means so much more. It impacts a

bit it impacts a bit greater than that. Why I feel the the random

nature of it. And particularly when we do these in our corporate sessions or

teacher sessions, and I get them to do it on their phone. And I say,

if you're brave enough, send it now. And you see people, like, crying or

people's phone ringing, like, are you alright? Are you alright? And for me, that's when

you're like, people should be this should be the narrative we're using, not

checking in to see if something's wrong. Like, what's wrong? Why'd you send that? More

importantly, why don't we send that more? And you had one of those from your

beauty. Right? We did the staff session and, you know, burly burly fella Yeah.

At the back on the staff there, and he got his phone out and he

obviously sent a power message to one of his friends. And then a few days

later, he wrote you an email and just said, yeah, it was like, mate, thank

you so much. What I've got in return and it's re kicked off our relationship

and it's rekindled us together and we're now bonded again. And, yeah, how

appreciative he was for that moment. But it took someone like you and I to

plant that seed with him to do that. And now they're off and running. Right.

So here's that for our listeners out there, here's that seed, like, literally

to be brave, pick up your phone, you know, at some stage, have a think

about it, start with 1 person, and flick them a text

message, you know, with with that sort of format of, you know, why are you

proud of them, what you admire about them and why you love them, be

vulnerable and flick it off and be that catalyst. I think it was in,

session 2 of this series about relationships we're talking about. Are you gonna be the

catalyst in your friendship group to create that culture of

love and sharing a vulnerability and to really strengthen bonds? Do

it, you know, and there you go. We're linking those 2 together, be that that

catalyst that starts it, but someone's gotta be vulnerable first. Yep. But I

promise you it'll flow. It'll flow on from there. You know what I mean? We'll

kick start it off. So I love that. And obviously talking about, you

know, we love talking about being proud of yourself and we come back to it

a fair bit. Like when you're proud of yourself, you really do find that's when

you're happiest. And so what do you do to make yourself proud?

You know what I mean? Like, what are you what are you what are your

thoughts process right now? Like, what am I proud of for myself? So we've said,

you know, we talked about writing a palm message to somebody else. Alright? Oh, I

see where you go. Yeah. I know. Yes. You're right. Yeah. You know, we talked

about writing a power message to somebody else, but there's here's the next

challenge. Write a power message to yourself. Oh, bad. And I'm not gonna say Have

you done this? I haven't yet. No. I haven't already done this. I haven't yet.

I promise you I'll do it because because you've been vulnerable and you've led by

example. And I won't steal his thunder, but we're at Ballarat Grammar, a

few weeks ago, and we we always throw the floor out to the questions at

the end. And there was a psychologist in the room and she threw a

question back to Dan. What was that question, Dan? She obviously was really

impacted by the session and loved it. And she said, have you ever done a

PEL message to yourself? And I went,

wow. I said, that's the best question I've ever received? And

my response was no. I haven't. I hadn't even thought about it. And so so

we drove home that night, and, I put the kids to bed, and

I came out to the office, and I wrote myself a power message.

I found it really hard at the start Mhmm. But then I found

it so amazing. And it was a

really nice experience. So the next morning I got up and

I sent, a tech an email. I sent my pal

message to myself and I said, dear, thank you for the best

question ever. Bang. And I just sent him my pal message and,

it was such a yeah. Like, she was so blown away by it

and we had really nice conversation afterwards. And I remember you coming

in and, I was buzzing. I was like, mate, you should You were.

Yeah. And you read it and you go, oh, mate. If that's amazing. If you

feel I think people would get a lot from this. Mhmm. Would you if

you feel comfortable, you should share it. And I thought about it. I thought,

nah. Stuff it. You know what? I'm I'm really happy in my own skin, and

and so I shared it on on social media. And I shared

it, yeah, on different platforms and so forth like that. And it

was really nice, the response and and and where it's come from. And obviously,

I'll I'll read it out today, because I am

proud of it and I'm proud that I did it. I'm proud that I shared

it. On Friday, just gone. We we did a big keynote in

Sorrento at the the Conti, for big group of principals. And,

they wanted a new keynote because obviously, I've done quite a few for principal

federations around Australia now. And, normally, I get people to finish with the

pal message, but I I flipped it around and got them to

do a pal message about themselves.

And that was really powerful. Yeah. Because in in those roles,

especially as principals, any in in many roles, right, in life in general, we

give ourselves to others so much. We are always thinking about other people.

And it's very rare or seldom that we actually stop and

go, right. Let's give myself a bit of self love here. Let's let's toot my

own horn. And you don't have to tell the world you're doing it. Like, I

mean, like, we're we're asking listeners now to write a power message to a to

a mate or a family member. And we're also really challenging you to write a

power message to yourself. You don't need to share it. You don't need to share

it like I did. Don't don't don't do that. So don't write it with that

intent because that'll freak you out a lot more. But just process

it and write it to yourself just so you can actually sit back now and

go, man, you know what? I've achieved this. I've done this. I've never given up

here. Yep. This is this is what I'm proud of myself for, and

it will put a spring in your step. Oh, do you. I really will. Be

your own be your own cheer squad. Be your own best friend. Because it's

very easy to write a power message for somebody else. Trust

me, I've done a lot of them, and I know you have too. Yep. Doing

this one took a bit, but by the end, I actually felt

better than probably what I did for any of the other ones I've sent. Wow.

That's awesome. So let me I'll read it out to you. Okay? So I so

dear Dale, I'm so proud of the person you are and the energy

you have to put into trying to be the best dad and husband you can

be. I know this role as a father to 2 young boys hasn't come as

easy as most things to you. But I am so proud of how you are

trying to improve and be the best version of yourself for your family.

I admire how hard you have worked to in the past 8 years,

especially when you had the courage to leave your secure full time job at Cedar

and Cricket Australia. This was such a brave thing to do as you were starting

something, that had never been done before, but you believed in it and

ever and have every day since. I admire your talks impact on

thousands of people of all ages in 25 countries around the world that you have

spoken to. The number of people you have helped is incredible, and I greatly admire

that. Finally, I love you for who you are. When you look in

the mirror, I'm sort of joking up video, mate. I know. When you look

in the mirror, you see a person who shows up with a smile on his

face and gives it it is all. Your energy is infectious and it is something

that I love about you. Keeping the person you are for not only yourself, but

for your family as they are proud of the person you are. Love,

Dale. Holy shit, man. I'm choking up.

I meant that's beautiful. I'm gonna give you a moment here because,

yeah, it's a super emotional little moan the bunker.

I didn't expect No. No. That's only the second time I've read it out loud.

Obviously, I read it out loud on Friday. But,

yeah, I think, like, it choked me up at the start because, yeah, I've really

struggled being a dad. Like, I I've personally yeah. I've found

it really hard. I'm loving it, but I've found it really hard. So I think

that as well, like, not just celebrating all the things

that you've probably done really well. Mhmm. Like, for me, that's the biggest

challenge I'm going through. And the only one for me that means

anything. The others mean something, but nowhere near as much as that.

Yes. I think that's I started reading that then, and it got me. I was

trying to hold on. But then, I was cooked. Anyway Oh, that's

it. So you don't need to for listeners out there. Like, you can obviously tell

there's a lot of emotion here. It's a really powerful thing to do,

and don't do it with the intention to sharing it. I I didn't do that

originally with intending to share it with anybody besides the the

lovely lady that sent me the question. But, yeah, it's a

it's a really powerful thing to do. That's beautiful, man. And please know that you're

not alone. Like, there's so I know I know there's so many parents that they're

listening to this, and I'm one of them as well. And that's the only thing

that really means the world to us. Right? And I feel so many pains

of guilt so often that I'm not doing the best job as a parent. Even

though the outside was looking in, we go, man, you're doing an epic job

and we're doing a good job. But yeah, there's so many pains of guilt that

you can do better and be there for the more and, you know, have a

longer fuse and those sorts of things and play with them more often and and

etcetera, etcetera. I know. So yeah. So please know you're not alone in that.

And I know you're doing a phenomenal job, and it's not bloody easy. I mean,

2 kids under 3 is tough, and there's many people been through it. But we're

proud of the fact that you're here. Right? You're showing up every shop, every single

freaking day for them. And you work your backside off to provide for them and

etcetera, etcetera. So I'm really proud of you for for doing that.

You were bloody vulnerable when you post it and you were just vulnerable again sharing

this, you know, we I found that harder than when thousands of people listening. So

I found thank you. I appreciate those words. I found that harder then. I I

don't know why. I think reading something out loud. And that's what always

challenge people when we do the pal message in our sessions.

Give it to the personal, read it out to them because it yeah. It means

so much more, those words. Yeah. Like, you know, just well, I I was

not expecting that then. No. But I I struggle to finish reading that. Yeah. Yeah.

Beautiful. And whoever you send it to, they'll love it. They'll appreciate it. You know

what I mean? So, yeah, challenge number 1 for today listeners,

is to write a power message to someone who you care about. Yeah. And

then also try and write a power message to yourself. Yeah. And if and what

we always say as well, if that just writing the message is,

you know, it's it's too hard, send an image as

well. Alright? So if you're gonna obviously do this via text or

messenger or WhatsApp or whatever you whatever you use, there's so many avenues these

days, write the message, but then send a picture

first. So the picture is a delivery tool to break down the

vulnerability and the barriers because it's not just words. Yeah. I love that.

So that would be my advice. Yep. Obviously, you can't do that to

yourself, but, be honest and open and get that

down because we're very good at being able to tell other people what we love

about them, why admire them, why we're proud of them, but you need to be

able to say that about yourself. Yeah. It doesn't come easy, but I think the

best things in life don't come easy. And, you know, when you actually allow that

space to get it done, as you can tell. Yeah. It's

I I don't think I've cried once on this podcast before, and that was episode

150 when I I did it with my dad. Yeah. And there you go. 2nd

time. 3 up and 37 episodes. No. I

love that, mate. And we think about everything we've talking about the last 4 weeks

now, you know, being the best version of yourself. So, you know, stop

and smell the roses, be present, be mindful, you know, try

and find gratitude as much as can in life. And it does need to be,

I'm grateful for my house. I'm grateful for this. It's a little snippets that life

throws at you. Work on your relationships, you know? So if you're out there and

you're and you've listening, you're like, I've I've tried to work a little bit harder

on my relationships, especially those who care about me the most. And I've tried to

get those connections up and firing. You know, I've tried to incorporate a little bit

of play in my life and get it give you a bit more time for

me and and be a little bit selfish for me and and make sure that

I'm living the life that's true to me so I can give myself to others.

And now they're all wrapping up. And if you've if you've been out there and

you've been putting little incremental steps towards achieving the best

version of yourself over the last 4 weeks, and you've been trying to put into

practice what we've been preaching just incrementally over the last few

weeks, then sit back now and be bloody proud of yourself for that. Boom. Be

bloody proud of yourself for that and have a little bit of reflection time and

go, holy shit. Like, yeah. I've actually tried

to be a bit more present. I've actually tried to to think about things I'm

grateful for a little more often. I've I've reached out to a couple of

people. I've treated people a little bit kinder or, you know, really shown a bit

more love to those people who love me so much. Be really proud of yourself

because that's incremental change that will stay with you forever now because you've

put in your repertoire and you've put in your routine. And, yeah, that's that's a

great reflection to have and and be proud of that. And if you haven't started,

bloody start now. You know what I mean? Like, it's No one's gonna do it

for you. No. No. That's fine. You've you're accountable for your own mental health. And

I see. I I think it's by John Ram or something. I've got this quote

from, Ashmanual. They've done a lot of presenting with. It's very easy to do.

It's also very easy not to do. Yes. You know, but no one's gonna do

this for you. No. And that's like anything in life, mate. Like, you can wait,

you can wait, you can blame others. Time's now. Life's short. You

don't know what's on around the corner. Don't buy green bananas.

Hey. Don't buy green bananas, you can't eat them. And if you like eating

green bananas, you're a sicko. Yeah. Buy right ones. Enjoy life. Don't put

things off. I'm pretty sure my missus tells you to buy green bananas.

Bloody hell, Mel. You're a sicko. I mean, you don't have to say those

bananas? Those bananas sit in that fruit bloody bowl for ages and then she makes

banana cake out of them. So When they're brown. Yeah. When they're brown. I'll have

them in yellow and eat them because you don't like bananas anywhere. We buy bananas

in our house just so they end up in banana bread. Do you eat you

don't eat banana bread, don't? Don't eat it. No. You don't like bananas? No. I

don't like bananas. People think I'm crazy. Oh, do. Yes. Yeah. I know. It's the

world's wonder fruit, isn't it? I wish I liked them, but I don't know why.

Peter Siddle. Mate, he changed his Korean career just eating 16 bananas a day.

Oh, you smell me. I can smell that. It's awesome. I

love it. I love ladies and gentlemen, the the last this

is the part 4 or 4 of the best of you series. We've really

loved it. It's been a great way to kick back off the energetic radio podcast.

You know, I've loved to come back on board and and starting off with these

these sort of things, and just try to put some little

incremental changes in your life to become the best version of yourself. Nobody

needs to know you're doing it. You know, you don't have to announce it to

the world. But you know, you're doing it and that'll make you proud of yourself

for making those steps. And I know that when we're doing these pods, I

think it not forces us, but it encourages us to do it as well. Yeah.

You know what I mean? I want you to do a Pell message to yourself.

Sounds accepted. Next podcast. Yep. I think we're gonna get a few ask me to

read it out. I think we need to get some guests on it. I think

it'd be a nice, obviously, one of your good friends is gonna come on. Yep.

I think it'd be a nice way to start it. I'd I would like to

be in the room. I'm already nervous, but I can't I can't ask these people

to do it if I'm not gonna if I'm not gonna if I'm gonna be

vulnerable myself, and that's for sure. So, challenge accepted. So

Beautiful. Appreciate you, mate. All listeners out there, thank you for the

ongoing support. We love it. The message is coming in. You know,

that's the other thing. I think we're we get some not power messages. We get

some messages back from doing these pods right, and it's freaking awesome. That's gross. They're

stored in my phone as well, and I'm loving it. So all listeners out

there, thanks for the support. Keep putting little one foot in front of the other.

Yeah. Love each other. Love yourself. Yeah. And have an awesome week.

Bye. Love you, guys. Take care.