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Micro wisdom delivered to your ears every morning in voice notes ranging from 3 to 15 minutes long. Wisdom on how to live a healthier and more fulfilling life. Every podcast will ground you in the present moment to ensure you know what's important, the here and now.
Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the One Day at a Time podcast, and you better be living one day at a time. If it hasn't synced in yet, then I don't know what will sink in. You can only act now. How many times am I gonna have to say?
Speaker 1:Reminder, this is to remind myself as well. You think about like, oh then, you know, why you went on about it all the time? Why just because we have to do this. Life is so busy and fills your mind with so much nonsense that it takes you away from the truth that you can only take action right now, today. You've got until now until bedtime.
Speaker 1:That is your life. Rinse, repeat every single day. And I'm doing this one to one accountability program. We're testing out. It's going very well.
Speaker 1:Such, you know, success all around for everyone, really. Goes to show, like, some accountability is is is maybe the unlock some people need. But not gonna mention names, but very good comment and realization I had well, this, member had. So I went for a morning walk as I will be tied to my desk all day and found my mind worrying about stuff that is due to happen at the end of the month, a presentation I have next week, and caught myself on and heard the line that went something like, oh, you only have until now until bedtime, and I changed my walk completely. So she was worrying for presentation.
Speaker 1:Then you only have now until bedtime, and I changed my walk completely. I noticed the leaves, the sun coming up, had a chat with an old man at the bus stop. Much nicer morning than worrying about all the crap. Now some of are thinking, yeah, yeah, yeah. This is it guys.
Speaker 1:That's the that is the truth in your face. If you can't take if you can't appreciate walking around being able-bodied, the sun's out or even if it's raining to to appreciate the things around you, you're not living now, you're not here, you're somewhere else. And you do this all your life and then you look back and you go, I didn't even live in my own timeline. I lived in the future alternative world that didn't actually happen, you know. So please try this today and I go on about it a lot because this is the truth, it is the fact.
Speaker 1:We had a great book club last night as well and it was like talking about that if the kind of planning versus one day at a time you can have plan all you want and I think definitely plan stuff but planning has to be heavily ratioed with action because action can change your plans, right? You can plan twelve weeks in advance. You can plan, I'm going to do this, this and this. But sometimes you've got to just get in the trenches, do the work, and the work reveals things that should be done or the work will change the plan. And I think this is like kind of the classic like Mike Tyson, everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.
Speaker 1:That's what he says. Everyone's got a plan to beat them in the ring. Do this. But then Mike Tyson hits him with a whap. And then, oh, yeah, that plan's out the window.
Speaker 1:I'm now rocked. What do I do now? That's all of our daily living. You can plan all the time, but things come out of nowhere. Then you go, what do I do now?
Speaker 1:Oh my god. What are you shocked for? That is how life is. Things come out of nowhere all the time. So it's better to have this kind of like be water type of live in, you know, the bamboo versus the oak tree, that type of fluid.
Speaker 1:Okay. I I I will try my best today. I will plan, but a lot of this stuff is completely out of my control, and I understand this. So if something pops into my day today, like this happens or something like that, and it's out of blue, I be I take a deep breath and I go, this is life. This is actually what happens.
Speaker 1:This is to be expected, actually. The unknown coming in and being expected. So that's just a little snippet of that. Hopefully, that, kicks some of you into action today or at least gives you some perspective. Like, this is genuinely helping.
Speaker 1:It is something that if you put action in, it does work. It's not like this, like, fluffy nonsense. It's like ancient wisdom that has stuck through the times that we must try at least. So yeah, it's, important to think about those things. And another thing about the accountability of notice as well it's like having someone in your corner, having a review of your stuff, making sure you're on track, making sure you've got someone to speak to goes a long way.
Speaker 1:And hopefully this podcast can be that thing for some of you. You can use it. You can be a light to yourself. You can be the wisdom. You can talk to yourself in wise ways.
Speaker 1:Is potentially a future where you don't need a physical other human. You can be accountable to yourself, which is the ultimate, like, achievement. Right? You can wake up and as what matters is your character when nobody else is looking. It's all good being able to do this, this and this when someone's there watching, but show me where your character is when there is nobody watching.
Speaker 1:That's really a big a big thing because that's really where there was no one here. No one's gonna praise you. No one's gonna say that this wrong, this right, it's just up to you. What do you wanna do with this? What type of character do you want?
Speaker 1:You know, these are questions to ask yourself. I suppose like we maybe don't ask ourselves these questions. How much of our character is inbuilt? You know, nature versus nurture. You know, where where do we at with that?
Speaker 1:If you think you can't change, then you can't change. If you think you can change, then you can change. So, you know, this is it is that simple. If you think, well, this is just me, you've locked yourself out. You've blocked off.
Speaker 1:Some people change easier than others. See, some people find it very easy to learn new techniques about this enough, very easy to pick things up, very easy to have self control. Right? Some people find it very difficult based on loads of different factors, and you might have to work harder than someone else. It's just how it is.
Speaker 1:It's not fair, but that's just how it's always been. Think about school. People just get it. Some people get it. Some people don't.
Speaker 1:Some people need tutors. Some people get it. They don't even try and they learn. Some people got tutors, and they still don't even get to that level. Okay?
Speaker 1:What you got? Life's an unfair assitus, bollocks. No. That's just that's how it is. And, actually, the people that actually have to work harder and work on it on it on it actually end up most of the time being more successful in that thing than the person that is naturally talented in that.
Speaker 1:This is seen in sports all the time. There's obviously you've got some people like Messi, Voppelvay, naturally talented, worked hard, worked his ass off. You've Ronaldo stuff. But I remember people at the school boys I played rugby with, they were naturally gifted when we were playing year seven, year eight, year nine, year 10, but they trained all the time. They were the ones that are turning up two, three times a week to train in.
Speaker 1:I didn't train that frequently. Other boys who were very talented didn't train that frequently. But in year seven, eight, and nine, ten, it was a natural talent that showed through. And then until year sixteen, seventeen, 18, I started seeing those boys that weren't good in school, who were average in school, now start playing higher levels, started playing same professionally, started playing professional rugby. One went on to play for Wales.
Speaker 1:I was like, he he wasn't the best player at all when we were playing. He was nowhere near the top 10 players in our group, but he just practiced and practiced and practiced. So it is it is about who sticks into it the longest, who's got the the stamina. You know, if you're willing to keep going at it day after day and be resilient, which means you bounce back, No one it's impossible to beat someone like that. And it's not even about beating someone.
Speaker 1:This is about like, that's really what it takes in our lives to get somewhere. It's to show up every day, no matter if you're good, you're amazing, you're bad, show up every day because that is the thing that makes the difference in the end. How many people were amazing at sports, amazing at fitness, could eat what they wanted, they get to 21, 22, they lack, they don't even follow any plan, they're just being gifted this kind of high metabolic rate and they're very sporty rather than it all goes to crap and then completely change. And you see them ten years later, like, woah, what happened there? Well, there's only so far that that natural gift comes Go, sorry.
Speaker 1:I'd rather you all listen in this be like, okay, I'm not naturally gifted in all of these things. I'm not the best. I don't need to be the best. But you know what I'm gonna do? I'm not gonna give up.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna show up every day. Even if showing up today means I'm gonna go for a walk. Even if showing up today means I just do that one workout, half a workout. Even if showing up today means I'm gonna just be honest about tracking. Yeah.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna have a Ben and Jerry's. Yeah. I'm gonna have this takeaway, but I'm just gonna put it in the app because that's the type of person I wanna be. The character I want to be when no one's watching is I want to be honest, you know. I want to be I want to be reliable.
Speaker 1:I want to be someone that my kids or my family or people look up to and like that's the character you want. And those are the characters that change the lives of those around them. A really important story and this is Marcus Aurelius, right, when he became, in line for the emperor, right, he was adopted by a man called Antonius Pius. So Hadrian who was the emperor really liked what he saw in Marcus Aurelius. And because he wanted Marcus Aurelius to become the emperor and but he was too young, Hadrian's successor was a man called Antonius Pius, and he took over the empire for a good few decades.
Speaker 1:And he became Marcus Aureus' adopted father. But this guy was he didn't win all the accolades. He didn't he's not really ever listed in the top five emperors, top 10 emperors, the best Roman or this kind of stoic or a philosopher. But he had one of the biggest influences of Marcus Aurelius. He didn't say all the teachings to Marcus Aurelius.
Speaker 1:He lived a life of a of a really good person. His character was strong and Marcus Aurelius was grown up around that. So no matter all the books and stuff Marcus Aurelius read and all tutors, he could he saw this man lead by example and it clearly influenced his life. And this man lived a life of, virtue, you know. He wanted to be this good man, this honorable man doing the right thing.
Speaker 1:He didn't get all the fireworks and the celebrations for being like super best, whatever it was, but he enabled his son to become the man he became and the guy people talk about today. So that's really a deep why you should be looking at this type of character building and you can build your character every day by focusing on being active even if the weather's good, bad, whatever, you get out there, you do activity. Focus on trying to eat nutritious foods, trying to fuel your body in the right way. You wanna give your body the best fuel, of course. You wanna give it wholesome foods, but you also don't wanna be perfectionist and you understand there's a mix of things that matters.
Speaker 1:The variety is the spice of life as they say. So you're happy with the variety. You don't want to overload on the energy. You want to get stronger in some form of exercise. Right?
Speaker 1:You don't want to catastrophize because worrying and stress has a huge negative impact on the body and the mind. Right? You become this person and your why to be like that around your family is super strong. Super strong. I've done a few of these seven level deeps with, some of the people in the accountability program and you know it gets down to that level always.
Speaker 1:It's always deeper, you wanna lose fat, alright? By the time we finish it's like I wanna live to my full potential and really give my kids a person to look up to. How much stronger is that versus I'm losing fat? I was gonna lose some weight to look better. Get that goal out of there.
Speaker 1:That can happen on the way. But where where are we really going with this program? Where do we really wanna take this? Because guys, we're not doing this as to lose fat. Come on, wake up.
Speaker 1:We wanna go beyond that. This is part of the process of, like, getting into a body that is more resilient and healthier, which can enable us to be the person we always wanted to be. That always is the end goal. So when it comes to these weekends and stuff, and you start thinking, I'll have five, six, seven, eight drinks, and I'll get be hungover, and then I won't walk on a Sunday. And I'll feel terrible with myself on a Sunday, and I'll go into the Monday, and I'll feel horribly horrific, or I'll eat not even drinking.
Speaker 1:I'm eating too many takeaways. I'm just always snacking this. And now you're thinking you're doing this and you're gonna look back at these weekends and you go, why did I just throw it all away for for those things? Well, like, who is in control? Me these chocolate bars?
Speaker 1:Me or the drinks? Who is really in control? You look back and you go, we my potential was wasted over such miniscule things that don't matter. Because at the end of your life, when you zoom all or when you do the the bird's eye view, you don't look back going, brilliant mind, I always had, I loved those pints I had, I loved the overeating, it made me feel like shit the next day, I loved the overeating actually made me feel like shit that night because my stomach's bloated. No, or you'd be like, did I really throw away the person I really wanted to be for a few horribles all the time, chocolate bars, McDonald's takeaways?
Speaker 1:Did I really throw away my potential for that? And in The Midnight Library that great book of all different lives, it's kind of like you're gonna reach the pearly gates as they say and it's like hey, here's the life you lived but here's the life you could have lived. If only you were strong enough to zoom out at those moments and see the bigger picture of who you really can become. And that's a powerful way to look at what you're about to do today. So it's up to you.
Speaker 1:The weekend is coming. Enjoy yourself. This is balance. You find your own balance. I cannot tell you what that is.
Speaker 1:But find it. Test things out. Don't just fall into pleasures and think that's living. It's not because they end up becoming vices. So enjoy today.
Speaker 1:We still got today to go. The weekend comes. Do what you want. Do what you think is right. Do what you think is right for your character, and I'll see you back here on Monday.