Beek on being

The mother of all mothers is here! She’s loud, opinionated, shot out of a cannon in the morning, drinks her Red Bull and tackles the world. Growing up she had inappropriate carpool conversations, quizzed our friends, and gave unsolicited advice on everything. Won’t touch a vegetable, is “allergic” to fruit, and gives no apologies.  Nothing has changed. She has no edit button, no filter and says it as she sees it. There is no one tougher you’d want on your side, even when she laughs at you! Though she states she has none, she most definitely has a set of laws my sisters and I call Ruthi’s Rules. Today we will share her pearls of wisdom, at least the ones we can share on camera!! 🤣🤣

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What is Beek on being?

A podcast on shared humanity; discussing personal and professional perspectives. From serious to silly to sublime, coming from kindness and curiosity, it is all about connections.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Hi. I hope you are well. This podcast is a place for people to share personal and professional perspectives, talk openly, and ask questions. From serious to silly to sublime, it's all about communication and connection. Always coming from a place of kindness and curiosity, we talk about shared humanity, discuss ideas, and highlight people creating a better world.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We've got to keep learning, keep growing, keep being. I'm Melissa Beek, and this is Beek on Being. Today is Beek on Being raised by Ruthie's Rules. They're back. By popular demand, I have in studio today my mother, Ruth Garber Shere, and my sisters, Sammy Jo the Blondie and Jess the baby.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Today is comic relief. Absolute amusement coming off the holidays and the New Year's. We need to poke a little fun at ourselves. Oh gd. Gd help us all.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

A little nervous laugh.

Melissa Shere Beek:

All have.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No talking fun at the mother.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Growing up in our house, there were certain behaviors imprinted or impressed upon us. What we saw, what was said to us, all those verbal and nonverbal clues set the guidelines for our demeanor and actions. Everything that was expected of you, a set of explicit, understood regulations or principles governing conduct. A code you must abide by. So today is all about the familial funny my sisters and I refer to as Ruthie's Rules.

Melissa Shere Beek:

At least the ones that we can discuss on air. Small disclaimer. Her own rules don't always apply to herself. She doesn't have to follow anyone else's rules. Others don't know the rules she's judging them by and rules can change at any time.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't know where. There are certain things I personally learned by default from what my mother did not do or did not believe in. To me, my mother's personal philosophy was use it up, burn it out, break it, fix it and replace it. This doesn't just apply to every single one of her cars and all the appliances in the house and the computers and the phones and iPads and televisions, but also her body. And my mother also never believed in period cramps or being sick in any way during school days.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think I speak for my sisters as well when I say that the three of us all won perfect attendance every single year.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I let Jessica stay home one day for mono.

Melissa Shere Beek:

One day.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

One day.

Ruth Garber Shere:

One day.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So I learned to be proactive and preventative when it came to everything. But that brings me to the great things that we learned from UMa. Maintain the matriarchy. Education is absolutely the most important. Always put money away for financial independence and how to get what you want from men.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We're going to break all those and other rules she has down but Ma, you wanna tell us real quick what your simple philosophy on men is?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. Fuck them and feed them. Okay.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Mom.

Melissa Shere Beek:

With that, let's get into it. Then that's my philosophy. Wow. It works.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The matriarchy. We come from a long line of strong women. I'm the firstborn daughter of a firstborn daughter of a firstborn daughter of a firstborn daughter and then after that I lose track.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No, Mamiko was a first born daughter

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, so another first born. Ma, tell us about the matriarchy you come from and what traits you learned and impressed upon us as the importance of being strong independent women and dare I say stubborn women as well.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Wow, there's so much. Okay. You have to take care of yourself. You have to put aside a pushkey. When daddy found out about mine because he hadn't paid taxes on the money that I made.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Wait, wait. You already went into finances. We're talking about being strong independent women.

Ruth Garber Shere:

About maintaining the matriarchy? Yeah, we're the leaders and we have to impart that upon our daughters and let them know that they're superior and sorry. And listen, Samantha and I were very shocked when she found out Aiden was going to be a boy. She called me from the ultrasound.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think after like a hundred and eighty seven

Ruth Garber Shere:

It was a hundred and twenty seven years but I did have an uncle born in the 20s.

Melissa Shere Beek:

A hundred and twenty seven years of nothing but women Yes. Having daughters

Ruth Garber Shere:

And all girl cousins but there was an uncle born in the nineteen twenties but he proceeded to have five girls. Okay. So, it didn't count.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Didn't count. So, I broke the rule like I always do.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Always. Yeah. Always. That's the middle child. Yes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And she's smiling so big for our listeners. I think her husband was more proud too because he was the first one to really go up against the Ruthie's rule.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That's I never thought of that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, yeah. I think I toasted your baby shower, your husband. I Said, well, you fit the other two rules she gave you, but you were determined to break the third. Mhmm. Sam and Jess, do you see yourself in these mavens?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Like traits that you carry on from all of the women from generations beforehand besides the story.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh you are such a ruler.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm not. I'm not. Are you kidding me? My kids have I've never grounded my kids.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No, no I don't mean that. I meant as a presence. No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't think so. Think She means I have a in very supportive husband.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Know. No, she means in Like you're a queen. You're a strong independent woman. You go after what you want.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Sometimes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And Jessica does but

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I was forced to in a way. But I like it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't. Yeah. I don't. I could try a little harder. Don't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And what about you Jess? Independent wise?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. Very. Yeah. I was forced to. I was put in position.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You were strong and independent

Ruth Garber Shere:

in high school, in college. It wasn't even when you got older and were put in that role. Always I was really,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I didn't think that way at all.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I was lazy. I was, I wasn't strong.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I wasn't strong and independent. I was lazy.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I think.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh no, I thought you were very. You had your own rules and people who were not fitting into that box, you deleted.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay, so then what traits do you put upon your children as far as being strong and independent

Jessica Shere Coggins:

or Well the positive biggest one rule for her, which I do take is the don't lie. Yeah. That's like my get go, like I don't care what you do. So that I've taken from her. Another thing with kids that I took from her was I was never allowed to sit in my bed to do homework. Had to sit in I my bed.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Sit sit in the desk with the lantern. I still fall asleep

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I in do that with my kids too. Get them out of the bed.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Samantha fell asleep underneath the desk many times. I Are you serious?

Ruth Garber Shere:

And then you wake her up and she would talk Chinese.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Or I'd like be like I've been

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

up, I'm up. I've been told

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you I'm up. I still do that to this day.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Somebody She would wake wake me me up up and this

Ruth Garber Shere:

and she'd be sleeping with her eyes open.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's a good trick, Sam.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I can't do rules. Rules work, don't work well with me. In everyday ways.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So when we were talking about birth order, my shirt was, I'm number one, I follow the rules. Sam's was, I'm the reason there were rules, but yours was, wait, there were rules? It's So maybe it's that birth order It is I think

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the birth order.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Follow rules because of that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't want to, I it's not that I'll follow the rules that I have to follow. Uh-huh.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It's the little things where I make

Jessica Shere Coggins:

up my own rules that I don't necessarily follow.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. I think one rule, oh go ahead. No no,

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I was gonna say one rule that I think mom has said is you did not follow but you say it to me now. She doesn't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

follow her own rules.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Is don't make a threat that you can't follow.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh that's true and I did very badly on that. Very very bad and I am I have failed. That is like of my biggest things It's hard.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Is well, that's probably why I've never punished my kids because I make you can't threaten something and I can't follow through. Right. But that was one role you you threat you threatened all the time. Yeah, but I

Ruth Garber Shere:

never Except that one time when I called. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And I did I did ground you.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah, but then you unground me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What was And then I reason called to

Ruth Garber Shere:

unground you. And Aura said, she's not home. She took your new car. Without a driver's license.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

At the age of 15.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Big BMW brand new.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So it didn't matter if you followed It didn't matter if you followed through. She's gonna do her own This thing

Ruth Garber Shere:

one time I've, yeah so Samantha always did her own thing.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay so here's a question I have for you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What about you? What rules do you have?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, wait, let me finish with this, with Sam and Jess. What do you teach your sons? Because you guys have sons, we don't

Melissa Shere Beek:

from your girls coming from like I this huge

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

can't, the

Jessica Shere Coggins:

same thing. Same rules apply. I don't, they're not gender relate like it's usual. Okay, good.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

So whatever it is, it is.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Good. Good, good, good. I think these boys have been brought up to be very understanding of women and caring and respectful.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah, I agree with that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I I do too actually.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I agree with All

Ruth Garber Shere:

of them have been and and that I kudos to both of you. Yeah. Because I probably would have sent them to sleep away military. Oh my boy. It's a joke.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's a joke.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What I'm saying is

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, boys are the best.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Your boys have been brought up with a lot of compassion.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Right.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And caring for women. And they are gentlemen. They, every time I have something they'll say, oh I'm gonna carry that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Let me do it end at the night when we were All saying

Ruth Garber Shere:

the time. Is that you? Doing what?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, hear like scratching. Never mind.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, no. We took off the headphones. We're good to go. Okay. So for me I continued being a strong independent and speaking up for injustices because you were always a big mouth about advocacy things like that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

For the downtrodden for the poor, for the needy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. And going after what you believed in. I think I did all of the I instilled all that for my girls too. Okay, the other thing that was really, really important that I loved was the importance of education because Ma, your grandmother Ethel was considered to be the mayor of her town. She ran a bed and breakfast on her own as a widow.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Your grandmother Rose was an activist and an advocate.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And suffragette.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She served on many boards as president and co chaired others as well. She traveled all over the world by herself. Your mother As socialist.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She was a socialist.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She was a socialist. Your mother Shirley went to Rutgers University and became a pharmacist in the early 1940s and then ran a business on Miami Beach with her husband. Was one of

Ruth Garber Shere:

two women who graduated with a Masters in Physics and Chemistry from Rutgers in those days.

Melissa Shere Beek:

In the early 40s, yeah. So I think the best thing that you did was impress upon us the importance of education. Because I believe knowledge is power and I love learning. Is that what you felt when you were growing up following in these women's path? Your footsteps not just the love of it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

This is who you what you're going to do. You're going to be learned. You're going to be knowledgeable. You're going to pursue an education.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Because your mother told you or because of your own rules and I

Ruth Garber Shere:

think know it was Nanny Rose

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

but you were very studious as a child.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Were born that way.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean I love two totally different

Ruth Garber Shere:

love, academic I could go

Ruth Garber Shere:

to school every day of my and be

Jessica Shere Coggins:

really really happy I don't when think you're in your mother impressed anyone. Think it's just the way you

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

were Yeah I definitely don't think it's your mother that did that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No but Nanny Rose made it Nanny

Melissa Shere Beek:

Rose is her grandmother that we're referring to. Yeah but when Nanny Rose

Ruth Garber Shere:

traveled like she didn't have much of an education in a sense of like.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No but she did she did impress upon me that one has to continue learning. She was very upset because when she came here she had to go to work. Her mother had a baby. Her mother was homeless.

Melissa Shere Beek:

For context her grandmother that she's speaking to Nana Rose came over to The United States in 1911. She was 11 years old. Crossed Europe by herself. Crossed throughout Europe by herself and took a ship to The United States a month alone on a ship. And then had to actually lie about her age when she came to The States so she could get a job.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She was illiterate. She learned to read and write phonetically. She never was to do any of that. So that's the alternative. Always been in the best.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And I But was the

Melissa Shere Beek:

she spelled it and she did it because she pushed herself to learn. Right. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But she was the one who impressed upon me that you have to speak up against the evil in this world to do good to help others to put yourself out there.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Right. And you took the advocacy and all of that and ran with it. Taught us to be to speak

Ruth Garber Shere:

out I think for anything that was Samantha's 100% right to this day. I'm

Jessica Shere Coggins:

constantly That's worried one thing

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I regret is not paying more attention in school and college

Jessica Shere Coggins:

because of the way that she she knows everything.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

So I regret not absorbing it more and paying more attention to it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

My father was very smart and my mother was very smart.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'd also think it depends on who's teaching. You need great educators to have great learners. So if you have a teacher that's not exciting you or not reaching you or meeting you where you're at depending on if you're an auditory learner or a visual learner or you know, tactile learner, then you're not going to pick it up. It's not going to be exciting. I know

Jessica Shere Coggins:

but I feel like you go through

Jessica Shere Coggins:

so many teachers throughout your learning experience. Right. Like if you have a bad one, it's a bad one. But you go through so many. I think it's the passion.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Do you impress that upon your kids Sam and Jess?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I try to. I I try to.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

My kids are all I have three totally different kids. Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

They all do. I mean they're definitely yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I think you're born with some of this. Like the drive, the push. Think you're born with some of it. Yeah. And I think some is environmental too.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Right. I think it depends. True.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yes Samantha's children are totally different all three of them.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But all of us have kids that are totally different.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yes. One

Ruth Garber Shere:

And we're of

Melissa Shere Beek:

the other totally different kids. Don't think Three of us.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't so.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't think I don't think so.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Think the three of you could have been tricked. I think

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

now we are more aligned. Don't think

Ruth Garber Shere:

we You always were. You never look cross eyed at each other. That was one of the questions no. Growing

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm not talking about the relationship We that we have with each love and adore each other and support each other. I'm saying personality wise.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Personality? We're very It's birth order type of thing more than

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Than Like personality. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I think it's more birth order.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So that's what I'm saying. We're all very different

Ruth Garber Shere:

But then you think

Ruth Garber Shere:

you're my mother.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We're talking. Well I am your

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't think you've given her a choice but to be your mother. Well somebody had to control her.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Somebody needs to control you. Love you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Ought to I'm okay. I don't see it that way either. Neither do I.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You don't think I'm her mother? I think I'm trying

Ruth Garber Shere:

to be but why do I have to be controlled?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You always introduce to her as your mother.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why do I have to be controlled?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I think

Ruth Garber Shere:

sometimes But don't

Ruth Garber Shere:

hurt me don't say it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No, I just think

Melissa Shere Beek:

Inappropriate? I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

don't think sometimes yes.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't think that's it doesn't bother me like That's that

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

where you need to be corralled back in.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You have no filter.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I need to course correct you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. Let's just say that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

There are many times where you're just not Yes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's your delivery and work. Get you

Ruth Garber Shere:

back in. Yeah. You could be very harsh on people.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I can't say happy that's why

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

don't notice that. We have to fix you. I

Ruth Garber Shere:

can't I can't say that's harsh also.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

am. I've got a harsh shirt too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's just a matter of delivery. I think I will deliver something with a little bit more kindness and finesse. You just Where you go finish are just gonna lay it out there and let you Yes, is off the table.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Sometimes I wanna get that out of you though. Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Get out of me. Like come on. Let's go instead

Jessica Shere Coggins:

of let's do this. It might be beneficial to all of us.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Sorry to go there, I'm just saying. I wish,

Melissa Shere Beek:

but you know, I also It only comes down to saying something like that if I think there's a huge injustice. Like if somebody's But doing something everybody is doing a huge injustice 24/7.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She thinks they are. Mom, you Hate everybody at dance.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Walk into dance, not everybody.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But there's a lot of people you don't like No, to No. You're a g. You think that you She loves everyone and everybody.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

He's telling me not

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to dance.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And and you stop

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

being like, you just come in sometimes all riled up, and we gotta kinda sugarcoat you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Know what it is? Yes, she's looking to get her Yaya’s out. Yeah, and go for the wrong people. And the energy is coming and she needs to get to dance already.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Doesn't wanna sit around and talk to She wants to get

Melissa Shere Beek:

on that get dance that. Floor

Melissa Shere Beek:

and shake it out.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So come there to socialize.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Right, but they try to socialize and then you hate them for socializing but that's the common courtesy of some people. She's in the morning.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Need to talk until after. Well, know but some people don't know Ruthie's rules. Exactly. It's hard. And Samantha.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yes. An hour and a half

Ruth Garber Shere:

later is still saying goodbyes.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, yes.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That is me. That is where she is. That the thing that goes out.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Is time to leave. Everybody's leaving. She's talking.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I wanna talk to her. She didn't miss anybody. Fun guys.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't want anybody to talk bad about me and say I didn't say goodbye to them. So I make sure

Ruth Garber Shere:

she's very much prettiest. I like her quite long. It did

Ruth Garber Shere:

take me a lot of time. Like, a

Jessica Shere Coggins:

couple fuck you bitches out. I'm Daddy couldn't even walk. Well, were gonna hate me. Sorry. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy couldn't even walk. I finally had to get him out.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I said hello. Want Do

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

me to say goodbye? Was

Ruth Garber Shere:

now. Gosh. I didn't know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's okay. It's fine.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. He did fine. Jess is simple. She said, fuck you all now bitches. Fuck you I’m Out

Melissa Shere Beek:

She just said That

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

is true. She would.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I would. Exactly. Said hello.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. So see, we are very different from Let's go to finances.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, gd. Okay. So women didn't have the right to have their own bank account, credit card, or even own a home until the Equal Opportunity Act of 1974. So another great Ruthie's rule was to put money away each week for the That

Ruth Garber Shere:

was from Nanny Rose.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So Nanny Rose, my great grandmother, had a term, it was a Yiddish term called a Pushki, and it was just the way you would just like stash money away.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Like, you were given a 30, you put

Jessica Shere Coggins:

like 10 away for yourself.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Exactly. Exactly. I get that. Totally. So, Ma, why do and and Sam And jesse too, but why do you feel it's so important to have your own financial independence and not rely on a spouse for finances?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Do I really I'm gonna be I'm gonna I can buy what I want and he doesn't have to know.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

The fifth on this one.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You plead the fifth. Plead the fifth on this one. Well, I'm gonna get in trouble because then my husband hears this. Don't think so. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, Mason, don't listen to the podcast.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well, daddy found out when when he had

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

There is an election. Honestly, there's I really don't have a push key. I really don't.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't either so don't He feel

Jessica Shere Coggins:

really gives me like I mean he does put me on limits but he really anything I have

Ruth Garber Shere:

ever He's very generous with you.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Anything I've ever wanted he's always Right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So funny. Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

He wants to make her happy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know. I appreciate that but like Really? If my if my see something I like, I mean I'm grateful my husband says, well if you like it in green, get it in black too. I've never had a limit but I also have I have a stash like Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Good for also have a stash because what if god forbid anything should happen? I need to know.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Can tell you about that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I you okay. Exactly. Right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Exactly. I need to know that I'm okay financially. Yeah. Like I need to know that I have security. It's important. I tell my kids that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

know this sounds so.

Melissa Shere Beek:

What go ahead.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Say that. I'm gonna be killed for saying this.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I just

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

know God forbid anything happen I know that that I will be taken care of.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah I would too but I just wanna make sure that I'm Me? Not so

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm not not you will. I'm saying Yeah. Know my in laws will.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's lovely.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I No. More my mother in laws daughter than Mason is her son.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mhmm. Yeah. No. I think you have great mother-in-law. Agree.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. Jesse & don't have mother in laws. But you have a very good mother-in-law. So that's it. I think that's great.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yes. I agree with that too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Do you teach your children about putting money away? I do. Just like the education about finances for both your boys and girls?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I wish I was a little bit more vocal with finances with my children. Mhmm.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

They definitely don't have free rein. I mean, obviously. But they they know what a dollar's worth.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay, that's what you're saying. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But at

Melissa Shere Beek:

least they have some financial literacy.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Bringing a much more conscious

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't think they get it really yet. I think Sydney is so I think

Ruth Garber Shere:

Sydney and Meyer both get it.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

If Baylyn doesn't get it.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Baylyn doesn't. Sydney and Meyer are very good.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She thinks that there's a tree.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Thinks that there's tree and 10 bushes surrounding the tree.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

With a pit in the middle. I mean seriously.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Bria is very money conscious like she feels bad about spending anything.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Stella is

Jessica Shere Coggins:

better. Sydney likes to save. Meyer likes to have.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And Baylyn

Jessica Shere Coggins:

likes to spend.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yes. Okay. Alright. That's true. Was true.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What about

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mollie and Remi?

Melissa Shere Beek:

So they put away, put away, put away, put away. We have, we have like whole discussions on financial literacy that I'm actually doing an episode on that because I feel like at different stages at your life, you can, you can save for later. So I've always taught them the importance of putting it away and making it grow and work for you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It was one of the only fights I ever had with daddy when he found out how much he had to pay the IRS on the money I had.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Hidden? Hidden. I invested And how

Ruth Garber Shere:

do they know? I invested it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So So I made a she made money.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And I made money. It's not

Melissa Shere Beek:

like in

Melissa Shere Beek:

a shoe box somewhere. No. It's in the I invested and

Ruth Garber Shere:

I made more money. Then Then she had to pay taxes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And then I had to

Ruth Garber Shere:

pay taxes. So I told daddy. And he said, well, you have a war chest?

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's so funny.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I do.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Good for

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you. Yeah. That's why it's never, I don't have a sister

Ruth Garber Shere:

in my mind. Started investing. I've got,

Melissa Shere Beek:

it's fine.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Straight off. First day. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mean, So, I'm speaking of daddy, oh what? Nothing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Is it under your name only?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah, there's some.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh good, okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mine's in my name and my children's name. So, if anything happens to me goes directly to them.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's how mine was.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Except for them too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Was.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And we love our husbands. There's, we love our husbands. Just to be clear.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No mine was a shere family partnership. I had 85% and I gave each of you 5%.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Thank you. On men because we're talking about daddy now. So when we were growing up, daddy let us do anything, right? And Ma, you had a multitude of rules, but daddy only had one rule for us and it came down to boys.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh gosh. Oh yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

They could never see the inside of your room. At least for me I'm going to say they could never pick me up in a truck or a van.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Or Jeep.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh by me. Jeep was me.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh a I Bronco. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. We're talking about the rooftop kind of Jeep.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah, it was boys top of the was car. Because of safety. Daddy wouldn't let them come and pick me up in a truck or a van because he thought we like come in

Ruth Garber Shere:

any car. Just was that Jeep well Wrangler.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That daddy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And they had to come to the door. Daddy said they had to come to the door and I wasn't allowed to answer the door. I had to be getting ready. And then daddy would take my dates into his private office and he'd be very nice, but he was still very intimidating to them. And he'd ask the boy where they were taking me and he would tell them what my Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Personal things changed. And then wait. Wait. And then after a short chat, he'd let me know that my date was there and I could finally like emerge. He'd give me 2 dimes in case I needed to call him from a pay phone if I wanted to be picked up.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

She's

Jessica Shere Coggins:

really aging

Melissa Shere Beek:

herself I care. And every single one of those boys had me home half hour before my curfew was up. So I always thought daddy was not the one the boys needed to be afraid of, that I thought it was the wrath of Ruth that they should have been feared. Sam and Jess, were daddy and Ma like that's No. You on dates

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Daddy was not like that with us.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh he was like that. He greeted, I couldn't go to the door. Right. When my date came. He had, daddy had to open up the door first.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Regardless of how late we were running. Yeah. He had to be there to open the door.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh I think I opened the door at that point. I wasn't like that with me. My question

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

is was the dad's rule or your rule?

Ruth Garber Shere:

That was daddy. Yeah, thought it was daddy's rule Oh, that was daddy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Because it ended up that I dated half of

Ruth Garber Shere:

I used to have three dates in one night when I was your age, when I was in high school.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, that's Well, a

Ruth Garber Shere:

but you didn't do anything like they do nowadays.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. Neither did I.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So I had one date mid afternoon, one around dinner, and one later on in the night.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You'd had go girl. Daddy made these rules for me because most of the boys that were coming to pick me up, he dated their mothers.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No, I think I it was just think it was first kid, first.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No, no, Like on

Ruth Garber Shere:

top They of were like beach moms. And he knew that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I dated a lot of

Ruth Garber Shere:

His girlfriends sons . They were faster on the beach than other places.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And that's why I couldn't come with it. They couldn't get into it if they had a truck or a van or any of those things.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No I had no limit on cars. Had the mom had the rule about the no Jeep because it could flip.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. That That that what daddy

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

had In fact I had a friend who had one pick me up in

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a different car. We drove And got the Jeep.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And jumped into the Jeep. Okay. So my kids, we had the Jeep Rule too and my kids I believe that's true. Yeah. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

My kids tried No, they

Ruth Garber Shere:

changed it now.

Melissa Shere Beek:

They didn't want to, like, disappoint their friends who did have a Jeep. And then your next door neighbor, ma, and my next door neighbor both called me and said, do you know that your children got it? Because they must have had the same rule at their houses too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We're hanging out of the Jeep.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh my god. No. They weren't hanging out of the jeep. They got into a jeep. But that they were

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And you got ratted on?

Melissa Shere Beek:

They my kids got ratted on, not me. It was very funny because

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

they That's so funny.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. But it was really funny. So, yeah, the jeep rule continues.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You have I had a guy in my room, but

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I couldn't have the door closed. Oh, there never a

Ruth Garber Shere:

good reason

Melissa Shere Beek:

why walked down the hallway.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What about that guy that came to the front door and I wouldn't let him in? Oh my God.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And he was at the glass door. Do you have room?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm not a serial murderer. I said, oh my God. You can't come in.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Why did how many Red Bulls did you have today, Ma?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, that's not a good discussion right now.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That's not a discussion. It

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

wasn't a discussion, it was a simple question.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Simple question. Yeah, she's on fire right now. Okay, what rules do you have for your kids?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Honesty, that's number one.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No, no, no, about dating.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I I I but I'm

Jessica Shere Coggins:

gonna piggyback. Honesty, like I don't care what you do, I don't care Listen.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Just tell me. But I wish sometimes they do still lie.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

They do. I mean

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm not gonna go down this deep deep thing but one of my girls dated a guy wasn't you know fond of but at some point I had to you know, I needed to keep her close and I went Yeah. And I had to break a lot of rules that I probably, I know my mother would have like, would have been like, he's never allowed in this house again, you're never allowed to talk to him again. And respect and

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

all those things.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I really I had to make a choice of, I know that if I said that to her that she couldn't see him ever again. I knew I was gonna lose her. So I had to

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Make a

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

lot of Right, right. And I honestly would never change it. I would never. I guess it goes back to can't make a threat that I can't keep. Because I know if I threatened her that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I wouldn't be able to hold it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Got it. So it was But you did the wise thing.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. I have another rule for my boys that they have

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to Listen be and I'm in a different sorry but

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I also think she's gotten to a point where it did end badly but I think she's matured.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Learning experience

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

and I know that she they she can be in contact with him now where it's very different and it's a mature conversation. I think she grew a lot from that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I do. Think she grew a lot from that too. Right. Just I mean, joking. Was a learning

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

experience. Any like listen I wish it never if it happened because it was not just the relationship it was other relationships that got affected. But I I honestly I would never do anything different. And people say to me, you were wrong. But I think it goes back to

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

your rule.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No one can tell you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Not yours or yours.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But the rule that I created

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

which was don't make a threat that you can't Right. Mean so many times I've wanted to threaten my kids and it just doesn't come out because I just hold back.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You know you wouldn't be able to keep it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No, wouldn't. Yeah. I've never punished my kids once. I did.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I grounded my kid. This week.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Really?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And from a party too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Really? See but I also

Jessica Shere Coggins:

feel like punishment needs He's asked me to several the

Jessica Shere Coggins:

times and

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm sticking to it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The punishment needs to fix the crime also.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Mine does.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well good for you.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I feel like you take the phone it becomes more of a punishment on you than it does on him. What? You're out of the picture. I You also know the one

Jessica Shere Coggins:

thing I did make my kids do which I really really liked. You like that rolly chair? I love, I would be all over this. Sorry for our listeners.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Jessie has a rolly

Melissa Shere Beek:

can't see you and they're just listening, you love a rolly chair and you are rolling in and out of frame in the studio. Love it. Okay. So Ma, now that you're dating, do you have any rules for yourself? Well,

Ruth Garber Shere:

We'll not

Ruth Garber Shere:

meet her for House.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah, meet them. No, wait, wait, can't come to the house. Let me just say anything that you can say that's appropriate to Why go on you

Jessica Shere Coggins:

come to the house?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I don't blame her for that. I like that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

This session's definitely gonna be listened to, I'm just telling you.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't want them seeing A, where I live, the type of home I live in. Okay, but

Melissa Shere Beek:

that's fine.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't want them knocking on the door, therefore I have to, you know, okay come on in, let's have a drink, let's talk and then they drop

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay, the off you're and rule is they you want meet them. Meet them. Yeah,

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

meet them. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I like that. I would meet them out too because I just

Melissa Shere Beek:

If you want an escape. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Don't want to be beholden to being in somebody's car.

Ruth Garber Shere:

The only thing is I do is I tell her to give me a call or a text in the middle I of

Melissa Shere Beek:

I do in case she wants an escape room. Case I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

wanted to And she

Melissa Shere Beek:

can say so and so My far got daughter called. Yeah. Now,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I tell My kids that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I told my kids that before call me

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

or give me add something.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah, so funny. Sam, what were you going to say?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I don't know. The blonde moment has appeared.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh God. Okay. So growing up, I was not aware that other houses didn't operate like ours. In our house, there were no boundaries, there was no privacy. In our house, there were multiple generations of women giving unedited, uncensored, unfiltered opinions and advice about everything.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And I mean everything. There were puberty poles that were given during carpool.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Puberty poles?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. When, when, and there were boys in my carpool when she would

Ruth Garber Shere:

ask them puberty how see

Melissa Shere Beek:

my girl? Still have friends who are traumatized. Yeah, mom would ask them puberty questions while Oh, in the Okay. And there was lots and lots of nakedness in every sense of Oh,

Ruth Garber Shere:

we were naked. Yes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. Many times. Inappropriate conversation. Oh, yes. You And were everyone spoke at once spoke

Ruth Garber Shere:

She's always always naked.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay, but I'm not naked when my kids' friends come over. Didn't know they were Ruth's famous family. I

Ruth Garber Shere:

know, you know what? Somebody give me

Ruth Garber Shere:

a heads up.

Melissa Shere Beek:

As you can can tell tell There's an open door policy in our house all the spoke over everyone at the same time. Wait. Wait. Wait.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I can lose Yep. That's it. They beat me to the punchline. I was gonna say Ruthie's famous one liner is take a breath, lose a turn. So here are some other famous one liners that I remember from Ruthie, you all can chime in if you want.

Melissa Shere Beek:

On babysitting, I don't do children till they can walk, talk, and tell me what they want.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And I agree with that. Okay. They need a little bit of a personality. The newborns just don't work for me. I

Ruth Garber Shere:

know. I hired

Ruth Garber Shere:

a nurse soon as they were born and went to work for four months.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Do you came back after four months? Is that We

Ruth Garber Shere:

what came back after four months.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay. No, was there every night.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I just want to.

Ruth Garber Shere:

The nurse lived in. Yeah. But I don't do babies.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And who was standing next to the nurse?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Mommy, you.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know. Learned all the tricks from the nurse. I love the little babies.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean, I wanted more children also but I don't like babies. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

On beauty.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm too, no, I'm too nervous about

Ruth Garber Shere:

Listen, what I'm calling you know, it's the unknown because they can't

Ruth Garber Shere:

Talk So,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

she freaks out. Yeah,

Ruth Garber Shere:

she does. I had a doctor come to the house, make a house, call your pedi pediatrician when you were a week old because you had an eyelash in And your I freaked out and it was was also

Melissa Shere Beek:

like 21, so. Get that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah, were young.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Didn't know what to do probably.

Melissa Shere Beek:

On beauty, her rule is one mustn't do things to make yourself uglier. On dress code you

Ruth Garber Shere:

don't We always put your best face out there.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. Go

Ruth Garber Shere:

ahead. If it's bad about me don't say it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Time she I have preps it a by

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Okay. And I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

don't think we've ever really discussed it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

To whom

Ruth Garber Shere:

do you

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

know I'm scared?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No no if it's bad don't.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

We'll No, talk about it it's not bad. I would get in trouble in

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

middle school Oh wait, all that's the this is the next one. You let me say it and then I you say know exactly what you're gonna say. The dress code is you don't leave the house without mascara. Oh yes. I make up Yes.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And big No, no, But yes.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Even if you're going to work out. Eyeliner. Mhmm. No, I didn't do eyeliner.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No no no, but I many times was grounded, was punished because I would leave the house, I would go to school and I would put eyeliner And on my then before I got picked up at the end of the day I would remove it. I guess I didn't remove enough because the second you saw me you saw that I had eyeliner on and I'd be punished. Why?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because I'm the eye makeup queen. Why were you doing something behind my back? Why didn't you just walk out of the house?

Ruth Garber Shere:

And you're lying with me and wouldn't let her. Because I did.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I was 13.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Of course you

Ruth Garber Shere:

wear mascara and makeup. Wouldn't let me.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. Because you're 13.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No, no. Had no problem She didn't you were sneaking didn't like

Ruth Garber Shere:

that snuck. I didn't care if

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you put the makeup look. I know that's what gonna say.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I could be on my deathbed and I'm putting on eye

Melissa Shere Beek:

I know, I

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

think know. You're so much prettier without me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So I was thinking Okay. That's like a lie. You're sneaking and you're lying to me but you come home and the blacks dribbling

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

down Yeah. Your remember that a lot. She always had

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

like dark hair. I remember it. I guess I would put it

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

in my waterline. But just And it was blue too. Was really But

Ruth Garber Shere:

I didn't like that you were sneaking.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. That's it. On arts and crafts, not in my house. Play Doh gets under my nails.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No Play Doh,

Ruth Garber Shere:

no Glue. Yeah, Play Doh, Glue.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm glad I'm an arts and crafts woman.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I'm a take up yoga or something. No no no.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. And she

Melissa Shere Beek:

calls me from the car and Remi and I are listening. She picks up and she goes, you know, this was just the most wonderful experience of my life. I am so zen. I get it now. I get how you're so calm.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's so wonderful. And then we hear, honk honk. Oh, yeah. Fuck you, Masshole. Move out of the way.

Melissa Shere Beek:

She's kind of normal. She is so zen. So yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

So I'm zen. You didn't come back from that trip really zen. You thought you were gonna say it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I know. Like, four days. Yeah. I feel like it was like It was very

Jessica Shere Coggins:

quickly ended. You were like, wow. I think I could do this from now on. Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It wouldn't last on me either. Did not at all. It wouldn't last. Okay. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Of course not.

Melissa Shere Beek:

No. On bodily functions there are none. Oh, never fart. No farting. Never fart.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Nobody has farted.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

She's never farted or picked her nose

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No, for her entire don't. Mom, you all explode.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

When you hold it in and you feel that pressure, what do you do?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I don't have it.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It never happens. I don't have it. Oh wow. That's amazing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

If I have to go to

Ruth Garber Shere:

the bathroom, I go to the bathroom, but I don't have, I've never had gas.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. I'm sure you have.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Just can don't tell the story. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Don't know

Jessica Shere Coggins:

if we're allowed to say that on air. No. Yes, you can tell that story.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Absolutely not or I would totally pull my mic off.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Hey, hey, are you threatening? Throw your threatening. I can't come to a stop with. But the, okay, we won't tell that story, but there is another story where, well,

Melissa Shere Beek:

first before I tell another story, do you all have any one liners that you remember that mom has?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Not just the finger.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh yeah, the fingers and everything. That was like Yeah, your finger in Oh there

Jessica Shere Coggins:

was not a one liner but I remember she used to tell me

Jessica Shere Coggins:

After this, I'm gonna get home and think of all of them. Sorry. That we couldn't fill up

Jessica Shere Coggins:

our cars with gas. Like, were never allowed.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She wanted the message to it like this. Didn't like that. Well, daddy tells me that they never ATM or get cash or Actually Mason

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

took Bria’s car yesterday to fill up with me. Right. So it reminded

Ruth Garber Shere:

me of Yeah. What Daddy

Ruth Garber Shere:

always told me. Yeah. Was low on gas

Melissa Shere Beek:

driving home park pool. What he thinks. You were

Ruth Garber Shere:

low on gas.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You just say you were low on gas? Oh, How many times have you like gotten like

Jessica Shere Coggins:

out out? Like good four or five.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So I thought that the first time you would have said.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No, no, Oh, did it really bad a year a year ago.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. When she was on highway. That was was so shit. Yes, that's did it 08/26. 838 ended up in

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

a little triangle. You know where everyone's whizzing? Thank God there was one.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

My car was locked and stopped. I could not move. Westbound. Oh, Always wanna get to half of a day. I can't

Jessica Shere Coggins:

drive up. This was scary.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Car was lying to me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

This was scary. Oh, Your car was lying

Melissa Shere Beek:

to me. Okay. This is another reason. Oh, the fire hydrant hit me? Right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The fire hydrant jumped out and hit you. Car lied

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm lost to name.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The best the best story is when she pulls out of the car dealership and she takes like a side of the of the She says

Jessica Shere Coggins:

she doesn't lie but she white lies. No I didn't lie

Ruth Garber Shere:

just in paying

Ruth Garber Shere:

attention to her.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm paying attention

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to She

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

thinks she's like this tiny little girl that hides. I love it. Nobody sees her.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Ahma, did I leave any rules out? There's so many and I can't think of I know, there's something for everything.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Definitely it was the greeting, like

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you can't open up the door for your date. Oh yeah. Mean, we all started having an Arnold's Burger King growing up. Because you don't have sugar cereal.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And I had Diet Coke. I could never

Jessica Shere Coggins:

have No.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. No.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Had we had we Cheerios. We're those great nuts. Great. And but

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I put a ton of sugar.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I would get like a bowl of fruit.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And then with my rice krispies.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I was like

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I do a lot of sugar. Cheerios corn. My

Melissa Shere Beek:

I Grew Up honeycomb, apple Jacks cereal.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No. Only my grape nuts. Only my Oh,

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it with every cereal. No.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I had sugar cereal. The only one time she tried to do something new with me is when read that liver and onions was really great. And so she made a plate of liver and onions and I could not eat it. And sun had long gone down, it was like 10:00 and I kept like trying to feed the dog.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Wait, we have so many rules.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

We all had to sit at

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the table at night and eat dinner. Was lovely.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But that was a good one. That was a Well, a lot of them were good. We had dinner together every single night.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

We had threw out our vegetables. Yes.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Always try And then actually I didn't want

Ruth Garber Shere:

you to eat like I ate. So that's why I made those full meals.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Which is really funny because I don't think.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No, I wish I could do that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And you know your father?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Our schedules weren't as crazy as our kids' schedules Yeah. I'm going say that too. At that time, we were home running around on the Right. Couldn't have dinner together. There were no after school activities.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Like basketball starts at seven. That didn't Right. Right. No. Because when we played basketball, we cheerlead for the basketball or the football teams.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Was right after school. So then we would at least have dinner later. So you could have that dinner rule. Mean, I think hard to implement nowadays. I think it is, but.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It was really nice.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I do too. So the one rule that I think is super super silly Ma, is that you never admit your age. I really think that you should be proud and own it. Okay. You keep getting so much younger each year that you've now just

Jessica Shere Coggins:

My owned friends keep on asking

Jessica Shere Coggins:

how much she

Jessica Shere Coggins:

is and I say she's permanently 75.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah, but she Permanently.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But at this point she's getting so much younger that she's disowned me. Well, me. No, you've disowned me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No, I'm a

Ruth Garber Shere:

teenage bride. Do you have

Melissa Shere Beek:

any rules that you think are silly, Ruthie rules that you think?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I appreciate them more probably now.

Melissa Shere Beek:

As a mom? Yeah. Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You mean, do I have any rules in my house?

Melissa Shere Beek:

No, any of her rules that you thought were totally silly.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I probably wish I implemented more. And Ma, do you do you have any rules you decided are no longer necessary? No, because I believe Well, you're better with that, I think. That

Jessica Shere Coggins:

one She can't

Jessica Shere Coggins:

be homeless anymore.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But on the rules that I feel are tantamount to me. If you bend so much you'll break. Got it. So, that's why I always thought my rules were important. There were things that I listened.

Ruth Garber Shere:

There were certain rules that I had and I knew you were going to lie which is the worst thing. But I also knew you were going to screw up in school or you're going to experiment with drugs or smoke grass. You know have weed or do things that I didn't want you to do earlier sexually than I thought was important. And those were the things I could bend on. My important rules I knew that I could not bend I would break.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I think your value. I think who you are

Ruth Garber Shere:

is what you've implemented the most. Yeah your morals and Why I think you all three of you have

Ruth Garber Shere:

excellent And think that that my kids have. I've made sure that

Ruth Garber Shere:

they Excellent values.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

They I know that they can be the biggest bitches in my house but the moment they walk away and they're kind I

Melissa Shere Beek:

know I've done something right. Well what I was gonna ask you like what rules do

Ruth Garber Shere:

you have for

Jessica Shere Coggins:

your Yeah, that there's respect I find myself like more and more making sure I say thank you like somebody hoping open the door. Kind of One of my biggest pet peeves is somebody you open the door for them and they don't say thank you but I you know

Ruth Garber Shere:

I usually say like you're welcome.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Had there was a gift that was ordered for for one of my kids and I went to go pick it up today and she lost it and I was like, I can't really be mad like

Ruth Garber Shere:

No that happens.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm like it's okay and she kept apologizing and I was like, you know I feel like being empathetic. Enjoying my kids what empathy is. Things And

Melissa Shere Beek:

know That's good.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Being respectful. Be like that.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah I was like that.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I can't

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's It's thing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It's thing it's That's worst piece.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That's the

Ruth Garber Shere:

one thing I did learn from And then Nanny she called me and she actually get another somebody else in that and the jewelers had it. But it's

Ruth Garber Shere:

a thing. Nanny Rose that was one of the things that she taught me. Right. It's only a thing. Right.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What's important is us and the family and caring, helping the world. I just want make

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

sure my kids go out there and they're respectful. And

Ruth Garber Shere:

they do. You. Your kids

Ruth Garber Shere:

Hello. Do Goodbye.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And your kids do too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I live by the rule of gratitude and kindness. Always gratitude and kindness.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I think all three of you have raised

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And I hope my kids listen to me when I do it in front of them.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's what Oh I they do. You're wonderful examples for all of them. I have to say I love you three more than anything in the world and those eight children are I don't know I am just so proud of them as human beings who are empathetic who are kind who are caring who are loving And when I see them all together it's like when we were there Thanksgiving every single one of them like said to me or texted me or called me and said this is the best time we've ever had. We had a call together. Was every one of them came back to me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It was one of the We were going try to at

Ruth Garber Shere:

my house but it wasn't going to be the same and I just wanted to leave it like the way that they left it on those couches

Melissa Shere Beek:

It because that was nice.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

We stayed there super late. Had of fun. We

Ruth Garber Shere:

hours. Then in a long Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Long Right.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And they're all a little older now. Right. So it's different. So they're

Melissa Shere Beek:

kind the same. They're the same. There's not a baby anymore. Well. Meyer still a baby.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So, most importantly I wanted to ask what we've each learned from the other. So, Ma, what have you learned from the three of us? Sam, what have you learned from Ma, Jess and me? Jess, what have you learned from Sam and I?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Why don't you go first? I'll go

Jessica Shere Coggins:

first. Go first. I will say I've learned support and love and care.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Aw, that sounds great.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah, know it's super important. When shit Yeah.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

When stuff goes down We've heard

Jessica Shere Coggins:

worse. You guys rally. Like you rally and you rally hard. We It's amazing. It's amazing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

We're all mama bears.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And it ebbs and it flows and it just goes like when it just works. It works.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It works very well. Got your back. It works very well.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

It's very nice to have that. So, think I think think know I mean that's just generalizing.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Right. There's a lot more behind. Okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Think that's what I learned. What? That all three of you were like glued to my side through everything. With daddy or With daddy with yes so supportive so caring and so

Melissa Shere Beek:

Our father was very sick so it's like seventeen years of.

Ruth Garber Shere:

A roller coaster.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well I think what I learned from you mom is never take no for an answer.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Is See I missed that part with you daddy.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Like I gotta say those years I wasn't here.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You were

Ruth Garber Shere:

in college and you were in New York. Right.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

So that part I kind of missed It a lot

Melissa Shere Beek:

was Which was probably better for me.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah. I changed my well because of it. Like never take no for an answer.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Like I just Mhmm.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I will never if if someone I think as tough as you are. I think the one thing you never took no for an answer. Any doctor that's a nerdy

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That is very true. You went to another

Jessica Shere Coggins:

And I don't think that works for everybody. Don't know

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you have to personally in the mindset.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

But you just never took. Well I can't remember. As we say stubborn. You were stubborn and you never took no. I don't know if it's something you just didn't believe in for dad or that's how you truly truly are.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I think Yeah

Ruth Garber Shere:

no I don't take no.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I I know I think you have to You can never give up. Have to just keep going.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But daddy It's kind of like Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

So, I know you don't want to get into this, but I think about the people who who were in the holocaust and what they went through and how they survived.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Mom.

Ruth Garber Shere:

The most terrible things but if they could go through that then I could go through anything I think it's very So that's

Melissa Shere Beek:

what I learned from you. I learned strength and resilience.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. From you, I learned strength and resilience. And from Sam and Jess,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I We didn't have this question before to think about it, just FYI.

Melissa Shere Beek:

None of these questions Before to think about But I thought about it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But what

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I learned from the two of you, I haven't said that.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Do you want to go ahead? I know.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well for Sissie I feel like she's always been the eldest. So it's like she was always like respect. To be respect Jessica, is kids gloves like I have to like not repeat myself and I don't mind but I feel like over like recently I feel I like I love explaining things to her like I feel like you need And you can

Jessica Shere Coggins:

go for it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And and I like she's the baby. So I feel like I'm definitely smack in the middle where I've got older sister and young. But I will say what I do love about this and sorry mom is that you know, I know there was a little rift the other day with one kid and we get a text message like, heads up, mom's on the roll.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

We got we got prewarned. Yeah we got prewarned.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

You know, like you may be next. And I love

Ruth Garber Shere:

that. I don't know when this

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

happens. I love I love this relationship that we have.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It's funny about the sisterhood that we have.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

We do.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yes. And I don't know when I was on the warpath last.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

A couple days ago. It's tricky anytime you're on the warpath. I mean, it's we give each other a heads up. Yeah. The whole point is we just give them one We

Ruth Garber Shere:

just walk down the hall and I would hear

Ruth Garber Shere:

Because The doors, you're hard. Because you're here. You didn't find it. I was

Melissa Shere Beek:

looking for a fight.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yes. We have. We submitted that. I know. As you heard it here first.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. Really? We were wearing a Maraboo slipper.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Wait. You really like that?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. She still She still is.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. But do you like you know that you do that? Or is it just the energy that needs

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

to get out? She said, mhmm. Under her breath.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Like you purposely know you're going to Yeah. Take a

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, that's terrible mom.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay Jess, what did you Why do you

Ruth Garber Shere:

think I yelled at daddy?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Okay. Could never get a rise out

Ruth Garber Shere:

of him. Did that already. She was the first to go.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. I said I didn't

Jessica Shere Coggins:

realize it. You didn't realize it.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. So for Sam and Jess, I was profoundly affected by your birth. So when Sam was born, I was almost seven and I learned all about mothering you. Feeding you, reading to you, teaching you. You were really like my first baby.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You were six and a

Ruth Garber Shere:

half. Exactly.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yes, I know that. I said four Oh wait, wait, but couple

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

of days.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

There was three days difference. Yeah, was almost seven. I get really Oh I'm like, what are you talking about? Okay. She's the

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

twenty first, I'm the twenty fifth, so four days.

Melissa Shere Beek:

But you were my first baby. So I learned all about mothering from you and from the nanny that mom hired because

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Funny she had I learned something everything about being a mother to your daughter.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Really? That's so funny.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That's really funny. I've never like we've never discussed this really.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And then and then Jess when mom was pregnant with you, I learned to do what I call Gd talk. Because, and I still do GD talk like every day, all day, all the time. Because mom was very sick with you when she was pregnant with you. We weren't sure like, if And you all were gonna be I was 10 at the time, ten and two weeks, if you wanna be specific, Ma. And I very distinctly remember starting God talk as a child then.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And at night I would thank Gd and I would ask him to protect you and to pray for your health and your well-being. And to this day, I wake up with gratitude, thanking Gd. At night, I pray to Gd and I talk and I talk all day through about everything in details and in specifics, but prayer for healing for all of those that are sick and praying for humanity. But I remember very specifically when you were taught, when, before you were born, that's when I started GD talk. Mean, that's what I say but that's how I was profoundly affected by So both of from Sam, learned how to be a mommy.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And from Jess, I learned more about getting in touch with, you know, Gd and spiritualness. Yeah. So I

Ruth Garber Shere:

was really I do Gd talk every day.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I was really affected by both

Ruth Garber Shere:

of Oh, wow. Sometimes at night it goes so long, I fall asleep and then I wake up and I go, my God, have to finish.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. All my prayers. Yeah. Okay. Anything else we left out, ladies?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

No quickie questions?

Melissa Shere Beek:

I am getting to That

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, I have to use the ladies room really quickly.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Am I allowed to?

Ruth Garber Shere:

No. We're all just so good. They're very quick. Look at that face. Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Most embarrassing moment growing up.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh, wait I didn't want

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

me to go there? Go there, I know it.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Oh no, I'm afraid. Oh, you know it too. I mean I had a friend over. Were watching. Oh that wasn't good enough.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I'm talking about you embarrassing I'm giving out information. I'm talking about you and the kid That's not on embarrassing me, I didn't give a shit about that. I'm talking about what you did that embarrassed me. Okay. Was it you?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah it was all about. Yeah. But Samantha's gonna speak for us.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Well, I was watching TV with a friend of the Oh couch jeez in the you're not famous.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Am I going there? I'm going there people.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I think we've already brought this up.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

The TV was a great movie eventually.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Was a great movie I was watching because back in those days, was VHS and you just recorded off the TV and all of a sudden

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, no. She's going somewhere I told you. She's going there.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's a two in one story.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh, shit.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And the TV went the TV went to snow.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's the night It was safe.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I see is Well, don't stop.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I thought you were going there. I thought you were gonna map me oh, there you go somewhere. I'm not allowed to say it now. The next thing I know I said to you is my mother comes running out, puts her hands in front of the TV to block whatever we are watching. Today.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And she was naked. And didn't know anybody was sitting

Ruth Garber Shere:

on I was ahead Kim Kardashian.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Mom. Okay. Well, Kardashian.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

It's huge love. Doesn't say anybody loves it. Okay. So basically my mother comes out with a friend next to me on the couch .

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She didn't notice the friend. She didn't know the friend was there. We didn't even a warning. She let him No, no. I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

think my most embarrassing might have been throwing

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No, up at no, that no.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Have to, I have

Ruth Garber Shere:

to Wait, test I got.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I have to preface this by saying Yes,

Ruth Garber Shere:

said over. One second. Sorry.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I did not know anyone was there. Yeah. And I came out of the bedroom which I came up the two steps.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But you always wear these silky loose robes too.

Melissa Shere Beek:

That whoopsie fall open.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

That don't

Ruth Garber Shere:

look No. But this time I did not have on a

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah, we know that. But she's still wearing

Melissa Shere Beek:

those Maribou heels.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm still wearing the Maribou heels. On the right side is the playroom. Mhmm.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We know.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I know that was somebody else in the room. Yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

That's true. You should say that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I went, ah. And the kid went, ah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Jess, most embarrassing moment growing up.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, don't know, I have to think about it. Okay. I don't have one off the top of my head. Okay, mine was too There's many many.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Because there were Why, bowls beyond in embarrassing moment?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I mean the

Jessica Shere Coggins:

most recent one I can

Jessica Shere Coggins:

think of, no. Maybe when

Ruth Garber Shere:

you puked in car in the cabin?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I guess puking because my other Mercy Moon is

Jessica Shere Coggins:

where I puked

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the other time at

Jessica Shere Coggins:

the place that I was at.

Ruth Garber Shere:

What about when you were in the airplane and you stood up

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to I the puked everywhere.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I threw up.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. It just goes. Favorite journey?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh geez. Oh, that's a good one.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm gonna tell you mine, but I don't remember it very well.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Okay. It's Colorado when I was young.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh,

Jessica Shere Coggins:

nice. I remember the smell. Uh-huh. I remember the brown staircase. Remember sleeping With

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the cones?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Throwing something up and down the stairs.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yes. I do. Remember it certain points in that trip very clearly.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I rented a two

Ruth Garber Shere:

story I town remember that.

Ruth Garber Shere:

I remember because the stairs was

Jessica Shere Coggins:

right And down and the door there were holes in between the like little pockets. I do remember that very.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Mean there's

Ruth Garber Shere:

been a

Jessica Shere Coggins:

lot of amazing trips since then but for some reason that one. And I was very little.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Sam favorite journey?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I mean I feel like this my favorite place I visit but besides Venice I absolutely love Venice. For some of them was Prague but like you took us there.

Ruth Garber Shere:

You thought you had lived in Venice in another life.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I love Venice. There's no, and Pompeii. And I've got a lot of journeys. But in terms of, I also think when we when we did Paws Up.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I do

Jessica Shere Coggins:

like Paws

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Up too.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

We wore our wore our Hanukkah shirts and she had a whole photo session.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Had a crazy Kardashian photo too.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Was kind of fun too.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I have very good memories from Paws Up too.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh yeah you and that. Well besides the first day.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I get to my Nobody talks to you on the first day of any trip so that's okay.

Ruth Garber Shere:

My

Ruth Garber Shere:

favorite journey? This whole journey.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No just being with you guys. I don't care where I go as long as I have you.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

But do you not have, do you like is there a specific

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Maybe time that

Jessica Shere Coggins:

you Daddy, there's a story with Daddy when you traveled across California in his truck. Okay. No.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, Madonna Inn. That's

Ruth Garber Shere:

love what he was

Ruth Garber Shere:

Madonna Inn.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Daddy and I love Madonna Inn.

Melissa Shere Beek:

You were stoned out of your mind

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No, wasn't. No, no.

Melissa Shere Beek:

The first time they were stoned

Melissa Shere Beek:

out of their mind.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, went there before us?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah, that's why we had to go Back

Ruth Garber Shere:

From We were in the barrel room.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

What's the barrel room?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Barrels all night barrels on the walls and the bathroom

Jessica Shere Coggins:

What was the second room?

Ruth Garber Shere:

The second one was Chinese.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

China you meant. China.

Ruth Garber Shere:

It was all beautiful floral wallpaper and red lacquer furniture.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I didn't say when we went back there I slept in my clothes. It crazy. Jessica locked herself.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I didn't go to dinner. I

Melissa Shere Beek:

remember that. Oh, The caramels were so good. Were

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the best.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And you

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

know Mason, I went back a couple years ago.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah. No, you didn't have way. We didn't

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

stay there.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I feel like I'm gonna start to stay there now.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Wish if I could kick my wrist Okay.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Favorite journey is anywhere with my daughters. Okay. One Ruthie rule you still And live your sisters. Yeah.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I, the one rule is this. Is this The Ruthie Show? Can get your own podcast.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

My one rule still is don't lie. Because I think once you lie it just really

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

messes Always every single thing always important. Yeah you can handle the

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

truth. Had an

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

the other day with

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

my girls and I sat down and said listen it's just the truth is all I care about.

Melissa Shere Beek:

So is that the rule you live by too? Sure. Okay mom, what's your Ruthie rule you still live by? Yeah, yeah.

Ruth Garber Shere:

No lying. Like I can deal with anything just tell me what it

Ruth Garber Shere:

is Yeah and we'll work through

Melissa Shere Beek:

because once you lie then it's you always have to follow-up Yeah, lot of you have to remember a story. Okay. Who is your favorite matriarch? It could be real or fictional and why? Real or fictional?

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. It could be like one of your grandmother's great grandmother's great great grandmother's or it could be like a matriarch from history or from a book or

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I know you guys are gonna think I'm like really That's

Jessica Shere Coggins:

for saying it. But

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I'm gonna say mom. Yeah. Okay. Good.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Wonderful.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. And why?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't think I would

Jessica Shere Coggins:

be where I was today without like her and all you guys.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Aw. Thank you

Ruth Garber Shere:

Thank you. That's I'm gonna cry.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Besides you, I think I would say Nanny Rose.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Yeah.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She was spunk beyond spunk beyond I

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don’t remember her

Jessica Shere Coggins:

that much.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

She first of I had a major connection with her. Yeah. She loved my room. She would always store everything in my room.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh, that's right.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And she would accuse of stealing it but she just there I everybody stole remember she was tiny tiny ass lady who just had it all. Like there was just charisma of her. She can get on a dance floor and get to dance and everybody loved her. She could steal from the from the Mayor. The mayor and she wouldn't get in trouble.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

And she played it off and

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

That's how the just

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

you know, she lived day by day and she just loved life and there there's nobody like Nanny Rose. Yeah. Yeah, nobody Nobody.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And then Ana loved you.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Know Nanny but Nanny Rose was was always wondered how her hair went in that bun.

Ruth Garber Shere:

But maybe I pulled it off. It was down to her waist.

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

I know. But she washed

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

it with soap and And put put poncellar.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Cold cream on her face.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay. Who's yours Ma?

Ruth Garber Shere:

I'm impressed by all three of you.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No no no but you have to pick someone.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

You meet a lot too Ma.

Ruth Garber Shere:

A matriarch would be Nanny Roser Baba. Mhmm. Or go someone like Golda Meir. She became a prime minister and she ruled the country and she took it through a war and she helped to get established and settled and

Melissa Shere Beek:

Okay good.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Didn't screw around with her.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Mine was Nana Rose too because she was resilient. She had a really really really hard life. I already said that she came over here on a boat when she was 11. But she was so strong and so brave to do the things that she did. And no matter the hardships that she suffered and the heartache and the homelessness, and she persevered.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And she took great pride and love in her family, which was the most important thing in the world to her. I had her with me till I was 25. She made a huge impression on my life.

Ruth Garber Shere:

And she stayed with me.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah. She was

Ruth Garber Shere:

with So she with you all.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

I don't remember. Well, when

Melissa Shere Beek:

Before you guys came around and I would spend weekends with her and nanny poppy because you and daddy would travel or do whatever. She was like the greatest playmate. Sam said she was little. She wasn't even like four nine but as well when I was a kid I the think your TV would would Go off TV

Ruth Garber Shere:

tiny. She was tinier than Stella.

Melissa Shere Beek:

TV would go off and then it would go static after Yeah. There's certain time. After the anthem and everything like that. That was like when the show would go on right then because she would jump on the bed because we were in twin beds next to each other and then she'd start belting out songs performing.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She had,

Ruth Garber Shere:

she traveled all over the world. She was a fabulous singer. Yeah. She traveled to Europe, everywhere. She went to the White House, she just sang.

Ruth Garber Shere:

She just had the most beautiful voice.

Melissa Shere Beek:

And the last thing about her that I always on my dresser in the morning when I'm getting ready. She was a pretty ballsy person too. And she came back from Paris one time from singing and she had an ostrich feather that she wasn't supposed to have in a hat was And got off the plane. In LaGuardia. She got off the plane wearing it and I have a picture of her and she has her chin up with a big smile.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Oh And my she's wearing this fabulous hat with this ostrich feather just like I'm going to take life on my terms.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Yeah it was as And well

Melissa Shere Beek:

I love that. And yeah she wasn't allowed but she was doing life

Melissa Shere Beek:

Yeah on her own terms

Melissa Shere Beek:

good for her.

Ruth Garber Shere:

My mother

Ruth Garber Shere:

went crazy because we were waiting for her and you saw them then you came down the stairs. Didn't.

Melissa Shere Beek:

It was like you didn't what pictures you were talking Yeah, she didn't

Ruth Garber Shere:

in my house. People get dressed to go on airplanes.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Well, we used to. That's the whole thing.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

They want people now

Jessica Shere Coggins:

to get dressed back up.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Those are the quickie questions. Those are

Ruth Garber Shere:

quickie questions.

Melissa Shere Beek:

Very I added everything I could.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Is there anything we missed mom?

Samantha Shere Sharpe:

Is there anything that we've done that we that you would have been like, oh I would have done it differently.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Oh gd yes. With us?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Well maybe not you. Yeah. Yeah but we live and we learn. Think I think what happened to you made you so much stronger.

Jessica Shere Coggins:

Yeah. Oh yeah. I I think it changed me in a lot of ways.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh for sure.

Melissa Shere Beek:

I think all of our experiences are learning. Oh I totally do. I think everything's meant to happen some form or another. It Is may happen

Ruth Garber Shere:

there anything you all would change about me?

Jessica Shere Coggins:

No, but I do have a question. What rule would you give all of us that you would like us to fall that we don't do?

Ruth Garber Shere:

Oh, no but you do do it. Just stick together. When I go, I want to know that all of you

Melissa Shere Beek:

We stick together.

Ruth Garber Shere:

Stay together, love each other, and take care of each other.

Melissa Shere Beek:

We go together. Okay. To our listeners, thank you so much. Grateful you are here. Keep listening.

Melissa Shere Beek:

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Melissa Shere Beek:

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Melissa Shere Beek:

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Ruth Garber Shere:

Thank you.