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You may think you're wise, but you're actually not that wise. In all honesty, these men don't exactly know what mental health is. They don't know what mental health is because they do a lot of things to their minds up. If their guy is doing something that is stupid, yeah, they're not even going to give him the If they see their guy crying, they're going to curse him out. Why they cry like that? Why they this like that? They do it. You don't even hug your guy because that is going to be gay. They're the ones who do ritual. They're the ones who do all of these things. Every single thing they experience, they actually put themsel through it. They are overly masculine because they want to. It's not because of a woman did it. It's not be necessarily because of society because in the society, it's the same men who are making them do these things. Men need to calm the down. A lot of men feel like their ego gets bruised when I'm able to point out things that they are unable to see or they couldn't see. You have done something that is so bad, something that I have that I have had to go through my own heart and my own pain personally just for your own personal gain. Then you expect that tomorrow when I see you, I'm still going to have the same energy that I had prior to when you with me. We're going to talk about wisdom as a blessing and a curse. Hey guys, it's just my POV and if you missed last week, you missed a whole lot. We were talking about the LGBTQ plus community, when to transition, what it simply means, and how they are being perceived in the society. Yeah. And to the DL men in the comments that are coming at us, we see you. You're equally heard, you know. Right. All right. So, we're going to branch into what we have to talk about today. So, yeah. So, I was I was thinking because you know what we're going to talk about wisdom as a blessing and a curse. Okay. Right. Yeah. So, what I'm talking about in essence is like how wisdom has a way of it has its advantages, right? It has its advantages. You're able to see certain things. You're able to see things that people don't even expect you to see. You're able to read between lines and at the same time in as much as it comes with like all of these benefits. There are down sides of it like you're mostly single like by yourself. When I say single like you have no friends, no. You understand what I mean? Why do I feel attacked? It would be no no I know that you'll be able to understand it very well because it's actually your reality. See you know what I'm saying? you know where you know I'm not saying that you know everything but you know most things you know and as somebody who knows all of these things you you can't unsee certain things some funny or shitty behaviors that people dish out so many unsaid words you're able to dissect all of these informations and you're like I beg this this is what it is and you know since you know these things you cannot be following a friendship a relationship that you know last lass you know follow I don't know if you understand what I mean yeah so what's the question what do you have to say about it generally oh generally just okay so the thing is being wise is relative you may think you're wise but you're actually not that wise first of all it's very relative secondly okay I just needed to put that out there secondly um Being intuitive is then maybe what I think you're trying to say in terms of you can already tell when people have you know like bad intentions or when people don't really feel you or when they are planning something against year all that that's now that's the part that really causes you to be alone and it's not because you can't be patient enough but it just feels like a little bit of self- betrayal knowing these things and then acting out or just pretending to be happy or be pleasant with somebody that you already know, you know, doesn't really like you or doesn't have like good intentions for you. Now, when you're caught in these places, what happens is you're caught between just living life and just going with the flow Yeah. or going with what you know and being careful. Often times you find yourself trying to go with the flow when you're much younger because you're trying to gather friends. you're still trying to have people around you. You don't want to be like the weird one or the one that you know is just so uptight. So, you'll be trying to please people. You be a people pleaser. But then when you grow older like me now who already is very sure and confident in herself, you now realize that there's no point trying to please anybody or trying to tone it down for anybody or trying to just go with the flow because people are not going with the flow. They too are trying to, you know, play smart. They too are trying to The most unfortunate part of it is when it comes to relationships, friendships and relationships like your spouse because especially because I'm a babe now. A lot of men feel like their ego gets bruised when I'm able to point out things that they are unable to see or even when you're not being disrespected. Even when I'm not being even when it's not intentional. Even when I just randomly just say, "Oh, but you know that this is they kind of get upset that why didn't they know that first?" But one thing is for sure. Men and women are built differently. Well, while men have like the physical strengths, women have intuitive, emotional type of strength. So all those things that they're unable to see, I can see. And that's why God created man and woman to create a balance for physical strength and those intuitive strengths as well. But unfortunately, the men want to have all the strengths. They want to be embody all the strength but you can't have all the strength. It's like I can never try to drag with a man that I'm stronger it be to be able to lift something. I'm not trying to be that. I'm just trying to be me in that other part. So yeah, it really does put us in a very tough situation even with your friends when your friends lie to you and you know that this thing is a lie. Yeah, a lot of times I know I pretend a lot to know and it stresses me out to have to pretend, but I just kind of need to do it because if I don't it'll be like you're doing too much. Who asked you though? Nobody asked you. Yeah. So, you now find yourself in all that. It's I feel like people who are wise, why wisdom on its own is a blessing and is a blessing and it comes from God. believe me because we're not even wise because we want to be wise. It's just in us like it's just in you to be wise. So you and in your process of leaving as you grow you expand in this knowledge you know you expand in this knowledge and for some people you know so many things at such an early stage and it deprivives you from enjoying so many things in life because people people think that at this stage in your life you're supposed to be all bubbly going to parties enjoying having the time of your life and then you're really not doing it and this is not because of you don't think it's fun to do it. It's just that you think you've had the most fun. You're learning from other people who are ahead of you. You know that I beg last all of these things, you know. So, it's a cost. It's a cause because it's a cause also because in as much as sometimes you might want to move with the flow you see inside your heart you know is very bad and it's really a cause when it comes to your involvement with people because most people in the world are not even good they are not even kind at heart so so when you are now mixing with them you're looking at this weirdo who has not exactly done anything wrong to you, but you know what they're about to do to you. I mean, you might have had past experiences with other people and this is just the usual boring pattern that they used to, you know, follow up the whole thing and because you know that at the end of the day, this is how it go. You just relax. It's a little bit of a but but it's good to know. But yeah. Yeah, it's really good. Being smart or like intuitive or wise is a very very good thing. It's a big plus. I'm one of those people who are like it's better for you to be wise than for you to be foolish. However, however, back to the fact that I said being wise is relative. Yeah. Now, in a world like Nigeria, in this country, yeah, I'm sorry. You people can take it pee, but that's your problem. In fact, I'm actually not sorry. Hit it on the head. There are a lot of foolish people in this country. Yes. Take it or leave it. It's your that's your problem. I'm not even sorry about it. Fact. There are a lot of foolish people and because there are a lot of foolish people a wise person is seen as an outcast like you are not seen as wise at at that moment because the majority believes that oh this foolishness is this wisdom no matter what you say you don't seem wise. You actually seem weird or too uptight and all those type of things. But then now this now brings me to the next question because a lot of foolish people are very manipulative and tell me now now and I'm not really saying foolish in the sense of of dons don't yeah they are not dons not dons they are selectively they mediocre yeah they are mediocre and then they choose what they want to be smart about what they don't want to be smart about those people I think those people are very manipulative. Okay? And it's very unfortunate that what they do is they trigger you. They come to you, they pick on things that will get you upset. Like like for instance, you go out and you have a very good composure. People see that you have a very good composure and you carry yourself well. A nuisance will want to come and just stress you out just so that you will lose composure. Somebody will come and step on you just so you will say come just to watch you react and then the others will be like I told you she's not even oh that one that she's doing like this she's not like that she's very mean and whatnot and you know they just continue keep you know to keep triggering you and triggering you now it's unfortunate but I need to ask for you guys and for you don't you think that is quite manipulative that your angry side when you react to a situation is seen as the real you. That that is a very annoying line. Why do people want to want to discard every single time you were patient, you were understanding, you tried to put yourself together, everything nice you ever did in your life, no one sees that as something. The second you cannot deal anymore, that's the second that they like, I real I all this while she was pretending. Why do you why don't you think all the while she she held herself together that was the true heart. Then why don't you see that all the time that was nice that was accommodating you that I was cracking people like to force people like people force people to be evil. People force it on people. People would rather accept that you are a bad person. And it's bad that even friends when they hear a weird story about you, they want to sit on the fact that you are you are bad. Yeah. And then they will sit down and now say even that other day, which other day which other day that you didn't talk about today you want to talk about it. Like it's just so manipulative that we live in a world where where like three people or five people agree and say, "Oh, that's how that that's that person's nature." Everybody's like, "Oh, yeah." And then going forward, there are even some people who don't even come to you to even figure out if you're really like that. Because people who even before someone crashes out, believe me, you did something. That's a reaction to to something to an action. You had done something. So if you got if you got them flowers, were they going to like fling it on the floor and like stamp on it? No, they weren't going to do that. So why don't you look at what you even did? you're looking at. No, that's that's the manipulative part of it where they just want to capitalize on your reaction to an action and that's why it's very manipulative and that's why I'm like it's a majority type of thing. So once a group of people have decided that oh I want to make this person look this type of way because I've gone out in public spaces where I'm just maybe I've said hi to a lot of people. I've seen the countenance. That's that intuition that I was talking about. I've seen the account and I already know this [ __ ] is just being a hater. But I'm just quiet and then I go and then I sit somewhere. Then you now find one other news and now come and then just trigger you or say something stupid in front of you. And then when you're like you now see them do what? All the while I smiled and I'll say hey I can see there's also something I know and it's weird. There's also something I I figured out that happens a lot and this is related to masculinity and femininity and wisdom, right? Why do people why would men generally just rather sit on the fact that they would prefer women who are not wise and relate lack of wisdom wisdom to femininity. I don't know if you understand what I mean. Yes, I do. Like the moment you speak up, you're masculine. The moment you have an opinion, you're masculine. The moment it looks like that thing they trying to do to you, you can and you're not going to let it slide. So are you trying to say that femininity is stupid stupidity, voicelessness or what exactly? Like don't even call me a feminist for saying this because it's not about that and you know exactly what I'm talking about. It just doesn't make any sense that you would rather because even in the comment section right people this I'm not trying to hate men but understand that even in comment sections yeah the moment one yeah I can't really hate myself think about it the moment one dumb guy talks it's like these men are always quiet the moment one nuisance says something that gives room for for the rest of those ones like they're not even trying to watch the video to know anything or thought process it or come up with a comment that comes directly from their head. No, they are settling for that dimwit who has said one thing in the comments. You know why? They just automatically think that one is intelligent. So that one has thought for all of them and the rest of them just go like this. Yeah. Because that one was bold enough because that one was bold enough to say it. So in their mind if they are confident or bold enough to say it is because you are really really wise. Really wise. One thing I need to just point out is femininity is so far away from stupidity. Yeah. Actually femininity is very intellectual. And I know that you and I know that you people always get angry every time you and you know that is a fact and they will say feminist women feminist. Don't mind them. It's a fact and they know it and that's why they are trying to force us to believe that being feminine is being stupid because they don't want you to harness that intellect and intelligence that God has already put in you. But then the truth is you cannot remove it. You can't remove it's like you cannot remove your strength your physical strength that God has put. You can't remove the sense inside a woman. If you listen to these online coaches that teach women how to thrive in their femininity and all of it, they they try their best to silence you. They say things like, "Oh, no. Don't say this. Don't do that. Talk in this way. Act in this way." However, however, that makes sense when they say talk and act in this way. So, the thing is Yeah. So, that was really sweet. So the thing is you can still say exactly what you want to say but you don't have to be aggressive with it. You should be able to express yourself regardless say I don't really think that I get myself deliberately to the an aggressive state. I'm usually yeah I'm usually just saying exactly what I have to say because I'm sure of what you know I'm saying and I already believe that I have all the power within me. Mind you this fellow you're looking at she don't drag with child. No, I don't you stress high your blonde like if you can't handle my intellectual like the things I talk about then we're not supposed to be connecting me too. I wouldn't be able to handle you know your own exes as well. So it's fine. I don't stress. I don't fight. I don't quarrel. If you stress me out you're gone. If you're nice to me you're here. I will always try to be nice and give you your respect regardless. If you're looking for a slave not here. Sorry. these days just relate. Yeah. Also these days the way we want to be more accepting to men who like show people their emotions. We talk about men allowing them to cry, allowing them to express themselves. You should also give women the grace. Yeah. So the thing is give them the grace because before they will shout at you, you must have [ __ ] with their mentor. No, but they know. They just do it intentionally. They want to make you feel like lesser than women. They just want to drive you. No, they just want to drive your sister crazy because they want to say because you just want to say girls are crazy or women are crazy. Babe, she too masculine. I don't like masculine [ __ ] I beg a woman speaking up and just telling you this not what I like or this what I like is not masculine. It's simply you expressing yourself as a human being. It has nothing to do with masculine or feminine. just speaking up is just you representing yourself as a being that go and I feel like people's expression is very fluid. Yeah. Influenced by your emotions. You should be able to feel whatever you feel. If you're if you feel vulnerable, express it. If you feel like you want to hold yourself, express it. Express it. If you don't want women to be able to come out and speak up, then don't come one day and talk about um mental health for men. Don't talk about mental health for men. Mind you, I was I came across a post of a man who talked about like the mental health for men. I think that was in June. He said that um um people should allow men express themselves them when they cry. Um nobody should say certain things about them. Men pay so many bills. Men do all of these things. and this is a month that people should take out to observe the mental health of men. And when I saw that, in as much as he was making so much sense, it left me wondering because in all honesty, these men don't exactly know what mental health is. But he's he's being honest. Now, understand me when I say they don't know what mental health is. They don't know what mental health is because they do a lot of things to [ __ ] their minds up. They are the reason. Yeah. For example, they do not if their guy is doing something that is stupid. Yeah. They're not even going to give him the If they see their guy crying, they're going to cuss him out. Why they cry like that? Why they this like that? They do it. They set unrealistic financial standards for themselves. They're the ones who do ritual. They're the ones who do all of these things. Every single thing they experience, they actually put themselves through it. They are overly masculine because they want to. It's not because of a woman did it. It's not be necessarily because of society because in the society it's the same men who are making them do these things. Men need to calm the [ __ ] down because I can't understand how you don't even hug your guy because that is going to be gay, right? You don't express yourself in certain ways. You don't dance in certain places. You don't talk in a certain way. You can't laugh in a certain way. You cannot do anything. You live a robotic life because you want to be a masculine man, right? And then you talk about mental health. You are living in a cage you put yourself in. Well, truth be told, truth be told, I agree to an extent because I mean these laws were already put there by men. They were already set up by men to favor them and then to teach them how to be those type of men. However, in this generation as we're growing decade after decade, people are getting more enlightened, we're having social media, we're having the internet, you know, so we're realizing that, oh, these things really do matter. Hence the reason probably the man was saying that oh that let them talk about men's mental health. However, I also agree with you with the idea where you say that they themselves all already like they put themselves in these cages because they created these standards that are very unrealistic for themselves. Now, the downside of it is while a woman is still leaning into her emotions and regardless of what the society may say or require her to do, her emotions are just her emotions and she it's not something she can control. So, she naturally will still express them. But it also happens to the babes because the women too are still being judged for being too emotional based on those laws that were already put set up by themselves, you know. So the it goes for both parties. Yeah. The mental health issue, it goes for both parties, both male and female, the women are also being told, "Oh, even if we have monthly cramps every time for our period, which is such a big deal, and no guy is able to manage those cramps, but we are told to keep quiet, shut up. don't talk about it. Or even when we are sad and we want to cry, just close your mouth. Close your mouth. When you're ovelating or your emotions or you're even pregnant, still go to work. Go to work. Like they just still tell you, "Shut up. Shut up. Shut up and bottle it up."