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In this shiur, Rav Dov Ber Cohen opens up the song of Eishes Chayil as far more than a Friday night recitation. He teaches five layers of meaning within these twenty-two verses: a husband singing to h
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So we're speaking together and we're learning together on our joyous, conscious journey towards connection, healthy connection, relationship. As we said, בראשית ברא אלקים את השמים ואת הארץ, the whole purpose of creation is relationship. That's why we're here. We're here to have healthy relationships. Three relationships: between yourself, between others, and between you and Hashem. Not such a huge difference when you're Jewish because you're yourself is intimately, intrinsically connected to every other Jew and Hashem. So it's really having a relationship with yourself on three levels, a more expanded relationship with yourself. בין אדם לעצמו is I'm having a relationship with my neshama, I'm experiencing and revealing my neshama. בין אדם לחבירו is I'm experiencing myself as a people, as the Jewish people, as one super-consciousness. You can just leave him outside. Come, come back in, close the door. It'll be fine. Yeah, leave It'll be all right. Gosh. And then I expand in into God-consciousness, and and that's where my relationship with Hashem is. And we really said that the the tachlit, the whole purpose and the place where we have this relationship is Shabbat. Shabbat, Shabbat. Shabbat is called the day of relationship, יומא דנשמתא, the day of the soul. The individual soul, the soul of the Jewish people, and the infinite soul of all of creation, which is Hashem. יומא דנשמתא is the מקור הברכה. Everything starts with with with Shabbat, and everything finished with Shabbat. And we said that relationship is really based on presence, being really present. I'm deeply present with myself, I'm deeply present with my wife, I'm present with my children, I'm present with my students, I'm just deeply present. I'm present with the plumber, I'm present with the person who's shouting at me. That person who's shouting at me, I'm going to be present with them because that's what they need, you know? You shout back at someone who's shouting at you, that's not helping. I'm just going to be present with them. My kid who's having a tantrum, they're freaking out, I'm going to be present with them. They need me to be present. I don't I can't get sucked into their drama. Everyone's getting sucked into everyone else's drama and you've got your own drama to deal with, which is bad enough! So how are you going to deal with every You're having these relationships, I've got my own drama to deal with, and I can't deal with my drama and just sucked into everyone else's drama! We're meant to be doing the opposite. I'm so present within myself, I'm so in the space of neshama that I draw your drama and I transform it. I help it. I calm you. My my my essence is so calm and loving that you and all your drama becomes calm and loving in that space, and tapping into Hashem. And so that's what Shabbat is. We said that every day of the week has a partner: Sunday and Wednesday, Monday and Thursday, Tuesday and Friday, they're partners, and so Shabbat said to Hashem, \"Hey, dude, I don't have a partner.\" And Hashem says, \"Yes, you do, the Jewish people. The Jewish people.\" Shabbat and the Jewish people. There's no Jewish people without Shabbat, and there's no Shabbat without the Jewish people. This is it. This is what we're we're here. It's all about Shabbat, Shabbat. Someone said to me yesterday, \"Who did you vote for?\" I was like, \"Shabbat.\" \"I voted for Shabbat.\" And I like, no, really. My son it's a separate point, my son this morning, my 8-year-old son, he's like, \"Abba, who did you vote for?\" I'm not saying. Eventually, I said to him, \"I voted for Arnold Schwarzenegger.\" So I left cuz my wife said, \"You know what don't tell everyone whatever, it's a private thing.\" So on the הסעה to school, my son phoned me and said, \"Abba, who was it you voted for?\" And I was like Arnold Schwarzenegger, and he said, \"How do you say that in Hebrew?\" I was like, \"Arnold, Arnold Schwarzenegger.\" And he said to his little 8-year-old friend next to him, \"Arnold Schwarzenegger.\" My wife was killing herself laughing. I thought it was quite funny. Anyway, so relationship: Shabbat and the Jewish people, we're in a relationship. And the other Midrash we learnt was that everything, the whole of the universe is just like the wedding hall, and we're setting up the chuppah, and we're setting up the band, and we're setting up the seats, and we've got the food, and even the guests are there, but it's all waiting for the chatan and the kallah. What's the point of the whole of creation if you don't have the chatan and the kallah? So who is the chatan, chatan v'challah is is you and yourself, and you and the Jewish people, and you and Hashem, and and Shabbat and the Jewish people, and it's all about relationship. That's what we're trying to do: healthy people having healthy relationships. So we said the key to that, what's the key to being a healthy person? Breathing through your nose. Breathing through I have to say that at least eight times in each class, so. But breathing through your nose, why does that work? Cuz all four levels of you: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual are connected through breath. Breathing deeply through your nose is very physically good for you. very emotionally good for you, settles your system, very mentally good for you, focuses your mind, and is very spiritually good for you, connects you to your neshama. So it's called יומא דנשמתא, the day of the neshama, it really means the day of the neshimah as well, the breath. So we're meant to be breathing deeper on Shabbat. Shabbat you're meant to be breathing deeper, and hopefully you can, because you created all this space, and you don't have your phone, and you don't have your acquisitions, and you don't have your accomplishments, and and muktzeh, I love Who loves muktzeh? The whole idea of muktzeh is so geshmak. Once you understand what halacha is, you love halacha. If you don't understand what halacha is, you hate halacha. If you see halacha is the the structure of groundedness and mindfulness and relationship, halacha is awesome. What is muktzeh? Muktzeh is just be It means be conscious that it's Shabbat. It's why you don't need Why you don't need to People are fidgeting and playing the whole time, like, I got so Shabbat is just like, \"No, let's just be in Shabbat.\" So I love I love muktzeh. It is awesome. And it's not I don't need it on Shabbat, so I don't need it. Why are you Why are you messing around with stuff you don't need? And most people, most of their lives, is we're juggling stuff that we don't need in our life. You don't need self-judgment in your life. You don't need that. Why are you juggling? You don't need So Shabbat is just give give me space. So we've been going through Shabbat, and we've arrived at the song of relationship. We just went through Shalom Aleichem last week. How How have we never ever And now we're on to Eishes Chayil. איי, אשת חיל מי ימצא, ורחק מפנינים מכרה, בטח. You've got to sing Eishes Chayil. On your own, you're a man, you're a woman, Friday night. So Eishes Chayil, many many many many different understandings of Eishes Chayil, it's the last 22 verses of Mishlei, written by Shlomo HaMelech. Some people say it was actually said by Avraham Avinu, his eulogy for Sarah. When's that? Next week? Chayei Sarah, next week? So it was actually So Shlomo just wrote down in Mishlei Avraham's eulogy to Sarah, אשת חיל. 22 verses according to the Aleph-Beis, and I understand, whenever there's Aleph-Beis, you've got Ashrei, all these Aleph-Beis things, it's saying it's the whole of creation, because the world was created with these 22 letters, Aleph-Beis. In fact, the sages say, בראשית ברא אלקים את, in the beginning, Hashem created א to ת. את is א to ת. The first thing Hashem really created was the letters, and with the letters then He created the whole universe. So letters are very, very important. So it's saying whenever we have all of the letters, it's saying that this is goes through the whole essence of what all of creation is all about. Eishes Chayil. So one basic understanding of Eishes Chayil is this is Shlomo Hamelech, Avraham Avinu teaching us what's important. What's important in life? If life is all about relationships, what's important in relationships? So we say, שקר החן והבל היפי. Most people are very, very, very, very caught up in external. External: what I look like, what clothes I wear, how ripped I am, what job I do, external. Even how good my devar Torah is. It's very external. And I've said this a few times, it deserves to be said again, at my Shabbat table, you're all welcome to my Shabbat table, when I when I'm not there, you're all welcome to my Shabbat table. But I say that we There's no devar divrei Torah at my Shabbat table. We don't want someone to have a devar Torah at our Shabbat table. And everyone's like, \"What do you mean, Rabbi?\" I say, \"Because a devar Torah is a kind of pre-conceived...\" So we're all talking about whatever we're talking about, and then suddenly everyone stops. \"Okay! Chaim has a devar Torah.\" So Chaim's like, \"In this week's parsha...\" And it's like, \"Chaim, why did you say...?\" I've always wanted to say, \"It says in this week's parsha...\", and then just read the whole parsha. And how about everybody? \"And Rashi says...\", and then just read the whole Rashi, everybody. So then Chaim says his devar Torah. \"Well, so in this week's parsha, and Rashi says...\" And maybe if he's cool, a little Chasidic story and Rav Zusha. And then everyone says, \"Shkoyach!\" And Shkoyach comes from the word shachachti. \"I've forgotten what you said. I just shachachti. Shachachti. I wasn't listening. You didn't mean it. You were just showing off to the Rebbetzin to try and get yourself a shidduch.\" So he didn't mean his devar Torah, I wasn't listening to his devar Torah, I want the ice cream. Shkoyach. So at my house we don't have a devar Torah, it's all Torah. That's what you just sitting at the table, everything's Torah, everything's life, everything's sweetness, everything, life is Torah. Torah is life, life is Torah, so we're not stopping for the devar Torah. And I say to people, if you want to if you want to share something, you got to mean it. I just I'd rather you shared something not profound, but that you you meant it. You know when you go to someone's Shabbat table and then you are you go around the table: \"Hi, hi, my name is this. Say one thing about yourself.\" And then everyone tries to say the most profound and I sometimes say: \"I'd I'd like you to please share the most profound thing, and it's got to be more profound than the person before you. I'd like you to please share your deepest, darkest secret that you've never shared with anyone ever before.\" So, once you're in Shabbat, we now we're Shalom Aleichem. There's warmth, there's light, there's joy, there's sweetness. How could you be speaking about politics and sports, in fact, it's just where did where could that be coming from? So, if we've done everything right, if you've done Friday right, if you got ready for Shabbat right, and you did קבלת שבת, we spoke about קבלת שבת, and you've really received the נשמה יתירה, and then you come home, and you're שבת שלום ומבורך three times, and then you're blessing the children, and you're blessing everything, and then you're and then you're singing Shalom Aleichem, understanding what Shalom Aleichem, and then אשת חיל is huge. So, it's to it's אשת חיל saying: The whole of life is about relationship. What's important in relationship isn't your דבר תורה. It's your your authenticity. Your authenticity, I'm just real, I'm just so present, I'm just so here, I'm so real. I'm vulnerable. I'm open. I'm real. I'm caring. I'm I'm present. I'm at peace with myself. It's just Oh, new episode of Rabbi in the Hot Seat coming out today. It's all about attract- What what makes someone attractive? How do you get attracted to someone? So, one thing I say in Rabbi in the Hot Seat, today's today's run is that people are attracted to people who are okay in themselves. That they feel that I have self-worth. If I It's not not arrogant people, not low self-esteem, but someone who's just there, they're just present. I have peace. I'm at peace with myself. Why are people attracted to people who are at peace in themselves? Because that's what you want. So, those sort of people make you feel at peace. So, we'd like to be around people that make us feel okay and make us feel at peace, and validated, and seen. I just want to be seen and held. So, you And if you can't see and hold yourself, then how can you really see other people and hold other people? So, אשת חיל is authenticity, it's values. What says some- a lot about someone is their values: kindness, loyalty, trust, consistency. So, I saw, I was looking, I was researching this, I left my book at home, that there are five different levels of what אשת חיל is all about. The first level is simply to your wife, or to yourself by the way, to your wife or to yourself. To your wife, I'm literally singing אשת חיל to my wife. I am praising my wife. That's the first level, I'm praising my wife. That's why in my house, I'm not singing אשת חיל to the guests whilst the wife's in the kitchen. And if my wife isn't, but my table's right next to the kitchen so whatever, my wife sits down, and in my house, the men stand and the women sit. אשת חיל, women are sitting, men are standing, and I'm singing to my wife. It's not she's in the kitchen, and if she's doing something, she's getting the dips ready, and it's time for אשת חיל, I'm like: \"אשת חיל מיינט זי! Where where I can't find you. Where are you?\" And then she laughs, and then she comes and she sits down, and then we start: אשת חיל. And she's breathing, and I'm and it's so good. So, אשת חיל, sing to my wife, praising my wife, but what am I praising my wife for? You've got to understand, it's also usually a woman and a man will dress up for Shabbat, and they'll they'll be wearing their Shabbat's best. But then you're saying, שקר החן והבל היופי. So, so it means the Vilna Gaon says when you say שקר החן, that that grace and external beauty is is is nothing. He's saying that's only if you don't have all the things that we praise you for. Once you have יראת השם, and you're kind, and you're present, then external beauty is something, because it reflects, it's showing your internal beauty. So, if you're beautiful on the outside and not on the in- inside, then your external beauty is worthless. If you're beautiful on the inside, then your external beauty, that it's it's a reflection. So I'm singing אשת חיל to my wife. It's also very important, I have said this before, how you do things in private says a lot more about you than how you do them in public. When you make when there are people sitting round and you make a berachah, do you make a berachah with more kavana? Or when you're on your own, no one sees you, no one can see it, how are you how are you in private? So if you go to someone's house and they sing אשת חיל very well in front of the guests, but then not not in front of the guests, that says something about the relationship. And you'll never see how I sing אשת חיל to my wife when there are no guests there, because there will be no guests, so you won't be there. But that says lots about our relationship. I can really, because I think there's too much intimate I don't want to be too intimate in front of my guests, so it's actually even more so. So the first level is my wife. All the wonderful things I say about my wife. Very, very, very important thing. When we say אשת חיל מי ימצא, it's not saying it's very difficult to find an amazing woman, it's what does it mean to be an amazing woman? What does it mean? But also, do I have the eyes to see that? Do I have the eyes to see the good in other people? When I'm looking at my wife, do I focus on the good, the bad? What am I focusing on? So מי ימצא, who is the person who finds the good woman, whatever that means, we're going to see it means the Torah, it means other things as well, it's the person who has the right eyes to be able to see that. Rabbi Nachman, רפ״ב, you see it in Likutei Tefilot. So who is the person who finds a good woman, a good neshama, a good The person who's got the eyes to see it. I read a book, a relationships book once, and it says if you don't respect your husband or wife, it's actually a problem with you, because you should learn to respect people. If you don't love this person, it's a problem with you. Why don't you learn to love people? I like it. So, אשת חיל מי ימצא, who finds it? The person who is looking deeply. So the first level is my wife. The second level is Shabbat itself, we're singing to Shabbat, because Shabbat is the kallah and Shabbat is the מלכה, שבת מלכתא. Shabbat Shabbat is the only mitzvah, I think, and the only festival that is personified. Rav Shimshon Pincus says this in his book called Shabbat Kodesh. Essential book by the way. Rabbi Shimshon Pinkus, Shabbat Kodesh, gold cover. You cannot Do not go into Shabbat without finding that book. But he says Shabbat is a a person. It's a kallah. It's a It's a מלכה. Why? Because it's about relationship. You can't You don't have a relationship with tefillin. I love tefillin, but it's not like a love You can have a relationship with Shabbat. So Shabbat we're singing about Shabbat, and all the qualities of Shabbat, what the Shabbat is loyal, Shabbat is always there for me, Shabbat is about kindness, and integrity, and and wisdom, and and and tefillah, and and Shabbat is awesome, because we're just What are we doing all day? We're just praying, and and having relationship, and even the way we eat, we eat differently, we dress differently, everything is different on Shabbat, it's a completely different reality. Anyone who's really got Shabbat what it is, you're literally at a different reality. So Shabbat itself. The next No relationship with the tefillin? I kiss my tefillin. But you don't feel I love my I love My Rabbeinu Tam I'll tell you the truth, my Rabbeinu Tam tefillin, every day is the best spiritual high I have. I feel it physically. I feel my Rabbeinu Tam tefillin actually physically. But it's not like I don't call it the There's a relationship, but it's not the kallah. It's not the bride. It's not בואי כלה בואי כלה שבת מלכתא. It's not a personified relationship, it's just I love tefillin. I also love ד׳ מינים, I kiss my lulav va-etrog as well, and my matzah, by the way. By the way, you're meant to kiss your matzah, and eat it. You're meant to kiss your mitzvot. You're meant to So yes, you're meant to love mitzvot, but it's not like she's the kallah. And on Shabbat we have Melaveh Malkah, we're escorting her, we're welcoming her, and we're escorting her. She's a she's a person. She's an energy. She's a relationship, Shabbat. So then Rashi says in Mishlei, what is אשת חיל talking about, is the Torah. The Torah. So the Torah is loyal, and the Torah we can trust the Torah, and Torah has wisdom, and the Torah is kind, and the Torah has all these qualities, and the Torah is always there for us, and the Torah and it's not just external, and the Torah itself is our our zivug. How does it work? Because we said that the Torah The Torah is a guidebook. So, some people think the Torah is a book of rules. Is the Torah a book of rules? No, because I just said some people think that, so you know I don't think that. Come on. So, the Torah is a book of relationships. It's just that relationship has rules. The Torah is a book of relationship, but relationships have rules. So, I have rules in my marriage: I don't speak to other women, and I don't come home late, and I don't get drunk, and I don't put her down, and I... so those are the things I don't do. And then, I do compliment her, and I do buy her gifts, and I do spend time with her, so those things I do do. So, those are the rules, but my life and my marriage isn't about rules, it's about the relationship. It's just that to have relationships takes rules. So, once you see the rules of halacha and of the Torah as the gateways to relationship, then I want them! Give me more halacha, I love halacha, I love that, I love minhagim and stuff, because that increases my relationship. Shalom. Am I not speaking loud enough? I'm sorry. Once I get into Shabbat, I'm not... I can't speak really. I'm surprised I can even speak, you know. There we go. קרוב, I just want to be close. Okay, so the Torah as well. So when we're singing Eshet Chayil, we're singing to the Torah. The next level, the Zohar speaks about, obviously, is the Shechinah. Singing to the Shechinah, the divine feminine. Eshet Chayil, the divine feminine, because that's really the relationship. The Shechinah is really our main relationship with Hashem. The Shechinah is the tangible, the tangible, revealed essence of Hashem. י' וה' וו' וה', קודשא בריך הוא, very high. It's hard to have a relationship with that. Infinite, beyond time and space, very difficult to relate to that. The Shechinah is the presence, the feminine divine presence. So that's what I'm really singing to, the Shechinah. And the fifth level, I made it up, and I think someone has to have said it. Can someone check this? I think the fifth level is Hashem singing to us. Can I say that? I can. Hashem is saying, really, to our neshama, and Hashem is because in the relationship between Hashem and the Jewish people, Hashem is the, קודשא בריך הוא is the man, is the husband, and we're the wife. So Hashem is singing to us, to Am Yisrael, to the Jewish people, אשת חיל מי ימצא. Where am I going to find my people? And Hashem is saying to us, \"You're my bride, Jewish people, you're my bride.\" So when I'm singing Eshet Chayil, I'm really focusing on my wife to be fair, but I'm also thinking Hashem's up there singing it to me. Hashem's like, \"This is what I want to see in you, Dovi bear. Little Dovi bear, you could do this. You put your hands to the spindle,\" whatever that means. \"But yeah, this is what I want for you.\" So I, when I read אשת חיל sometimes, everyone else has gone to bed, I read through it and I'm like, this is what Hashem wants from me. Am I getting up early? Am I being kind to people? Am I girding my loins? The English is just ridiculous, really. We often say this, one of the worst ways to turn a Jew off Judaism is to read the English of it. Sorry, did you have a question? First level, singing mamash actually to my wife. Second level, singing to Shabbat. Third level, Torah is my wife. Fourth level is the שכינה, Hashem, basically Hashem, to that. And the fifth level is I've flipped it all, and Hashem's singing to me. So I want to be an אשת חיל. I want to be connect to my feminine side. But אשת חיל, I want to be an אשת חיל, not just מי ימצא. Just for your reference, God singing to the Jewish people is a perush on the Zohar. It says it? Mechuvan to the Zohar! Where did you find it? Did you just ask ChatGPT now? Okay. Baruch Hashem השם. Me and the author of the Zohar, we have similar... I also spent a lot of time sitting in caves meditating, to be fair. I know Rabbi Shimon did for a long time, but I did a bit of cave time. I did my time in the cave. So, let's take a little bit of time, we're going to... I Last week I brought my my Shabbat kiddush book so I could feel the kedusha of Shabbat, and I and I circled things, and underlined them, and made loads of notes, and then I forgot to bring it today. So Hashem says, \"Go and get your ArtScroll, and do your best.\" So here we go. Here's a few things that are coming to mind. בטח בה לב בעלה. Her husband trusts her. Her husband trusts her. Her husband trusts her. So that means on very many levels. I trust my wife. Very, very, very, very, very important. You know what I did? I'm not going to be able to do it now. I took some lines, and I broke it down into each of the five things and how that line relates to the five things. It was so good. I didn't get to sleep last night, and then I left it at home. Baruch Hashem השם. Baruch Hashem השם. So I trust my wife. A very, very, very fundamental part of a relationship is emunah, bitachon. I trust my wife. She's also not talking to other guys. You know, I don't I'm not scared of my wife picking up my WhatsApp or looking at my emails. There's nothing you will find on my phone. There's not one photo, one voice message, one WhatsApp, one email that I wouldn't want my wife to see. Nothing. And I know it's the same for She actually came off WhatsApp, but there's a very, very deep, deep, deep connection. I trust you, that you'll be there for me, that if you make a mistake, you'll admit it, you'll own it. Trust is very, very important. Remember, the relationship goes for yourself as well, which means you have to trust yourself. Do you trust yourself deeply? And how do you learn to trust yourself deeply? Don't let yourself down. And when you do let yourself down, pick yourself up and keep going. But trust is is the foundation of everything. Shabbat I'm not going to be able to do all of this now. Torah. I trust the Torah. The Torah is a guidebook. Torah is my guidebook. I trust it. If it says it's not good for you, it's not good for me. You know? I trust. I trust it's not good for me. If it says it is good for me, it's good for me. I I trust I think this also goes into אמונת חכמים. I trust the sages. I trust my Rabbi. I trust my ראש ישיבה. I trust. Now, very, very important point that you are born with trust. It's a very, very high part of your neshama. It's called emunah. Really, the highest part of your neshama is called chavayah, experience, and then we have oneg, and then we have ratzon. I gave a whole series on this, the constipatory getting to know your soul series, very important. But a high part of your neshama is you are naturally trusting. You're naturally trusting. When in the in the hospital, when the parents are coming to take you home, you're like you're not like, \"Hold on, stop. What are your credentials?\" And you naturally go to people. Generally, now we unfortunately and very, very sadly learn to not be trusting quite quickly, because people let you down. But you have to learn to be not to not trust people. And you shouldn't trust everyone. It would be naive to trust everyone. But that's a that's not the default setting. That's a corruption. The actual truth of existence is you should be able to trust everyone, should be able to trust yourself. I have emunah. So in that book, he speaks even you're sitting on a chair now, and you're not worried it's going to collapse. You probably are now that I said that. Why? Because your natural state you just trust. I trust when I turn on the light, the light's going to come on. I plant a seed Our fundamental essence is bitachon. I have trust, and we it gets ruined very quickly. So what it means to really grow spiritually is I'm tapping back into a place of bitachon. I trust. But we also said it's the other way around. Emunah doesn't just mean faith. Hate the word \"faith\". It means faithfulness. It means loyalty. Emunah means loyalty. And the first thing we say in the morning is רבה אמונתך, that Hashem has trust in Hashem believes in us. Hashem really does believe in you. You just got to learn to believe in yourself. But Hashem believes in us. But the other sense is that when I say I have emunah means I'm loyal to Hashem, which means when things don't go my way and it messed up, I'm I say, \"Hashem, I don't understand.\" This is what emunah means. \"I don't understand why I'm going through this pain. I don't understand why that person passed away. I just I don't understand, but I trust You. I'm loyal. I have emunah. I'm going to show up for You. I'm showing up for You, Hashem. Showing up for You.\" And this is really the highest, when Hashem is singing to us. Hashem is saying, \"I trust you.\" This is what the Zohar says, apparently. It says that Hashem is saying, \"I mamash trust you, Dov Ber. I trust you. I know you're going to be\" You know that day when you don't feel like davenen Mincha, you're going to show up anyway just because you're a mentsh. You know when that day when when I'm not feeling so connected to my wife, I'm still going to show up and be mentsh, and tell her I love her, and give her flowers, and smile at her, cuz I'm not gonna let my mood mess up my relationship. So, just this is how it starts. בטח בה לב... לא רע כל ימי חייה. כל ימי חייה means also consistency. I know my wife, everything she does for my best. She She gives me She We're on a crazy diet at the moment. Oh, my goodness, everything's changed. Everything that I believed for 10 years, now I'm eating fruit, which I've wanted to for 10 years, but it was bad for me. And my wife was like, \"Fruit!\" And tomatoes, moonshade vegetables were bad and now I've got I'm have to eat them. And then egg No eggs, suddenly. Eggs are now bad. And eggs are like, don't worry, you don't have to do this. But I'll I'll tell you something. I'll tell you something even more. My wife gives me something to drink and puts all these pills on the table. She's like, \"L-arginine, omega oils, that's this, that.\" And I'm like, \"You don't have to tell me. I'm going to take it. You put it on the table, I'm taking that stuff. I'm doing that.\" Why? Cuz I know you want the best for me, and I know you've done the research, and she's reading this very cool book at the moment. And it's like, dude, I try I just, tell me. I'll I'll find out. It's a very cool book. My As I said, my wife this is Oh no, I've only got 2% battery. Stop recording for a minute. So, my wife My wife's gone to Bat Yam now, which means she's basically gone into her art studio, which is the balcony outside our room. And I'm telling And she so she's not see She's not teaching yoga. She's not doing energy healing. Everyone's reaching out, \"I need to talk to your wife about this\" and like she's gone into her art studio, but I'm telling you this for a fact. You want my wife to be in her art studio. It's good for the whole Jewish people. I'm telling you, it's good It It There's nothing better for the whole Jewish people than my wife to be in her art studio. And then she floats out sometimes and says, \"Drink this,\" and I'm like, yeah. Thanks, dude. I'll drink it, whatever it is. Yeah, great. And then she makes cookies. She bakes a lot, Baruch Hashem. And then and then So, I don't know if there's chia, whoa, the chia, I know there's no sugar in it, but she know when I when she leaves a little note, she don't say what's in it, she just says שהכל or מזונות.