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Welcome to The Limitless Podcast with Deanna Herrin, your space to elevate every area of your life. Designed for ambitious souls and entrepreneurs ready to unlock their full potential, this podcast combines mindset mastery, leadership strategies, and transformational insights to guide you toward living a life of abundance and alignment.
Through empowering solo episodes and thought-provoking guest interviews, Deanna reveals the secrets to building confidence, creating meaningful success, and breaking through limiting beliefs. Whether you’re redefining your purpose or scaling your business, this is where the journey to your next level begins. Let’s shatter ceilings and embrace the limitless possibilities waiting for you.
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You are listening to the
limitless podcast. I'm your
host. Deanna Herron, what if you
had no limitations keeping you
from your dream life in 2016 I
had a major tug on my heart to
write a book about my story, and
in the process, I learned that I
had been operating with a very
faulty belief system for the
majority of my life. I've had a
huge transformation since then,
and my life's passion and
mission is to teach you how to
live a limitless life. Join me
on this journey. Let's get
started.
Welcome back to the limitless
podcast. Today's episode is one
I wish someone had given me a
decade ago. It's real, it's raw,
and it's rooted in something
deeper than strategy or mindset.
This is about soul work. This is
actually for the woman who's
tired of performing, pleasing
and pretending. This is for the
one who knows she was born for
more but keeps hitting the same
emotional walls. Let's talk
about the subconscious truths
that shape your relationships,
your sense of worth, and the way
that you are showing up in this
world. So like I said, I wish I
would have known this a decade
ago. Obviously, we're all on our
own healing journey, but I want
you to know that healing is not
a luxury. Healing is not
something that you do because
you have a diagnosis. Healing is
not something that you do
because you feel depressed.
Healing is actually returning to
your truth. It took me healing
my relationship with my mother,
that which was the first
relationship that I recognized
that I was not free. And I've
said multiple times that life
will present itself with people,
places and circumstance that
show us areas of our life where
we are not free, and I was not
free in my relationship with my
mother. We had a lot of
different trials. We had a lot
of diff I had a lot of
disappointments. I had a lot of
rubs with my mother, and then
the second relationship that I
healed is walking away from a
very toxic relationship in my
life, and it also took me
rebuilding and healing my
marriage. And now I'm giving you
what took me years, years of
heartbreak, and I want to teach
you that So on today's podcast,
what we're going to do is I'm
actually going to give you some
tips of things to look for in
your life when it comes to
relationships, and if you are
not driving, I would recommend
that you grab a piece of paper
and a pen and let's write these
things down and look at them and
say, Okay, this is an area where
I am not free, and I really need
to take a look at this. So
number one, a person who avoids
feeling their own pain will
always try and dismiss yours.
This is what I've experienced in
the relationships that I needed
to heal. Have you ever opened
your heart to someone only to
feel shut down and minimized?
It's not you, my friend. It's
actually not you. It's their
most emotional disconnection,
people who have not faced their
own shadows. And shadows are the
work that we need to do the
traumas that we need to heal,
the belief systems that we're
carrying around with us, those
people will always try to dim
your light, not because they
don't love you. It's because
your depth your possibilities,
exposes their numbness, and it
also exposes areas where they
are not free. This was me with
my mom, and her silence used to
wound me until I realized it was
just her armor, and once, I
stopped taking it personally and
recognizing and Truly this was a
high level thought process for
me, truly realizing, yes, she
did The best with what she
received, and she didn't have
the tools to actually do the
work. She didn't have the tools,
and so I stopped taking it
personally and realized it was
just her armor. If you're in a
relationship where deep love
feels unsafe, ask Who taught you
that love equals abandonment?
Where did you experience that
love meant abandonment? This was
my relationship with my mother
and my relationship with my
father. I felt abandoned by most
both of them. My mother was
emotional abandonment. My father
was physical abandonment. And so
I'm going to tell you that this
probably did not start with your
high school boyfriend that
dropped you for another girl. It
probably didn't start there.
This started when the people
that you trusted the most didn't
see you, hear you or stay Does
that ring a bell for you? If
love has always felt like
walking on eggshells or waiting
for the other shoe to drop,
that's not love, that's actually
trauma, and it's time to
separate the two. This is an
area that needs to be healed. If
you're constantly walking on
eggshells because you're afraid
that your partner is going to
abandon you, or you're afraid
that your friendship is going to
fail, or you're afraid that your
business is not going to do
well.
Whatever that is. This is
something telling you it's time
to heal. This number three, if
you crave validation from
emotionally unavailable people,
oh, oh, I can feel that in my
body. Wait just a minute. I can
feel that in my body. And I
laugh at it, because on the
other side of the healing, there
is so much freedom. I actually
attracted so many people into my
life that were emotionally
unavailable, and it was because
my nervous system still believed
that love had to be earned, and
this is a survival mechanism
when we believe that we have to
have that validation, and we
continue to look for that
validation for people who are
not emotionally capable of
giving that to us. And I want
you to know that you know that
you know that you were not meant
to hustle for love. You are
meant to receive it, my friend.
And let me say that clearly you
don't have to perform to be
chosen. Does that hit home?
Definitely was my MO I needed to
perform to be chosen. And there
came a point in my life where
I'm like, You know what? I'm no
longer performing. I'm no longer
going to follow the rules that
you are telling me that I need
to follow in order to be
accepted. I'm out. I'm out,
regardless of the consequences,
I am no longer performing to be
chosen. I choose me was the most
powerful thing I've ever done in
my life. You don't have to be
perfect to be loved. You get to
rewire the part of you that
learned otherwise. Number four,
if they never ask you deeper
questions, they're not trying to
see you. They're not trying to
see you. They're just waiting
for their turn to perform. We
live in a world full of this
performative connection, but
real intimacy requires
curiosity. Intimacy requires
curiosity. Let me give you a tip
here, when I'm having a
conversation and I'm meeting new
people, or if I'm having a
conversation with a friend or a
partner or a child, or whoever
it is, relationship is both
giving and receiving, and there
have been so many times where I
am on the giving end of the
spectrum. I'm constantly asking
people about themselves because
I'm curious. And you know what
someone is about when they never
ask you the same they're not
capable. They're just not
capable. So you need to ask
yourself, if I'm the one that's
continuing to give in this
relationship and not receiving,
is this worth my energy? Is it
worth my time? Because someone
who values you won't let the
conversation stay surface.
They'll want to know what breaks
your heart and What lights your
soul on fire. Those are my
people. Those are truly my
people. I am not available for
surface level conversations, for
deep intimacy. I'm available for
those who want to know what
breaks my heart and to really
understand what lights me up.
Number five, if you're asking
for what you need, feels like
too much for you. That is
actually your little girl, the
inner child within you, who's
still terrified of being
abandoned, for having needs, for
having needs. This shows up as
I'm fine. I've talked about this
before when you're actually not
this shows up as over giving, as
swallowing your truth, not
speaking your words. But it's
not too much, you're not too
much. Let's heal the part of you
that learned that love equals
sacrificing yourself,
sacrificing your needs, not
using your voice, being afraid
to speak up, number six time
won't heal what your
subconscious can continues to
loop. I want you to understand
this. We will continue to
attract the same people, the
same circumstances, the same
relationships, because our
subconscious mind has not been
healed. It's a continuous loop.
Why am I always attracting these
people that make me feel, quote,
this way? Why am I always in a
relationship where I am the one
constantly giving it's the
subconscious loop. It's your
subconscious laying this out,
attracting the people in your
life, until you actually heal
that subconscious story.
Fascinating, so fascinating, I
want you to think about how many
years have passed, and it still
freaking hurts. How many years
that's because the subconscious
doesn't run on clocks. It runs
on stories, so time does not
heal. My friend, what heals is
dealing with the stories,
dealing with the stories, and if
you haven't updated the story,
if your nervous system is still
living in the moment you were
hurt. It keeps going. It keeps
repeating. And I'm going to tell
you the number of times you
voice it out loud and you talk
about that situation to other
people, all it does is re
energize the emotion. It re
energizes it, and so talking
about it.
But over and over and over keeps
it active in your body. You
actually have to release the
story so that it'll stop
repeating, and that is
reprogramming. Reprogramming
isn't trendy. It's actually
necessary. So we have to go
deeper. Don't wait. Time does
not heal the stories. Number
seven, your nervous system will
always whisper the truth first,
if you're listening before your
mind actually rationalizes or
talks you out of your knowing
your body actually knows, the
racing heart, the dry mouth, the
gut tension, the inability to
process your foods in the right
way, those are actually your
guides. Your body is telling you
something. Listen, trust it.
They're not being dramatic. Your
body's being honest with you.
Your body's being honest, you
know. And I actually learned to
listen to my body and feel into
a situation. My body's always
right. When I feel tension in my
midsection, this situation is
not right for me, when my heart
starts to hurt, the situation is
not right for me, this is a hell
no. And so listen to your body
number eight. You get to rewrite
your story as many times as it
takes, not just once, not just
when it's convenient. You get to
start over every single time you
realize the life you're living
no longer reflects who you truly
are. I can't tell you how
invaluable that is what I just
said. I want you to understand
that when the life you're living
no longer reflects who you truly
are, you get to rewrite your
story. You were born into power.
God says you are limitless.
There are limitless
possibilities for you in this
world, you are born into power.
Unfortunately, we were also born
into limitation. Some of those
limitations were passed on from
our ancestors, and we carry
those and we're here to heal
them. Have you heard of the
ancestral healing that's exactly
what you're doing. Those
patterns that have been on
repeat are in your DNA, and
you're the one that's here to
heal them. You are the One God
gave you the power. It's called
your divinity, and the divinity
is the ability for you to
transcend your limitations, but
you don't recognize it, because
you've never been taught any of
this. But you were born into
power, but somewhere along the
way, you were taught to forget
it, to trade your intuition for
approval, your softness for
survival, your truth for someone
else's comfort. But here's the
truth. You were created to come
back to power by uncovering the
truth of who you are, powerful,
limitless, absolutely limitless,
free of the constraints that
hold you back and that truth, my
friend, is not the outer world.
It lives in your subconscious,
and you hold the key to rewire
it. You hold the key healing
doesn't just change your life,
it changes your legacy that is
my soul's work is to bring you
back to the divinity of who you
are and help you transcend those
limitations that do not belong
to you, that were handed down to
you, and some that you have
accumulated in this lifetime.
That is my soul's purpose. Until
next time, remember you are
seeing you are powerful, and
your story is still being
written. I love you. God bless
you. See you next week. I'm
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God Bless You. You.