The Christian Homemaking Podcast: Simply Convivial with Mystie Winckler

Take my free training: https://simplyconvivial.com/organized 🫣 I have spent more hours than I'd like to admit hunting for the "perfect" planner — structured but flexible, pretty but practical. Every hour I spent comparing layouts was an hour I wasn't actually planning.
After years of using planners, teaching planning, and watching moms struggle with the exact same thing, here's my unpopular conclusion: you probably don't need a better planner. You might not need a "planner" at all. You need a cheap notebook and a consistent practice of writing things down.
In this video, I break down: 
✏️ Why planner shopping is often productive procrastination 
✏️ Why messy notes beat the perfect layout every time 
✏️ The 3 simple planning steps that fit inside one cheap spiral notebook
A planner isn't a magical household management device — it's just a collection of notes to yourself. The format can help, but the format is not the practice. If a pretty planner is stopping you from crossing things out, rewriting tasks, or dealing with real life... it's working against you.
Grab a basket of laundry to fold and let's dig in.
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📚 Mentioned in this video: 
– Simplified Organization: Learn to Love What Must Be Done: https://amzn.to/4won12C
– How to Use a Planner Without Wasting Time: https://amzn.to/3TjaOOe
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What is The Christian Homemaking Podcast: Simply Convivial with Mystie Winckler?

Christian homemakers need encouragement and motivation to stay the course. Homemaking and homeschooling can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to be. If you’re a Christian mom longing for a well-ordered home, a peaceful homeschool, and a joyful heart—without the stress or burnout—you’re in the right place. Moms can be productive and peaceful when grounded in Scriptural truth.

I’m Mystie Winckler, homeschooling mom of five, founder of Simply Convivial, and your guide to managing both home and heart with faith and focus. Here, we talk about biblical homemaking, sustainable homeschooling, and cheerful productivity—all through the lens of organizing your attitude and embracing your God-given calling.

In each episode, you’ll find practical homemaking systems, homeschooling strategies, and mindset shifts that will help you manage your home without perfectionism or frustration. We’ll tackle topics like:
✔️ Christian homemaking routines that actually work
✔️ Productivity, mom-style
✔️ Homeschooling with peace—even when life gets messy
✔️ Time management for moms (without rigid schedules)
✔️ Decluttering your home & your attitude
✔️ How to be diligent, not just busy

Motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint. You don’t need more willpower—you need a grace-filled, biblical approach to managing life at home. Let’s cultivate faithfulness, embrace joy, and build habits that make home a place of peace and purpose.

👉 Subscribe now and start organizing your home and heart—cheerfully.

Speaker: I have spent more time
than I care to admit looking

for the perfect planner.

One that has enough space,
but not too much space.

Structured, but still flexible.

Pretty, but also very practical

Basically, I wanted a planner designed
specifically for my life, my brain, my

family, and whatever mood I happened
to be in on that particular Tuesday.

And yes, I have spent countless
hours designing my own planner pages

trying to attain planner perfection.

And you know what?

Every hour that I spent comparing
layouts was an hour that I

was not actually planning.

After years of using planners, teaching
planning, designing planning methods,

and watching other moms struggle
with this exact same problem, I've

come to a fairly unpopular conclusion

99% of moms do not need a better planner.

They might not even need
a real planner at all.

What you really just need is a simple,
cheap notebook and a consistent

practice of writing things down.

So I'm gonna show you why planner
shopping often becomes productive

procrastination, why messy notes work
better than the perfect layout, and

three simple planning steps that can all
live inside one cheap spiral notebook

Or smaller, cheap composition notebook.

Or even a little tiny
composition notebook.

Cheap, small, easy.

This is the exact system that has
helped me stop treating my planner

as the solution, and start using
planning as a practice that actually

makes a day-to-day difference

So if we haven't met,
hi, I'm Misty Winkler.

I like purple.

I'm author of the book Simplified
Organization Learn to Love What Must

Be Done, and also the book How to
Use a Planner Without Wasting Time.

Because that's what a lot
of our planning really is.

A lot of our planning is wishful
thinking, or our planning is spent trying

to find the perfect planner, where if
we fill in all the blanks provided as

if it was a worksheet, then we will
have some kind of done-for-us system

that will suddenly make our life work.

I'm sorry, that's not gonna happen.

But here is what we can do instead
in a cheap and easy notebook.

So grab a basket of laundry
to fold and let's dig in

So here's the deal.

A planner is not a magical household
management device The best planner

is a collection of notes to myself,
and that's really all it is.

A calendar is a note
about where I need to be.

A weekly plan is a note about what matters
this week and maybe what we're eating.

A daily list is a note to myself
about what I need to do next.

The format can help, but the format is not
the practice the problem is that buying

a planner feels like we're taking action.

It's fun to set up a new
planner, and it feels like

we're finally getting somewhere.

I can spend an entire evening watching
planner reviews, comparing the weight of

the paper, studying weekly layouts, maybe
spending hours designing my own, trying

to figure out if I'm a vertical layout
person or a horizontal layout person.

And at the end of it, I still haven't
looked at next week's calendar

or decided what we're eating for
dinner, maybe even that very day.

The search for the perfect
planner becomes a way to avoid the

imperfect, messy work of making an
actual plan for our actual lives

Now, I have homeschooled five
children, managed a busy home, a

couple businesses , written books,
we have people over for dinner.

I've used plenty of planners, notebooks,
index cards, printables, digital

apps, miscellaneous scraps of paper.

I've pretty much tried it all And the
tool that works is the tool that I will

actually write things in, look at what
I wrote, and adjust and use on the fly

If you've been overwhelmed with all
the planner options out there, my

workshop From Overwhelmed to Organized
might be the perfect fit for you.

You can go find that at
simplyconvivial.com/organized

if you need a little help getting out
of that overwhelm mode, which sometimes

happens when we're shopping for planners.

'Cause the thing is, searching
for the ideal tool is just

delaying the uncomfortable work
of actually committing to a plan.

A new planner creates a rush
of hope and possibility.

It directs us and tells us what to do.

Just fill in the blanks.

Write three things that
you're grateful for here.

Track how much you're
sleeping or drinking water.

The pages are clean.

It feels so full of potential
But what happens when you

have to cross something out?

When an appointment
gets moved or canceled?

When you misspell a word
or your pen smears ink?

When you have to rewrite
tasks again and again

So often what I'm trying for in achieving
the perfect planner is a visual creation

of what I wish my life was like.

But once the planner starts reflecting
what I'm really like and what my life

is really like, I wanna ditch it.

But that is exactly the moment I need to
keep it and stick with it and appreciate

it for the reality check that it is.

What planner you use feels like a
significant decision, but it really isn't.

The significant decision is what's for
dinner tonight What needs to happen

in my home for me to run my home well?

The planner is only the place where we
write those real decisions down so that in

the moment when we need to make the choice
and do the action we don't have to start

from scratch and rethink those on the fly
because we know that's not gonna happen

What I have found for myself
and so many other women in our

community, Convivial Circle,

where we have hundreds of women committed
to excelling at their homemaking and

doing life cheerfully I have seen
again and again that the pretty planner

is more of a hindrance than a help
because we want it to stay pretty.

We don't want it to have any misspelled
words or the wrong color or crossed out

tasks or scribbles from our children.

But a cheap notebook
eliminates that concern

There is nothing expensive or high
stakes about a cheap spiral notebook

And sometimes the fill in the box method
of planning that a pre-designed planner

gives you is wishful thinking on paper
that is actually getting in the way

of you engaging with your real life.

And so what you do with a spiral
notebook instead, without any fill

in the blank options that make
planning feel like homework, we're

just writing down what we need.

Write down the next list that is
popping into your head right now.

Get it down.

If you don't need it, that's
fine, just turn the page

tear out the page if it's bothering you

Did your pen run out of ink or
did your toddler spill milk on it?

Oh, well, grab another one.

They're 25 cents at the
back to school supply sale.

Like, no problem.

Low stakes.

It can fit in your messy real life.

And a workable plan is actually just
your notes to self, the things that

you are thinking in your brain that
you need to get down on paper so that

you can move forward with decisions
you have pre-made, with those notes

to self, the meal plan for the week.

It doesn't have to be
in a calendar format.

It can be a list in a notebook.

I first learned about using a notebook as
a planner back when I was homeschooling

all five of my kids, and life was so busy.

And a new family moved to town and started
attending our church and our playgroup.

They moved from across the
country With five small children.

And what I instantly noticed at
our playgroup was that this mom

carried a cheap spiral notebook
with her wherever she went.

And if someone mentioned their
favorite park or what dentist they

used or any kind of new piece of
information that she wanted to

remember, she just wrote it down.

And she just had pages and pages of notes
and phone numbers and names and ideas and

lists of things to buy and unpack and do.

And she just kinda casually flipped
through it, looked at what she

had written down, crossed things
off here or there, and made the

next note to herself as she went.

It didn't need categorization.

It didn't need organization in a
kind of aesthetic sense where if

anyone happened to open up any
page, they would be impressed.

No, she was actually organized.

Not organized as a kind of aesthetic
attainment, but actually keeping

information where she could find
it, where she looked at it and kept

what she needed and crossed out
what she didn't and kept moving.

That's real organization.

It doesn't have to be
overcomplicated, And we shouldn't

be planning to impress others.

We should be planning to just
manage our own real life better

And you might do that better if
you used a cheap, basic notebook.

Maybe you say, "Well, a spiral
notebook is too big for my purse."

Well, fine.

Get a tiny little composition notebook.

Like, look how small that is.

But it's just paper.

Yours doesn't even have to be purple.

But mine will be

You can use these without feeling the
pressure to keep it perfect or pretty.

You can have different pens, whatever
pen or pencil is on hand, because you're

not going for an aesthetic creation.

It's not a creativity outlet.

It's not a scrapbook page.

It's an actual tool for
remembering what you need to

remember when you need to know it.

And so you write things down, and you flip
through and look at what you wrote down.

That's what a planner really is.

That's what an effective
working planner really is.

So whatever planner you
have, is it working?

That is, is it holding the information
that you need, and is it there for

you to look at when you need it?

What's getting in the way of you
either writing down what you need

to know or then looking at it
after you have it written down?

Maybe your planner needs a better home.

Maybe your planner needs some kind of
pen attachment so that it's always handy.

Maybe you need to remove all those
blanks and boxes and templates

from your planner and just go
with straight normal blank paper

writing things down and looking at it is
what will make your planner finally work

And you know, just writing things
down and then looking at it is why

the daily card works so well for me
and for the hundreds, maybe even at

this point thousands of other ladies
who have tried it in my community.

It's not impressive.

It's not necessarily beautiful, and it's
not a complete life management system.

It's the kind of thing
you can't overthink.

It's just a small place where I write
down the three priorities for each day

That's the practice that helps me move
from feeling overwhelmed with all that

there is to actually recognizing that
organization is writing things down,

looking at them, and doing something.

We need that bias toward action.

And I explain all about this in my
free training, From Overwhelmed to

Organized, which you can find in the
episode description, or you can go

to simplyconvivial.com/organized,

simplyconvivial.com/organized

And watch the free training because it is
possible for you to not feel overwhelmed

no matter how long your to-do list is.

You can have a full, busy, intense life
that you actually love and enjoy doing.

Overwhelm is optional.

Let me show you how to step out
of overwhelm and into organized

mode with this free training.

I'll see you there, I will
help you repent rejoice, repeat