Ep. 112 - Why Passion Dies When You Settle for a "Good Enough" Marriage

If your marriage feels more like routine than passion—if your wife feels distant, desire has disappeared, and you’ve quietly decided this may be as good as it gets—this episode confronts the belief keeping you stuck.

Settling for a cold, disconnected, or sexless marriage is not humility. Calling defeat “God’s will” does not make it faith.

Because once you stop believing your marriage can change, even the right actions begin operating on top of discouragement, resentment, and resignation.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why “this is just how she is” and “this is just how I am” are faulty theology disguised as acceptance
• How settling for a passionless marriage means agreeing with hell’s ceiling for your life
• What my wife and I had to confront when our marriage reached rock bottom
• Why Peter’s transformation proves your current limitations do not determine your future
• The three kingdom keys Peter demonstrated when he stepped out of the boat
• Why breakthrough requires your belief, participation, and alignment with God
• How to keep moving forward when you stumble, sink, or fail to do it perfectly

Around ten years ago, my health, finances, living situation, and marriage all collapsed at once.

My wife wondered whether she would ever genuinely like me again. I wondered whether she would ever want me, pursue me, or deeply desire me again.

At the time, I couldn’t see the marriage we have now. I also couldn’t imagine that the man who needed a cane—and kept a bucket beside his bed because walking to the bathroom was too difficult—would one day build a 110-foot fence in the Tennessee summer.

I didn’t know what was still possible for my body.

And you do not yet know what is possible for your marriage.

Stop turning your present circumstances into a prophecy. Stop unpacking your tent in the wilderness. Stop calling your ceiling God’s will.

More is possible.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 The Marriage Ceiling You’ve Accepted
02:34 Our Marriage at Rock Bottom
04:33 The Breakthroughs That Changed Us
08:12 Why Settling Is Agreement With Hell
11:34 More Is Possible Than You Can See
16:34 What Peter’s Life Proves About Your Future
21:46 DNA of a Man
24:03 What God Has Prepared Is Beyond Your Imagination
29:06 The Coaching Invitation
31:00 Three Keys From Peter Walking on Water
31:38 Key 1 — Say Yes to the Real God
33:08 Key 2 — Reawaken Your Fire for More
34:07 Key 3 — Leave the Pack Behind
37:07 Grace When You Don’t Do It Perfectly
37:32 Resources and Next Steps

Creators and Guests

Host

Matt Hallock

Founder of Man Warrior King and author of The DNA of a Man

What is The Man Warrior King Podcast - Confident Christian Men and Passionate Marriages?

Faith and masculinity meet kingdom living to help Christian husbands rebuild their confidence and masculine strength, so they can enjoy attraction-filled and passionate marriages.

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You are a man. You are a warrior. You are a king.

You have quietly decided that this is
about as good as your marriage

is ever gonna get.

You might not say it you might not admit

it freely when pressed.

But if you're honest with yourself

You have a hard time seeing that things
could ever get to promised land status.

This is the function of Satan's attacks on
you.

It's not to actually

reach in with his own hands and physically
tear you and your wife apart.

It's too

Wear you down with the constant drip

of lies telling you there's no hope for
your marriage

to reach that level of sensuality,

that level of passion.

And so you should probably just settle.

You should probably set down your
backpack,

you should unpack your tent,

and you should just stay here in this
wilderness and learn how to survive.

with a marriage in this current less than
fulfilling state.

And here's the thing.

That should really bother you.

You might believe all of this that

Your marriage isn't gonna get any better.

But you've never tested that hypothesis.

And you're like, Matt, I have.

I've tried the things. I've tried
everything I can think of.

I've given my all to making my marriage
better.

Don't you tell me I haven't tested that
hypothesis?

But here's the thing.

You've been trying everything you can
think of,

said

But you've been doing it from the wrong
inner stance.

You've been doing it from the wrong
energy.

You've been doing it from the wrong
perspective.

I learned this.

I too felt like I was doing everything I
knew how to do.

And then I had changed perspective.

And what I found and what I'm still
finding today

on the other side of that wilderness I
genuinely never knew

was possible in our marriage.

Around ten years ago, twelve years ago,

I don't know what it was, my wife and I
were in the hardest time of our life

in many different ways. We were at rock
bottom as about

as rock bottom as you can get.

And I didn't

I could not see a way out.

And there was rock bottom in my health,

rock bottom in our finances, rock bottom
in our living situation,

rock bottom in our marital connection.

~ it wasn't it was not pretty.

Life was was very, very, very,

very, very hard. And I

gave in to a lot of depression and
discouragement.

And during this time I wondered if Mr.

I would ever have the kind of marriage
where my wife wanted me,

where my wife would pursue me,

where my wife would ~ just like deeply
desire

Not just time with me, fun with sex with
me.

I I I wondered if any of that would ever
happen.

And my wife wondered if she would ever
like me again.

She's she said that.

Back in this time we could hardly

see like just barely getting getting
positive in our marriage.

Because so much was around us that was
stealing the life out of us.

It was it was negative, it was pulling us
down.

And when you're getting pulled down,

you can't see very high up.

I may not have known what was possible,

but I definitely knew the things that I
deeply desired,

and so did my wife.

And as we did our work, you know,

we hit different stages of breakthrough.

One of ~ came when we started seeing a
counselor together.

And by the way, he is not your average
counselor.

It was not sit around and and everybody,

you know, just share your feelings and why
you're feeling the way you're feeling

and then, you know, get affirmed in those
feelings and

By the way, here are some little games to
play to learn how to communicate better.

No, we were challenged by him.

Each of us were told about the crap that
we brought to our marriage by him.

He did not put up with unhealthy thinking
from us.

And as we pushed into that work with him.

We were able to push into each other as
well.

I hit breakthrough when I started learning
my identity in Christ,

when I started learning that I was a son
and a and a and a king

in the kingdom.

We found breakthrough.

When

At each new stage of me learning how to
not be such a whiny little

boy and always butthurt around our sex
life.

Every step of the way we would get a
little bit better,

or a lot better, or a little bit better
again.

But

If I'm honest.

I think there's always been even when I've
believed for more,

there's always the battle to fight for
that belief,

to pull you into unbelief.

And as we sit here today, the kind of
breakthrough that my wife

and I are living in, I mean,

there's there's levels of s of of
connection,

of passion, of desire, of

Deep physical just fulfillment.

That we experienced that that

We didn't we didn't know was possible.

We'd always wanted there to be more,

but we didn't know.

Like every stage of the breakthrough we've
gone through,

I've been like, wow, this is cool.

We I'm I'm happy here.

I didn't know there was more.

And what I'm trying to get at

Is that the

You, my friend, need to stop shooting
yourself in

the foot by assuming you've hit your
limit.

By the way, my name is Matt Hallock.

I'm the author of The DNA of a man.

I had a copy around,

but it's not here anymore. There's a link
for it in the show notes.

I am also the founder of this Man Warrior
King podcast,

and I am the creator of the masculine
husband.

Mayorage Transformation Program.

What I want you to know is

Is that every time you settle in this
place

of it's just not gonna happen,

you are agreeing with hell. You are
agreeing with what Satan wants

to be true for your life, and you are not
agreeing with what your father wants

to be true for your

And if you want to see your marriage
improve,

then contrary to what you might think,

it starts with how you think rather than
doing some

new action. It always starts with how you
think.

It always does. Now you might have been
able to

Produce some kind of good results in your
life with grit and grind

and and show up and do the work.

In fact, you probably could produce those
results.

Because you've seen it happen,

right? You've you've conquered things.

You've built a business. You've built a
ministry.

You've you've seen results come when you
put in the work.

But

The reason you're even watching this is
because you've tried putting

in work and you're not seeing the needle
move with your wife.

But because you have been used to putting
in actions and seeing the results

and this time now you're not, that's when
Satan comes in to try to speak

to you and tell you, hey, this one just
ain't gonna budge for you.

And you know what? He probably doesn't
even sound like Satan.

You want to know what he sounds like?

He won't he probably sounds like your
pastor in a church on Sunday telling

you that this trial you are going through
is part of God's will for your life.

That he actually wants your marriage to be
in this place that it's

in for reasons of his own.

And the one that you get to know about,

the reason you get to know about,

is that he wants this to grow your
character.

And he wants to get glory for himself from
your suffering.

That's what the lies of Satan probably
sound like.

And then you have these other ones.

This is just how she is. She'll never
change.

This is just how I am. I'll never be able
to get into that place of strength that

I know I need to be in.

And I'll always just kind of be struggling
with this.

And you you resign yourself to defeat and
then you put a label of humility

on top of it saying, This is just me
trusting God's plan when his plan

was never for you to get stuck.

And you are using this faulty concept of
sovereignty,

God's sovereignty as a means of justifying
your doubt,

your lack of faith, your discouragement,

your your depression even, your
bitterness,

your resentment, all of it.

But I want to tell you.

More is possible.

And you cannot possibly know the extent of

the of the growth and the transformation
that is available to you from your current

vantage point. I don't have any clue what
kind of next levels

of growth and heaven on earth there are
for me in my marriage.

Why? Because I'm only right here.

And when it comes to knowing, like trying
to figure out.

What blessings are there available for me?

It's like walking on a hiking trail.

You can only see so far ahead on the trail
before you lose sight of

it because it turns around a bend or goes
over a hill or whatever.

Or trees get in the way. You can't you
can't ever see the entire trail from

one vantage point.

So if you're standing right here and you
say,

Well, that must be the limit.

That's as far as I can see. You wouldn't
do that on the trail.

That must be the end. That's the only
thing I can see.

No, you know that if you keep walking
you'll see more.

So why don't you believe it here?

If I keep going, I will see more.

Well, Matt, I could tell you the answer to
that.

It's because I've tried. I have kept going
and I haven't seen the more.

Understand.

I know that feeling.

I'm still waiting on the more.

Particularly in health. Literal physical
health,

if you don't know. I've dealt with a
chronic health condition

for twenty something twenty years.

Debilitating my wife thought I was gonna
die.

It used to take me, you know,

~ I'd say ten minutes to walk.

let's call it I'm I'm imagining our local
grocery store.

~ let's ten minutes to walk from the
produce section

to the to the exit.

And like ~ like the produce section is on
the end of the store with an exit.

I am not where I was. And and back then in
those days when I used to use

a cane and I used to take a bucket with me
to bed so I could go to

the bathroom in the middle of the night
without having to walk to the bathroom.

I would not have been able to see where I
am today.

I didn't know that today was possible.

Because what I what is true of me today is
that I I built a hundred and twenty foot,

ten foot long, whatever, hundred and ten
foot long fence in the middle

of the Tennessee summer.

That never would have been possible
fifteen years ago.

Fifteen years ago I could barely walk.

And so I take this to heart because I
still deal with trying

to believe for healing for myself.

And there are times when I assume this is
as far as it'll go,

'cause it won't hasn't budged for a while.

I myself get into this same place.

It just so happens that I've learned some
things about how to get a marriage

to go from hardly being able to like enjoy
each other

to my wife intensely enjoying me.

And I heard.

So I know something.

So when you are believing man,

I don't know. I just don't see it.

You're you are partnering with hell's

desire for your life.

And as soon as you stop believing that it
can change

You you start you start hurting the
marriage.

Your right actions on top of lack of faith
will

not produce what you want.

If

If you are not proud of the way you're
showing up as a husband,

if there's brokenness that you can't seem
to figure out,

you've got to learn what to believe
different.

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Help the message get out farther.

So, how do I know that there's more for
you?

Well, there's so much in scripture for
that.

But I want you to think about the life of
Peter.

So, when we first meet Peter,

he is stuck. He has been fishing all
night.

He hasn't caught anything, and he's
probably worried about how he's gonna take
care

of his family, his wife. We know he had a
wife because he had a mother-in-law.

He's stuck.

And he's j he can't see beyond the next
paycheck.

He's worked it all night, caught not a
single thing.

He had no idea what was possible for him.

He had no idea that he was about to become
wealthy in a moment with

the miraculous catch that Jesus enabled
once Peter gave him his boat.

And then from there.

Wow, okay, that was incredible.

He had no grid though for what was coming

in the next several hours or a couple days
when Jesus comes and heals

his mother in law.

He didn't know that that was gonna be
possible.

He didn't know once his mother in law got
healed,

he was he had no clue that w his next step
was gonna

be to be instrumental in feeding five
thousand people with just a few loaves

and a couple of fish.

And he had no idea as he was feeding those
people that the next thing would

be that he'd walk on top of water.

When Jesus gave him at the very beginning
this miraculous catch,

I guarantee you, Peter didn't think,

man, it'll be cool someday when I get to
the point where I walk on water.

He had no clue that that was coming.

And I and at that point.

He had no idea that someday he'd preach a
sermon and save three thousand people

in one shot. He had no idea that he would
be passing by people on the street

and his very shadow would bring healing to
their diseases.

He had no idea that he would raise the
dead like

he does in the book of Acts.

Every stage of Peter's life would have
sounded ridiculous

and made up to the previous version of
himself.

It would have sounded too outlandish,

too good to be true. I can't possibly
imagine that.

But this Peter's not just the guy in the
Bible.

He's an example for you and I.

That walking with God means that every
step forward you take,

your ceiling rises. Scripture tells us
that

He takes you from one level of glory to
another.

It it is only human thinking that says
well life is a series of ups and downs,

mountains and valleys. And if you're on
the mountain,

well you better get ready because you know
the next thing is a valley.

Pastors talk that way and it drives me
insane.

Because you wanna know why? It is
prophesying.

Downness. It's prophesying descent.

It's prophesying that there has to be
valley.

But Deuteronomy twenty eight says that you
will be the head and not the tail.

You will only go up and not down.

That's the blessing for obedience.

And I'm sorry it's not even dependent on
your obedience anymore because Jesus
obeyed

for you. So that promise is guaranteed
yours if what?

If you would believe it. What if you
believed that God had for your marriage

to only go up and not down?

And what if you believed it starting today
when your wife can hardly look at?

I mean you've had to have believed this in
some capacity.

Otherwise you wouldn't have seen the level
of success you have in your life

in these other areas. You've had to
believe this somehow,

that up is in my destiny. It's in my
future.

I'm asking you to resurrect it for your
marriage.

I'm asking you to see Peter and every
stage of his life that he went through,

each new victory being yours.

But you won't get to the next victory
while you're sitting and wallowing

in your self pity, while you're sitting
and wallowing in discouragement and
defeat.

And it's like, but but man, it's so hard
for me to even believe that

God wants this at this point. And if if
that is the case,

I'm sorry. I apologize on behalf of
churchianity that has told

you that God doesn't

If you've been feeling frustrated about
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a disconnect between your inside world and
the outside world.

And it feels like, yeah, you might be
doing all this stuff out there,

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real true, happiness, joy, just flowing in
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It feels like that stuff is hard to come
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really want to bless you, that has told
you that God doesn't want you

to pray for the things that you want
selfishly.

He wants you to pray for other people and
focus on them only and not you.

Does he want you to pray for other people?

Yes. Does he want you to focus on other
people and serve them?

Yes. Does he want you to reject those
things that you yourself want?

No. Scripture doesn't say that.

In fact, Corinthians says

Where'd I put it? two nine says,

as it is written, what no eye has seen,

nor ear heard, nor the heart of man
imagined,

what God has prepared for those who love
him.

You have no clue what the fullness of the
blessing that

God is preparing for you or has already
prepared for you.

You have not even imagined it.

You haven't been able to see it.

And yet it's there waiting for you.

It's there. It's yours. Do you understand
this?

I'm not just making this up. This is what
scripture says.

And Paul, he was quoting Isaiah in that
verse.

And you know what? It's so funny.

It's not even the most accurate quotation
of Isaiah.

And yet it became scripture.

Because it's a it's an illustration of how
God always wants

to to turn where you are into more.

The original Isaiah says from of old no
one has heard or perceived by the ear,

no eye has seen a God besides you who acts
for those who wait for him.

And Paul he like led by the Holy Spirit,

he almost ramps this up a notch and makes
it more exciting for you.

God acts for those who wait for him,

yeah, but nobody can has seen,

heard, or imagined what God has in store
when he acts for you.

And you've got Ephesians chapter three,

verse twenty. Now to him who is able to do
far more abundantly than all that

we ask or think, according to the power at
work within us,

God is able to do far more abundantly than

all that you ask or think.

And I know that there's a little bit of
wiggle room in there for your mind

to go yeah, he's able, but is he willing?

To that I just point you to the leper who
came to Jesus and said,

Lord, I know that if you that if you will,

you're able to heal me. And Jesus said,

If I'm willing.

If I'm willing to

Be healed. In other words,

that's not even a question. Am I willing
to heal your marriage?

Absolutely. Well then God, why aren't you?

Because the healing has got to flow
through you.

You are in a wrong paradigm if you are
expecting to just be able to

lay on your floor in your office and pray
hard and then see God

do a miracle without any of your
participation.

His miracles in scripture took human
participation.

His miracle in your marriage is going to
take your participation.

So it's not a question of whether God
wants to heal your marriage or not.

He does.

It's a question of are you able to get
into alignment to do your part

so that you can open up for the miracle?

Because

I know you've been trying, but you've been
trying according to

the wrong operating system and it's not
actually God's path

for healing your marriage.

So you need you need a different operating
system where you start actually opening

yourself up to the power of God in your
marriage,

in your husbanding is a man.

And then you show up in an entirely
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You show up in full masculinity,

you show up in joy and confidence,

and those things are probably even hard to
imagine in your home anyway,

because it's such f so full of strife.

You show up in those ways. And then you
start doing that and it's like,

Man, but my wife isn't changing.

And then I tell you, you have no idea what
kind of change she's about to

do if you keep on growing, you keep on
showing up,

you keep on positioning for the miracle
and being the miracle

and watching the transformation of God
happen in you.

You can't tell me she ain't gonna change
because you have no idea.

You don't know what's around the next bend
of the trail.

You would never ex accept this is just how
it is from your business.

You'd never accept this is just how it is.

Your kids.

You'd never accept ~ we're losing our
house.

This is just how it is.

I don't think anyway I would think you'd
fight.

I would think you'd find a way.

Why would you accept this is just how it
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This is just how I am as a man.

I'm just screw up.

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three things.

And they're gonna come out of Peter
walking on that water.

In that story, Jesus is walking on the
water,

and the disciples thought he was a ghost,

and they were afraid because they thought
he was something evil.

And Jesus says, Take courage, it's I don't
be afraid.

But the disciples they had this false
image

of who Jesus was approaching them in the
middle of the storm.

And that is our first point.

You have got to say yes to the invitation
that God is extending to you,

but it has to be knowing who the real God
is,

not the false scary one who you think
probably doesn't really want your marriage

to do all that well, who you think is so
upset with you and disappointed

by you or whatever that he's not blessing
you because of this,

that or the other thing.

No, you've got to say yes to the real one.

At the very beginning of Peter's story,

Jesus came along and said, Hey,

can I use your boat? And Peter said,

Sure. Here you go. He said yes.

And here in the storm where Peter's about
to walk on the water,

you've got to get rid of your counterfeit
idea of what God does or doesn't want

in you.

You've gotta get on board with the fact
that he wants Proverbs five to

be true of you of you in your marriage.

Let her breasts satisfy you at all times,

may you be forever intoxicated by her.

That's what he wants.

So say yes. Instead of assuming that he's
this is just you know,

this is just the way it's gonna be.

And in that moment of walking on the water
before he did,

Peter responded with a yes to the Lord.

He said, If it's you, tell me to come.

He was like, All right, I'm here and let's
do this.

Point number two after you say yes to the
real God.

is to reawaken your fire for more.

Be driven for more. Let yourself hunger
for more.

Let yourself be consumed by your mission
for more.

And Peter on the water.

He says, Lord, if it's you command me to
come to you.

Because why? He wasn't content just
watching Jesus do it.

He's like, I want more. Now all of a
sudden he saw a glimpse of the next level
that

was possible for him. And he's like,

Lord,

Enable me to do this, I wanna go after it.

I'm hungry for the next level.

Get hungry for the next level.

I'm not saying desperate. I'm not saying
needy.

I'm not saying whiny, I'm saying driven
with a fire burning inside of

you like a man.

And then you have to be willing number
three.

So number one, say yes to the real God.

Number two, reawaken your fire for more.

And number three, be willing to leave the
pack behind.

Because not a lot of people think this
way,

not a lot of people have hope for a
marriage that's too incredible to even
describe.

I do because I'm in one.

In fact, you have many, many Christian
brothers telling you,

you know what, attraction just fades over
time.

That's just how it is, man. You gotta
learn how to grow up and be okay with
that.

It's it gets replaced by companionship and
friendship,

which isn't really all that good of a
friendship because there's a lot of,

you know, resentment there.

People think, well, you know, sex is just
for men and women don't really want it.

That's never gonna help your marriage.

People think

God I does it like it's not he's more
concerned with me,

you know, growing in my character than
having me be happy.

That's not gonna help your marriage
either.

Thinking that you're just supposed to
suffer your way into good character

and marriage like you're never supposed to
be happy in your marriage,

it's not biblical. That's not being
intoxicated by her love.

So if you want to do this, you're going to
have to be willing to leave

the pack behind. And that's what Peter
did.

He stepped out of the boat, left the rest
of the disciples in the boat.

They would have thought he was crazy.

They would have said, Peter, you can't do
this.

What are you doing? This is bad.

This is wrong. You're going to die.

What this is irresponsible. And he did it.

And you're gonna have to face the same
stuff and do it too.

This is what everything I've building is
is is like built on.

Saying yes to the real God. This is this
is you as the man finding your identity

rooted in God's word over your life.

You cannot build anything on a wrong
picture of who God is.

Reawakening your desire for more.

This is the warrior.

Who guides his life by the principles of
God's promises,

and those principles are not shaken by
experience,

by disappointment, by time taking too
long,

by what other people say. No, I've
reawakened this warrior fire for more

in my marriage, and I will not compromise
on it because this is what God's word

says.

And then when you leave the pack behind,

you're stepping into your kingly identity,

rising above the crowd.

Engaging in your mission to say this is
how it will be.

Just so you know, when Peter got out of
the boat,

did he do it perfectly? No. He's failed,

he's sank, he got afraid. You don't have
to do this perfectly.

There is grace waiting for you when you
falter.

I falter.

But you've got to start believing for
more.

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