Metal Slinger

What is He's Just The Plot?

Join Nora and Alyssa, counselors in training, as they dissect the love interests of your favorite romance novels. Asking the hard hitting question: Is he hot, or is it trauma?

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One glass of wine. I'm already a [ __ ]

One glass of wine. I'm already a [ __ ]
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I think you're that without the wine. I

I think you're that without the wine. I
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He's just a boy. She's just a girl. Can

He's just a boy. She's just a girl. Can
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I make it any more obvious?

I make it any more obvious?
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That's right. The amount of angst and

That's right. The amount of angst and
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insecurity, drama, and clear lack of

insecurity, drama, and clear lack of
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communications in this book that we're

communications in this book that we're
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talking about this week, the only

talking about this week, the only
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soundtrack it could have would be by

soundtrack it could have would be by
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Averil Lavine. And I hope when the movie

Averil Lavine. And I hope when the movie
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comes out, because I 100% think there's

comes out, because I 100% think there's
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going to be a movie for this. Avoil is

going to be a movie for this. Avoil is
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all over that soundtrack. This book

all over that soundtrack. This book
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gives me such young

gives me such young
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aught, angsty vibes.

aught, angsty vibes.
I

I

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I can't. It's just hot people betraying

I can't. It's just hot people betraying
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each other.

each other.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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And I just need to see that in real

And I just need to see that in real
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life. Like I want I want this.

life. Like I want I want this.
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This is a hot take. I actually think the

This is a hot take. I actually think the
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movie might be better than the book if

movie might be better than the book if
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they make a movie.

they make a movie.
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I think depending on who they pick to

I think depending on who they pick to
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play the characters, I could for sure

play the characters, I could for sure
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seeing it being better. Hot people only.

seeing it being better. Hot people only.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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So, welcome to another episode of He's

So, welcome to another episode of He's
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Just the Plot, a podcast about book boys

Just the Plot, a podcast about book boys
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and wondering, are they okay? Are they?

and wondering, are they okay? Are they?
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Probably not. Okay. Here we analyze our

Probably not. Okay. Here we analyze our
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book boyfriends and apply counseling

book boyfriends and apply counseling
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theories and techniques we would use if

theories and techniques we would use if
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they were our clients because guys

they were our clients because guys
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aren't the only people who ask, "Does

aren't the only people who ask, "Does
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that feel good?"

that feel good?"
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No, I I ask that, too.

No, I I ask that, too.
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When you make a choice, does that feel

When you make a choice, does that feel
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good? I think that's a fair question.

good? I think that's a fair question.
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I'm Nora, current counseling student,

I'm Nora, current counseling student,
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and if I were awakened and had a magical

and if I were awakened and had a magical
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gift bestowed on me, I would want it to

gift bestowed on me, I would want it to
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be the ability to understand and

be the ability to understand and
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communicate in any language. And yes, I

communicate in any language. And yes, I
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stole that from my boyfriend who is also

stole that from my boyfriend who is also
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the producer of this podcast. Honestly,

the producer of this podcast. Honestly,
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that's a good one.

that's a good one.
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That's so like Yeah, that's I would have

That's so like Yeah, that's I would have
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never thought about that.

never thought about that.
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Same. I felt so when he said that in the

Same. I felt so when he said that in the
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car to me one day, I was like, "Oh, I'm

car to me one day, I was like, "Oh, I'm
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stupid. Why couldn't I think of that?" I

stupid. Why couldn't I think of that?" I
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don't know. Mine feels stupid. No, I

don't know. Mine feels stupid. No, I
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want to hear yours now. Um, so I'm

want to hear yours now. Um, so I'm
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Alyssa. I'm also a current counseling

Alyssa. I'm also a current counseling
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student as well. And I think a magical

student as well. And I think a magical
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gift that I would want if I were to ever

gift that I would want if I were to ever
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get them is being able to read people's

get them is being able to read people's
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minds and intentions.

minds and intentions.
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Yeah. I just like to know. I'm such a

Yeah. I just like to know. I'm such a
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people watcher where I'm like I just

people watcher where I'm like I just
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want to know what you're thinking as

want to know what you're thinking as
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you're walking through HB right now.

you're walking through HB right now.
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That's absolutely why you're a

That's absolutely why you're a
counselor.

counselor.

counselor.
100%.

100%.

100%.
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Yeah, for sure.

Yeah, for sure.
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Oh, but that's actually not what you're

Oh, but that's actually not what you're
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thinking right now. So, let's just be

thinking right now. So, let's just be
honest.

honest.

honest.
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Actually, you're wrong. Tell me the

Actually, you're wrong. Tell me the
truth.

truth.

truth.
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I can I can read it.

I can I can read it.
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I can read it. Your intentions are not

I can read it. Your intentions are not
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pure. Let's talk about it.

pure. Let's talk about it.
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Speaking of things we want to talk about

Speaking of things we want to talk about
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today, I hope we enticed you with all of

today, I hope we enticed you with all of
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the information we've given so far. But

the information we've given so far. But
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if you haven't guessed, the book we're

if you haven't guessed, the book we're
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talking about today is Metal Slinger by

talking about today is Metal Slinger by
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Rachel Schneider from the Fire and Metal

Rachel Schneider from the Fire and Metal
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duogy. And this is book one. Thank

duogy. And this is book one. Thank
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goodness it's a duogy.

goodness it's a duogy.
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I am here for the duogies that are

I am here for the duogies that are
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taking over.

taking over.
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A onew punch. Knock me out. Knock me

A onew punch. Knock me out. Knock me
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out. But before we go even farther into

out. But before we go even farther into
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this book, we do have to say spoilers.

this book, we do have to say spoilers.
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Yes, big spoilers. I'm not even going to

Yes, big spoilers. I'm not even going to
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we're not we're not even going to

we're not we're not even going to
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pretend. We're going to give away some

pretend. We're going to give away some
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big major plot points. So, if you want

big major plot points. So, if you want
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to read this book, if you were like,

to read this book, if you were like,
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"Wow, that sounds really interesting and

"Wow, that sounds really interesting and
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I want to read this before

I want to read this before
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they talk about it and listen to what

they talk about it and listen to what
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they have to say." See you when you

they have to say." See you when you
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finish it. Listen when you're done. We

finish it. Listen when you're done. We
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will still be here. Come back. That

will still be here. Come back. That
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being said, thoughts and prayers to the

being said, thoughts and prayers to the
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ones who haven't read it, literally.

ones who haven't read it, literally.
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Okay, so like most tropes in any fantasy

Okay, so like most tropes in any fantasy
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novel, no one likes the lead female

novel, no one likes the lead female
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character named Brin.

character named Brin.
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Caveat might have a change of name

Caveat might have a change of name
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later, but for now, Brin. With the

later, but for now, Brin. With the
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exception of two guys, big shocker, she

exception of two guys, big shocker, she
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only has two male friends who are both

only has two male friends who are both
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very popular and very powerful, while

very popular and very powerful, while
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she is not. She is poor and everyone

she is not. She is poor and everyone
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hates her. Uh so one of her best friends

hates her. Uh so one of her best friends
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and her love interest is the son of the

and her love interest is the son of the
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leader of Aaha. Aloha is the mythical

leader of Aaha. Aloha is the mythical
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place that is not on land. It's

place that is not on land. It's
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basically a boatyard. They live they

basically a boatyard. They live they
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live in an impoverished boatyard. That

live in an impoverished boatyard. That
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is until another guy shows up claiming

is until another guy shows up claiming
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to be the love of Brin's life.

to be the love of Brin's life.
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Introducing Aker, the epitome of a rich

Introducing Aker, the epitome of a rich
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[ __ ] boy. Yeah, but he's hot. Oh, he's

[ __ ] boy. Yeah, but he's hot. Oh, he's
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so hot.

so hot.
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He's so hot.

He's so hot.
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He's so hot. From the nose ring to the

He's so hot. From the nose ring to the
six-pack.

six-pack.

six-pack.
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This prince of the enemy kingdom has

This prince of the enemy kingdom has
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some secrets of his own. So, what will

some secrets of his own. So, what will
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all of these young, hot, powerful idiots

all of these young, hot, powerful idiots
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do? Find out in this book talk

do? Find out in this book talk
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sensation, Metal Slinger.

sensation, Metal Slinger.
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Okay, so the male lead aer who I also

Okay, so the male lead aer who I also
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wrote someone who mus unironically

wrote someone who mus unironically
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when I read that I laughed out loud.

when I read that I laughed out loud.
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He's 20 so he some grace

He's 20 so he some grace
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some grace. He's only 20.

some grace. He's only 20.
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Normally throughout the week, Alyssa and

Normally throughout the week, Alyssa and
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I will talk about where we are in this

I will talk about where we are in this
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in each book we're doing. Mhm.

in each book we're doing. Mhm.
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We did not do this book at all. Like I

We did not do this book at all. Like I
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finished it way before and she and we

finished it way before and she and we
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just didn't see each other by the time

just didn't see each other by the time
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she was in it. So I am dying to like

she was in it. So I am dying to like
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give me give me your impressions. I want

give me give me your impressions. I want
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to hear it. I literally had to reread

to hear it. I literally had to reread
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the last like handful of chapters. I was

the last like handful of chapters. I was
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in utter shock at the end of it. I was

in utter shock at the end of it. I was
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like, "What the [ __ ] did I read?"

like, "What the [ __ ] did I read?"
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Yeah. I'm just like

Yeah. I'm just like
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I was speechless and I feel like I

I was speechless and I feel like I
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haven't read a book with that type of

haven't read a book with that type of
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twist at the end in a really long time.

twist at the end in a really long time.
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I finished it earlier this morning and

I finished it earlier this morning and
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I'm still I' I've been thinking about it

I'm still I' I've been thinking about it
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all day. Like all day. It's all that's

all day. Like all day. It's all that's
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been running through my mind. One of my

been running through my mind. One of my
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points is literally did the author

points is literally did the author
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gaslight me the entire time?

gaslight me the entire time?
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No, literally. And yes, she did. I fell

No, literally. And yes, she did. I fell
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for it.

for it.
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100 hook, line, and sinker. And I was

100 hook, line, and sinker. And I was
like,

like,

like,
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"What?" The betrayal in that book, I was

"What?" The betrayal in that book, I was
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just like, it hurt my own heart.

just like, it hurt my own heart.
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The bet like that's a big betrayal.

The bet like that's a big betrayal.
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And not even just to like one person,

And not even just to like one person,
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but it was to like also Messer, their

but it was to like also Messer, their
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best friend who was like kept in the

best friend who was like kept in the
dark.

dark.

dark.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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But mainly Aker.

But mainly Aker.
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Oh, I just Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yes. That

Oh, I just Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yes. That
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is one of my points is the betrayal. I'm

is one of my points is the betrayal. I'm
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gonna say the high point of the book for

gonna say the high point of the book for
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me though, the uh I'm gonna be so real

me though, the uh I'm gonna be so real
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with you right now. I have to like write

with you right now. I have to like write
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this down. The high point of the book

this down. The high point of the book
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for me was the council room glass scene

for me was the council room glass scene
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where she astro projects to him and they

where she astro projects to him and they
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engage in some very voyuristic behavior.

engage in some very voyuristic behavior.
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Very steamy.

Very steamy.
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I thought that was hot. But if the sex

I thought that was hot. But if the sex
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scene is the high point in the book for

scene is the high point in the book for
you,

you,

you,
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that's probably a problem with the book.

that's probably a problem with the book.
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I can admit that. Yeah, it was a good

I can admit that. Yeah, it was a good
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scene though. It was hot. It was really

scene though. It was hot. It was really
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hot. Like I was like, "Oh,

hot. Like I was like, "Oh,
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oh, oh, oh, oh,

oh, oh, oh, oh,
oh."

oh."

oh."
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I also liked this. Which I I don't even

I also liked this. Which I I don't even
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know what it is now, but the slow burn

know what it is now, but the slow burn
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throughout the book on and just like the

throughout the book on and just like the
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buildup tension.

buildup tension.
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So much,

So much,
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but then for it to just turn around at

but then for it to just turn around at
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the end, I was like,

the end, I was like,
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"What the [ __ ] was the point?

"What the [ __ ] was the point?
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And that's why there's book two that's

And that's why there's book two that's
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not out.

not out.
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Yeah. Which is also frustrating.

Yeah. Which is also frustrating.
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Very very Yeah. Yeah. No. No. I was also

Very very Yeah. Yeah. No. No. I was also
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like, how do you rebuild from that?

like, how do you rebuild from that?
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Right. How do you rebuild from that? So

Right. How do you rebuild from that? So
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that's one of the things we're going to

that's one of the things we're going to
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talk about too. How do you rebuild from

talk about too. How do you rebuild from
betrayal?

betrayal?

betrayal?
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We're going to use acceptance and

We're going to use acceptance and
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commitment therapy approach because both

commitment therapy approach because both
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of us practice act in general. So

of us practice act in general. So
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immediately I was like, "Act act. For

immediately I was like, "Act act. For
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the love of God, please." I'm like,

the love of God, please." I'm like,
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"They're going to have to pay for Akur's

"They're going to have to pay for Akur's
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therapy." Okay, but they're all they all

therapy." Okay, but they're all they all
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need therapy. They're all problematic.

need therapy. They're all problematic.
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Like no one in here was like making good

Like no one in here was like making good
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choices for the benefit of the group

choices for the benefit of the group
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consistently. Yeah, they were all

consistently. Yeah, they were all
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sneaky little sneaks.

sneaky little sneaks.
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Except maybe. And maybe because I don't

Except maybe. And maybe because I don't
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know enough about her Aker's fiance,

know enough about her Aker's fiance,
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former fiance, which was the low point

former fiance, which was the low point
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in the book for me.

in the book for me.
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Yeah. where he humili humiliated his

Yeah. where he humili humiliated his
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current fiance publicly to prove a point

current fiance publicly to prove a point
about

about

about
Brin/Jovi

Brin/Jovi

Brin/Jovi
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who I I did look up if she had

who I I did look up if she had
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dissociative personality disorder

dissociative personality disorder
because

because

because
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yeah it was or dissociative identity

yeah it was or dissociative identity
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personality disorder because I was like

personality disorder because I was like
what

what

what
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is happening

is happening
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And it seems like when she was Joy, she

And it seems like when she was Joy, she
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was like all into Aker, but when she's

was like all into Aker, but when she's
Brin,

Brin,

Brin,
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she's all into Aloha.

she's all into Aloha.
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It's like very much like a switch would

It's like very much like a switch would
flip.

flip.

flip.
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Yeah. And I think that was definitely

Yeah. And I think that was definitely
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like her coping skills and she doesn't

like her coping skills and she doesn't
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quite meet the

quite meet the
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criteria for a diagnosis because I I do

criteria for a diagnosis because I I do
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think she has control over it which is

think she has control over it which is
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one of the biggest things is you don't

one of the biggest things is you don't
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necessarily have control and you kind of

necessarily have control and you kind of
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black out when you're doing this. But

black out when you're doing this. But
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like oh my gosh crazy.

like oh my gosh crazy.
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So I do want to talk acceptance and

So I do want to talk acceptance and
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commitment therapy just to kind of give

commitment therapy just to kind of give
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an overview for our listeners.

an overview for our listeners.
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Acceptance and commitment therapy is a

Acceptance and commitment therapy is a
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form of psychotherapy that helps

form of psychotherapy that helps
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individuals develop psychological

individuals develop psychological
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flexibility, which is the ability to

flexibility, which is the ability to
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stay present, open up to experiences,

stay present, open up to experiences,
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and take committed actions aligned with

and take committed actions aligned with
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a person's values even in the presence

a person's values even in the presence
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of difficult thoughts and emotions,

of difficult thoughts and emotions,
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which were all over the place here. All

which were all over the place here. All
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over. So many difficult thoughts mostly

over. So many difficult thoughts mostly
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coming from me. So many difficult

coming from me. So many difficult
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emotions also coming from me

emotions also coming from me
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with ACT. There's six core processes.

with ACT. There's six core processes.
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And so our first one is cognitive

And so our first one is cognitive
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diffusion, which is learning to step

diffusion, which is learning to step
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back from thoughts rather than getting

back from thoughts rather than getting
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caught up in them. And then the second

caught up in them. And then the second
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one is acceptance. So allowing thoughts

one is acceptance. So allowing thoughts
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and feelings to come and go without

and feelings to come and go without
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struggling with them. I think that's one

struggling with them. I think that's one
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of the hardest ones that I have a hard

of the hardest ones that I have a hard
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time with is acceptance. Personally,

time with is acceptance. Personally,
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yeah, I think all of these characters I

yeah, I think all of these characters I
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think Aker will struggle with that the

think Aker will struggle with that the
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most for sure. And then the third one is

most for sure. And then the third one is
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present moment awareness. So being

present moment awareness. So being
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mindful and fully engaged in the here

mindful and fully engaged in the here
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and now. And then number four is self as

and now. And then number four is self as
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context. So seeing oneself as more than

context. So seeing oneself as more than
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just one's thoughts, feelings, and or

just one's thoughts, feelings, and or
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roles. And then number five is values.

roles. And then number five is values.
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So clarifying what truly matters to the

So clarifying what truly matters to the
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individual. And then six is committed

individual. And then six is committed
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action. So taking meaningful steps

action. So taking meaningful steps
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through guided by values, not just by

through guided by values, not just by
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avoidance of the discomfort. So the goal

avoidance of the discomfort. So the goal
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with ACT is to not eliminate difficult

with ACT is to not eliminate difficult
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feelings but to change the relationship

feelings but to change the relationship
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with them so that you don't interfere

with them so that you don't interfere
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with living a fulfillment life. And I

with living a fulfillment life. And I
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think why we chose I think why we chose

think why we chose I think why we chose
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to use ACT with Aker is because he

to use ACT with Aker is because he
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definitely is going to have a lot of

definitely is going to have a lot of
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negative feelings that he's going to

negative feelings that he's going to
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need to process and he's not going to be

need to process and he's not going to be
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able to get rid of them and I think it's

able to get rid of them and I think it's
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important for him to not get rid of them

important for him to not get rid of them
completely.

completely.

completely.
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Yeah. and use them as a learning

Yeah. and use them as a learning
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experience and act will allow him to do

experience and act will allow him to do
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that. So even as I'm kind of imagining

that. So even as I'm kind of imagining
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Acura as the client here, it is very

Acura as the client here, it is very
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much like after these books have

much like after these books have
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happened or after the after having read

happened or after the after having read
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this book. So all of this has already

this book. So all of this has already
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happened and how do we move

happened and how do we move
forward?

forward?

forward?
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ACT can be used to treat a lot of

ACT can be used to treat a lot of
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different issues from anxiety,

different issues from anxiety,
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depression, chronic pain, substance use

depression, chronic pain, substance use
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and more. It integrates mindfulness and

and more. It integrates mindfulness and
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behavior change strategies and it's a

behavior change strategies and it's a
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really flexible and experiential

really flexible and experiential
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approach which I think is good for all

approach which I think is good for all
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of these characters because they're all

of these characters because they're all
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all over the place. Like they are they

all over the place. Like they are they
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are all like 20, 22, 18. Once again, I

are all like 20, 22, 18. Once again, I
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don't understand why in fantasy books

don't understand why in fantasy books
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the age range is either I am 20 or I'm

the age range is either I am 20 or I'm
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457 years old. Like, can someone just be

457 years old. Like, can someone just be
middle-aged?<00:13:19.200> Can<00:13:19.440> someone<00:13:19.680> just<00:13:19.920> have<00:13:20.079> life

middle-aged? Can someone just have life

middle-aged? Can someone just have life
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experiences that didn't take place in

experiences that didn't take place in
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12,000 BC or two days ago? That's all

12,000 BC or two days ago? That's all
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I'm saying.

I'm saying.
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Yeah. My understanding was Kai's father

Yeah. My understanding was Kai's father
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is like hundreds of years old, right?

is like hundreds of years old, right?
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Yes. And so is Aers like And so is

Yes. And so is Aers like And so is
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Joy/Bin's mom. They're all like

Joy/Bin's mom. They're all like
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hundreds of years old

hundreds of years old
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and they're all lying to their kids.

and they're all lying to their kids.
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And you would think with that many years

And you would think with that many years
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of experience,

of experience,
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you would think, you would think, but

you would think, you would think, but
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not what we got. Not what we got. Uh, so

not what we got. Not what we got. Uh, so
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today we're going to be talking about

today we're going to be talking about
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gaslighting. There was a lot of it.

gaslighting. There was a lot of it.
Betrayal,<00:14:00.560> the<00:14:00.800> entire<00:14:01.120> book,<00:14:01.839> and

Betrayal, the entire book, and

Betrayal, the entire book, and
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protecting your peace, which is what you

protecting your peace, which is what you
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need to do after reading this book.

need to do after reading this book.
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I think I'm still processing what

I think I'm still processing what
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happened in the book. Yeah. Which brings

happened in the book. Yeah. Which brings
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us to our first topic. Did this author

us to our first topic. Did this author
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Did this author gaslight me the entire

Did this author gaslight me the entire
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time? I I felt lied to at the end. Like

time? I I felt lied to at the end. Like
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I was I was I had to reread. There were

I was I was I had to reread. There were
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moments in the book where I was like

moments in the book where I was like
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this this feels off like this this shift

this this feels off like this this shift
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like something's doesn't add up.

like something's doesn't add up.
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And at the end all of that makes sense.

And at the end all of that makes sense.
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Like when Aker's sister kept having to

Like when Aker's sister kept having to
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selfisolate to deal with dealing she can

selfisolate to deal with dealing she can
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read people's auras auras

read people's auras auras
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and every time she was around Joy/Bin

and every time she was around Joy/Bin
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Brinn was like the girl in Aaha turns

Brinn was like the girl in Aaha turns
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out her real name is Joy and she's the

out her real name is Joy and she's the
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princess of another kingdom who was

princess of another kingdom who was
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abducted and raised in Aloha and Aker

abducted and raised in Aloha and Aker
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comes to find her. Turns out they're

comes to find her. Turns out they're
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faded mates which crazy.

faded mates which crazy.
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That's a whole thing.

That's a whole thing.
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Yeah. And and then Aker's like, "No,

Yeah. And and then Aker's like, "No,
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faded mates are the best." Even though

faded mates are the best." Even though
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all the literature he's reading is like,

all the literature he's reading is like,
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"Yeah, they hate each other. It's very

"Yeah, they hate each other. It's very
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bad. Don't do it." And he's like, "No,

bad. Don't do it." And he's like, "No,
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we're going to make it work.

we're going to make it work.
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I'm in love with you. I'm I'm so in

I'm in love with you. I'm I'm so in
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love." And then his best friend is like,

love." And then his best friend is like,
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"I don't know. She seems weird."

"I don't know. She seems weird."
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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She was in love with like

She was in love with like
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other Aloaha, the president, king of

other Aloaha, the president, king of
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Aloha's son, and was about to get

Aloha's son, and was about to get
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married to him. So maybe we should pump

married to him. So maybe we should pump
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the brakes there, friend. And Agra was

the brakes there, friend. And Agra was
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like, "Absolutely not." And then his

like, "Absolutely not." And then his
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sister was like, "I can't be around her

sister was like, "I can't be around her
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cuz her aura is very strong and like

cuz her aura is very strong and like
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yellow, which means like she's lying

yellow, which means like she's lying
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about something." But then turns out the

about something." But then turns out the
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sister's also lying about things. So

sister's also lying about things. So
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everyone lying. Everyone was lying.

everyone lying. Everyone was lying.
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Everyone was lying.

Everyone was lying.
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I think this is a direct result of the

I think this is a direct result of the
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impact Sarah J. Moss has had on the

impact Sarah J. Moss has had on the
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fantasy world. And what I love a good

fantasy world. And what I love a good
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twist at the end, but what I didn't like

twist at the end, but what I didn't like
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about this is it didn't make sense.

about this is it didn't make sense.
No.

No.

No.
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Because the and this is this is a

Because the and this is this is a
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literary critique. This isn't a

literary critique. This isn't a
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counseling critique, but the narration

counseling critique, but the narration
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was done from Joy's perspective.

was done from Joy's perspective.
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So why would Joy not know that she's

So why would Joy not know that she's
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lying the entire time, right? Like why

lying the entire time, right? Like why
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wouldn't we be in on that? And that was

wouldn't we be in on that? And that was
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my like literary hesitation with this

my like literary hesitation with this
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and why like great twist. Great great

and why like great twist. Great great
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twist at the end.

twist at the end.
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It was great.

It was great.
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It was so good, but also like I hated

It was so good, but also like I hated
it.

it.

it.
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Uh yeah, I was like this is this doesn't

Uh yeah, I was like this is this doesn't
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make sense. I see what you're trying to

make sense. I see what you're trying to
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do. I love that. I don't think it was

do. I love that. I don't think it was
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well executed. Yeah, it wasn't well

well executed. Yeah, it wasn't well
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executed. But oh my gosh, did it make me

executed. But oh my gosh, did it make me
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want to read the second one. I literally

want to read the second one. I literally
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had to look up when she's coming out

had to look up when she's coming out
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with the second one cuz I was like,

with the second one cuz I was like,
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there's no way I can wait this long.

there's no way I can wait this long.
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When is she coming out with this?

When is she coming out with this?
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I have no clue. It didn't say a date.

I have no clue. It didn't say a date.
Oh,<00:17:01.120> okay.<00:17:01.440> Cool.

Oh, okay. Cool.

Oh, okay. Cool.
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This is just like Acatar six book all

This is just like Acatar six book all
over<00:17:04.720> again.

over again.

over again.
Dude,<00:17:05.760> if<00:17:05.919> we<00:17:06.000> can't<00:17:06.160> even<00:17:06.319> talk<00:17:06.480> about<00:17:06.640> that

Dude, if we can't even talk about that

Dude, if we can't even talk about that
book,

book,

book,
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I just want to get Azriel's point of

I just want to get Azriel's point of
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view. That's all I care about.

view. That's all I care about.
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I hear you. I see you. I'm clearly a

I hear you. I see you. I'm clearly a
Cassian<00:17:15.760> girl.<00:17:16.000> I<00:17:16.240> think<00:17:16.319> Azriel<00:17:17.039> I<00:17:17.199> think

Cassian girl. I think Azriel I think

Cassian girl. I think Azriel I think
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Azriel and Aker have a lot in common in

Azriel and Aker have a lot in common in
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that they're both they both feel

that they're both they both feel
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entitled to something and they don't

entitled to something and they don't
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understand why and they don't take time

understand why and they don't take time
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to self-reflect and I think if Aker had

to self-reflect and I think if Aker had
self-reflected

self-reflected

self-reflected
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he would have not allowed such a big

he would have not allowed such a big
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betrayal to happen to him. So basically

betrayal to happen to him. So basically
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what happens if your partner gaslights

what happens if your partner gaslights
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you the entire time? Can you can you

you the entire time? Can you can you
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come back from that? That's that's

come back from that? That's that's
that's<00:17:47.520> a<00:17:47.760> counseling<00:17:48.160> question.<00:17:48.559> Can<00:17:48.720> you

that's a counseling question. Can you

that's a counseling question. Can you
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come back from that?

come back from that?
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I love the answer. It depends.

I love the answer. It depends.
It<00:17:52.480> depends.

It depends.

It depends.
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So, I would say with these two, a huge

So, I would say with these two, a huge
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rupture has occurred, right? Because

rupture has occurred, right? Because
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Joy, now going by Brin, basically had a

Joy, now going by Brin, basically had a
full-on<00:18:02.240> unspoken<00:18:02.799> agenda<00:18:03.280> the<00:18:03.520> entire

full-on unspoken agenda the entire

full-on unspoken agenda the entire
relationship.

relationship.

relationship.
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And so the foundation of their

And so the foundation of their
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relationship, what should have been

relationship, what should have been
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built on trust and understanding and

built on trust and understanding and
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getting to know someone

getting to know someone
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was built on lies

was built on lies
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and manipulation

and manipulation
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and manipulation. And so if I were to

and manipulation. And so if I were to
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apply act in a couple's

apply act in a couple's
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place or like in couples counseling,

place or like in couples counseling,
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I think it would be starting with as a

I think it would be starting with as a
couple,<00:18:29.280> what<00:18:29.520> do<00:18:29.679> you<00:18:29.840> value?

couple, what do you value?

couple, what do you value?
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Because Aker really valued the

Because Aker really valued the
relationship.

relationship.

relationship.
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the idea of like love and protection and

the idea of like love and protection and
leadership<00:18:40.960> and<00:18:41.360> safety.

leadership and safety.

leadership and safety.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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What he didn't recognize is Joy really

What he didn't recognize is Joy really
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values freedom and independence

values freedom and independence
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and she she couldn't have that

and she she couldn't have that
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with with Aker and she's looking at this

with with Aker and she's looking at this
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bigger picture of like a your kingdom is

bigger picture of like a your kingdom is
suppressing<00:18:59.200> everyone<00:18:59.679> else.<00:19:00.000> Like<00:19:00.240> your<00:19:00.480> dad

suppressing everyone else. Like your dad

suppressing everyone else. Like your dad
sucks

sucks

sucks
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and I'mma fight him. So, just starting

and I'mma fight him. So, just starting
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off with that honest conversation of

off with that honest conversation of
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your dad sucks and I want to be free and

your dad sucks and I want to be free and
Acura<00:19:11.440> being<00:19:11.679> like,

Acura being like,

Acura being like,
"No,

"No,

"No,
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I love my dad and I want to protect you

I love my dad and I want to protect you
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at all costs in all times and have you

at all costs in all times and have you
in<00:19:17.520> my<00:19:17.679> life<00:19:18.000> 24/7."

in my life 24/7."

in my life 24/7."
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
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I thought he was really protective

I thought he was really protective
fairly<00:19:21.919> quick

fairly quick

fairly quick
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in the book. I think like when she

in the book. I think like when she
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needed to use the restroom when they

needed to use the restroom when they
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were in the forest and she was like,

were in the forest and she was like,
"I'm<00:19:28.640> just<00:19:28.799> going<00:19:28.880> to<00:19:28.960> be<00:19:29.039> a<00:19:29.200> couple<00:19:29.360> minutes."

"I'm just going to be a couple minutes."

"I'm just going to be a couple minutes."
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He was like, "Well, let me go with you."

He was like, "Well, let me go with you."
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And I was like, "Dude, chill." Yeah.

And I was like, "Dude, chill." Yeah.
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Although it did turn out to be

Although it did turn out to be
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it was really a good idea that he did

it was really a good idea that he did
go.

go.

go.
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But then it was also I think when she

But then it was also I think when she
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was starting to discover her powers and

was starting to discover her powers and
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he was like you need to learn to control

he was like you need to learn to control
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it cuz it looks like I can't control

it cuz it looks like I can't control
you.<00:19:49.120> And<00:19:49.280> she<00:19:49.520> was<00:19:49.679> like<00:19:49.919> you<00:19:50.240> can't<00:19:51.120> facts

you. And she was like you can't facts

you. And she was like you can't facts
fact.<00:19:52.559> She<00:19:52.720> was<00:19:52.799> like<00:19:53.039> you<00:19:53.280> don't<00:19:53.440> control<00:19:53.840> me.

fact. She was like you don't control me.

fact. She was like you don't control me.
when<00:19:55.120> he<00:19:55.440> finally<00:19:55.840> got<00:19:56.080> her<00:19:56.320> through<00:19:56.480> the

when he finally got her through the

when he finally got her through the
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forest and into that like camp, she like

forest and into that like camp, she like
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barged in to tell him something and he

barged in to tell him something and he
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was like, "You can't talk to me that way

was like, "You can't talk to me that way
in<00:20:04.160> front<00:20:04.320> of<00:20:04.400> my<00:20:04.640> men."

in front of my men."

in front of my men."
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I was like, "She can talk to you however

I was like, "She can talk to you however
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she wants." Yeah. Like, but also I think

she wants." Yeah. Like, but also I think
interestingly<00:20:12.400> enough,<00:20:13.600> Brin

interestingly enough, Brin

interestingly enough, Brin
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
is<00:20:15.360> very<00:20:15.600> perceptive.

is very perceptive.

is very perceptive.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
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And she saw how Aker wanted her to

And she saw how Aker wanted her to
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behave and she purposely integrated

behave and she purposely integrated
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herself into his life and changed her

herself into his life and changed her
behaviors<00:20:26.640> and<00:20:26.960> used<00:20:27.360> his<00:20:27.679> own<00:20:28.000> wishes

behaviors and used his own wishes

behaviors and used his own wishes
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against him to like build that trust.

against him to like build that trust.
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And that's where the betrayal is so hard

And that's where the betrayal is so hard
because

because

because
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can you trust your partner who has

can you trust your partner who has
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manipulated you so much? And I think

manipulated you so much? And I think
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then that goes into

then that goes into
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using ACT to set a boundary.

using ACT to set a boundary.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
Of

Of

Of
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are we making choices? Are we we're at a

are we making choices? Are we we're at a
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choice point? And I'll I'll talk about

choice point? And I'll I'll talk about
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that later, but we're we're at a choice

that later, but we're we're at a choice
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point. Are we making choices that move

point. Are we making choices that move
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us towards the couple we want to be or

us towards the couple we want to be or
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away from the couple we want to be? So,

away from the couple we want to be? So,
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are you taking those committed actions

are you taking those committed actions
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to telling the truth

to telling the truth
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and valuing this relationship above us

and valuing this relationship above us
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as individuals or are you going to value

as individuals or are you going to value
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maybe society above the relationship,

maybe society above the relationship,
the<00:21:18.799> rebellion?

the rebellion?

the rebellion?
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So, I mean like there's a bigger picture

So, I mean like there's a bigger picture
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and I think she chose the bigger

and I think she chose the bigger
picture.<00:21:25.840> did

picture. did

picture. did
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and I I mean that sucks for him but also

and I I mean that sucks for him but also
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I think sometimes those are good

I think sometimes those are good
characteristics<00:21:32.720> of<00:21:32.880> of<00:21:33.360> leadership.

characteristics of of leadership.

characteristics of of leadership.
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Yeah. Which then brings me to my next

Yeah. Which then brings me to my next
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one of my bigger points is I think Aker

one of my bigger points is I think Aker
himself

himself

himself
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at the end really needs to learn to

at the end really needs to learn to
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protect his peace but also really needs

protect his peace but also really needs
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to understand what it is he actually

to understand what it is he actually
values

values

values
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because throughout the book I felt like

because throughout the book I felt like
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he valued being perceived as a leader

he valued being perceived as a leader
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and people relying on him.

and people relying on him.
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Yeah. But I don't think he actually

Yeah. But I don't think he actually
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knows what what it takes to be a good

knows what what it takes to be a good
leader.

leader.

leader.
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Yeah. So, this is where I would

Yeah. So, this is where I would
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implement ACT choice points.

implement ACT choice points.
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Love that for for for him. Um, but

Love that for for for him. Um, but
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basically a choice point is a tool that

basically a choice point is a tool that
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you would use in counseling as a person.

you would use in counseling as a person.
you<00:22:21.360> would<00:22:21.600> start<00:22:21.760> to<00:22:22.000> recognize

you would start to recognize

you would start to recognize
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where can I take committed actions that

where can I take committed actions that
move<00:22:26.480> me<00:22:26.799> towards

move me towards

move me towards
values<00:22:28.799> or<00:22:29.039> my<00:22:29.200> ideal<00:22:29.840> person.

values or my ideal person.

values or my ideal person.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
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And where am I taking the actions that

And where am I taking the actions that
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move me away from them where I'm hooked

move me away from them where I'm hooked
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into these thoughts, these feelings and

into these thoughts, these feelings and
sensations<00:22:42.320> that<00:22:42.640> aren't<00:22:43.039> making<00:22:43.280> me

sensations that aren't making me

sensations that aren't making me
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the person that I want to be. So I think

the person that I want to be. So I think
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for him he really wants to be a good

for him he really wants to be a good
leader.<00:22:50.240> Yeah.

leader. Yeah.

leader. Yeah.
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And he says that all the time when

And he says that all the time when
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they're visiting the couple who are also

they're visiting the couple who are also
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faded mates and when he's talking to his

faded mates and when he's talking to his
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best friends like he wants to take over

best friends like he wants to take over
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from his father and make changes to the

from his father and make changes to the
kingdom<00:23:02.480> and<00:23:02.720> be<00:23:02.880> more<00:23:03.120> equitable,<00:23:03.679> be<00:23:03.840> a<00:23:04.000> good

kingdom and be more equitable, be a good

kingdom and be more equitable, be a good
leader,<00:23:04.640> care<00:23:04.880> for<00:23:05.120> his<00:23:05.360> people.<00:23:05.679> That's<00:23:05.919> very

leader, care for his people. That's very

leader, care for his people. That's very
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important to him. But the entire book,

important to him. But the entire book,
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he has taken all of these sensations and

he has taken all of these sensations and
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inputs and experiences

inputs and experiences
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and has been so wrapped up in his own

and has been so wrapped up in his own
wants<00:23:16.640> and<00:23:16.799> needs<00:23:17.280> in<00:23:17.520> this<00:23:17.760> relationship

wants and needs in this relationship

wants and needs in this relationship
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with Joy and having someone just

with Joy and having someone just
unequivocally<00:23:22.000> in<00:23:22.240> love<00:23:22.400> with<00:23:22.559> him,<00:23:22.799> which

unequivocally in love with him, which

unequivocally in love with him, which
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could stem from his mommy issues and his

could stem from his mommy issues and his
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mom abandoning him and his dad raising

mom abandoning him and his dad raising
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him and totally lying to him forever and

him and totally lying to him forever and
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like feeling like he has no one who

like feeling like he has no one who
trusts<00:23:31.520> him<00:23:31.679> and<00:23:31.840> needing

trusts him and needing

trusts him and needing
stems<00:23:33.120> from<00:23:33.840> parental<00:23:34.320> issues.

stems from parental issues.

stems from parental issues.
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Always always the parents.

Always always the parents.
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Always the parents. It's where it

Always the parents. It's where it
starts.

starts.

starts.
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It's where it starts. Raise your kids.

It's where it starts. Raise your kids.
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Love your kids. Don't abandon your kids.

Love your kids. Don't abandon your kids.
Learn<00:23:42.799> about<00:23:43.039> parenting<00:23:43.600> styles.

Learn about parenting styles.

Learn about parenting styles.
Learn<00:23:44.480> about<00:23:45.120> Learn<00:23:45.440> about<00:23:45.679> attachment

Learn about Learn about attachment

Learn about Learn about attachment
styles.<00:23:47.360> That's<00:23:47.520> all<00:23:47.760> I'm<00:23:48.000> saying.<00:23:48.799> These

styles. That's all I'm saying. These

styles. That's all I'm saying. These
kids<00:23:49.360> attach.

kids attach.

kids attach.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
Honestly,<00:23:51.520> most<00:23:51.679> of<00:23:51.840> counseling<00:23:52.240> is<00:23:52.559> just

Honestly, most of counseling is just

Honestly, most of counseling is just
reparing<00:23:53.919> yourself.

reparing yourself.

reparing yourself.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
Making<00:23:56.080> the<00:23:56.400> tough<00:23:56.640> choices

Making the tough choices

Making the tough choices
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that weren't always demonstrated for

that weren't always demonstrated for
you.

you.

you.
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And he he didn't have those choices

And he he didn't have those choices
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demonstrated for him. So he was choosing

demonstrated for him. So he was choosing
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his idea of love

his idea of love
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over listening to everyone who said,

over listening to everyone who said,
"Pause,<00:24:14.559> wait,<00:24:15.440> this<00:24:15.679> is<00:24:15.840> the<00:24:16.080> information

"Pause, wait, this is the information

"Pause, wait, this is the information
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you need to be able to do the things you

you need to be able to do the things you
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want to do." So I would I would use that

want to do." So I would I would use that
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tool with him. I think that's a good

tool with him. I think that's a good
one.

one.

one.
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And then but I I think he's also kind of

And then but I I think he's also kind of
hotheaded

hotheaded

hotheaded
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I just haven't I haven't read a book

I just haven't I haven't read a book
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where someone had a nose ring in a long

where someone had a nose ring in a long
time.

time.

time.
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Me, too. And I normally don't find them

Me, too. And I normally don't find them
attractive<00:24:38.720> on<00:24:38.880> men.

attractive on men.

attractive on men.
Oh,<00:24:39.600> no.<00:24:39.840> I'm<00:24:40.000> a<00:24:40.240> sucker<00:24:40.480> for<00:24:40.559> a<00:24:40.799> nose<00:24:41.039> ring.

Oh, no. I'm a sucker for a nose ring.

Oh, no. I'm a sucker for a nose ring.
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Not a septum, though. I don't like

Not a septum, though. I don't like
septum<00:24:43.600> piercings.

septum piercings.

septum piercings.
Just<00:24:44.240> like<00:24:44.400> the

Just like the

Just like the
Oh,<00:24:45.279> yeah.<00:24:46.000> Oh,<00:24:46.320> yeah.<00:24:47.679> Oh,<00:24:48.000> yeah.

Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.

Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.
Not<00:24:50.400> the<00:24:50.559> Midwestern<00:24:51.279> coming<00:24:51.520> out.

Not the Midwestern coming out.

Not the Midwestern coming out.
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No<00:24:57.120> one<00:24:57.279> has<00:24:57.600> nose<00:24:57.919> piercing<00:24:58.320> up<00:24:58.480> there.

No one has nose piercing up there.

No one has nose piercing up there.
Oh,<00:25:00.480> we<00:25:00.720> know.

Oh, we know.

Oh, we know.
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I think it very much took on,

I think it very much took on,
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you know, that saying where it's like

you know, that saying where it's like
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the hero would, you know, let you burn

the hero would, you know, let you burn
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to save the world, whereas in like a

to save the world, whereas in like a
villain<00:25:13.440> would<00:25:13.679> burn<00:25:13.919> the<00:25:14.159> world<00:25:14.320> to<00:25:14.559> save

villain would burn the world to save

villain would burn the world to save
you.

you.

you.
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Oh my gosh, that's tattooed on every

Oh my gosh, that's tattooed on every
Butury's<00:25:19.039> brain.<00:25:19.840> Yes.<00:25:20.640> But<00:25:20.799> I<00:25:21.039> think<00:25:21.200> it's

Butury's brain. Yes. But I think it's

Butury's brain. Yes. But I think it's
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and I'm not calling, you know, Aker a

and I'm not calling, you know, Aker a
villain,<00:25:24.400> but<00:25:24.640> it's<00:25:24.880> kind<00:25:25.039> of<00:25:25.120> like<00:25:25.440> he's

villain, but it's kind of like he's

villain, but it's kind of like he's
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willing I think he'd be willing to

willing I think he'd be willing to
sacrifice<00:25:27.919> a<00:25:28.159> lot

sacrifice a lot

sacrifice a lot
to<00:25:29.360> end<00:25:29.520> up<00:25:29.679> with<00:25:29.840> Joy.

to end up with Joy.

to end up with Joy.
He<00:25:30.880> did.

He did.

He did.
He<00:25:31.440> did.

He did.

He did.
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He sacrificed so much. And I think Joy's

He sacrificed so much. And I think Joy's
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like, "No, this is this is a bigger

like, "No, this is this is a bigger
picture.<00:25:37.360> Like<00:25:37.600> I<00:25:37.919> did<00:25:38.080> this<00:25:39.039> to<00:25:39.279> start<00:25:39.440> a<00:25:39.679> war.

picture. Like I did this to start a war.

picture. Like I did this to start a war.
Like<00:25:40.159> I<00:25:40.320> did<00:25:40.559> this<00:25:40.880> to<00:25:41.200> better

Like I did this to better

Like I did this to better
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our future. I did this to better the

our future. I did this to better the
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future of everyone else." Mhm. I think

future of everyone else." Mhm. I think
it's<00:25:48.799> also<00:25:49.120> like

my<00:25:52.480> point<00:25:52.720> is

my point is

my point is
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Aker played himself. He really did. I

Aker played himself. He really did. I
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think he fell hard and he fell fast and

think he fell hard and he fell fast and
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he put his own wants and needs above

he put his own wants and needs above
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those of his kingdom and his people

those of his kingdom and his people
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and that goes against his values. And I

and that goes against his values. And I
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think this betrayal that he feels from

think this betrayal that he feels from
Joy,<00:26:13.360> honestly,<00:26:13.760> I<00:26:13.919> bet<00:26:14.080> you<00:26:14.240> in<00:26:14.480> that<00:26:14.640> next

Joy, honestly, I bet you in that next

Joy, honestly, I bet you in that next
book,<00:26:15.120> he's<00:26:15.440> gonna<00:26:15.600> be<00:26:15.760> like,<00:26:15.919> I'm<00:26:16.159> not<00:26:16.240> even

book, he's gonna be like, I'm not even

book, he's gonna be like, I'm not even
mad<00:26:16.640> at<00:26:16.720> you.<00:26:17.039> I'm<00:26:17.279> mad<00:26:17.440> at<00:26:17.600> myself

mad at you. I'm mad at myself

mad at you. I'm mad at myself
because<00:26:18.960> I<00:26:19.200> let<00:26:19.440> my<00:26:19.600> own<00:26:19.760> values<00:26:20.159> down.

because I let my own values down.

because I let my own values down.
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That I think is one of the that's why I

That I think is one of the that's why I
really<00:26:24.480> like<00:26:24.799> act<00:26:25.279> because

really like act because

really like act because
he<00:26:26.640> will<00:26:26.960> have<00:26:27.120> to<00:26:27.279> self-reflect<00:26:28.240> to<00:26:28.480> do<00:26:28.640> that

he will have to self-reflect to do that

he will have to self-reflect to do that
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and be in the moment and really feel his

and be in the moment and really feel his
feelings<00:26:33.279> and<00:26:33.520> realize<00:26:33.840> like,<00:26:34.320> look,<00:26:34.559> I<00:26:34.720> I

feelings and realize like, look, I I

feelings and realize like, look, I I
took<00:26:35.279> actions.<00:26:35.760> Those<00:26:35.919> aren't<00:26:36.159> me.<00:26:36.720> M

took actions. Those aren't me. M

took actions. Those aren't me. M
those<00:26:37.200> were<00:26:37.360> actions<00:26:37.679> I<00:26:37.919> took.<00:26:38.880> Those<00:26:39.039> are

those were actions I took. Those are

those were actions I took. Those are
feelings<00:26:39.520> I<00:26:39.760> have.<00:26:40.080> All<00:26:40.240> of<00:26:40.320> that<00:26:40.559> is<00:26:40.720> valid.

feelings I have. All of that is valid.

feelings I have. All of that is valid.
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But I'm a person capable of change. And

But I'm a person capable of change. And
I<00:26:44.320> recognize<00:26:45.440> that<00:26:45.679> I'm<00:26:45.919> not<00:26:46.080> living<00:26:46.240> towards

I recognize that I'm not living towards

I recognize that I'm not living towards
my<00:26:46.720> values.<00:26:47.039> I'm<00:26:47.200> not<00:26:47.360> going<00:26:47.679> towards<00:26:48.880> the

my values. I'm not going towards the

my values. I'm not going towards the
leader<00:26:49.440> that<00:26:49.600> I<00:26:49.760> want<00:26:49.840> to<00:26:50.000> be.<00:26:50.240> And<00:26:50.400> so<00:26:51.360> I<00:26:51.679> think

leader that I want to be. And so I think

leader that I want to be. And so I think
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there will be a lot of growth. I'm

there will be a lot of growth. I'm
really<00:26:54.320> hoping<00:26:54.640> there<00:26:54.880> is<00:26:56.080> for<00:26:56.240> him.

really hoping there is for him.

really hoping there is for him.
He's<00:26:56.799> too<00:26:57.039> hot<00:26:57.279> to<00:26:57.440> not.

He's too hot to not.

He's too hot to not.
He<00:26:57.919> is<00:26:58.080> too<00:26:58.320> hot.<00:26:58.799> My<00:26:59.039> heart<00:26:59.200> broke<00:26:59.440> when<00:26:59.600> he

He is too hot. My heart broke when he

He is too hot. My heart broke when he
was<00:26:59.760> like,<00:26:59.840> "Was<00:27:00.159> any<00:27:00.320> of<00:27:00.480> it<00:27:00.720> real?"<00:27:01.039> I<00:27:01.279> was

was like, "Was any of it real?" I was

was like, "Was any of it real?" I was
like,

like,

like,
I<00:27:02.240> know.

I know.

I know.
I<00:27:02.799> don't<00:27:02.960> know.

I don't know.

I don't know.
I<00:27:03.520> know.<00:27:03.760> But<00:27:03.919> I<00:27:04.080> also<00:27:04.400> love<00:27:05.120> that<00:27:05.360> it<00:27:05.600> was<00:27:05.760> the

I know. But I also love that it was the

I know. But I also love that it was the
girl<00:27:06.240> who<00:27:06.480> was<00:27:06.640> the<00:27:06.880> villain.<00:27:07.360> Like<00:27:07.679> I<00:27:08.320> I<00:27:08.640> did

girl who was the villain. Like I I did

girl who was the villain. Like I I did
too.

too.

too.
I<00:27:09.360> loved<00:27:10.080> that<00:27:10.640> she<00:27:10.960> betrayed<00:27:11.600> him

I loved that she betrayed him

I loved that she betrayed him
because<00:27:13.279> so<00:27:13.520> often<00:27:13.919> it's<00:27:14.159> the<00:27:14.320> other<00:27:14.480> way

because so often it's the other way

because so often it's the other way
around<00:27:14.880> and<00:27:15.120> then<00:27:15.279> we<00:27:15.440> like<00:27:15.600> pity<00:27:15.919> the<00:27:16.159> woman

around and then we like pity the woman

around and then we like pity the woman
like,<00:27:16.640> "Oh,<00:27:16.960> she's<00:27:17.120> such<00:27:17.279> a<00:27:17.440> victim."<00:27:18.000> Nah,

like, "Oh, she's such a victim." Nah,

like, "Oh, she's such a victim." Nah,
brah.<00:27:18.880> This

brah. This

brah. This
she's<00:27:20.000> not<00:27:20.159> a<00:27:20.320> victim,<00:27:21.120> she's<00:27:21.279> a<00:27:21.520> player.

she's not a victim, she's a player.

she's not a victim, she's a player.
I'm<00:27:22.400> loved<00:27:22.720> that<00:27:22.960> I<00:27:23.360> also<00:27:23.679> got<00:27:24.000> gas<00:27:24.320> lit<00:27:24.720> in

I'm loved that I also got gas lit in

I'm loved that I also got gas lit in
this<00:27:25.200> book.<00:27:25.679> Did<00:27:25.840> I<00:27:26.080> appreciate<00:27:26.480> it<00:27:26.720> at<00:27:26.880> the

this book. Did I appreciate it at the

this book. Did I appreciate it at the
end?<00:27:27.360> No.<00:27:28.159> But<00:27:28.400> I<00:27:28.640> give<00:27:28.880> props<00:27:29.279> to<00:27:29.440> the<00:27:29.679> author

end? No. But I give props to the author

end? No. But I give props to the author
for<00:27:30.880> making<00:27:31.120> me<00:27:31.440> also<00:27:31.840> believe.<00:27:32.559> Yes,<00:27:32.960> I<00:27:33.200> give

for making me also believe. Yes, I give

for making me also believe. Yes, I give
props<00:27:33.679> to<00:27:33.760> the<00:27:33.919> author.<00:27:34.240> I<00:27:34.480> think<00:27:34.559> it<00:27:34.799> was<00:27:34.880> a

props to the author. I think it was a

props to the author. I think it was a
really<00:27:35.360> great<00:27:35.679> twist.<00:27:36.640> I<00:27:36.960> still<00:27:37.279> think<00:27:37.840> lit

really great twist. I still think lit

really great twist. I still think lit
some<00:27:39.120> of<00:27:39.200> it<00:27:39.520> doesn't<00:27:39.760> make<00:27:39.919> sense

some of it doesn't make sense

some of it doesn't make sense
literary<00:27:41.279> way

literary way

literary way
there<00:27:43.200> had<00:27:43.440> to<00:27:43.600> be<00:27:43.679> a<00:27:44.080> better<00:27:44.799> bridge<00:27:45.360> or<00:27:45.679> like

there had to be a better bridge or like

there had to be a better bridge or like
something<00:27:46.240> where<00:27:46.480> I'm<00:27:46.720> like<00:27:46.960> looking<00:27:47.440> and

something where I'm like looking and

something where I'm like looking and
seeing<00:27:48.240> Joy

seeing Joy

seeing Joy
like<00:27:50.159> I<00:27:50.400> needed<00:27:50.799> more<00:27:51.679> foreshadowing<00:27:52.640> on

like I needed more foreshadowing on

like I needed more foreshadowing on
Joy's<00:27:53.440> end<00:27:53.679> because<00:27:53.919> if<00:27:54.080> you're<00:27:54.240> going<00:27:54.320> to

Joy's end because if you're going to

Joy's end because if you're going to
make<00:27:54.640> Joie<00:27:55.760> the<00:27:56.080> perspective<00:27:56.720> that<00:27:57.039> we're

make Joie the perspective that we're

make Joie the perspective that we're
reading<00:27:58.640> from

reading from

reading from
reading<00:27:59.360> from<00:27:59.760> Yeah.<00:28:00.559> It<00:28:00.799> could<00:28:00.880> have<00:28:01.039> been

reading from Yeah. It could have been

reading from Yeah. It could have been
like<00:28:01.440> there<00:28:01.679> were<00:28:01.840> other<00:28:02.080> perspectives,

like there were other perspectives,

like there were other perspectives,
right,<00:28:03.520> when<00:28:03.760> Joy<00:28:04.159> was<00:28:04.399> doing<00:28:04.640> these<00:28:04.960> like

right, when Joy was doing these like

right, when Joy was doing these like
secret<00:28:05.919> having<00:28:06.159> these<00:28:06.399> secret<00:28:06.720> thoughts<00:28:07.039> or

secret having these secret thoughts or

secret having these secret thoughts or
things<00:28:07.520> so<00:28:07.760> that<00:28:08.720> it<00:28:08.960> wasn't<00:28:09.279> all<00:28:09.440> Joy<00:28:09.919> because

things so that it wasn't all Joy because

things so that it wasn't all Joy because
it<00:28:10.399> just<00:28:10.559> doesn't<00:28:10.799> make<00:28:11.039> sense<00:28:11.200> to<00:28:11.440> me<00:28:11.520> that

it just doesn't make sense to me that

it just doesn't make sense to me that
she<00:28:12.000> wouldn't<00:28:12.240> have<00:28:12.480> been<00:28:12.720> thinking<00:28:12.960> about

she wouldn't have been thinking about

she wouldn't have been thinking about
this<00:28:13.760> or<00:28:14.000> in<00:28:14.559> like<00:28:14.880> when<00:28:15.039> was<00:28:15.200> she<00:28:15.360> in

this or in like when was she in

this or in like when was she in
communication<00:28:16.080> with<00:28:16.240> Messer<00:28:16.799> and<00:28:17.360> Kai?<00:28:18.240> When

communication with Messer and Kai? When

communication with Messer and Kai? When
was<00:28:18.720> she<00:28:19.360> coordinating<00:28:19.919> all<00:28:20.080> of<00:28:20.240> this?<00:28:20.640> When

was she coordinating all of this? When

was she coordinating all of this? When
when<00:28:21.600> did<00:28:21.840> she<00:28:22.080> feel<00:28:22.320> bad?<00:28:22.720> Cuz<00:28:22.960> she<00:28:23.200> had<00:28:23.360> to

when did she feel bad? Cuz she had to

when did she feel bad? Cuz she had to
have<00:28:23.679> felt<00:28:24.000> bad.<00:28:24.480> And<00:28:24.640> there<00:28:24.799> were<00:28:25.039> moments

have felt bad. And there were moments

have felt bad. And there were moments
where<00:28:25.520> it's<00:28:25.760> like<00:28:25.919> she<00:28:26.240> kind<00:28:26.399> of<00:28:26.559> did.

where it's like she kind of did.

where it's like she kind of did.
Yeah.<00:28:27.679> But<00:28:27.840> it<00:28:28.080> was<00:28:28.240> so<00:28:28.799> muddled<00:28:29.279> and<00:28:29.520> that's

Yeah. But it was so muddled and that's

Yeah. But it was so muddled and that's
why<00:28:29.840> I<00:28:30.000> was<00:28:30.080> like<00:28:30.240> maybe<00:28:30.480> it<00:28:30.720> is<00:28:30.880> dissociative

why I was like maybe it is dissociative

why I was like maybe it is dissociative
identity<00:28:32.240> disorder<00:28:32.640> and<00:28:32.880> she's<00:28:33.200> really<00:28:33.840> joy

identity disorder and she's really joy

identity disorder and she's really joy
and<00:28:34.480> not<00:28:34.640> Brin<00:28:34.960> at<00:28:35.200> this<00:28:35.440> point.<00:28:35.919> But<00:28:37.200> I<00:28:37.840> I

and not Brin at this point. But I I

and not Brin at this point. But I I
don't<00:28:38.320> know<00:28:39.360> she

don't know she

don't know she
when<00:28:41.200> she<00:28:41.440> was<00:28:41.679> like<00:28:42.240> Joy<00:28:42.880> I<00:28:43.120> she<00:28:43.360> I<00:28:43.520> feel<00:28:43.679> like

when she was like Joy I she I feel like

when she was like Joy I she I feel like
she<00:28:44.000> put<00:28:44.159> on<00:28:44.320> the<00:28:44.480> persona<00:28:44.960> so<00:28:45.200> well

she put on the persona so well

she put on the persona so well
like<00:28:46.559> she<00:28:46.880> really<00:28:47.520> she's<00:28:47.840> lying<00:28:48.080> to<00:28:48.240> herself.

like she really she's lying to herself.

like she really she's lying to herself.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
Like<00:28:49.919> and<00:28:50.159> I<00:28:50.320> there<00:28:50.480> was<00:28:50.640> some<00:28:50.799> parts<00:28:50.960> where

Like and I there was some parts where

Like and I there was some parts where
I'm<00:28:51.279> like<00:28:51.440> there's<00:28:51.760> no<00:28:52.000> way<00:28:52.720> that<00:28:52.960> she<00:28:53.279> does

I'm like there's no way that she does

I'm like there's no way that she does
not<00:28:53.760> have<00:28:53.919> feelings<00:28:54.240> for<00:28:54.480> a<00:28:54.799> now.<00:28:54.960> like<00:28:55.200> there.

not have feelings for a now. like there.

not have feelings for a now. like there.
Oh,<00:28:55.679> she<00:28:55.919> has<00:28:56.080> feelings.

Oh, she has feelings.

Oh, she has feelings.
Yeah.<00:28:57.440> And<00:28:57.600> even<00:28:57.840> in<00:28:58.000> that<00:28:58.240> epilogue,<00:28:59.200> she<00:28:59.440> was

Yeah. And even in that epilogue, she was

Yeah. And even in that epilogue, she was
like,<00:29:00.559> "Oh,<00:29:00.960> no.<00:29:01.919> I<00:29:02.240> see<00:29:02.399> you.<00:29:02.799> I<00:29:02.960> taste<00:29:03.279> the

like, "Oh, no. I see you. I taste the

like, "Oh, no. I see you. I taste the
grape."

grape."

grape."
And<00:29:04.960> she<00:29:05.120> was<00:29:05.279> hurt.<00:29:06.080> There<00:29:06.320> was<00:29:06.399> another

And she was hurt. There was another

And she was hurt. There was another
woman.

woman.

woman.
She<00:29:08.720> was<00:29:09.120> She<00:29:09.360> was<00:29:09.600> She<00:29:09.919> was<00:29:10.080> devastated.<00:29:11.200> It's

She was She was She was devastated. It's

She was She was She was devastated. It's
like,<00:29:11.520> "What?<00:29:11.840> What<00:29:12.000> did<00:29:12.240> you<00:29:12.399> expect?<00:29:13.679> He's

like, "What? What did you expect? He's

like, "What? What did you expect? He's
He's<00:29:14.480> just<00:29:14.640> a<00:29:14.880> boy.

He's just a boy.

He's just a boy.
He's<00:29:15.360> just<00:29:15.679> a<00:29:15.919> [ __ ]<00:29:16.240> boy.

He's just a [ __ ] boy.

He's just a [ __ ] boy.
He's<00:29:16.799> just<00:29:17.039> a<00:29:17.279> [ __ ]<00:29:17.600> boy."

He's just a [ __ ] boy."

He's just a [ __ ] boy."
A<00:29:18.559> hot<00:29:18.799> one<00:29:19.200> that<00:29:19.440> I<00:29:19.600> would<00:29:19.760> also<00:29:20.080> fall<00:29:20.320> for.

A hot one that I would also fall for.

A hot one that I would also fall for.
Yeah,<00:29:21.120> he<00:29:21.360> [ __ ]

Yeah, he [ __ ]

Yeah, he [ __ ]
Yeah,<00:29:22.159> for<00:29:22.399> sure.

Yeah, for sure.

Yeah, for sure.
Yeah.<00:29:24.640> But<00:29:24.880> I<00:29:25.120> think<00:29:25.200> it'll<00:29:25.520> be<00:29:25.600> really

Yeah. But I think it'll be really

Yeah. But I think it'll be really
interesting<00:29:26.320> to<00:29:26.640> see<00:29:28.080> where

interesting to see where

interesting to see where
their<00:29:30.240> romantic<00:29:31.120> relationship

their romantic relationship

their romantic relationship
is<00:29:33.520> in<00:29:33.840> book<00:29:34.159> two<00:29:34.880> and<00:29:35.200> how<00:29:35.360> it<00:29:35.600> plays<00:29:35.840> out<00:29:36.080> for

is in book two and how it plays out for

is in book two and how it plays out for
them.<00:29:37.039> And<00:29:37.200> I<00:29:37.440> think<00:29:37.520> that<00:29:37.760> brings<00:29:37.919> me<00:29:38.000> to<00:29:38.159> my

them. And I think that brings me to my

them. And I think that brings me to my
final<00:29:38.720> point.<00:29:39.919> Aker

final point. Aker

final point. Aker
protects<00:29:42.159> his<00:29:42.399> peace.

protects his peace.

protects his peace.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
Like<00:29:43.520> he<00:29:43.760> needs<00:29:43.919> to<00:29:44.159> protect<00:29:44.480> his<00:29:44.720> peace<00:29:44.960> and

Like he needs to protect his peace and

Like he needs to protect his peace and
learn<00:29:45.440> how<00:29:45.600> to<00:29:45.760> do<00:29:45.919> that.

learn how to do that.

learn how to do that.
And<00:29:47.360> I<00:29:47.760> think<00:29:48.320> in<00:29:48.640> the<00:29:48.880> kind<00:29:49.039> of<00:29:49.200> epilogue<00:29:49.760> you

And I think in the kind of epilogue you

And I think in the kind of epilogue you
see

see

see
that<00:29:51.520> he's<00:29:52.000> kind<00:29:52.240> of<00:29:52.320> done<00:29:52.480> that.<00:29:52.799> like<00:29:53.039> he's

that he's kind of done that. like he's

that he's kind of done that. like he's
really

really

really
removed<00:29:55.440> himself<00:29:55.760> from<00:29:56.000> the<00:29:56.240> situation<00:29:57.279> and<00:29:57.520> I

removed himself from the situation and I

removed himself from the situation and I
think<00:29:57.760> he's<00:29:58.000> going<00:29:58.080> to<00:29:58.240> be<00:29:58.399> forced<00:29:58.640> to<00:29:58.799> be<00:29:59.039> put

think he's going to be forced to be put

think he's going to be forced to be put
back<00:29:59.760> in.

back in.

back in.
He<00:30:00.559> is.

He is.

He is.
And<00:30:01.919> I<00:30:02.159> think<00:30:02.240> that's<00:30:02.559> good<00:30:02.799> because<00:30:03.120> I<00:30:03.279> do

And I think that's good because I do

And I think that's good because I do
think<00:30:03.679> once<00:30:03.919> again<00:30:04.159> I<00:30:04.399> think<00:30:04.480> he<00:30:04.720> wants<00:30:04.960> to<00:30:05.120> be

think once again I think he wants to be

think once again I think he wants to be
like<00:30:05.760> this<00:30:06.080> beloved<00:30:06.480> leader<00:30:06.799> who<00:30:07.039> really

like this beloved leader who really

like this beloved leader who really
cares<00:30:08.240> about<00:30:08.480> his<00:30:08.799> people.<00:30:09.279> And<00:30:09.440> I<00:30:09.600> think<00:30:09.760> he

cares about his people. And I think he

cares about his people. And I think he
took<00:30:10.240> some<00:30:10.480> time<00:30:10.880> to<00:30:11.760> process<00:30:12.559> and<00:30:12.960> reflect

took some time to process and reflect

took some time to process and reflect
and<00:30:13.679> was<00:30:13.919> like<00:30:14.159> I<00:30:14.799> I'm<00:30:15.279> and<00:30:15.520> probably<00:30:15.760> have<00:30:15.919> a

and was like I I'm and probably have a

and was like I I'm and probably have a
lot<00:30:16.159> of<00:30:16.240> self-doubt<00:30:16.720> like<00:30:16.880> I'm<00:30:17.039> not<00:30:17.120> a<00:30:17.200> good

lot of self-doubt like I'm not a good

lot of self-doubt like I'm not a good
leader.<00:30:17.679> I<00:30:17.840> didn't<00:30:18.000> see<00:30:18.080> the<00:30:18.320> signs.<00:30:19.039> I've

leader. I didn't see the signs. I've

leader. I didn't see the signs. I've
been<00:30:19.440> betrayed.<00:30:20.000> I<00:30:20.240> don't<00:30:20.399> want<00:30:20.480> to<00:30:20.640> deal<00:30:20.799> with

been betrayed. I don't want to deal with

been betrayed. I don't want to deal with
these<00:30:21.120> emotions.<00:30:22.320> and<00:30:22.559> he's<00:30:22.799> gonna<00:30:23.039> have<00:30:23.200> to

these emotions. and he's gonna have to

these emotions. and he's gonna have to
deal<00:30:24.399> with<00:30:24.559> all<00:30:24.720> of<00:30:24.880> that<00:30:25.039> in<00:30:25.279> book<00:30:25.679> two,<00:30:26.080> but<00:30:26.240> I

deal with all of that in book two, but I

deal with all of that in book two, but I
think<00:30:26.640> he<00:30:26.799> took<00:30:27.039> a<00:30:27.200> lot<00:30:27.279> of<00:30:27.440> time<00:30:27.600> to<00:30:27.840> really

think he took a lot of time to really

think he took a lot of time to really
process<00:30:28.799> his<00:30:29.120> feelings.

process his feelings.

process his feelings.
I<00:30:30.880> would<00:30:31.039> just<00:30:31.200> say<00:30:31.440> protecting<00:30:31.919> your<00:30:32.080> peace

I would just say protecting your peace

I would just say protecting your peace
is<00:30:32.640> very<00:30:33.039> hard.

is very hard.

is very hard.
Yes.

Yes.

Yes.
Very,<00:30:34.799> very<00:30:35.120> hard.<00:30:36.000> And<00:30:36.320> something<00:30:36.559> that

Very, very hard. And something that

Very, very hard. And something that
needs<00:30:37.039> to<00:30:37.279> happen<00:30:37.760> and<00:30:38.000> that's<00:30:38.399> done<00:30:38.640> by

needs to happen and that's done by

needs to happen and that's done by
setting<00:30:39.200> boundaries.

setting boundaries.

setting boundaries.
Yeah.<00:30:40.480> I<00:30:40.799> think<00:30:41.360> physical<00:30:41.919> and<00:30:42.159> emotional

Yeah. I think physical and emotional

Yeah. I think physical and emotional
boundaries.

boundaries.

boundaries.
Amen.<00:30:44.399> So<00:30:44.640> emotional<00:30:45.120> boundaries

Amen. So emotional boundaries

Amen. So emotional boundaries
recognizing<00:30:46.240> that<00:30:46.480> others<00:30:46.880> ne<00:30:47.360> others

recognizing that others ne others

recognizing that others ne others
negativity<00:30:48.399> is<00:30:48.720> often<00:30:49.039> a<00:30:49.279> reflection<00:30:49.840> of

negativity is often a reflection of

negativity is often a reflection of
their<00:30:50.320> own<00:30:50.559> issues<00:30:51.120> and<00:30:51.440> not<00:30:51.600> your<00:30:51.840> worth<00:30:52.640> and

their own issues and not your worth and

their own issues and not your worth and
you<00:30:53.039> need<00:30:53.120> to<00:30:53.279> kind<00:30:53.440> of<00:30:53.600> separate<00:30:53.919> yourself

you need to kind of separate yourself

you need to kind of separate yourself
from<00:30:54.480> their<00:30:54.720> actions<00:30:55.120> and<00:30:55.440> words<00:30:55.840> and

from their actions and words and

from their actions and words and
physical<00:30:56.480> boundaries.<00:30:57.840> Define<00:30:58.399> your

physical boundaries. Define your

physical boundaries. Define your
personal<00:30:59.120> space<00:30:59.440> and<00:30:59.760> prioritize<00:31:00.640> privacy.

personal space and prioritize privacy.

personal space and prioritize privacy.
And<00:31:01.919> then<00:31:02.159> time<00:31:02.480> boundaries<00:31:02.880> are<00:31:03.120> another

And then time boundaries are another

And then time boundaries are another
one.<00:31:03.679> So<00:31:03.919> prioritize<00:31:04.480> how<00:31:04.640> you<00:31:04.799> spend<00:31:05.039> your

one. So prioritize how you spend your

one. So prioritize how you spend your
time<00:31:06.000> and<00:31:06.240> guard<00:31:06.559> against<00:31:06.799> overcommitment.

time and guard against overcommitment.

time and guard against overcommitment.
So<00:31:09.039> low<00:31:09.279> key,<00:31:09.600> those<00:31:09.840> of<00:31:10.000> us<00:31:10.240> who<00:31:10.720> work<00:31:10.880> a<00:31:11.120> lot,

So low key, those of us who work a lot,

So low key, those of us who work a lot,
that<00:31:11.679> might<00:31:11.840> be<00:31:12.960> an<00:31:13.279> issue<00:31:13.760> looking<00:31:14.000> at

that might be an issue looking at

that might be an issue looking at
myself,

myself,

myself,
couldn't<00:31:16.159> be<00:31:16.320> me.<00:31:17.360> And<00:31:17.520> then<00:31:17.760> categorizing

couldn't be me. And then categorizing

couldn't be me. And then categorizing
them<00:31:18.720> into<00:31:19.039> hard<00:31:19.360> versus<00:31:19.760> soft<00:31:20.159> boundaries,

them into hard versus soft boundaries,

them into hard versus soft boundaries,
right?<00:31:21.120> So<00:31:21.279> these<00:31:21.520> are<00:31:21.600> my<00:31:21.840> hard<00:31:22.159> boundaries.

right? So these are my hard boundaries.

right? So these are my hard boundaries.
The<00:31:23.039> like<00:31:23.840> I'm,

The like I'm,

The like I'm,
for<00:31:25.600> lack<00:31:25.760> of<00:31:25.840> a<00:31:26.080> better<00:31:26.240> example,<00:31:26.720> I'm<00:31:26.960> never

for lack of a better example, I'm never

for lack of a better example, I'm never
going<00:31:27.279> to<00:31:27.440> work<00:31:28.159> after<00:31:28.559> 5:00<00:31:28.960> p.m.<00:31:29.919> That<00:31:30.080> could

going to work after 5:00 p.m. That could

going to work after 5:00 p.m. That could
be<00:31:30.240> a<00:31:30.399> hard<00:31:30.559> boundary.<00:31:30.960> That<00:31:31.200> might<00:31:31.360> be<00:31:31.600> a

be a hard boundary. That might be a

be a hard boundary. That might be a
really<00:31:32.080> difficult<00:31:32.399> boundary<00:31:32.799> to<00:31:32.960> enforce,

really difficult boundary to enforce,

really difficult boundary to enforce,
but<00:31:33.520> that's<00:31:33.760> like<00:31:33.919> literally<00:31:34.799> you<00:31:35.039> shut<00:31:35.279> your

but that's like literally you shut your

but that's like literally you shut your
computer,<00:31:36.399> you<00:31:36.559> log<00:31:36.799> out<00:31:36.960> of<00:31:37.120> Outlook,<00:31:38.159> you

computer, you log out of Outlook, you

computer, you log out of Outlook, you
don't<00:31:39.200> look<00:31:39.360> at<00:31:39.519> your<00:31:39.679> phone<00:31:39.919> ever<00:31:40.240> again

don't look at your phone ever again

don't look at your phone ever again
until<00:31:40.880> 8<00:31:41.120> a.m.<00:31:41.279> the<00:31:41.519> next<00:31:41.679> day.<00:31:42.640> Or<00:31:43.039> maybe<00:31:43.279> a

until 8 a.m. the next day. Or maybe a

until 8 a.m. the next day. Or maybe a
better<00:31:43.760> example<00:31:44.320> of<00:31:44.480> a<00:31:44.720> hard<00:31:44.960> boundary<00:31:45.279> in

better example of a hard boundary in

better example of a hard boundary in
this<00:31:45.679> book<00:31:45.840> that<00:31:46.080> Aker<00:31:46.480> could<00:31:46.720> set.

this book that Aker could set.

this book that Aker could set.
I'm<00:31:49.919> trying<00:31:50.080> to<00:31:50.159> think<00:31:50.399> because<00:31:50.559> like<00:31:50.720> he

I'm trying to think because like he

I'm trying to think because like he
can't<00:31:51.360> be<00:31:51.600> like,<00:31:51.760> I'm<00:31:51.919> never<00:31:52.080> going<00:31:52.159> to<00:31:52.240> see

can't be like, I'm never going to see

can't be like, I'm never going to see
Joy<00:31:52.880> again.

Joy again.

Joy again.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
I'm<00:31:54.480> never<00:31:54.640> going<00:31:54.720> to<00:31:54.799> see<00:31:54.960> my<00:31:55.200> sister<00:31:55.440> again.

I'm never going to see my sister again.

I'm never going to see my sister again.
Maybe<00:31:56.159> it's<00:31:56.399> like<00:31:56.960> a<00:31:57.279> hard<00:31:57.519> boundary<00:31:57.919> you<00:31:58.159> can

Maybe it's like a hard boundary you can

Maybe it's like a hard boundary you can
set<00:31:58.480> with<00:31:58.799> yourself<00:31:59.519> is

set with yourself is

set with yourself is
I'm<00:32:01.440> never<00:32:01.679> going<00:32:01.760> to<00:32:01.919> not<00:32:02.320> ask<00:32:02.720> questions

I'm never going to not ask questions

I'm never going to not ask questions
again.<00:32:04.399> I'm<00:32:04.640> never<00:32:04.799> going<00:32:04.880> to<00:32:05.039> take<00:32:05.279> something

again. I'm never going to take something

again. I'm never going to take something
at<00:32:06.159> face<00:32:06.480> value.

at face value.

at face value.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
And<00:32:08.240> that<00:32:08.480> could<00:32:08.640> be<00:32:08.880> it<00:32:09.120> doesn't<00:32:09.360> always<00:32:09.519> have

And that could be it doesn't always have

And that could be it doesn't always have
to<00:32:09.760> be<00:32:10.080> I'm<00:32:10.399> not<00:32:10.559> going<00:32:10.640> to<00:32:10.799> do<00:32:10.960> something.

to be I'm not going to do something.

to be I'm not going to do something.
Maybe<00:32:11.679> I'm<00:32:12.080> always<00:32:12.559> reframing<00:32:13.120> my<00:32:13.360> boundary

Maybe I'm always reframing my boundary

Maybe I'm always reframing my boundary
is<00:32:14.000> I'm<00:32:14.320> always<00:32:14.640> going<00:32:14.880> to<00:32:15.120> have<00:32:15.440> two

is I'm always going to have two

is I'm always going to have two
questions<00:32:16.399> in<00:32:16.720> every<00:32:16.960> situation.

questions in every situation.

questions in every situation.
What<00:32:18.960> motivates<00:32:19.600> this<00:32:19.919> person?

What motivates this person?

What motivates this person?
What<00:32:22.240> and<00:32:22.799> what<00:32:23.120> is<00:32:23.919> can<00:32:24.159> I<00:32:24.320> trust<00:32:24.559> this

What and what is can I trust this

What and what is can I trust this
person?<00:32:25.120> what's<00:32:25.279> their<00:32:25.519> motivation<00:32:25.840> and<00:32:26.080> can

person? what's their motivation and can

person? what's their motivation and can
I<00:32:26.399> trust<00:32:26.559> this<00:32:26.799> person<00:32:27.120> are<00:32:27.279> the<00:32:27.440> two

I trust this person are the two

I trust this person are the two
questions<00:32:28.080> I'm<00:32:28.399> always<00:32:28.640> going<00:32:28.720> to<00:32:28.880> ask<00:32:29.200> in

questions I'm always going to ask in

questions I'm always going to ask in
every<00:32:29.760> situation<00:32:30.320> that<00:32:30.480> is<00:32:30.640> a<00:32:30.880> hard<00:32:31.200> firm

every situation that is a hard firm

every situation that is a hard firm
boundary<00:32:32.000> for<00:32:32.240> me<00:32:32.720> and<00:32:32.880> if<00:32:33.120> you<00:32:33.279> cannot

boundary for me and if you cannot

boundary for me and if you cannot
explain<00:32:34.880> those<00:32:35.200> questions<00:32:35.519> to<00:32:35.840> me<00:32:36.720> then<00:32:36.960> I'm

explain those questions to me then I'm

explain those questions to me then I'm
not<00:32:37.279> going<00:32:37.360> to<00:32:37.519> engage<00:32:37.760> in<00:32:38.000> this

not going to engage in this

not going to engage in this
yeah<00:32:38.799> I<00:32:39.039> think<00:32:39.279> trust<00:32:39.600> is<00:32:39.840> going<00:32:39.919> to<00:32:40.000> be<00:32:40.080> a<00:32:40.240> big

yeah I think trust is going to be a big

yeah I think trust is going to be a big
one

one

one
oh<00:32:40.960> my<00:32:41.120> gosh<00:32:41.440> I<00:32:41.760> reestablishing<00:32:42.480> trust<00:32:42.880> is

oh my gosh I reestablishing trust is

oh my gosh I reestablishing trust is
going<00:32:43.200> to<00:32:43.360> be<00:32:43.440> so<00:32:43.760> hard

going to be so hard

going to be so hard
I<00:32:44.480> think<00:32:44.640> that's<00:32:44.880> going<00:32:44.960> to<00:32:45.039> be<00:32:45.120> a<00:32:45.360> really

I think that's going to be a really

I think that's going to be a really
tough<00:32:45.760> battle<00:32:46.000> for<00:32:46.240> him

tough battle for him

tough battle for him
okay<00:32:47.200> so<00:32:48.320> I<00:32:48.640> do<00:32:48.880> have<00:32:49.120> an<00:32:49.440> exercise<00:32:49.919> that<00:32:50.159> you

okay so I do have an exercise that you

okay so I do have an exercise that you
could<00:32:50.480> do<00:32:51.039> to<00:32:51.440> set<00:32:51.679> some<00:32:51.919> boundaries<00:32:53.039> I<00:32:53.279> like

could do to set some boundaries I like

could do to set some boundaries I like
that

that

that
So<00:32:55.440> exercise<00:32:55.919> for<00:32:56.159> figuring<00:32:56.559> out<00:32:56.720> boundaries.

So exercise for figuring out boundaries.

So exercise for figuring out boundaries.
Imagine<00:32:58.559> that<00:32:58.720> your<00:32:58.960> life<00:32:59.120> as<00:32:59.360> it<00:32:59.519> is<00:32:59.760> right

Imagine that your life as it is right

Imagine that your life as it is right
now<00:33:00.480> is<00:33:00.799> no<00:33:01.039> longer<00:33:01.360> possible.<00:33:02.559> Sorry<00:33:02.799> about

now is no longer possible. Sorry about

now is no longer possible. Sorry about
you.<00:33:03.840> Say<00:33:04.080> you<00:33:04.240> get<00:33:04.320> laid<00:33:04.640> off.<00:33:05.120> You<00:33:05.279> have<00:33:05.440> to

you. Say you get laid off. You have to

you. Say you get laid off. You have to
move<00:33:05.840> towns.

move towns.

move towns.
Your<00:33:07.600> girlfriend<00:33:08.000> betrays<00:33:08.559> you.<00:33:09.120> Starts<00:33:09.440> an

Your girlfriend betrays you. Starts an

Your girlfriend betrays you. Starts an
entire<00:33:10.159> war.

entire war.

entire war.
Something<00:33:12.000> happens,<00:33:12.880> right?

Something happens, right?

Something happens, right?
What<00:33:15.360> would<00:33:15.519> you<00:33:15.679> do<00:33:15.919> next?<00:33:16.799> Who<00:33:17.039> would<00:33:17.200> you

What would you do next? Who would you

What would you do next? Who would you
miss?

miss?

miss?
What<00:33:19.360> would<00:33:19.519> you<00:33:19.600> not<00:33:19.840> miss?<00:33:21.120> Your<00:33:21.519> answers

What would you not miss? Your answers

What would you not miss? Your answers
reveal<00:33:22.799> your<00:33:22.960> highle<00:33:23.519> priorities.<00:33:24.799> So<00:33:26.080> if<00:33:26.320> you

reveal your highle priorities. So if you

reveal your highle priorities. So if you
were<00:33:26.720> like,<00:33:27.120> okay,<00:33:27.440> next<00:33:27.679> thing<00:33:28.080> I<00:33:28.320> would<00:33:28.480> do

were like, okay, next thing I would do

were like, okay, next thing I would do
is<00:33:28.880> find<00:33:29.200> shelter.<00:33:29.919> That's<00:33:30.159> a<00:33:30.320> that's<00:33:30.559> a<00:33:30.799> big

is find shelter. That's a that's a big

is find shelter. That's a that's a big
boundary<00:33:31.360> for<00:33:31.600> you.<00:33:32.080> That's<00:33:32.480> important.<00:33:33.360> Who

boundary for you. That's important. Who

boundary for you. That's important. Who
would<00:33:33.760> you<00:33:33.919> miss?<00:33:34.240> I<00:33:34.480> would<00:33:34.640> miss<00:33:35.440> my<00:33:35.760> sister.

would you miss? I would miss my sister.

would you miss? I would miss my sister.
So<00:33:36.320> maybe<00:33:36.480> that's<00:33:36.720> someone<00:33:36.880> you<00:33:37.120> can't<00:33:37.279> cut

So maybe that's someone you can't cut

So maybe that's someone you can't cut
out<00:33:37.600> of<00:33:37.679> your<00:33:37.760> life.<00:33:38.000> But<00:33:38.080> if<00:33:38.159> you're<00:33:38.240> like,

out of your life. But if you're like,

out of your life. But if you're like,
you<00:33:38.480> know<00:33:38.480> what,<00:33:38.720> I<00:33:38.880> wouldn't<00:33:39.039> miss<00:33:39.200> my<00:33:39.360> dad.

you know what, I wouldn't miss my dad.

you know what, I wouldn't miss my dad.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
Well,<00:33:41.440> that's<00:33:41.760> great<00:33:42.080> cuz<00:33:42.640> he<00:33:42.880> sucked.<00:33:43.440> He's

Well, that's great cuz he sucked. He's

Well, that's great cuz he sucked. He's
he's<00:33:44.080> gone.<00:33:45.279> Okay.<00:33:45.679> So<00:33:45.840> then<00:33:46.080> practice

he's gone. Okay. So then practice

he's gone. Okay. So then practice
setting<00:33:46.880> one<00:33:47.120> hard<00:33:47.360> boundary<00:33:47.679> to<00:33:47.919> protect

setting one hard boundary to protect

setting one hard boundary to protect
your<00:33:48.320> highle<00:33:48.880> priorities<00:33:49.519> by<00:33:49.840> limiting

your highle priorities by limiting

your highle priorities by limiting
interactions<00:33:50.799> or<00:33:51.120> activities<00:33:51.919> that<00:33:52.240> are<00:33:52.399> not

interactions or activities that are not

interactions or activities that are not
the<00:33:52.960> best<00:33:53.279> use<00:33:53.519> of<00:33:53.679> your<00:33:53.919> time.<00:33:54.720> For<00:33:54.799> example,

the best use of your time. For example,

the best use of your time. For example,
if<00:33:55.360> your<00:33:55.519> highle<00:33:56.000> priority<00:33:56.399> is<00:33:56.559> to<00:33:56.720> be<00:33:56.799> less

if your highle priority is to be less

if your highle priority is to be less
drained<00:33:57.279> after<00:33:57.519> work,<00:33:57.840> cut<00:33:58.080> back<00:33:58.320> on<00:33:58.480> a<00:33:58.720> few

drained after work, cut back on a few

drained after work, cut back on a few
energy<00:33:59.360> draining<00:33:59.840> tasks.<00:34:00.960> So<00:34:01.360> if<00:34:01.600> you're<00:34:01.840> aer

energy draining tasks. So if you're aer

energy draining tasks. So if you're aer
and<00:34:02.480> your<00:34:02.720> boundary<00:34:03.039> is<00:34:03.200> to<00:34:03.360> be<00:34:03.519> less<00:34:03.760> drained

and your boundary is to be less drained

and your boundary is to be less drained
after<00:34:04.960> ruling<00:34:05.360> a<00:34:05.600> kingdom<00:34:06.799> and<00:34:07.200> leading<00:34:07.519> a<00:34:07.760> war

after ruling a kingdom and leading a war

after ruling a kingdom and leading a war
effort,<00:34:09.280> then<00:34:10.079> maybe<00:34:10.560> some<00:34:10.800> of<00:34:10.960> this<00:34:11.200> is

effort, then maybe some of this is

effort, then maybe some of this is
setting<00:34:11.760> boundaries<00:34:12.159> where<00:34:12.480> you<00:34:12.800> only<00:34:13.119> think

setting boundaries where you only think

setting boundaries where you only think
about<00:34:13.520> joy<00:34:14.000> for<00:34:14.320> 10<00:34:14.560> minutes<00:34:14.720> a<00:34:14.960> day<00:34:16.000> because

about joy for 10 minutes a day because

about joy for 10 minutes a day because
that<00:34:16.639> seems<00:34:16.879> really<00:34:17.119> draining<00:34:17.839> and<00:34:18.000> that's<00:34:18.159> a

that seems really draining and that's a

that seems really draining and that's a
hard<00:34:18.480> boundary<00:34:18.800> to<00:34:18.960> enforce.<00:34:19.359> So<00:34:19.520> maybe<00:34:19.679> it's

hard boundary to enforce. So maybe it's

hard boundary to enforce. So maybe it's
a<00:34:20.000> physical<00:34:20.399> thing<00:34:20.639> like<00:34:21.440> I<00:34:21.919> no<00:34:22.159> longer<00:34:22.480> can<00:34:22.720> go

a physical thing like I no longer can go

a physical thing like I no longer can go
to<00:34:23.200> the<00:34:23.440> sites<00:34:24.000> that<00:34:24.800> we<00:34:25.040> share<00:34:25.359> together.

to the sites that we share together.

to the sites that we share together.
That's<00:34:26.879> a<00:34:27.040> good<00:34:27.119> one.

That's a good one.

That's a good one.
Yeah.<00:34:28.639> But<00:34:28.879> when<00:34:29.119> you're<00:34:29.359> working<00:34:29.520> with<00:34:29.679> a

Yeah. But when you're working with a

Yeah. But when you're working with a
client,<00:34:30.079> I<00:34:30.240> also<00:34:30.480> want<00:34:30.560> to<00:34:30.720> point<00:34:30.879> out<00:34:31.040> like

client, I also want to point out like

client, I also want to point out like
I'm<00:34:31.520> not<00:34:31.599> going<00:34:31.679> to<00:34:31.839> sit<00:34:32.000> here<00:34:32.240> and<00:34:32.480> make<00:34:33.280> these

I'm not going to sit here and make these

I'm not going to sit here and make these
examples<00:34:34.079> for<00:34:34.320> you.<00:34:34.960> No,

examples for you. No,

examples for you. No,
like<00:34:35.520> you<00:34:35.760> have<00:34:35.839> to<00:34:36.000> do<00:34:36.159> this<00:34:36.480> on<00:34:36.720> your<00:34:36.879> own<00:34:37.280> and

like you have to do this on your own and

like you have to do this on your own and
you<00:34:37.760> have<00:34:37.919> to<00:34:38.079> set<00:34:38.240> those<00:34:38.399> boundaries

you have to set those boundaries

you have to set those boundaries
yourself<00:34:39.359> and<00:34:39.679> decide<00:34:40.000> what's<00:34:40.240> a<00:34:40.399> high

yourself and decide what's a high

yourself and decide what's a high
priority<00:34:41.119> for<00:34:41.280> you<00:34:41.520> and<00:34:41.839> what's<00:34:42.079> not.

priority for you and what's not.

priority for you and what's not.
Y

Y

Y
and<00:34:43.520> so<00:34:43.760> I<00:34:44.079> also<00:34:44.399> want<00:34:44.560> to<00:34:44.720> stress<00:34:45.200> when<00:34:45.440> we're

and so I also want to stress when we're

and so I also want to stress when we're
talking<00:34:46.079> about

talking about

talking about
the<00:34:47.919> male<00:34:48.240> leads<00:34:48.560> and<00:34:48.800> the<00:34:48.960> characters<00:34:49.280> in

the male leads and the characters in

the male leads and the characters in
books,<00:34:50.399> they<00:34:50.720> can't<00:34:51.119> engage<00:34:51.520> with<00:34:51.760> us<00:34:52.159> and

books, they can't engage with us and

books, they can't engage with us and
tell<00:34:52.720> us<00:34:53.040> these<00:34:53.440> things.<00:34:53.760> So<00:34:53.919> we<00:34:54.240> have<00:34:54.399> to

tell us these things. So we have to

tell us these things. So we have to
think<00:34:55.280> of<00:34:55.440> them.<00:34:56.240> But<00:34:56.399> when<00:34:56.639> we're<00:34:56.879> working

think of them. But when we're working

think of them. But when we're working
with<00:34:57.359> clients,

with clients,

with clients,
you<00:34:59.280> ha<00:34:59.520> like<00:34:59.680> the<00:34:59.920> client<00:35:00.240> has<00:35:00.400> to<00:35:00.560> engage

you ha like the client has to engage

you ha like the client has to engage
with<00:35:01.040> us<00:35:01.280> and<00:35:01.599> and<00:35:02.000> tell<00:35:02.160> us<00:35:03.040> this<00:35:03.200> is<00:35:03.280> my

with us and and tell us this is my

with us and and tell us this is my
boundary.<00:35:04.000> This<00:35:04.079> is<00:35:04.160> what's<00:35:04.480> important<00:35:04.640> to<00:35:04.880> me

boundary. This is what's important to me

boundary. This is what's important to me
and<00:35:05.359> I'm<00:35:05.520> going<00:35:05.680> to<00:35:05.760> believe<00:35:06.079> you

and I'm going to believe you

and I'm going to believe you
because<00:35:07.440> I<00:35:07.599> trust<00:35:07.839> you.<00:35:08.079> I<00:35:08.240> trust<00:35:08.400> that<00:35:08.640> you're

because I trust you. I trust that you're

because I trust you. I trust that you're
not<00:35:08.960> lying<00:35:09.200> to<00:35:09.440> me.

not lying to me.

not lying to me.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
And<00:35:10.720> that's<00:35:10.960> counseling.

And that's counseling.

And that's counseling.
Per

Per

Per
that<00:35:14.320> you<00:35:14.480> go<00:35:14.800> do<00:35:14.880> the<00:35:15.119> work<00:35:15.440> and<00:35:15.680> I'm<00:35:15.920> going<00:35:16.000> to

that you go do the work and I'm going to

that you go do the work and I'm going to
be<00:35:16.240> like,<00:35:16.480> "Let's<00:35:16.880> go."

be like, "Let's go."

be like, "Let's go."
Cheering<00:35:19.200> you<00:35:19.359> on<00:35:19.440> the<00:35:19.599> side.

Cheering you on the side.

Cheering you on the side.
Exactly.<00:35:21.599> So<00:35:21.920> then<00:35:22.160> next,<00:35:22.720> think<00:35:22.960> about<00:35:23.119> your

Exactly. So then next, think about your

Exactly. So then next, think about your
aspirations.<00:35:24.240> Are<00:35:24.480> there<00:35:24.640> soft<00:35:24.960> boundaries

aspirations. Are there soft boundaries

aspirations. Are there soft boundaries
you<00:35:25.680> can<00:35:25.839> set<00:35:26.320> to<00:35:26.560> feel<00:35:26.800> more<00:35:27.040> productive,

you can set to feel more productive,

you can set to feel more productive,
creative,<00:35:28.000> and<00:35:28.240> rested<00:35:28.640> at<00:35:28.800> work<00:35:28.960> or<00:35:29.200> at<00:35:29.359> home?

creative, and rested at work or at home?

creative, and rested at work or at home?
Test<00:35:30.240> them<00:35:30.400> out.<00:35:30.720> So<00:35:30.960> soft<00:35:31.280> boundaries<00:35:31.920> like

Test them out. So soft boundaries like

Test them out. So soft boundaries like
I'm<00:35:32.800> going<00:35:32.880> to<00:35:33.040> try<00:35:33.920> and<00:35:34.560> from<00:35:35.200> 6<00:35:35.520> to<00:35:35.760> 7,<00:35:36.400> three

I'm going to try and from 6 to 7, three

I'm going to try and from 6 to 7, three
nights<00:35:36.960> a<00:35:37.119> week,<00:35:37.440> write<00:35:37.839> a<00:35:37.920> 100<00:35:38.240> words.<00:35:39.119> That's

nights a week, write a 100 words. That's

nights a week, write a 100 words. That's
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a soft boundary. It's just kind of like

a soft boundary. It's just kind of like
setting<00:35:41.119> a<00:35:41.280> goal<00:35:42.160> and<00:35:42.400> I'm<00:35:42.640> going<00:35:42.720> to<00:35:42.800> try<00:35:42.960> and

setting a goal and I'm going to try and

setting a goal and I'm going to try and
do<00:35:43.359> it.<00:35:44.000> Which<00:35:44.160> means<00:35:44.400> I'm<00:35:44.720> not<00:35:44.800> going<00:35:44.960> to

do it. Which means I'm not going to

do it. Which means I'm not going to
schedule<00:35:45.599> things<00:35:46.079> during<00:35:46.400> that<00:35:46.720> time.<00:35:47.440> I'm

schedule things during that time. I'm

schedule things during that time. I'm
not<00:35:47.839> going<00:35:47.920> to<00:35:48.000> have<00:35:48.160> friends<00:35:48.480> over<00:35:48.720> during

not going to have friends over during

not going to have friends over during
that<00:35:49.119> time,<00:35:49.280> but<00:35:49.520> if<00:35:49.680> it<00:35:49.839> happens,<00:35:50.160> it's<00:35:50.320> not

that time, but if it happens, it's not

that time, but if it happens, it's not
the<00:35:50.640> end<00:35:50.720> of<00:35:50.800> the<00:35:50.960> world.<00:35:51.359> It's<00:35:51.520> something<00:35:51.760> I

the end of the world. It's something I

the end of the world. It's something I
can<00:35:52.079> deal<00:35:52.160> with.<00:35:52.400> Whereas<00:35:52.720> hard<00:35:52.960> boundaries,

can deal with. Whereas hard boundaries,

can deal with. Whereas hard boundaries,
it's<00:35:53.839> a<00:35:54.079> big<00:35:54.480> deal.<00:35:55.760> And<00:35:55.920> then<00:35:56.160> just<00:35:56.400> pay

it's a big deal. And then just pay

it's a big deal. And then just pay
attention<00:35:56.800> to<00:35:56.960> the<00:35:57.200> behavioral<00:35:57.680> changes.<00:35:58.160> See

attention to the behavioral changes. See

attention to the behavioral changes. See
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how you feel. Assess which boundaries do

how you feel. Assess which boundaries do
you<00:36:01.040> want<00:36:01.119> to<00:36:01.200> stick<00:36:01.359> with<00:36:01.520> and<00:36:01.680> which<00:36:01.839> ones

you want to stick with and which ones

you want to stick with and which ones
you<00:36:02.240> need<00:36:02.400> to<00:36:02.560> adjust,<00:36:02.960> right?<00:36:03.200> Cuz<00:36:03.440> not

you need to adjust, right? Cuz not

you need to adjust, right? Cuz not
everything<00:36:04.480> is<00:36:04.800> going<00:36:05.119> to<00:36:05.839> stay<00:36:06.079> the<00:36:06.320> same.

everything is going to stay the same.

everything is going to stay the same.
Things<00:36:07.359> change,<00:36:08.000> you<00:36:08.240> adjust.<00:36:09.440> Behaviors

Things change, you adjust. Behaviors

Things change, you adjust. Behaviors
change,<00:36:10.560> you<00:36:10.800> adjust.<00:36:11.520> So<00:36:12.560> maybe<00:36:12.880> this<00:36:13.119> works

change, you adjust. So maybe this works

change, you adjust. So maybe this works
for<00:36:13.440> you<00:36:13.680> for<00:36:13.920> years<00:36:14.800> and<00:36:14.960> then<00:36:15.200> suddenly<00:36:15.520> it

for you for years and then suddenly it

for you for years and then suddenly it
stops<00:36:16.000> working.

stops working.

stops working.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
We'll<00:36:17.839> adjust.

We'll adjust.

We'll adjust.
Other<00:36:19.839> things<00:36:20.000> that<00:36:20.240> I<00:36:20.400> think<00:36:20.640> Aker<00:36:21.200> will<00:36:21.520> do

Other things that I think Aker will do

Other things that I think Aker will do
to<00:36:22.000> help<00:36:22.240> with<00:36:22.640> setting<00:36:22.960> some<00:36:23.200> boundaries<00:36:24.000> and

to help with setting some boundaries and

to help with setting some boundaries and
kind<00:36:24.880> of<00:36:25.040> protecting<00:36:25.359> his<00:36:25.599> peace,

kind of protecting his peace,

kind of protecting his peace,
practicing<00:36:28.079> that<00:36:28.320> self-care.<00:36:29.520> I<00:36:29.760> hate<00:36:29.920> that

practicing that self-care. I hate that

practicing that self-care. I hate that
word,<00:36:30.320> but<00:36:30.560> yes,<00:36:31.520> I<00:36:31.760> think<00:36:31.920> you<00:36:32.240> can<00:36:32.480> kind<00:36:32.640> of

word, but yes, I think you can kind of

word, but yes, I think you can kind of
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see he might be doing that in the in the

see he might be doing that in the in the
epilogue.<00:36:36.240> I<00:36:36.400> was<00:36:36.560> going<00:36:36.560> to<00:36:36.640> say<00:36:36.880> towards<00:36:37.200> the

epilogue. I was going to say towards the

epilogue. I was going to say towards the
end,<00:36:38.079> but<00:36:38.960> I<00:36:39.280> think<00:36:39.359> it's<00:36:39.680> really<00:36:39.839> important

end, but I think it's really important

end, but I think it's really important
him<00:36:41.119> going<00:36:41.440> into<00:36:41.839> book<00:36:42.160> two,<00:36:42.560> like<00:36:42.960> really

him going into book two, like really

him going into book two, like really
putting<00:36:44.560> his<00:36:44.880> people's

putting his people's

putting his people's
needs<00:36:46.880> and<00:36:47.200> his<00:36:47.440> needs<00:36:47.839> before

needs and his needs before

needs and his needs before
his<00:36:49.599> love<00:36:49.839> and<00:36:50.000> relationship<00:36:50.400> with<00:36:50.640> Joy.

his love and relationship with Joy.

his love and relationship with Joy.
Yeah.<00:36:51.920> I<00:36:52.240> think<00:36:52.320> when<00:36:52.560> we<00:36:52.720> say<00:36:52.960> self-care<00:36:53.760> too,

Yeah. I think when we say self-care too,

Yeah. I think when we say self-care too,
it's<00:36:54.480> not<00:36:54.880> just

it's not just

it's not just
thinking<00:36:57.520> about<00:36:57.839> yourself

thinking about yourself

thinking about yourself
because<00:37:00.240> yourself<00:37:00.960> is<00:37:02.000> within<00:37:02.480> the<00:37:02.640> context

because yourself is within the context

because yourself is within the context
of<00:37:04.079> the<00:37:04.400> roles<00:37:04.720> in<00:37:04.960> society<00:37:06.240> you<00:37:06.640> exist<00:37:06.960> in.

of the roles in society you exist in.

of the roles in society you exist in.
And<00:37:08.320> so<00:37:08.560> sometimes<00:37:09.359> it<00:37:09.680> is<00:37:10.800> self-care<00:37:11.440> to<00:37:11.680> put

And so sometimes it is self-care to put

And so sometimes it is self-care to put
others<00:37:12.960> needs<00:37:13.520> above<00:37:13.920> yours.<00:37:14.720> So

others needs above yours. So

others needs above yours. So
self-care<00:37:17.359> could<00:37:17.680> be,

self-care could be,

self-care could be,
you<00:37:20.160> know,<00:37:20.400> really<00:37:20.800> sitting<00:37:21.200> down<00:37:21.359> and

you know, really sitting down and

you know, really sitting down and
journaling<00:37:23.040> out<00:37:23.920> how<00:37:24.240> you<00:37:24.480> feel<00:37:24.880> about<00:37:25.200> this

journaling out how you feel about this

journaling out how you feel about this
betrayal<00:37:26.720> so<00:37:26.960> that<00:37:27.200> you<00:37:27.440> can<00:37:27.599> get<00:37:27.760> that<00:37:28.000> out<00:37:28.240> in

betrayal so that you can get that out in

betrayal so that you can get that out in
process<00:37:29.040> so<00:37:29.280> that<00:37:29.599> you<00:37:29.920> can<00:37:30.079> go<00:37:30.320> and<00:37:30.560> spend<00:37:30.880> the

process so that you can go and spend the

process so that you can go and spend the
rest<00:37:31.200> of<00:37:31.359> your<00:37:31.599> day<00:37:32.720> deciding,

rest of your day deciding,

rest of your day deciding,
okay,<00:37:35.680> do<00:37:35.839> we<00:37:36.000> need<00:37:36.079> to<00:37:36.240> raise<00:37:36.560> taxes<00:37:37.520> to<00:37:38.000> fund

okay, do we need to raise taxes to fund

okay, do we need to raise taxes to fund
this<00:37:38.480> war?<00:37:39.119> Yeah.<00:37:39.440> Do<00:37:39.839> I<00:37:40.079> need<00:37:40.240> to<00:37:40.480> make<00:37:40.640> sure

this war? Yeah. Do I need to make sure

this war? Yeah. Do I need to make sure
that<00:37:41.119> there's<00:37:42.079> sustainable<00:37:43.040> living<00:37:43.680> and

that there's sustainable living and

that there's sustainable living and
clean<00:37:44.720> water<00:37:45.119> for<00:37:45.440> my<00:37:45.680> people?<00:37:46.000> And<00:37:46.160> how<00:37:46.320> do<00:37:46.480> I

clean water for my people? And how do I

clean water for my people? And how do I
organize<00:37:47.040> and<00:37:47.280> do<00:37:47.440> that?<00:37:48.000> So<00:37:48.240> self-care<00:37:49.040> just

organize and do that? So self-care just

organize and do that? So self-care just
allows<00:37:50.000> you<00:37:50.240> to<00:37:50.480> be<00:37:50.640> able<00:37:50.800> to<00:37:51.200> function.<00:37:52.320> So

allows you to be able to function. So

allows you to be able to function. So
what<00:37:52.800> are<00:37:54.000> what<00:37:54.320> are<00:37:54.640> the<00:37:54.880> things<00:37:55.040> that<00:37:55.280> you

what are what are the things that you

what are what are the things that you
can<00:37:55.680> do<00:37:56.560> to<00:37:56.880> allow<00:37:57.200> you<00:37:57.359> to<00:37:57.680> function

can do to allow you to function

can do to allow you to function
at<00:37:59.680> your<00:37:59.839> best<00:38:00.160> ability<00:38:00.960> during<00:38:01.280> the<00:38:01.520> day

at your best ability during the day

at your best ability during the day
and<00:38:02.800> in<00:38:03.040> your<00:38:03.200> roles<00:38:03.599> and<00:38:03.920> in<00:38:04.160> the<00:38:04.400> context<00:38:04.800> of

and in your roles and in the context of

and in your roles and in the context of
of<00:38:05.520> the<00:38:05.680> society<00:38:06.079> you<00:38:06.320> live<00:38:06.480> in,<00:38:07.200> not<00:38:07.359> just<00:38:07.680> get

of the society you live in, not just get

of the society you live in, not just get
through<00:38:08.160> the<00:38:08.480> day.<00:38:08.880> Yeah.

through the day. Yeah.

through the day. Yeah.
Right.<00:38:09.599> So,<00:38:10.240> eight<00:38:10.480> hours<00:38:10.720> of<00:38:10.880> sleep<00:38:11.119> or<00:38:11.440> 6<00:38:11.599> to

Right. So, eight hours of sleep or 6 to

Right. So, eight hours of sleep or 6 to
8<00:38:12.000> hours<00:38:12.240> of<00:38:12.400> sleep<00:38:13.040> with<00:38:13.359> good<00:38:13.599> quality

8 hours of sleep with good quality

8 hours of sleep with good quality
sleep,<00:38:14.880> engaging<00:38:15.359> in<00:38:15.680> things<00:38:15.839> that<00:38:16.560> overflow

sleep, engaging in things that overflow

sleep, engaging in things that overflow
your<00:38:17.280> cup<00:38:17.440> or<00:38:17.680> fill<00:38:17.920> your<00:38:18.079> cup<00:38:18.320> up,<00:38:18.560> if<00:38:18.720> you

your cup or fill your cup up, if you

your cup or fill your cup up, if you
will.

will.

will.
For<00:38:19.760> us,<00:38:19.920> we<00:38:20.160> have<00:38:20.240> our<00:38:20.480> creative<00:38:20.880> pursuits

For us, we have our creative pursuits

For us, we have our creative pursuits
that<00:38:22.800> at<00:38:22.880> least<00:38:23.119> for<00:38:23.359> me,<00:38:23.599> they<00:38:23.839> really<00:38:24.160> like

that at least for me, they really like

that at least for me, they really like
they<00:38:24.640> really<00:38:24.800> invigorate<00:38:25.280> me<00:38:25.520> so<00:38:25.680> that<00:38:25.839> I'm

they really invigorate me so that I'm

they really invigorate me so that I'm
able<00:38:26.240> to<00:38:26.400> go<00:38:26.720> to<00:38:26.960> my<00:38:27.280> job<00:38:27.920> and<00:38:28.160> be<00:38:28.320> like,<00:38:28.560> "Ah,<00:38:29.839> I

able to go to my job and be like, "Ah, I

able to go to my job and be like, "Ah, I
do<00:38:30.240> have<00:38:30.400> to<00:38:30.560> book<00:38:30.800> another<00:38:31.040> pickle<00:38:31.440> ball

do have to book another pickle ball

do have to book another pickle ball
court."

court."

court."
Tell<00:38:33.599> me<00:38:33.760> how<00:38:33.920> you<00:38:34.079> feel.

Tell me how you feel.

Tell me how you feel.
What<00:38:35.440> do<00:38:35.599> you<00:38:35.680> think<00:38:35.920> actors<00:38:36.320> should<00:38:36.480> do<00:38:36.640> to

What do you think actors should do to

What do you think actors should do to
practice<00:38:37.280> self-care?

practice self-care?

practice self-care?
I<00:38:40.160> think<00:38:41.040> he<00:38:41.359> seems<00:38:41.599> hotheaded.<00:38:42.240> So,<00:38:42.400> I<00:38:42.560> feel

I think he seems hotheaded. So, I feel

I think he seems hotheaded. So, I feel
like<00:38:42.800> a<00:38:43.040> way<00:38:44.160> for<00:38:44.400> him<00:38:44.560> to<00:38:44.800> do<00:38:44.880> self-care<00:38:45.359> is

like a way for him to do self-care is

like a way for him to do self-care is
like<00:38:45.680> to<00:38:45.920> get<00:38:46.079> out<00:38:46.240> your<00:38:46.480> frustration<00:38:47.839> in

like to get out your frustration in

like to get out your frustration in
other<00:38:48.480> aspects.<00:38:49.680> And<00:38:49.839> so,<00:38:50.000> like,<00:38:50.240> yeah,

other aspects. And so, like, yeah,

other aspects. And so, like, yeah,
journaling<00:38:50.880> works<00:38:51.119> for<00:38:51.359> some<00:38:51.599> people<00:38:51.839> and

journaling works for some people and

journaling works for some people and
then<00:38:52.240> it<00:38:52.400> doesn't<00:38:52.560> work<00:38:52.720> for<00:38:52.880> everyone.<00:38:53.440> It

then it doesn't work for everyone. It

then it doesn't work for everyone. It
doesn't<00:38:53.839> work<00:38:54.000> for<00:38:54.160> me.<00:38:54.320> I<00:38:54.480> don't<00:38:54.560> journal.

doesn't work for me. I don't journal.

doesn't work for me. I don't journal.
It<00:38:55.040> doesn't.<00:38:55.200> Yeah.<00:38:55.520> As<00:38:55.680> a<00:38:55.920> counselor,<00:38:56.240> I<00:38:56.560> also

It doesn't. Yeah. As a counselor, I also

It doesn't. Yeah. As a counselor, I also
don't<00:38:57.119> journal.

don't journal.

don't journal.
It's<00:38:58.240> not<00:38:58.400> a<00:38:58.560> thing.<00:38:58.960> I<00:39:00.240> was<00:39:00.560> recommended<00:39:01.440> to

It's not a thing. I was recommended to

It's not a thing. I was recommended to
cuz<00:39:02.640> I<00:39:02.880> feel<00:39:03.920> or<00:39:04.160> I<00:39:04.320> believe<00:39:04.560> I<00:39:04.800> had<00:39:04.960> a<00:39:05.200> lot<00:39:05.280> of

cuz I feel or I believe I had a lot of

cuz I feel or I believe I had a lot of
frustration<00:39:06.320> and<00:39:06.560> a<00:39:06.720> lot<00:39:06.800> of<00:39:06.880> anger<00:39:07.200> towards<00:39:07.440> a

frustration and a lot of anger towards a

frustration and a lot of anger towards a
lot<00:39:07.680> of<00:39:07.839> things<00:39:07.920> in<00:39:08.160> my<00:39:08.400> own<00:39:08.640> life<00:39:09.359> which<00:39:09.680> I

lot of things in my own life which I

lot of things in my own life which I
think<00:39:10.560> Aker<00:39:11.119> also<00:39:11.440> does<00:39:12.079> you<00:39:12.240> know<00:39:12.960> now<00:39:13.440> kind

think Aker also does you know now kind

think Aker also does you know now kind
of<00:39:14.000> his<00:39:14.320> world<00:39:14.640> turned<00:39:14.880> upside<00:39:15.280> down.

of his world turned upside down.

of his world turned upside down.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
In<00:39:17.520> a<00:39:17.680> matter<00:39:17.920> of<00:39:18.160> like<00:39:19.040> almost<00:39:19.440> months.<00:39:20.320> I

In a matter of like almost months. I

In a matter of like almost months. I
don't<00:39:20.560> even<00:39:20.720> know<00:39:20.880> if<00:39:21.040> it<00:39:21.200> was<00:39:21.280> months.

don't even know if it was months.

don't even know if it was months.
Honestly,<00:39:22.800> the<00:39:23.040> timeline<00:39:23.440> on<00:39:23.599> this<00:39:23.839> was<00:39:24.079> so

Honestly, the timeline on this was so

Honestly, the timeline on this was so
fast.

fast.

fast.
It<00:39:25.119> was<00:39:25.200> really<00:39:25.520> fast.

It was really fast.

It was really fast.
It's<00:39:27.839> It<00:39:28.000> was<00:39:28.160> so<00:39:28.560> like<00:39:29.440> and<00:39:29.760> I<00:39:30.079> that's<00:39:30.400> a<00:39:30.640> whole

It's It was so like and I that's a whole

It's It was so like and I that's a whole
other<00:39:31.200> thing<00:39:31.680> with<00:39:32.000> romance<00:39:32.560> books<00:39:32.880> like<00:39:33.359> they

other thing with romance books like they

other thing with romance books like they
they're<00:39:34.000> so<00:39:34.240> fast.

they're so fast.

they're so fast.
They're<00:39:34.960> so<00:39:35.119> fast.

They're so fast.

They're so fast.
Next<00:39:36.800> episode<00:39:38.079> we're<00:39:38.320> going<00:39:38.400> to<00:39:38.560> be<00:39:38.640> doing<00:39:38.800> a

Next episode we're going to be doing a

Next episode we're going to be doing a
book<00:39:39.119> and<00:39:39.359> that's<00:39:39.520> one<00:39:39.680> of<00:39:39.760> my<00:39:40.000> like<00:39:40.240> why<00:39:40.400> is

book and that's one of my like why is

book and that's one of my like why is
the<00:39:40.720> timeline<00:39:41.119> so<00:39:41.359> fast?

the timeline so fast?

the timeline so fast?
I<00:39:41.920> agree.<00:39:42.560> Yes.<00:39:43.440> Yes.<00:39:43.839> I<00:39:44.079> know<00:39:44.160> what<00:39:44.320> you're

I agree. Yes. Yes. I know what you're

I agree. Yes. Yes. I know what you're
talking<00:39:44.640> about.

talking about.

talking about.
Mhm.

Mhm.

Mhm.
Yeah.<00:39:46.079> But<00:39:46.560> stay<00:39:46.720> tuned<00:39:46.880> for<00:39:47.119> next<00:39:47.280> week's

Yeah. But stay tuned for next week's

Yeah. But stay tuned for next week's
episode.

episode.

episode.
I<00:39:49.359> think<00:39:50.480> other<00:39:50.800> ways<00:39:50.960> to<00:39:51.119> get<00:39:51.200> out<00:39:51.359> your

I think other ways to get out your

I think other ways to get out your
frustration<00:39:52.000> is<00:39:52.240> like<00:39:52.480> physical<00:39:52.960> activities.

frustration is like physical activities.

frustration is like physical activities.
And<00:39:54.800> so<00:39:55.040> for<00:39:55.200> me,<00:39:55.359> I<00:39:55.599> was<00:39:55.760> recommended<00:39:56.240> like

And so for me, I was recommended like

And so for me, I was recommended like
kick<00:39:56.960> kickboxing<00:39:57.920> or<00:39:58.400> like<00:39:58.720> something

kick kickboxing or like something

kick kickboxing or like something
physical<00:39:59.839> where<00:40:00.160> you're<00:40:00.320> getting<00:40:00.560> out<00:40:00.720> your

physical where you're getting out your

physical where you're getting out your
frustration<00:40:01.440> but<00:40:01.680> in<00:40:01.920> a<00:40:02.079> healthy<00:40:02.560> way.

frustration but in a healthy way.

frustration but in a healthy way.
And<00:40:03.839> so<00:40:04.880> I<00:40:05.119> think<00:40:05.280> he<00:40:05.520> could<00:40:05.760> really<00:40:05.920> benefit

And so I think he could really benefit

And so I think he could really benefit
from<00:40:06.560> like<00:40:06.800> sparring,<00:40:07.440> you<00:40:07.680> know,<00:40:08.079> with,<00:40:08.720> you

from like sparring, you know, with, you

from like sparring, you know, with, you
know,<00:40:09.040> his<00:40:10.000> soldiers<00:40:10.480> that<00:40:10.640> he<00:40:10.800> already<00:40:11.040> works

know, his soldiers that he already works

know, his soldiers that he already works
with<00:40:11.599> or<00:40:11.839> like<00:40:12.160> sparring<00:40:12.480> with<00:40:12.720> his,

with or like sparring with his,

with or like sparring with his,
you<00:40:13.839> know,<00:40:15.119> but<00:40:15.359> I<00:40:15.599> think<00:40:15.920> physical<00:40:16.960> activity

you know, but I think physical activity

you know, but I think physical activity
could<00:40:17.760> be<00:40:17.839> something<00:40:18.160> really<00:40:18.400> useful<00:40:18.640> for<00:40:18.880> him

could be something really useful for him

could be something really useful for him
and<00:40:19.280> I<00:40:19.440> think<00:40:19.520> it's<00:40:19.760> something<00:40:20.000> that<00:40:20.240> he

and I think it's something that he

and I think it's something that he
honestly<00:40:20.880> enjoys.

honestly enjoys.

honestly enjoys.
Mhm.<00:40:22.800> from<00:40:23.119> like<00:40:23.520> the<00:40:23.839> amount<00:40:24.079> of<00:40:24.240> people<00:40:24.480> I

Mhm. from like the amount of people I

Mhm. from like the amount of people I
feel<00:40:24.880> like<00:40:24.960> he<00:40:25.200> beat<00:40:25.440> up<00:40:25.520> and<00:40:25.760> killed

feel like he beat up and killed

feel like he beat up and killed
throughout<00:40:27.599> the<00:40:27.839> book.<00:40:28.480> I<00:40:28.640> was<00:40:28.880> like,

throughout the book. I was like,

throughout the book. I was like,
"So,<00:40:30.720> I<00:40:30.880> think<00:40:30.960> you<00:40:31.119> like<00:40:31.280> this<00:40:31.440> a<00:40:31.680> little<00:40:31.920> too

"So, I think you like this a little too

"So, I think you like this a little too
much."

much."

much."
Honestly,<00:40:33.440> I<00:40:33.680> think<00:40:33.760> he<00:40:34.000> should<00:40:34.160> try<00:40:34.320> yoga.

Honestly, I think he should try yoga.

Honestly, I think he should try yoga.
That<00:40:35.599> would<00:40:35.760> be<00:40:35.839> a<00:40:36.000> good<00:40:36.079> one,<00:40:36.320> too.

That would be a good one, too.

That would be a good one, too.
I<00:40:37.119> don't<00:40:37.280> I<00:40:37.599> don't<00:40:37.760> know<00:40:38.079> if<00:40:38.400> they<00:40:38.640> have<00:40:38.800> yoga

I don't I don't know if they have yoga

I don't I don't know if they have yoga
in<00:40:39.520> this<00:40:39.760> universe,<00:40:40.320> but<00:40:40.640> whatever

in this universe, but whatever

in this universe, but whatever
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version of that they have, cuz I think

version of that they have, cuz I think
he<00:40:44.480> needs<00:40:45.440> I<00:40:45.680> think<00:40:45.839> the<00:40:46.079> sparring<00:40:46.560> gets<00:40:46.880> a

he needs I think the sparring gets a

he needs I think the sparring gets a
lot.<00:40:47.280> It<00:40:47.520> tires<00:40:47.839> him<00:40:48.000> out<00:40:48.400> which<00:40:48.640> is<00:40:48.800> important

lot. It tires him out which is important

lot. It tires him out which is important
but<00:40:50.160> I<00:40:50.320> I<00:40:50.720> think<00:40:50.800> he<00:40:51.119> also<00:40:51.680> needs<00:40:52.000> that<00:40:52.240> kind<00:40:52.400> of

but I I think he also needs that kind of

but I I think he also needs that kind of
mindful<00:40:54.240> movement<00:40:55.359> with<00:40:55.599> it.<00:40:56.480> I<00:40:56.800> also<00:40:57.040> don't

mindful movement with it. I also don't

mindful movement with it. I also don't
like<00:40:57.440> yoga.<00:40:57.839> Like<00:40:58.079> these<00:40:58.319> are<00:40:58.560> these<00:40:58.800> are

like yoga. Like these are these are

like yoga. Like these are these are
suggestions

suggestions

suggestions
that<00:41:00.880> not<00:41:01.119> me<00:41:01.440> as<00:41:01.680> a<00:41:01.839> person<00:41:02.480> would<00:41:02.800> do<00:41:03.599> because

that not me as a person would do because

that not me as a person would do because
I<00:41:04.079> have<00:41:04.319> tried<00:41:04.480> them<00:41:04.640> and<00:41:04.880> for<00:41:05.040> me<00:41:05.200> they<00:41:05.440> don't

I have tried them and for me they don't

I have tried them and for me they don't
they<00:41:05.839> don't<00:41:06.000> work<00:41:06.240> because<00:41:06.400> I<00:41:06.640> don't<00:41:07.520> I<00:41:07.839> like

they don't work because I don't I like

they don't work because I don't I like
hot<00:41:08.319> cycling.<00:41:08.880> Like<00:41:09.040> I<00:41:09.200> like<00:41:09.440> indoor<00:41:09.920> hot

hot cycling. Like I like indoor hot

hot cycling. Like I like indoor hot
cycling.<00:41:10.960> Um<00:41:11.200> and<00:41:11.440> that's<00:41:11.680> my<00:41:11.920> thing.<00:41:12.720> But<00:41:12.880> I

cycling. Um and that's my thing. But I

cycling. Um and that's my thing. But I
think<00:41:13.200> he<00:41:13.440> needs<00:41:13.680> something<00:41:14.000> that<00:41:14.240> really<00:41:15.040> is

think he needs something that really is

think he needs something that really is
just<00:41:15.760> for<00:41:16.000> him.

just for him.

just for him.
I<00:41:16.880> agree.<00:41:17.200> I<00:41:17.359> think<00:41:17.440> he<00:41:17.680> needs<00:41:17.760> to<00:41:17.920> pick<00:41:18.079> up

I agree. I think he needs to pick up

I agree. I think he needs to pick up
like<00:41:18.400> a<00:41:18.720> nice<00:41:19.200> calming<00:41:19.839> hobby.

like a nice calming hobby.

like a nice calming hobby.
Mhm.<00:41:22.079> whether<00:41:22.480> it's<00:41:22.800> like<00:41:23.760> knitting<00:41:24.880> or

Mhm. whether it's like knitting or

Mhm. whether it's like knitting or
writing<00:41:27.520> letters<00:41:27.839> to<00:41:28.079> his<00:41:28.319> best<00:41:28.480> friend<00:41:28.800> on

writing letters to his best friend on

writing letters to his best friend on
the<00:41:29.119> front<00:41:29.359> lines.

the front lines.

the front lines.
Um<00:41:32.319> maybe<00:41:32.640> art.<00:41:32.960> He<00:41:33.119> could<00:41:33.280> be<00:41:33.440> painting

Um maybe art. He could be painting

Um maybe art. He could be painting
painting.<00:41:35.680> But<00:41:35.920> I<00:41:36.079> think<00:41:36.319> something<00:41:36.880> mindful

painting. But I think something mindful

painting. But I think something mindful
like<00:41:37.520> you<00:41:37.680> said<00:41:37.839> that's<00:41:38.160> kind<00:41:38.319> of<00:41:38.480> like

like you said that's kind of like

like you said that's kind of like
really

really

really
I<00:41:41.599> think<00:41:41.839> sit<00:41:42.400> and<00:41:43.359> what's<00:41:43.760> going<00:41:43.920> on<00:41:44.480> and<00:41:44.800> like

I think sit and what's going on and like

I think sit and what's going on and like
processing<00:41:45.760> it<00:41:46.160> but<00:41:46.480> being<00:41:46.800> able<00:41:46.960> to<00:41:47.119> do<00:41:47.280> it<00:41:47.440> in

processing it but being able to do it in

processing it but being able to do it in
a<00:41:47.760> way<00:41:47.920> where<00:41:48.079> like

a way where like

a way where like
you<00:41:49.040> know

you know

you know
almost<00:41:51.440> like<00:41:51.760> you<00:41:51.920> know<00:41:52.000> like<00:41:52.240> children<00:41:52.640> like

almost like you know like children like

almost like you know like children like
you<00:41:52.960> let<00:41:53.119> them<00:41:53.359> color

you let them color

you let them color
and<00:41:54.560> kind<00:41:54.720> of<00:41:54.880> like<00:41:55.040> let<00:41:55.280> them<00:41:55.520> speak

and kind of like let them speak

and kind of like let them speak
and<00:41:56.800> go<00:41:56.960> at<00:41:57.119> their<00:41:57.359> own<00:41:57.520> pace.<00:41:57.839> I<00:41:58.079> think<00:41:58.160> he

and go at their own pace. I think he

and go at their own pace. I think he
could<00:41:58.560> benefit<00:41:58.960> from<00:42:00.400> not<00:42:00.560> that<00:42:00.800> he's<00:42:00.960> a<00:42:01.200> kid

could benefit from not that he's a kid

could benefit from not that he's a kid
but<00:42:02.240> but<00:42:02.480> he<00:42:02.720> is<00:42:02.960> in<00:42:03.119> a<00:42:03.280> lot<00:42:03.359> of<00:42:03.520> ways.<00:42:03.920> I<00:42:04.079> mean,

but but he is in a lot of ways. I mean,

but but he is in a lot of ways. I mean,
I<00:42:04.400> think<00:42:04.480> he<00:42:04.720> was<00:42:04.800> really<00:42:05.040> sheltered<00:42:05.760> from<00:42:06.079> his

I think he was really sheltered from his

I think he was really sheltered from his
dad<00:42:06.960> and<00:42:07.280> wasn't

dad and wasn't

dad and wasn't
like<00:42:09.119> he<00:42:09.440> did<00:42:09.599> have<00:42:09.760> to<00:42:10.079> he<00:42:10.400> had<00:42:10.560> to<00:42:10.720> witness<00:42:11.119> a

like he did have to he had to witness a

like he did have to he had to witness a
lot<00:42:11.440> of<00:42:11.599> adult<00:42:12.079> things<00:42:12.720> from<00:42:13.920> war<00:42:14.480> and<00:42:14.720> the

lot of adult things from war and the

lot of adult things from war and the
loss<00:42:15.119> of<00:42:15.359> his<00:42:15.599> mom,<00:42:16.480> but<00:42:16.720> he<00:42:16.960> was<00:42:17.119> never<00:42:17.520> given

loss of his mom, but he was never given

loss of his mom, but he was never given
I<00:42:19.040> think<00:42:20.000> the<00:42:21.359> almost<00:42:21.680> like<00:42:21.839> the<00:42:22.400> the<00:42:22.960> respect

I think the almost like the the respect

I think the almost like the the respect
of<00:42:23.680> being<00:42:23.920> an<00:42:24.240> adult.<00:42:25.119> He<00:42:25.359> was<00:42:25.520> asked<00:42:25.839> to<00:42:26.079> do

of being an adult. He was asked to do

of being an adult. He was asked to do
adult<00:42:26.960> things<00:42:27.280> but<00:42:27.599> not<00:42:28.720> not<00:42:29.040> trusted<00:42:29.520> to<00:42:29.839> be<00:42:30.400> a

adult things but not not trusted to be a

adult things but not not trusted to be a
responsible<00:42:31.200> adult.<00:42:31.520> And<00:42:31.680> so<00:42:31.839> I<00:42:32.000> think<00:42:32.079> he's

responsible adult. And so I think he's

responsible adult. And so I think he's
really<00:42:32.640> caught<00:42:33.200> in<00:42:33.520> that<00:42:33.760> very<00:42:34.079> young<00:42:34.400> adult

really caught in that very young adult

really caught in that very young adult
phase.<00:42:35.200> So<00:42:35.359> I<00:42:35.599> think<00:42:35.839> emotionally<00:42:36.400> he<00:42:36.640> is<00:42:36.880> kind

phase. So I think emotionally he is kind

phase. So I think emotionally he is kind
of<00:42:37.119> a<00:42:37.359> child<00:42:37.760> still.

of a child still.

of a child still.
Yeah.<00:42:39.040> And<00:42:39.280> so<00:42:39.760> doing<00:42:40.079> that<00:42:40.400> like<00:42:41.440> coloring,

Yeah. And so doing that like coloring,

Yeah. And so doing that like coloring,
watercolors,<00:42:43.680> painting,<00:42:44.319> running,

watercolors, painting, running,

watercolors, painting, running,
yoga,<00:42:46.800> journaling,<00:42:47.359> whatever<00:42:47.680> it<00:42:47.839> is<00:42:48.880> that

yoga, journaling, whatever it is that

yoga, journaling, whatever it is that
just<00:42:49.520> allows<00:42:50.000> him<00:42:50.240> to<00:42:50.880> process<00:42:51.359> and<00:42:51.680> be<00:42:51.920> in<00:42:52.160> a

just allows him to process and be in a

just allows him to process and be in a
moment<00:42:53.599> calmly<00:42:54.079> by<00:42:54.400> himself.

moment calmly by himself.

moment calmly by himself.
I<00:42:56.400> think<00:42:56.560> will<00:42:56.800> be<00:42:57.040> very<00:42:57.280> important<00:42:57.920> because

I think will be very important because

I think will be very important because
it<00:42:58.480> teaches<00:42:58.880> him

it teaches him

it teaches him
how<00:43:00.720> to<00:43:01.839> stop.

how to stop.

how to stop.
Yeah.<00:43:02.960> how<00:43:03.200> to<00:43:03.440> not<00:43:03.760> just<00:43:04.240> react<00:43:04.640> to<00:43:04.960> things

Yeah. how to not just react to things

Yeah. how to not just react to things
because<00:43:05.920> I<00:43:06.079> think<00:43:06.240> this<00:43:06.480> whole<00:43:06.640> book<00:43:06.800> is<00:43:07.040> just

because I think this whole book is just

because I think this whole book is just
a<00:43:07.440> big<00:43:07.680> aer<00:43:08.160> reaction<00:43:08.960> and<00:43:09.200> it's<00:43:09.440> blown<00:43:09.680> up<00:43:09.760> in

a big aer reaction and it's blown up in

a big aer reaction and it's blown up in
his<00:43:10.160> face<00:43:10.400> now.

his face now.

his face now.
Yeah.<00:43:12.079> All<00:43:12.240> of<00:43:12.319> it<00:43:12.560> was<00:43:12.720> out<00:43:12.880> of<00:43:13.680> reaction.<00:43:14.400> I

Yeah. All of it was out of reaction. I

Yeah. All of it was out of reaction. I
mean<00:43:14.720> the<00:43:14.960> moment<00:43:15.440> he<00:43:15.680> saw<00:43:15.920> her,

mean the moment he saw her,

mean the moment he saw her,
not<00:43:16.880> once<00:43:17.200> did<00:43:17.440> he<00:43:18.160> process.

not once did he process.

not once did he process.
No,

No,

No,
it<00:43:20.079> was<00:43:20.240> go<00:43:20.560> go<00:43:20.560> go<00:43:20.960> after<00:43:21.200> that.

it was go go go after that.

it was go go go after that.
And<00:43:22.000> so<00:43:22.240> many<00:43:22.480> people<00:43:22.720> were<00:43:23.040> like

And so many people were like

And so many people were like
take<00:43:24.560> a<00:43:24.800> second.

take a second.

take a second.
Yeah.<00:43:26.400> Yeah.<00:43:26.880> So,<00:43:27.119> I<00:43:27.359> think<00:43:27.520> that's<00:43:28.000> that's

Yeah. Yeah. So, I think that's that's

Yeah. Yeah. So, I think that's that's
important<00:43:28.640> for<00:43:28.880> him<00:43:29.040> is<00:43:29.280> he<00:43:29.440> really<00:43:29.680> needs<00:43:29.839> to

important for him is he really needs to

important for him is he really needs to
learn<00:43:30.160> some<00:43:30.319> mindfulness<00:43:30.880> activities<00:43:31.359> as

learn some mindfulness activities as

learn some mindfulness activities as
part<00:43:31.760> of<00:43:31.920> his<00:43:32.160> self-care<00:43:32.800> plan.

part of his self-care plan.

part of his self-care plan.
Um,<00:43:34.480> and<00:43:34.800> set<00:43:35.040> boundaries<00:43:35.440> with<00:43:35.680> those.

Um, and set boundaries with those.

Um, and set boundaries with those.
So,<00:43:38.640> I'm<00:43:38.960> going<00:43:39.040> to<00:43:39.520> I'm<00:43:39.760> going<00:43:39.920> to<00:43:40.160> I<00:43:40.400> think<00:43:40.560> we

So, I'm going to I'm going to I think we

So, I'm going to I'm going to I think we
we<00:43:41.680> covered<00:43:42.000> a<00:43:42.240> lot.<00:43:43.119> You<00:43:43.280> know,<00:43:43.440> we<00:43:43.680> gave<00:43:43.839> you

we covered a lot. You know, we gave you

we covered a lot. You know, we gave you
a<00:43:44.240> synopsis.<00:43:45.040> We<00:43:45.280> told<00:43:45.440> you<00:43:45.760> our<00:43:46.000> thoughts<00:43:46.160> and

a synopsis. We told you our thoughts and

a synopsis. We told you our thoughts and
our<00:43:46.480> feelings<00:43:46.800> how<00:43:46.960> we<00:43:47.119> would<00:43:47.359> cancel

our feelings how we would cancel

our feelings how we would cancel
counsel.<00:43:48.720> Excuse<00:43:49.040> me.

counsel. Excuse me.

counsel. Excuse me.
Cancel.

Cancel.

Cancel.
Not<00:43:50.560> cancel.

Not cancel.

Not cancel.
Yeah.<00:43:52.880> No,<00:43:53.280> I<00:43:53.440> don't<00:43:53.599> know.

Yeah. No, I don't know.

Yeah. No, I don't know.
we'll<00:43:55.280> get<00:43:55.599> how<00:43:55.839> how<00:43:56.079> we<00:43:56.319> would<00:43:56.480> counsel<00:43:57.040> Aker

we'll get how how we would counsel Aker

we'll get how how we would counsel Aker
and<00:43:57.760> just<00:43:58.000> through<00:43:58.240> acceptance<00:43:58.720> and

and just through acceptance and

and just through acceptance and
commitment<00:43:59.280> therapy<00:43:59.680> and<00:43:59.920> I<00:44:00.160> think<00:44:01.200> given

commitment therapy and I think given

commitment therapy and I think given
some<00:44:01.760> mindfulness<00:44:02.319> strategies<00:44:03.040> some<00:44:03.280> choice

some mindfulness strategies some choice

some mindfulness strategies some choice
points<00:44:04.800> uh<00:44:04.880> or<00:44:05.119> how<00:44:05.280> to<00:44:05.440> utilize<00:44:05.760> choice

points uh or how to utilize choice

points uh or how to utilize choice
points<00:44:06.319> in<00:44:06.480> your<00:44:06.640> own<00:44:06.880> life<00:44:07.200> how<00:44:07.359> to<00:44:07.520> set

points in your own life how to set

points in your own life how to set
boundaries<00:44:08.079> in<00:44:08.319> your<00:44:08.480> own<00:44:08.640> life<00:44:09.280> but<00:44:09.599> really

boundaries in your own life but really

boundaries in your own life but really
this<00:44:10.960> is<00:44:11.119> the<00:44:11.359> heart<00:44:12.000> of<00:44:12.240> why<00:44:12.480> we<00:44:12.720> do<00:44:12.880> this<00:44:14.240> is

this is the heart of why we do this is

this is the heart of why we do this is
he<00:44:14.800> hot<00:44:16.160> or<00:44:16.400> is<00:44:16.640> it<00:44:16.800> trauma

he hot or is it trauma

he hot or is it trauma
can<00:44:18.960> I<00:44:19.119> say<00:44:19.359> both

can I say both

can I say both
it's<00:44:21.200> definitely<00:44:22.319> trauma

it's definitely trauma

it's definitely trauma
But

But

But
he's<00:44:27.440> also<00:44:27.839> really<00:44:28.160> hot.

he's also really hot.

he's also really hot.
I<00:44:28.720> think<00:44:28.800> he's<00:44:29.119> hot<00:44:29.280> and<00:44:29.520> he<00:44:29.760> has<00:44:29.920> trauma.

I think he's hot and he has trauma.

I think he's hot and he has trauma.
Initially,<00:44:32.000> initial<00:44:33.040> initially.<00:44:34.240> There<00:44:34.480> we

Initially, initial initially. There we

Initially, initial initially. There we
go.<00:44:35.200> I<00:44:35.440> was<00:44:35.599> really<00:44:35.839> annoyed<00:44:36.079> with<00:44:36.240> him<00:44:36.400> as<00:44:36.640> a

go. I was really annoyed with him as a

go. I was really annoyed with him as a
character<00:44:37.920> because<00:44:38.319> I<00:44:38.560> think<00:44:38.720> he's<00:44:39.040> way<00:44:39.200> too

character because I think he's way too

character because I think he's way too
overprotective,<00:44:40.480> way<00:44:40.720> too<00:44:40.880> hotheaded.

overprotective, way too hotheaded.

overprotective, way too hotheaded.
Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.
Way<00:44:42.880> too<00:44:43.040> immature.<00:44:43.599> Like<00:44:43.760> I<00:44:44.000> think<00:44:44.079> he's<00:44:44.480> very

Way too immature. Like I think he's very

Way too immature. Like I think he's very
immature.

immature.

immature.
But<00:44:46.319> also

But also

But also
he's<00:44:48.319> hot.<00:44:49.040> Like<00:44:49.280> I<00:44:49.520> can't<00:44:49.760> describe.<00:44:50.240> Like

he's hot. Like I can't describe. Like

he's hot. Like I can't describe. Like
you<00:44:50.640> read<00:44:50.800> the<00:44:50.960> book<00:44:51.119> and<00:44:51.359> you're<00:44:51.599> like,

you read the book and you're like,

you read the book and you're like,
"Dang,<00:44:53.280> that<00:44:53.520> would<00:44:53.680> work<00:44:53.839> on<00:44:54.000> me."

"Dang, that would work on me."

"Dang, that would work on me."
Yeah.<00:44:54.640> I'm<00:44:54.880> like,<00:44:54.880> "Wow,<00:44:55.280> that

Yeah. I'm like, "Wow, that

Yeah. I'm like, "Wow, that
protectiveness<00:44:56.640> I<00:44:56.880> would<00:44:57.200> fold."

protectiveness I would fold."

protectiveness I would fold."
And<00:44:58.720> he's<00:44:59.040> never<00:44:59.359> experienced<00:45:00.000> real

And he's never experienced real

And he's never experienced real
consequences<00:45:00.880> for<00:45:01.200> his<00:45:01.359> actions.

consequences for his actions.

consequences for his actions.
No.

No.

No.
Until<00:45:03.119> now.<00:45:04.160> So,<00:45:04.319> I'm<00:45:04.560> also<00:45:04.880> like<00:45:05.920> he's

Until now. So, I'm also like he's

Until now. So, I'm also like he's
probably<00:45:06.400> going<00:45:06.560> to<00:45:06.640> get<00:45:06.800> hotter<00:45:07.119> as<00:45:07.280> a<00:45:07.520> he's

probably going to get hotter as a he's

probably going to get hotter as a he's
his<00:45:08.079> personality<00:45:08.480> is<00:45:08.720> probably<00:45:09.040> going<00:45:09.119> to

his personality is probably going to

his personality is probably going to
become<00:45:10.720> better.

become better.

become better.
I<00:45:11.599> hope<00:45:11.760> he<00:45:11.920> has<00:45:12.000> a<00:45:12.160> lot<00:45:12.240> of<00:45:12.400> character<00:45:12.720> growth

I hope he has a lot of character growth

I hope he has a lot of character growth
because<00:45:13.280> if<00:45:13.520> he<00:45:13.680> does,

because if he does,

because if he does,
watch<00:45:15.599> out.<00:45:16.640> Watch<00:45:16.960> out.

watch out. Watch out.

watch out. Watch out.
I'm<00:45:17.760> a<00:45:17.920> fold.

I'm a fold.

I'm a fold.
I'm<00:45:19.520> um

I'm um

I'm um
he's<00:45:22.160> trauma,<00:45:22.640> but<00:45:22.880> I<00:45:23.040> will<00:45:23.200> say<00:45:23.440> I<00:45:23.680> wouldn't

he's trauma, but I will say I wouldn't

he's trauma, but I will say I wouldn't
want<00:45:24.079> my<00:45:24.240> friend<00:45:24.400> to<00:45:24.560> date<00:45:24.720> him.

want my friend to date him.

want my friend to date him.
Looking<00:45:26.800> at<00:45:26.960> you.

Looking at you.

Looking at you.
I<00:45:28.800> was<00:45:28.960> literally<00:45:29.200> about<00:45:29.359> to<00:45:29.440> say<00:45:29.680> I<00:45:29.839> would

I was literally about to say I would

I was literally about to say I would
date<00:45:30.240> him.

date him.

date him.
I<00:45:30.640> know<00:45:30.800> you<00:45:30.960> would.<00:45:31.680> I<00:45:31.920> was<00:45:32.079> like<00:45:32.400> he's<00:45:32.800> really

I know you would. I was like he's really

I know you would. I was like he's really
attractive.<00:45:34.319> He<00:45:34.560> is<00:45:34.800> not<00:45:35.200> emotionally<00:45:35.839> mature

attractive. He is not emotionally mature

attractive. He is not emotionally mature
enough<00:45:36.400> to<00:45:36.640> be<00:45:36.800> a<00:45:36.960> good<00:45:37.119> boyfriend.

enough to be a good boyfriend.

enough to be a good boyfriend.
No,

No,

No,
I<00:45:38.480> think<00:45:38.640> he<00:45:38.880> would<00:45:39.119> try.

I think he would try.

I think he would try.
But<00:45:41.599> as<00:45:41.839> you've<00:45:42.000> read<00:45:42.160> in<00:45:42.319> this<00:45:42.480> book,<00:45:42.720> like<00:45:43.040> he

But as you've read in this book, like he

But as you've read in this book, like he
he's<00:45:44.960> he's<00:45:45.359> in<00:45:45.520> this<00:45:45.680> for<00:45:45.920> himself,<00:45:46.720> not

he's he's in this for himself, not

he's he's in this for himself, not
necessarily<00:45:47.440> for<00:45:47.599> the<00:45:47.839> relationship.<00:45:48.640> He

necessarily for the relationship. He

necessarily for the relationship. He
just<00:45:49.119> wants<00:45:49.359> the<00:45:49.680> relationship.<00:45:50.240> So<00:45:50.400> I<00:45:50.560> think

just wants the relationship. So I think

just wants the relationship. So I think
there's<00:45:50.880> a<00:45:51.119> lot<00:45:51.200> of

there's a lot of

there's a lot of
me<00:45:52.480> me.

me me.

me me.
Not<00:45:53.680> a<00:45:53.839> good<00:45:54.000> boyfriend.

Not a good boyfriend.

Not a good boyfriend.
Would<00:45:55.760> not<00:45:55.920> recommend<00:45:56.319> my<00:45:56.560> friend<00:45:56.800> dating

Would not recommend my friend dating

Would not recommend my friend dating
him.

him.

him.
Buddy<00:46:00.079> hot.

Buddy hot.

Buddy hot.
Buddy's<00:46:00.800> hot.

Buddy's hot.

Buddy's hot.
Buddy's<00:46:01.359> hot.<00:46:01.680> Yeah.<00:46:02.160> So<00:46:02.880> my<00:46:03.119> flag<00:46:03.440> rating<00:46:04.560> for

Buddy's hot. Yeah. So my flag rating for

Buddy's hot. Yeah. So my flag rating for
all<00:46:05.040> y'all<00:46:05.359> out<00:46:05.520> there,<00:46:05.920> I<00:46:06.160> give<00:46:06.319> it<00:46:06.480> four<00:46:06.800> red

all y'all out there, I give it four red

all y'all out there, I give it four red
flags.

flags.

flags.
So<00:46:09.119> interesting,<00:46:09.680> unique,<00:46:10.400> big<00:46:10.640> trouble.<00:46:11.280> If

So interesting, unique, big trouble. If

So interesting, unique, big trouble. If
you're<00:46:11.599> reading<00:46:11.839> this<00:46:12.079> book,<00:46:12.319> you're<00:46:12.480> going

you're reading this book, you're going

you're reading this book, you're going
to<00:46:12.640> be<00:46:12.800> feeling<00:46:13.200> things.<00:46:14.240> And<00:46:14.400> if<00:46:14.640> you<00:46:14.720> want<00:46:14.880> to

to be feeling things. And if you want to

to be feeling things. And if you want to
feel<00:46:15.359> things,<00:46:16.240> this<00:46:16.480> one's<00:46:16.720> for<00:46:16.880> you.<00:46:17.200> So,

feel things, this one's for you. So,

feel things, this one's for you. So,
it's<00:46:17.520> a<00:46:17.680> good<00:46:17.920> read,<00:46:18.319> but<00:46:19.280> this<00:46:19.520> character<00:46:19.839> is

it's a good read, but this character is

it's a good read, but this character is
a<00:46:20.160> red<00:46:20.319> flag.<00:46:21.440> Yeah,<00:46:22.079> I<00:46:22.720> also<00:46:23.119> give<00:46:23.359> it<00:46:24.319> four

a red flag. Yeah, I also give it four

a red flag. Yeah, I also give it four
red<00:46:24.880> flags.<00:46:25.920> Unfortunately,<00:46:26.560> again,<00:46:26.960> he's

red flags. Unfortunately, again, he's

red flags. Unfortunately, again, he's
really<00:46:27.599> hot.

really hot.

really hot.
He's<00:46:28.400> so<00:46:28.560> hot.

He's so hot.

He's so hot.
He's<00:46:29.119> so<00:46:29.359> hot.<00:46:30.000> But

He's so hot. But

He's so hot. But
this<00:46:31.119> is<00:46:31.200> why<00:46:31.359> we<00:46:31.599> have<00:46:31.680> to<00:46:31.839> do<00:46:32.000> this.

this is why we have to do this.

this is why we have to do this.
So<00:46:32.800> much<00:46:33.680> do<00:46:33.920> not<00:46:34.079> date<00:46:34.400> this<00:46:34.640> guy.

So much do not date this guy.

So much do not date this guy.
He<00:46:35.359> has<00:46:35.520> a<00:46:35.680> lot<00:46:35.839> of<00:46:36.000> He<00:46:36.240> has<00:46:36.400> a<00:46:36.560> lot<00:46:36.640> of<00:46:36.800> growth

He has a lot of He has a lot of growth

He has a lot of He has a lot of growth
ahead<00:46:37.520> of<00:46:37.680> him.<00:46:38.240> And<00:46:38.480> I<00:46:38.720> hope<00:46:39.680> he<00:46:39.920> gets<00:46:40.160> to<00:46:40.400> the

ahead of him. And I hope he gets to the

ahead of him. And I hope he gets to the
point<00:46:40.880> that<00:46:41.119> he<00:46:41.359> needs<00:46:41.520> to<00:46:41.680> be<00:46:41.839> at.

point that he needs to be at.

point that he needs to be at.
So<00:46:42.720> if<00:46:43.040> you<00:46:43.359> are<00:46:43.520> out<00:46:43.760> there<00:46:43.920> and<00:46:44.160> you're<00:46:44.319> like,

So if you are out there and you're like,

So if you are out there and you're like,
"But<00:46:44.720> this<00:46:44.960> sounds<00:46:45.200> just<00:46:45.520> like<00:46:45.760> my<00:46:46.079> crush<00:46:46.880> and

"But this sounds just like my crush and

"But this sounds just like my crush and
I<00:46:47.359> read<00:46:47.599> this<00:46:47.839> and<00:46:48.079> I<00:46:48.240> want<00:46:48.400> to<00:46:48.480> date<00:46:48.720> a<00:46:48.880> guy

I read this and I want to date a guy

I read this and I want to date a guy
just<00:46:49.280> like<00:46:49.440> this."<00:46:49.839> Don't<00:46:50.480> Don't<00:46:50.800> do<00:46:50.960> it.

just like this." Don't Don't do it.

just like this." Don't Don't do it.
Let<00:46:52.240> him<00:46:52.400> grow.<00:46:53.119> Let<00:46:53.359> him<00:46:53.680> grow.

Let him grow. Let him grow.

Let him grow. Let him grow.
We<00:46:54.480> date<00:46:54.800> mature,<00:46:56.160> emotionally<00:46:56.720> available

We date mature, emotionally available

We date mature, emotionally available
men.<00:46:59.040> Let<00:46:59.280> him<00:46:59.520> go.<00:47:00.160> Let<00:47:00.319> him<00:47:00.640> grow.<00:47:01.119> And<00:47:01.359> if<00:47:01.520> he

men. Let him go. Let him grow. And if he

men. Let him go. Let him grow. And if he
changes,<00:47:02.560> then<00:47:02.800> you<00:47:02.960> can<00:47:03.119> date<00:47:03.280> him<00:47:03.440> cuz<00:47:03.599> he<00:47:03.760> is

changes, then you can date him cuz he is

changes, then you can date him cuz he is
hot.<00:47:04.319> Perr.<00:47:04.960> But<00:47:05.200> we<00:47:05.359> date<00:47:05.599> mature,

hot. Perr. But we date mature,

hot. Perr. But we date mature,
emotionally<00:47:07.280> available<00:47:08.000> men.

emotionally available men.

emotionally available men.
All right.<00:47:10.560> Stay<00:47:10.880> reading.<00:47:11.760> Stay<00:47:12.000> reading.