The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide

The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide is honored to participate in this year’s Podcasthon with this special episode featuring Father Patrick Devine, a world-renown peace and conflict expert and the Executive International Chairman and Founder of the Shalom Center for Conflict Resolution and Reconciliation.

Tune in as host Candace Dellacona speaks with Father Patrick about Shalom Center and their work across Eastern Africa to build sustainable peace through dialogue, mediation, grassroots peacebuilding, and development projects. He explains Shalom’s focus on positive peace rooted in justice, truth, mercy, and dignity, and describes programs addressing inter-ethnic conflict, religious ideological extremism, and violence against women and children.

Shalom trains local leaders for 18–24 months, builds schools and other stabilizing institutions, has implemented 800+ education projects in 450+ institutions, and emphasizes community ownership. Shalom is headquartered in Kenya and has obtained certification of charitable status in the USA, UK, and Ireland, with 95 cents of every donated dollar going directly to projects.

00:00 Welcome and Podcasthon
00:38 Meet Father Patrick
02:28 Why Shalom Began
05:32 Meaning of Shalom
07:01 Conflicts Shalom Tackles
08:33 Peacebuilding Method
10:58 Schools and Development
13:20 Owning the Peace
16:46 Lessons for Home
18:42 Hope and Human Spirit
20:43 How to Support Shalom
21:54 Thanks and Wrap Up

To learn more about Shalom Center for Conflict Resolution & Reconciliation, visit https://shalomconflictcenter.org/

To donate today, visit https://shalomconflictcenter.org/donate/  

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To learn more about Podcasthon and explore the other participating podcasts and their featured nonprofits, visit https://podcasthon.org/

Creators and Guests

Host
Candace Dellacona
Principal, Offit Kurman
Producer
Eric Kovac
Creative Team Manager, Offit Kurman

What is The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide?

Welcome to The Sandwich Generation Survival Guide, where we explore the challenges and strategies of navigating life caught between work demands and supporting our loved ones while maintaining our own well-being. Join us in this dynamic podcast series as we uncover the complexities individuals face balancing multiple roles in the modern world. Our host, Candace Dellacona, shares personal experiences and professional insights to guide listeners through this complex journey.

Candace Dellacona: Welcome to the
Sandwich Generation Survival Guide.

I am your host, Candace Dellacona.

This is a very special edition of the
Sandwich Generation Survival Guide

because we are participating in the
fourth annual edition of Podcasthon,

for one week, thousands of podcasts
like mine are highlighting a charity

of their choice, and today my choice,
I am welcoming father Patrick Devine.

Father Patrick is a friend.

He is a priest, an author, a world
renowned speaker on peace and conflict

resolution, who's taught at the Harvard's
Kennedy School, and most importantly,

Father Patrick is the Executive
International Chairman and Founder of the

Shalom Center for Conflict Resolution and
Reconciliation, which is an organization

working across Eastern Africa to bring
peace to communities affected by conflict.

Through dialogue and mediation, grassroots
peace building, educational development

projects, Shalom has helped transform
relationships between groups that have

experienced deep and significant division
and violence for hundreds of years.

Father Patrick has dedicated decades
for building sustainable reconciliation

by training local leaders, empowering
communities and creating systems

that help prevent conflict before it
begins, such as schools and shelters.

And his work has impacted hundreds of
thousands of people across the region.

He has impacted my life and he
impacts most people that he meets.

He offers powerful lessons about
the possibilities of dialogue and

dignity, and of course blasting peace.

How is that for an intro?

Welcome, Father Patrick.

Father Partick Devine: Thank you, Candace.

That is some intro.

Candace Dellacona: I am
sure I embarrassed you.

You are a person who, is
certainly not immune to flattery

as a human like the rest of us.

But your work is such good work
and you take such pride in the

good work that you're doing.

So I'm really happy to welcome you today.

Father Partick Devine: Thank you
very much and I appreciate the

welcome and the invitation to be
here with you and your viewers today.

Candace Dellacona: Wonderful.

So let's get right into it.

I want to highlight Shalom, and I want
for you, the founder of the organization

to tell us everything we need to
know about this amazing organization.

So let's start at the beginning.

Let's start at what inspired you
to find Shalom Center for Conflict

Resolution and Reconciliation.

Father Partick Devine: Well, I grew up in
Ireland as you can hear from my accent.

And in 1979, I joined a group
called The Society of African

Missions, and you made a lifetime
commitment to Africa and its people.

And I was ordained in 1988 and
assigned to Western Tanzania.

Then I encountered the genocide
in Rwanda in 1994 with the

refugees pouring into Tanzania.

So I got involved in pastoral care
for them because over a million and a

half crossed the border at that time.

It was a terrible, terrible
genocide as are all genocides.

Then I ended up in quite a bit of
administration for our missionary

work in Tanzania and Kenya.

Our main drive in terms of development
was of course oriented around peace then

development schools, hospitals, and so on.

And my work as my career developed in
terms of administration I encountered

a lot of interacting conflict going
on in northern Kenya, South Sudan,

Southwest Ethiopia, and there's
no doubt and heavily influenced by

the violence in the Eastern Congo.

Since 1996 there's estimates that
there's between seven and 10 million

people killed alone over there.

And so it was from my interaction
with these environments and watching

well-intentioned NGOs and church
people and various other groups who

are very well intentioned, addressing
mainly the symptoms that I thought

there had to be a better way to
address the underlying root causes.

So I was inspired as opposed to set up
a group of men and women inter-faith.

And to get everybody qualified
with a minimum of a master's

degree in peace studies.

And on top of all that, I wanted
people who are willing to go behind the

front line into the conflict zones and
commit to live among the people there.

So that was the origin in
terms of the idea of Shalom.

So in 2009, Shalom was registered
in Kenya as the Shalom Center for

Conflict Resolution and Reconciliation,
and we began our first works in

Northern Kenya, along the border
with Ethiopia and South Sudan.

Candace Dellacona: Which is so remarkable.

Where you put faith and you're moved
to action in such a beautiful way,

and rallying those personally impacted
by it to be part of the change.

And I love the fact
that you call it Shalom.

As many of our listeners know, the
word shalom means peace, but it also

means wholeness and reconciliation.

So, Father, how would you say the
word shalom and those concepts of

wholeness and reconciliation shape the
work of the organization on a daily

basis, on a day in, day out basis.

Father Partick Devine: Well of course
it's important to know the root meaning

of shalom because some people just
take it as a greeting, but shalom means

peace, but it's not just a peace in
the sense of the absence of violence.

When we go back into Judaism and
the scriptures, and it's about.

Whereas the absence of violence,
I consider it only negative peace.

Where we're really
interested in positive peace.

We're all also mutually committed
to the wellbeing and development

and the security of each other.

And I'd like to say that at the
outset, 'cause that is our total

orientation as a group, as we
encounter conflict in Eastern Africa.

Shalom itself, of course means
about having a rife relationship

with God, with your neighbor, with
yourself, and indeed with creation.

It's about holistically integrating peace
and truth and justice and mercy, and they

are really the pillars of reconciliation.

Candace Dellacona: Which is remarkable.

And taking the organization to a
place where it's interfaith because

for those who are not familiar
with the region, there are so many

faiths in that particular region.

So broadening the scope as you have
successfully done to engage people so

that everyone feels that they can be
included in that process is remarkable.

For the listeners who are not familiar
with the region, as you point out.

Father, they the residents and
the citizens of those countries

deal with such significant
conflict and have for generations.

So what does Shalom in particular deal
with in terms of the type of conflict that

you're hoping to resolve in the region?

Father Partick Devine: Well, at the
moment we're addressing inter ethnic

conflict up in northern Kenya, as I
said, in that area where the Kenya

interfaces with South Sudan and Ethiopia.

Down at the coast then you have the
issues of religious ideological extremism

where you have Al-Shabaab and ISIS and
Al Qaeda and they're doing a lot of

recruiting in the slums as well of the
major urban centers in Eastern Africa.

And then on the issue of the urban
slums, like for example, there are

two and a half million people across.

I mean, it's debatable, but
definitely over 2 million

people living in those slums.

And there was a lot of violence
being done to women and children.

So we set up the Shalom Empowerment
Center to address violence

against women and children.

So there are two and a half thousand
women at the moment being trained

with conflict transformation skills
and peace building techniques.

And it widens out into the encountering
radicalization and countering human

trafficking and organ trafficking and
really enabling the people in all the

conflict environments where we work to
be the architects of their own future.

Now, in the threaten conflicts Candace,
we go in among the various tribes

and we identify the key influential
opinion shapers because you really

have to get them into the room.

And we spend about 18 months to two
years training them, first of all on the

analytics, what's causing the conflict
from a paradigm perspective of the role

of power, of the lack of institutions,
which comes under structuralism and

how the society can be positively
manipulated and the environment 'cause

an awful lot of the time conflict
is contingent on the environment,

communication, leadership and so on.

Then we move them to conflict
transformation training.

And that is dealing, first of all
with the personal 'cause, you have to

begin to look at yourself and that's
dealing with spiritual, emotional,

psychological, then relational.

The second phase is on the behavior
stereotype and communication issues.

Thirdly is to look at the lack of
institutions in those environments

to enable people to meet their
basic human needs and to be able

to actualize their potential.

What institutions are lacking,
such as law and order, legal

redress, medical education.

And fourthly, is to look at the issue of
where is culture legitimizing violence?

Where are human rights
being undermined and so on?

Where is the dignity of
life not being respected?

And we do that with both sides for about
18 months before we bring them together.

We have them trained also on
negotiation, pre negotiation,

negotiation and post negotiation skills.

And then we bring them together
because now they're speaking

the same conceptual language.

And may I say, in all my time, I have
never met a parent who doesn't want

a better future for their children.

They're all interested in getting peace.

But we have to remember also that these
countries, there are only a hundred

years you can say into modernization,
development as we know it in the west.

And there are huge areas, yes, semi-arid
desert territories that do not have enough

institutions developed by the governments.

And it's not that the governments aren't
trying, they are trying, of course, like

every government, we all can do better.

But that's the idea.

Candace Dellacona: You know what was
so great about that Father, is that

you gave us the blow by blow of the
architecture of the peace building process

that Shalom has developed over time.

And I think that the listeners now
have a practical idea of what that

looks like and the runway is long.

Father Partick Devine: Yeah, Candice and
I normally, just to give it a, rationale,

like you don't need to be a theological
genius or a sociological expert to realize

that in conflict environments where
people are killed, maimed and displaced

persistently, it's extremely difficult
for social and religious values, such as

peace, truth, justice and mercy to take
deep communal root for people to live

normal lives and experience through peace.

Secondly, it's extremely difficult to
have any sustainable development in

those environments because periodically
schools, hospitals, et cetera, either

become inoperable or destroyed.

So it's very important that we really
empower the people to be the architects.

Out of our peace processes, the first
thing that they all, both sides began

to agree on was the setting up of inter
ethnic and interreligious schools.

So Shalom has done a
huge amount of school.

We have implemented over 800 projects,
school educational development projects

in 450 plus institutions since we started.

And they, these developments when
we do medical as well and water

projects and equip these schools with
books and desks and solar energy.

But these projects help to
stabilize the peace process.

And since we started and many
students from these schools that would

never have got a chance have even
gone on some of them to university

and become lawyers and doctors.

And it's not that they
forget their people.

They are always there to
come back and help them.

Candace Dellacona: I mean if that is
not an endorsement of the good work

of Shalom, I don't know what is.

I think you know, what is so remarkable
about the organization is that you're

able with your infrastructure of the
organization and the training that

you do that is so involved and really
meticulous, bringing together groups who

historically saw each other as enemies
and the power of dialogue and that human

connection in resolving conflict is
so inspiring, especially as you point

out, Father, that these are people
that are doing their best to survive.

So things like justice and peace and
mercy have a hard time sort of seeping in

when you are literally trying to survive.

So I just think that's such a remarkable
testament of Shalom and all of the

amazing people that are committed to
Shalom to make peace in the region.

What I would like to know is, why do
you see as someone who is from Ireland,

it's so important to you that the
solutions for peace come from within the

community as opposed to from outside.

Can you talk a little bit about why
you're sort of tapping the shoulder

of Tanzanians and Kenyans and Sudanese
people to come up with the solutions?

Father Partick Devine: Well, you
see at best, outside intervention,

any war can only create a ceasefire.

And it's important that maybe within
a, to explain that a little bit.

When you have manifest
direct violent conflict.

The first thing of course you want
to do, and usually international

intervention lead to creating a
ceasefire, but a ceasefire can easily

revert back into violence again,
into manifest violence unless you

really understand the root causes
what's causing the and address them.

And you have to move that ceasefire
through interventions, development

interventions, further conflict
transformation, you have to begin to

move it through towards positive peace.

And if you're going to get the positive
peace you really have to have the people

on board and they have to commit to it.

And so often around the world
to today, we see interventions

in major conflicts, right?

I'm talking about international conflicts.

And the peace is there and
it can easily revert back.

But from once the people own
the piece on the ground and are

committed, both sides are committed.

And I think to add here as well, what
I have found working among the people,

they want to create environments to
where they can experience the divine

spirit because everybody is yearning
to experience that spirit as well.

And where people are killed and maimed
in this place, that's nearly impossible.

I would say like Candice, that, in terms
of addressing the issue of religious

ideological extremism, it's very
important that people are aware of the

terminology and that along a continuim
from radicalization to fundamentalism,

then on to nonviolent extremism, and then
further on to manifest violent extremism

operationalized in terroristic acts.

And I use that term, nonviolent extremism.

I remember giving a lecture in in
Chicago and the people, what do

you mean by nonviolent extremism?

And I said, you could even have
it in a western democracy where

you have side, so polarized.

So polarized, whether it be in politics
or the media or some other form that

they don't even want to listen to each
other, talk to each other, and they don't

want the other side to be heard even.

And they want to try and wipe them
off the social political narrative.

So I don't think I need to
explain that to too many people.

Candace Dellacona: No,
I don't think you do.

Not this day and age here
in the United States.

Father Partick Devine: It's bringing
all that awareness to the people that

you're empowering them, really empowering
them with the analytical skills and

the conflict transformation peace
building techniques that are needed.

Candace Dellacona: It's really
remarkable and I love the term

that you use, owning the peace.

Because when you have people that have
a vested interest in the peace and they

see the possibility of living a life
without pain of war and conflict, it

really does provide an alternative that
perhaps didn't exist for them before.

You're doing such amazing work in
Eastern Africa and spreading the

sort of good work that you're doing.

Obviously we're in a place of
conflict here in the world right now.

We know what's going on, places like
Iran and Gaza and Ukraine, and I think

a lot of us as families, we worry
about conflict even in our own lives.

So what are the lessons, Father,
that you could impart upon us

about conflict resolution even more
locally, even within our own homes?

Do you have any advice for our listeners?

Father Partick Devine: Well, like
conflict everywhere around the

world, and I think this is something
we can bring to our homes as well.

We should all be aware
on issues of conflict.

That conflict has a memory it's
very robust and it's resilient.

It's more than culture.

It can be transgenerational.

It usually is.

Unfortunately it's frequently distorted
by erroneous historical narratives

and false media reporting at times.

So that even comes down into our
local conflicts at home among people.

And I mean, communication is so vital
to have, and whether it be among family

members in marriage or whatever, and
sometimes to reach out and to find help

and to find people who are interested
because this conflict world we are in

as well, in terms of NGOs and so on,
it can often be abused and used by

organizations who use the cause just
to feed their own management needs.

So you really need authenticity among
people who are engaging with you.

To people in family homes, communication
is the key and to really begin to

get some help so that you do the
analytics on yourself as an individual

on the relationships in terms of
communication, stereotyping, and so on.

And look at your home life.

Look at your community life,
whether it be a parish or a village.

Look at what institutions can be
improved, and look at the overall

culture that's been fed into
the minds and hearts of people.

Candace Dellacona: I love that.

That is really a perfect
answer, Father Patrick.

After all of your many decades now
in Africa, and the conflict that

you've witnessed, the heartache, the
heartbreak and also a lot of positives,

the incredible network that Shalom
has been able to put together piece

by piece, what still gives you hope?

Father Patrick, what
gives you hope day to day?

Father Partick Devine: I have great
hope because of the human spirit.

'Cause I believe in the goodness of
the human spirit and I believe in the

goodness of the divine spirit, which
touches on the entity of life of all of

us, regardless of which faith you are.

So that's why we're even
inter-religious and to always give

scope to experience that divine
spirit and let it move us for good.

And there are other spirits that move
us into negative territory and to do

things that we shouldn't be doing, but
to have great respect for human rights

and the dignity of life and whatever we
do, do not close dialogue or shut people

out, keep the dialogue going and see how
can we make life better as a community?

Because if we just turn in on
ourselves, whether it be about our

own, just human needs or about faith
I think we have missed the joy of

life and the richness of each other.

It's like you and I here,
sitting here talking.

We're all part of the mosaic.

No one is above or below.

And I think that's what makes it work,
and we appreciate and care for each other.

Of course, Candace we are
registered in in Ireland as well.

The Shalom is, and we are in the
Northern Ireland, UK and here in the USA.

And I want to say this because your
country gave us a great honor and Colin

Powell was the guest in the event down
in Washington back a number of years ago.

And he had a good impact on me as
well, when in terms of speaking

about government interference and
for peace and for bringing about

reconciliation can only do so much.

But he said, ultimately the people at the
grassroots too have to be really trained,

as I said, to be their own architects
and to reach and to attain the type

of environment that which to live in.

Candace Dellacona: And you know,
Father Patrick, that really is a

perfect way to end my highlight of
the amazing Shalom Institute and

to of course, remind our listeners
that Shalom does such amazing work.

You just heard a fraction of what
Shalom has done for the region and as

Father Patrick rightly pointed out,
you have obtained certification as to

charitable status here in the United
States, in the United Kingdom, and in

Ireland to support all of the work that
you're doing in Africa, and donations

that you have made to the satellites
in the United States, The United

Kingdom and Ireland are tax deductible.

If you are moved to make a donation, and
I hope you have been, we will have all

of that information in our show notes.

Father Partick Devine: Candace, I'd just
like to say that I want to remember all

our people on the front line and all the
progress that's being made to thank them

and to thank all our donors as well.

And just to say this, that of
every dollar that's donated from

USA out to us in Africa, 95 cents
goes directly into the project.

Candace Dellacona: That is remarkable.

I wanted to thank Father Patrick
Devine from the bottom of my

heart for taking part in this
special episode of the Podcasthon.

And if you've enjoyed it, I would really
hope that you'd visit www.postcasthon.org

to learn about so many other
charities through the voices and

the talents of my fellow podcasters.

Thank you, Father Patrick.